What should I do in the face of a very realistic boyfriend

Updated on psychology 2024-04-06
33 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    This kind of thing can't be soft-hearted, you have to face it for a lifetime, so as long as you still have a little mind in your heart, you have to reposition your relationship, you have to think that he can leave you behind regardless of years of affection before, then he may do this in the future, proficient personal opinion, just for reference.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Sister: I suggest you cut the mess quickly, you can see that you are a good girl, don't be so unconfident in yourself, okay?

    You must know that there are many good men.

    Your boyfriend finally chose you, do you have other ideas, can you know?

    You are so simple, don't suffer for such a philistine man, sometimes physical pain and tiredness are easy to recover.

    But emotional pain will follow you for the rest of your life.

    It hurts you all the time, and I can see that you are also a person who does not rub sand in your eyes, and girls want love, happiness, and dignity. . . If there is no dignity, then the first two points are built on nothingness. Can it bring true happiness?

    Everyone only has one life, choose your other half carefully.

    It's better to let him be your memory than the beginning of your nightmares.

    I'm sure you'll be able to find a guy who's 100 times better than him, and I'll believe in yourself and think you're a good girl. Don't hesitate any longer.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    You're with him now, aren't you afraid that he'll hurt you again?

    But it's not a bad thing that he's realistic, and if you really can't let him go, then you really have to change him.

    To improve yourself as a woman, sometimes you have to be a little bit able to make him feel that leaving you is his loss.

    Put some pressure on him Sometimes things don't go his way.

    To put pressure on him that you like to be capable

    Then you want him to buy you a house.

    If he can't afford it, what right does he have to hate you?

    Men are like that, and they can't be too nice to them, and they make themselves worthless.

    I'll treat you as a post-it note.

    If you want it, you don't want it, if you don't want it, you don't want it.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    He doesn't love you, why should you be sad for him, be happy! In the future, there will be people who really love themselves, and you are not worth it! When I saw this, I remembered myself!

    Don't be stupid, love yourself, you're a good girl! You will be happy in the future, slowly let go, and try to live your own life!

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Reality because it's right? Because he is realistic, he compares you better. I have seriously considered that I will get back together with you in the future.

    At this time, you don't need to think about him, you just have to ask yourself, do you really decide to love him and work hard in the direction of two people staying together? It's the answer in your own mind that counts.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Sister, he's not loyal to you anymore, why didn't you think about him when he came back?

    He is likely to be rejected by the woman before returning to you, such a man, there is no responsibility at all, what kind of marriage do you talk about, even the most basic things do you think you will be happy in a marriage, not to mention that you are still wary of him, which is enough to show that the trust between friends is also in crisis, in this case, do you think your relationship can last long? ?

    Hehe, I can't let him go because I'm invested, too much, too trusting him, and I can't accept such a reality for a while, in other words, I'm just lying to myself, alas, people are always like this, like to carry their own masks to dress up.

    If it's so hard to have.

    Then learn to let go.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    There should be no estrangement, it is better to break up, although it is cruel, and continue. You may have to grieve yourself. This is just a personal opinion, you have to go your own way, I wish you happiness!

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Break up, such a man is not worth it for you to do so much for her!

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Do you really love him? Love him for what? I really can't figure out what you're thinking? It's best to end your relationship within 3 seconds. It's not worth it to have any love for him.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    What you want to get along with is not a day or a year, but a lifetime, long pain is better than short pain, will you be happy in this situation?

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    You're so good, like the heroine of a TV series, beautiful from the heart, that man is not worthy of you

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    I don't love this kind of person because his love is not real.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    If you want to suffer for the rest of your life, choose to forgive him.

    Is that kind of man necessary?

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    He is also called a man? Cut! You look down on me, and I look down on you! If only I had broken up a long time ago!

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    If I knew your boyfriend, I really hated myself,,, but fortunately I didn't know him.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    We have to live in real life, very real life.

    Rather than feeling for yourself.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Decide for yourself, because you know ...... best

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    Leave him time will**everything.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    Leave him, the outside world is very big, and if you are not married, it will be like this, so will there be security in the future?

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    If you love, try to change him, if you don't want to, just leave him.

