Who should do the housework, and who is doing the housework?

I believe that housework should be shared between men and women.

A survey published by Statista is about how many minutes men and women spend on housework each day. Chinese men spend 48 minutes a day on housework, compared to 155 minutes for women! Women are more than 3 times as responsible for housework as men!

Now, I am beginning to understand why the topic of "why girls are increasingly reluctant to get married" has emerged. In this modern society, women and men need to go out to work, and the social state of "men are responsible for going out to earn money to support the family, and women are at home with husbands and children" is now very rare, and even if there is, I hope that it is the independent choice of women.

In today's society, where both men and women have to go out to work, some people still have the idea that "housework is women's work", which has to make people sigh. I'm not complaining about why women do more housework than men, but I'm sharing how to divide the housework to make life better.

In the past, the men went out to earn a living to support the family, while the women stayed at home, raised the children and did all the housework, and they kept the house running. But that's the way it used to be, and now it's a modern society, where there are a lot of divorced families, and there are also single-parent families. In some families, the father is responsible for all the housework, and in some cases, the mother is in charge of all the housework, so the responsibility bearers are changing.

Who's going to do the housework? The traditional Norman Rockwell (female lead) impression has shifted globally, and we don't live like that anymore. So should men be asked to do housework, let me ask you, does that man live in the house, and if he lives in your house, then he should do it, not because he doesn't want to do it and force others to do the housework, but share the responsibility.

If there are children, not only men and women should do housework, but children must also learn to take on housework, and we should cultivate children's sense of responsibility, because this teaches children to learn to take responsibility when they enter society in the future.

It doesn't say whether the man has to do it or the woman does it, if the man is busy, let the woman do more, if the woman is busy, the man will do more, in short, it's a home, isn't it a happy and romantic thing for two people to do it together when they are free?

We can do it together.

In fact, why do two husbands and wives care so much? Who does it is not the same?

The right and left hand thing.

In contemporary society, most families are double-paid, men and women have their own careers, and they are tired from morning to night. You can't use "the male is outside, the female is inside", women are good at housework, and this kind of words can be used as an excuse to let women do housework alone. It is no exaggeration to say that a man's attitude towards housework determines the happiness of marriage.

Men who provide for their families should divide the housework equally. In a marriage, men and women are equal, and they should complement each other in getting along, don't absolutely think that housework should be done by women, a man should know how to understand his wife, love the family, and doing housework is not a shameful thing, but a manifestation of love for the family. A man must know how to love his wife, his career will become more and more prosperous, and the family will become happier and happier.

To do housework is to take responsibility.

If you look closely at the people around you, you will find that the man is in the family, takes the initiative to take on housework, and there are few conflicts between husband and wife and a happy marriage. Because a man divides the housework equally, it means that he knows how to take responsibility, knows how to compare his heart with his heart, and has the position of a wife in his heart. Only when a man understands this truth and takes the initiative to help his wife share the housework, the first thing he does when he gets up in the morning is to make breakfast for his wife.

When I returned home in the evening, my wife made dinner, and the man consciously started to do it, and the two worked together to make a meal in just a short time. Neither of them was tired. During the meal, the two talked and laughed, telling each other the interesting stories of the day, and the marriage was not always happy.

Housework determines a woman's happiness.

A wise man should know that he is marrying a wife, not a nanny. Men should divide the housework equally, because it is not only the housework that is shared, but also the responsibility. The less housework the wife has, the more free time she has, and the happiness of the wife will be improved.

The husband should divide the housework equally, because the woman should not be occupied by "unpaid housework" all the time. If one person is happy and chic, there will be another person who carries the weight forward. No one is born with housework.

Always pay alone, and over time, the happiness of family training will inevitably decrease, which may lead to family conflicts. Especially in modern times, the wife has her own career, and when she returns home, she is still busy with housework, and no one can feel happy. When a man does housework, he injects new fuel into his marriage, because no one can blindly give.

Men themselves should know that a man earning money to support his family does not mean that he can not do housework, and housework represents family responsibility.

The family is not the wife's own, so housework should not be undertaken by one person, because family responsibilities go both ways. It's time for everyone's perception of housework to change, for the male compatriots who can get more benefits from doing housework, for the beauty of their wives, for the harmony of the family, and for their own health and longevity in the future, it is also a wonderful thing to start doing housework from now on.

Men should divide the housework equally, because marriage is a two-way street, and there is a reward for what you give. Husband and wife will be happier tomorrow when they work together.

1. I think that since it can be said that housework is quiet, it means that the two parties have reached a family, and housework is a normal manifestation of family life, and it can also enhance each other's feelings and relationships.

2. Since it is a family, there is no distinction between each other, whoever does it is done, I think whoever is free to do it, everyone is free to do it together, you can do laundry, I can wash dishes, can't everyone rest early after finishing it early?

3. If you have to divide what you do, what do I do? Qilu Li is not necessary, everyone works hard outside, and when they come home, they have a temperature, and whoever does it is the same, but since they are a family, they all hope that each other will live better, and they must maintain housework together in order to better maintain a family.

