What is the psychology of such a person? How to get along

From the perspective of the group, she feels that your group does not accept her, or she is not psychologically incompatible with your group, she lacks a sense of belonging to this group, or does not identify with your group, although she is with you, she herself is an outsider.

Especially in China, a country with serious privileges, making friends is still based on a traditional old saying that "the right person is the right person". Don't climb high or low, some of your concepts may not be used to others, real, natural do not deliberate, this is the principle.

Maybe his girlfriend is more selfish, and she only sees people and things she cares about. Or maybe his girlfriend's personality is related to the environment she has always been in. Try to change her, and let yourself try to get along with them. If you really can't do it, just stay away.

Turnip greens have their own love, your friend likes it, and he will handle it himself.

First, don't be heart-to-heart.

Don't give your heart to the other person, beware; Don't let the other person into your heart, keep a snack. Treating this kind of person, honesty cannot be exchanged for sincerity, and it can only be hurt; Treat this kind of person, pay in exchange for gratitude, you can only suffer! Therefore, there can be daily communication, but there can be no heart-to-heart communication.

Second, don't come and go too often.

You can see each other once in a while, or you can get together once in a while. However, don't come and go too often. You can't talk about money, you can't talk about feelings, and if the other party contacts you frequently, you can politely refuse in most cases! Don't be angry, don't despair, be more tactful, be more attentive!

Third, don't provoke the other person.

At first glance, the other party is not a fuel-efficient lamp, and at first glance, the other party is not a good landlord. It doesn't matter if you don't know how to be grateful, it doesn't matter if you can't hide from him, the important thing is that you don't anger him! If you provoke him, you will definitely be able to do anything!

We're not afraid, we're just not going to get into trouble. If trouble comes to us, then we will definitely not back down!

1. Have an in-depth understanding of sleek and sophisticated people.

Generally speaking, sleek and sophisticated people, including those who love to brag and slap horses, are very good at protecting themselves and know how to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. These people value themselves more than the people around them, and they often put on a "thick armor" when interacting with people.

There is nothing wrong with being good at protecting oneself, and there is nothing wrong with seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages, but if one regards all the people of one's relationship as the object of one's own defense and calculation, their means of protection are easy to violate the communication principles of sincerity, friendliness, and frankness, and self-protection and seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages will easily become behaviors that sabotage interactions. This is also the reason why people often say that you can't be too tactful and sophisticated.

Second, you can be disgusted with sleek and sophisticated behavior, but you don't have to dislike this kind of person.

While we do not advocate being a sleek and sophisticated person, we must also realize that this is just a means of dealing with the world, you can completely dislike it, but you don't have to dislike this kind of person, don't damage the "self" they are so bothered to protect, many things, you can't say it when you see through it, otherwise, it will be easy to offend people.

For example, some sleek and sophisticated people, in order to win your applause for him, will give you applause or even pat your ass, in this regard, you should first calm down and solemnly state to him that in the perspective of needing the support of others, you and his purpose are the same, but to get the support and praise of others, you must rely on real talent and learning, to rely on your own strength, not simply rely on this kind of human interaction.

For example, when a sleek and sophisticated person circles around you in order to seek "refuge", you should help him recognize his own strength, help him develop an independent personality, and follow his own path in life, and do not simply refuse the flattery that seems to you to be insensitive. Otherwise, your rejection will only hurt the self-esteem of others and may also hurt yourself.

As long as you live, there will always be people and things that make you worry about them; As long as you get along with people, there will always be times when you are angry and sad.

People often say that you make me worried, make me angry, make me sad, but in fact, no one makes you unhappy, and it is because what others do not meet the standards in your heart.

It's better to get along with people simply, and you will be more comfortable.

1 And he asked himself what he should do.

If you ask more about yourself than others when you get along with others, you will have more wisdom and ability, less disputes with others, and more importantly, more peace in your heart.

2 Don't expect feedback.

We often do a lot of things for others, and after doing them, we consciously or unconsciously want them to show respect and gratitude, and when we don't receive feedback, we feel unhappy.

In work and life, the unhappiness that stems from this kind of scene is not earth-shattering, but it can make people feel bad.

In fact, we can never control what others do, but we can control our own expectations and actions. Don't expect feedback, just do your best to help others, and you won't be disturbed.

3 Non-judgment and non-accusation.

When you feel that your lover, colleague, neighbor, teacher, or stranger is distant, angular, and a little cold, it must be that they have been hurt and hurt in their lives, they may have been hurt, or they may have experienced too many people and things because they have no one to protect them, or they have experienced too many people and things disappointed, hurt and cold.

So, instead of judging and accusing, be considerate and pray for them in silence.

4 Let go of yourself.

After the quarrel between lovers and lovers, they are obviously uncomfortable, but no one pays attention to anyone, unwilling to take the initiative to alleviate it, cold war, thinking that active communication is a price drop, and taking the initiative to admit mistakes will be flattened by the other party.

Home is not a battlefield, nor a arena, but a place to feel warmth and freedom.

Here, to let go of yourself, it is not important for Zheng Lu to be active and passive, warmth and happiness are king, and everything must make way for the slag of jujube congs.

Life is the result of choices, either passive suffering or active happiness.

5 Listen to each other.

Many people think that they have said what they want to say, and the tantrum they want to have is communication, and when listening to others, a lot of thoughts are focused on how to argue with the other party, and they immediately talk about their own reasons without waiting for the other party to finish, and the more they talk, the more angry they are, and the result is unhappy.

Real communication is to listen to the other person's heart attentively, feel the other person's feelings, understand the other party, and then check whether you really understand, and the other party thinks that you understand is called communication.

6 Take care of yourself.

In fact, in this life, if you are not happy, it is not because of other reasons, but because you have never been satisfied with yourself. The ruler is short, the inch is long, and no one is perfect.

There are no perfect people and things in the world, and if you think others are perfect, it's because you're too far away. Seeing that you are dissatisfied, you are too close. You're not as bad as you think, and others aren't as perfect as you think.

Take care of yourself!