    This man is also quite attentive.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    Hurry up and break up, your boyfriend is not worthy of you, if I have a girlfriend like you, it will be worth living a few years less. Ay.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    When the real boyfriend gets along, he must first have his own existence, that is, he has himself, and he can't rely on his boyfriend for everything, so that he will be very passive in the process of getting along in the future, and secondly, the two people must understand and tolerate each other, if both people do it, it is still very easy and pleasant to get along.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    Get along with your boyfriend in reality, then you must also understand each other, and then the related new ones are attracted together, and the later relationship will be with tolerance and mutual understanding in personality.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    I don't know what kind of reality you are, whether it is the pursuit of material life or the exaggeration of money!

    Reality, divided into two kinds.

    First: You ask your boyfriend to work hard, buy a house or a car in the future, and get married in the future, you can have your own house or car, and you don't have to live in a cheap and dirty rental house! No need to crowd the subway bus every day!

    And, when you ask him, you also ask yourself to work hard! I don't think there's anything wrong with this reality.

    If, in this case, your boyfriend thinks you are realistic and demands a lot from him, then you can talk to him. You live in society, and you need a lot of material things, so what's wrong with a little material? People, alive, if there is no little pursuit and salted fish, what is the difference?

    I don't think this reality is wrong, if the other person keeps thinking that you are wrong! Then, if the three views are not in harmony, you can say goodbye! Now the three views are not in harmony, and in the future, the three views will not be compatible.

    If you are a money-worshipping reality, then you should reflect on yourself! Is it that your own material requirements are a bit beyond the normal standard and beyond the scope of what the other party can bear?

    The reality of money worship is different from the reality I just said, the kind of reality I just talked about is that you ask others to pay at the same time, you are also paying! The reality of money worship is that you only ask others to pay, but you don't want to pay or don't pay, the meaning is different!

    The money-worshipping style of giving is what we see on TV! Many girls with their excellent appearance can't wait to show mercy everywhere, hang a golden beetle son-in-law or something, as soon as they see other girls receiving something, they want to do it themselves, and they also go back to ask their boyfriends, and break up if they don't give it!

    This kind of girl, if you are such a girl, I think even though I am also a woman, I will still hate you!

    If you are this type of realistic girl, I feel sorry for your boyfriend for a woman who has nothing but material things in her eyes! Dear, let him go, he's still young, so he can't plant it in your hands.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with a girl being realistic, I think it may be that your boyfriend is too romantic, and may not be a good match for you. I think that if a girl has been in an inexplicable little girl state, or is in a very romantic feeling, maybe the family life will be more uneasy in the future, and at the same time, a realistic girl will often look at the problem objectively, which is a good thing for a family.

    There are several possibilities that your boyfriend has an opinion about you and expresses dislike for your sense of reality:

    1. This boy may not be mature enough, and he has a bit of romantic feelings, which doesn't match your personality very well.

    2. You may have poked the boy's sore spot in some aspects, and you didn't find out that he was dissatisfied with you.

    3. You are so realistic that he can't accept it.

    In either case, I can only say that a person can make appropriate changes for his or her significant other, but by no means a complete change.

    You have to know what kind of situation your boyfriend is, so that you can find out the corresponding countermeasures, for example, because your boyfriend is too romantic, and when you match the girl who is more concerned about the present and the actual situation, you will feel that you are too realistic, which is a sign of immaturity, and when it comes to the time when you should take responsibility, you are still fantasizing about a better future.

    I think most boys now will choose more realistic girls, because realistic girls are closer to reality, for boys to start a family, not to marry a wife and come back, there is nothing bad about a realistic girl without princess disease. So, you can change a little for your boyfriend, but if he insists on changing you too much, it can only be said that he is not with you, and you still have a good tomorrow waiting for you, don't worry too much.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    Whether it is work or interpersonal communication, boys have to work harder and work harder than girls, because if a boy can't take on his own responsibilities and can't take up his obligations, then what does such a boy want him to do. But this is one of them, on the basis that your boyfriend is unrealistic and likes to live in his own little world.

    But if it's because you're too realistic, for example, you treat money as your life, it's not that I'm exaggerating, it's really that there are such people, you are a snob, maybe you don't admit it, but your performance, you are that kind of person in the eyes of others, you may treat anything and anyone more falsely, in order to achieve your own goals, if this has been like this for a long time, as your partner, as a person who may be more sincere and more realistic, your behavior is too realistic for him, too unacceptable.