1. Housework is the fuse of family conflicts.

Home on the Ramp is written by Mitsuyo Tsunoda of Japan. After the book was published, it resonated with many readers and was made into a movie. In the book, it is written that women are given the responsibility of taking care of children and doing household chores. This stereotype contributes to the occurrence of family tragedies.

In the play, a husband is busy with work and leaves the responsibility of childcare to a female judge. One day, the female judge was too busy with work, so she left her husband alone to take care of the children. As a result, the husband made a mess and kept complaining.

The female judge said that I usually take care of the children and do the housework. My husband said, "I also help with the housework!" The wife said:

It's not about helping, it's about sharing. ”

To this end, female judges have drawn up a table of shareholdings of household chores and childcare. I hope to work hard with my husband to take care of their children together. The husband didn't take care of him for a few days before he was physically and mentally exhausted.

He said I couldn't work and take care of my childcare. After one illness with his child, he had a complete outbreak. He said:

I can't juggle work and childcare. The wife said, "I can't do it either, that's why I need to share it."

The husband asked, "Aren't you a mother?" ”

So? Are only super women who do housework, childcare, and work perfectly are qualified to work? ”

I'm sorry, but for me, women's right to work is no longer important. I just want my wife to cook for me, take care of the kids, and help me keep the house. If you continue like this, you will only sacrifice your children. ”

After this incident, she decided to divorce, she thought, no matter how hard a woman tries, as long as she doesn't have the qualifications to be a good mother, she is not even qualified to be a human being. Numerous studies have found that women are more likely to be dissatisfied with their marriages because of dissatisfaction with the distribution of chores. If couples can share household chores together, there will be fewer conflicts in the family.

Nor will the marriage end.

2. Four ways to deal with housework.

1.If you don't do it, I'll force you to do it. (Housework is done by women).

2.You don't do it, only I do. (I can't stand it anymore).

3.If you don't do it, I won't do it. (Don't take advantage of anyone).

4.You do it, I do it. (Let's do it together).

Which of the four ways do you be?

The first way: Men naturally take it for granted that women do housework. Such men do not put women on an equal footing.

When they see that there is no cooking at home, they will ask their wives: Why don't you cook? It doesn't matter if the wife is tired or not.

Some men will even abuse their wives. Some wives do not dare to resist, on the one hand, because they do not have the ability to live independently, and on the other hand, they always want to give their children a complete home. Such families can easily disintegrate.

The second way: when everyone is unwilling to do housework, the wife will make a concession. When they see a large pile of dirty clothes piled up in the bathroom, they can't stand it and wash it themselves; When I see that the ground is very dirty and no one mops it, I will pick up a mop and mop it clean; The toilet was dirty and no one wiped it, so I finally wiped it myself.

They called their husbands several times to no avail, and they always dragged Bi's family. dragged on so much that I couldn't stand it anymore, so I simply did it myself. Although there are complaints, I will still tolerate them.

Housework should be shared by their other half, every newlywed couple will encounter such a situation, because two people may be working, and the work day is not easy, but housework always has to be dealt with, and if you don't deal with this home, it will seem very dirty and messy, and there is no home atmosphere, so two people still have to assign tasks.

If both people are working, then the husband should share the housework, because both people work, no one is easy, no one stipulates, women must deal with housework, men can not help, some jobs are suitable for women to do more detailed work, there are some physical work or do a relatively large amount of work, suitable for men to do, both people are rough to work naturally, no one wants to do housework, but if the family environment wants to maintain a good environment, both parties must work together, so that there can be a family atmosphere, Men can also take on some housework appropriately to share the pressure of their other half.

If only one of the two people goes to work, for example, the man goes to work, and the woman takes care of the children or cooks at home, in this case, the woman should take care of the housework, and whether the man is willing to share is his problem, but you can't make mandatory requirements for the man, because after all, he has worked for a day, he is the main breadwinner of the family, and he naturally wants to rest at home, if you don't do anything, you don't cook at home, and you don't care about anything except taking care of the children. That is obviously not in line with a wife's obligations, and vice versa, if the wife is working, the husband should also take care of the housework at home, after all, the workload must be properly distributed, you can't stay at home and do nothing, all counting on your other half.

In modern society, it has become an increasingly common practice for couples to divide housework equally, which is a fairer and more equal way of family organization, which also helps to reduce the burden of one party and improve the happiness and stability of the family.

The equal division of housework is conducive to promoting equality and mutual respect between husband and wife. In traditional family organizations, women are often seen as the main domestic workers, which can lead to fatigue and passivity, as well as unequal roles and status between husbands and wives, which can lead to family instability and conflict. If the husband and wife share the housework equally, the responsibilities and obligations of the husband and wife are equal, and the respect and support for each other are also equal, which is conducive to the maintenance of good marital relations.

Of course, the distribution of housework should be balanced according to the individual's time and ability. Husbands and wives can allocate housework according to their own working hours, physical conditions, personal preferences and other factors to ensure that everyone has a relatively reasonable distribution. At the same time, when dividing housework between husband and wife, it is also necessary to communicate, understand and respect each other, so that the relationship between husband and wife can be more stable and harmonious.