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There is a small story that a Xiucai entered Beijing for the third time to take the exam and lived in a store where he often stayed. Two days before the exam, he had two dreams, the first dream was that he was planting cabbage on the wall, and the second dream was that on a rainy day, he wore a hat and an umbrella.

Xiucai couldn't understand the meaning of the dream, so he hurried to find a fortune teller to interpret the dream the next day. When the fortune teller heard this, he slapped his thigh and said, "You better go home." Think about it, isn't it in vain to grow vegetables on high walls? Isn't it superfluous to wear a hat and an umbrella? ”

When Xiucai heard this, he was disheartened, and went back to the store to pack his bags and prepare to go home. The shopkeeper was very strange and asked, "Didn't you only take the exam tomorrow, why did you go back to your hometown today?"

Xiucai said this, and the shopkeeper was happy: "Yo, I can also interpret dreams." I think you'll have to stay this time.

Think about it, isn't it a tall plant to grow vegetables on the wall? Doesn't wearing a hat and an umbrella mean that you are prepared this time? When Xiucai heard this, it made more sense, so he took the exam in high spirits, and the result was a Tanhua.

In this little story above, the fortune teller's train of thought is a negative one, so he sees a negative way out, while the shopkeeper's one of positive ways out, so he sees a positive way out. Xiucai is also worthy of being a Xiucai, he chose the idea of thinking about it, so he went to Tanhua in high school. Positive people in the world, just like the sun, shine brightly until the ****, so there is always light to illuminate their way out.

And negative people, they will be like the moon, the first day of the new year and the fifteenth day are always different, whenever they encounter the dark time of the first day of the new year, they will not see the way out of the light. To have a good way out in life, the most important thing is to improve your own quality and cultivate a positive attitude.

1. Accept yourself and build self-confidence.

Many people who are socially stressed are caused by not accepting themselves and not being confident in themselves, so in order to change, we must first accept and accept ourselves in our hearts and establish confidence in ourselves.

2. Don't be too demanding of yourself.

If you pursue perfection too much and demand too much from yourself, you will easily suffer from gains and losses, care too much about what others think of you, and want to be recognized by others, thus losing yourself. Accept yourself as you are, don't care what others think, the more you fear of making mistakes, the more you will feel helpless.

3. Don't worry too much about your body's reactions.

Nervousness is always accompanied by a series of physical discomforts, and according to the reinforcement theory, if we pay too much attention to the nervous response of certain parts of our body when we are nervous, it is equivalent to reinforcing our own nervous behavior. Make it more and more aggravated step by step. And when we don't care about our nervous reactions, the nervous reactions will gradually subside over time because the tension is not noticed and reinforced.

Fourth, face it bravely.

People who are nervous often show avoidance in social situations, fearing that they will make a fool of themselves and do not face it. In fact, avoiding does not eliminate tension, on the contrary, it makes you feel cowardly and makes you blame yourself so that you will be more nervous next time. Moreover, we can't escape for a lifetime, we live in this society, we have to interact with people, sooner or later, we all have to face it.

Suppose there is no wind on the surface of the lake, the calm lake surface is the real healthy heart, then throw a stone down, the lake will have waves, these waves are the symptoms of mental illness, the lake has waves, if you use your hands to smooth the waves, the waves will only increase, this is the reason why many psychological patients are constantly tortured, many psychological patients when the heart has waves (mental illness), always try their best to smooth the waves, mental illness is like the waves on the surface of the lake, the more you interfere with it, the more waves, this is ** What is the root of the problem! I suggest taking a look at an article called Spiegel Mentality, it will be rewarding! It's the same with social phobia, it's important to learn to really go with the flow!

There must be, but it's not easy to meet a really good doctor, obsessive-compulsive disorder can't be done with general methods, I just saw an article called Spiegel mentality, you can also take a look, I think this method is very suitable for me!

It seems that there are in Shanghai, but there are different psychiatric departments in Shanghai that you can take a look at, and it is also a little more auxiliary**, I suggest checking it on the Internet. See if you have the qualifications!

It is recommended that you relax and not put too much pressure on your confidant!

The most effective method of psychological compulsion, at present, international experts have recognized the exposure behavior prevention method --- belong to a kind of cognitive behavior. If you want to be psychological, it is recommended that you go to a professional **OCD institution that is more targeted. Through systematic practice and practice, you can slowly return to your normal life.

Hong Kong Gade Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder Research Center is a professional psychological institution for OCD in Shanghai. Since its establishment nine years ago, it has seen more than 1,000 patients.

You can read some books about OCD self** first, such as "Out of OCD - Find Beautiful Days Back", which has various examples of OCD and related methods of self**, I hope it can help you.

Choose SFSC Psychological Assistance Center.

Pay too much attention to yourself, don't take yourself seriously, don't have too many illusions about yourself, don't be afraid of making mistakes, there are many thick-skinned people, and you won't be too ostentatious. Blending in with the crowd and being one of the parts and interacting with the other parts smoothly is socializing.

In fact, everyone has phobias, to different degrees, but to understand, phobias is actually lost in oneself, trapped in the mind can not get out, keep thinking, keep being afraid of one's own thinking and behavior, so the key is to find the real self! You look at an article on "Spiegel Mentality"!

It seems that I heard that covering your face in public cosplay (role-playing) helps with social fear, hehe, it's just a joke.

Seriously, the information you are currently providing is very general and cannot be diagnosed, so it is recommended that you consult a public professional hospital.

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