    So first of all, you have to see your personality, whether he belongs to the first type or you belong to the second type, and after seeing the relationship clearly, you have to make your decision, whether to break up or correct.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    You can tell your boyfriend that now that you are both adults, you just need to be realistic to better cope with life and let your boyfriend understand your thoughts.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    First of all, you have to reflect on whether you have any more material behaviors, and secondly, you need to know how to take the initiative to communicate with your boyfriend, after all, only when you find the root of the problem, you can solve the problem at the root.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    You say to him, I'm not reality, I just want you to work harder.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    If it were me, I would tell him that I am so realistic, and if it weren't, we wouldn't be able to go further!

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    The reality is just because you can't control your life.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-07

    It's good to be realistic, and a man should be realistic. He is also a sign of love for you, after all, in the future, the material foundation is very important to get married and live a life. If you break up because he's too realistic, you're really missing out on a good man.

    You can communicate more and let him relax once in a while.

    In the early stages of a relationship, it is usually very good. The relationship between two people is like glue, but the later they get to the relationship, the more dull the relationship between the two people will become. Many girls will be anxious and feel that their boyfriend no longer loves them.

    So how should we maintain a relationship in a relationship?

    Everyone is an individual and should not expect too much from feelings. Many girls have bubbles in their hearts, expecting that their feelings can send Yu to bring her a steady stream of comfort and surprises, but this is actually wrong.

    Love will always turn from hot love to dull, if you blindly ask your boyfriend to love yourself more and more, then the road to love is generally not too smooth. We should have our own judgment, feelings are not the only sustenance in our lives. It's not just the appearance that attracts the other person, but also the unique soul and personality of a person.

    A long-term love is stable.

    In relationships, communication is also essential, people are very complex, so it is difficult for one person to guess another person's thoughts. For example, the girl is dissatisfied with the boy, but the boy asks what is going on, and the girl only says that it is okay. The boy really believed it and put his heart at ease, but the girl cried with red circles in her eyes, complaining that the boy didn't answer the letter and understood herself.

    This is a problem that does not communicate, it is all up to the other party to guess, and it is a problem that can be solved very simply, but it has become that a person feels that he is not understood, and a person feels unreasonable. A vicious circle has been created. So more communication is king.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-06

    Your boyfriend thinks about things very realistically, and when you can't stand it a little, it's precisely because you still like that kind of illusory thing, or you live too ideally.

    When men and women fall in love, boys always want to fall in love, and they want to understand slowly if they like, but girls are easy to fall prematurely, that is, when boys feel that they are just in love, girls feel as if they should get married, so the reality of boys, some of which girls should learn, is not so much a reality, I have to say that this is a kind of rationality.

    Today's society is a fast-paced society, and people will have beauty and love hidden in their hearts, but life is very realistic. The reason is very simple, reality is not terrible at all, I am afraid that if you fantasize too much, it will be terrible. Although there are a lot less romantic people who are too realistic, in fact, realistic people know the truth of life the most.

    One of my relatives has a very high education and his family is also very rich, because he has been living in the fast-paced life of the big city for a long time, so he is very realistic, and his consideration is also very realistic, I remember once he told me about some problems in love, I was still a blank sheet of paper at the time, I didn't understand anything. He told me at the time that in some big cities, people understand one thing better, that is, love is love, and marriage is marriage. I listened to it at the time, and asked him stupidly, I said, is it okay to just like someone?

    He said that it was impossible, and sooner or later he would face reality. I may still not be able to believe in such a realistic thing, in other words, I still believe in fairy tales, but there is no way, he is many times stronger than those of us who live in illusionism. The reality of consideration is not terrible, as long as there is love and beauty flowing in the heart, remember that people who are alive in real life can live better in the future, after all, the illusory bubble will burst at the touch of a touch.

    When you feel that your boyfriend's reality makes you very anxious, you should also try to be realistic, so that you can survive in this fast pace, so you should not feel anxious, you should see the reality and continue to enrich yourself, this is the best state.

    You can actually put yourself in the shoes of your boyfriend, the more realistic he thinks, the more responsible he is about this issue? Often one thing wants to get the truth, not by relying on one point, imagining how it is, but by relying on multiple points, how cruel it is in reality.

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