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Actually, you think too much, to be honest, there are such people in my bedroom, I've always been like this, ask me to help, you can, but if you help this and that, I'll tell him that next time you find someone else to go, and make it clear to him, of course, I'm also used to it, after all, it's a dormitory, it's not good to make a big eye and a small eye, after all, you don't see it when you look up, so if you don't want to help, find a suitable reason to push it off or make it clear to him directly, so it's better, if you grind for a long time, he will definitely be unhappy, You're not happy either, and the last two are not good.
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You can try to get along with her in a different way, you can think of her as your sister or a good friend, because everything can't go as you want, and you have to stay together for a long time, why can't you think of this as a memory together?
You have to remember her well, after a long time, you may change your mind about her, after all, you are also in college, you don't see her, look down. Maybe one day you'll need help.
Thinking about things in the open direction may help you physically and mentally.
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Know a person's hypocrisy, don't debunk her, there will always be someone else who will come and tell you about her hypocrisy. If a person is not worthy of your relationship, then you can avoid it, and if you don't want to help, you can find a reason to push.
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When you have the next chance to ask you to help her bring something, you ask her to make a list so that there will be no misunderstanding. In fact, even if you are asked to help carry things, it is also in the case of you by the way, if you don't go by the way, you can just say it clearly, there are some things to say, she doesn't know if you hold it in your heart, and you don't feel comfortable, right?
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It's really not easy to find a good friend, you have to cherish it, you can talk to her, don't stop making friends! Will regret it.
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My biggest piece of advice is: harmony without difference.
Some people may think that four-year roommates should try to integrate into this small group and sow the seeds of beautiful friendship, but the truth is: everyone has different aspirations, and different ways do not conspire with each other. The liberal environment of the university gives us ample space to develop our self-respecting personality, which is one of the most valuable parts of being a young person.
Back to reality, there is no need to deliberately cater to you, for example, there is no need to do everything together, if you do it, it may make people feel very dragged, but this is the premise that others don't bother you. At the same time, when there is a lack of boundaries and living habits, it is important to raise it in time, such as someone staying up late in the dormitory to play games (boys selling dormitory daily life) noisy and unable to sleep, someone littering things, etc., these are originally unreasonable things, there is no need to compromise, the sooner and more directly change the better.
In the end, the landlord wrote so many bitter and hateful words because my college roommate taught me too much. But it is not excluded that you get along well with your roommates and gain a good friendship, so please manage it well, but please be careful not to wronged yourself.
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Sleeping needs to be as dark and quiet as possible, I believe this is true for everyone, so it is understandable that everyone wants the environment around them to be in a quiet state when they sleep.
But since this question is asked, I would like to take the liberty of extending it, as there may be a misinterpretation of the person who laughs at the problem.
First, the question of time.
If it's time to go to bed at night, such as 10 o'clock at night, one of the roommates has to go to bed at 10 o'clock, and the other roommates are night owls, usually until 12 o'clock or even early in the morning, in this case, the roommate who sleeps at 10 o'clock wants the other roommates to be quieter, I think it is also reasonable, even if it is not guaranteed to be completely quiet, but also to minimize the sound, I think this is a respect for each other, when you want to go to bed early, you can also exchange the other party's understanding and concession. There is also a lunch break at noon, sometimes after a morning class, after eating at noon, there may be roommates who want to sleep for a while, if you don't have anything special, you don't want to sleep, you can put on headphones and watch a drama or something, which is understandable.
2. Incidental events.
For example, there is a roommate who has a little cold in the past two days, and he always wants to sleep after drinking medicine, and then he may tell other roommates during the day if he can be quieter, I think everyone has compassion, and this kind of accident is also understandable, I saw that my roommate was sick and had no energy when I was in college, and it was really distressing, so I hoped that she could get better quickly.
I think the above two situations can be viewed normally and understandably.
Of course, college roommates are like smoking blind boxes, you may encounter the situation that you ask the whole dormitory to be quiet when you sleep, and you don't respect others when you sleep, and you are very loud, there is actually no good solution to this situation, because generally this kind of person will not be useful, Lu Xunhan can only choose to change the dormitory or move out with conditions, or he can only hurt each other, or I hope everyone can meet normal roommates!
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The most important thing is not to get into conflict with your roommates.
1. We must first correct a concept, that is, the three views of hunger refer to the failure to merge and cannot simply be attributed to the mistakes of one party.
2. The success or failure of mutual interaction depends on each other's knowledge that the three views of the two are not the same, and still maintain a normal relationship with each other. If you still want to do so or have to do it, then we need to have some skills.
3. Don't try to influence or force the other party by giving love.
4. Seek common ground while reserving differences. Maybe you can't agree too much with these aspects of him, so go find something you have in common.
5. How to get along with people who disagree with you can best reflect a person's self-cultivation and conduct. Because he will give people the impression of being friendly, funny, accommodating, or petty, he is more respectful and, so he should not be careful.
6. It is better to be a low-key person, because it is easy to be disappointed when you expect to find recognition from others. On the contrary, the more people hope to find recognition from others when their mentality is not good, which is a normal psychological phenomenon of our human beings.
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1.College dorms are like opening a blind box, and you don't know what kind of people you're going to be with. This can be seen as a training camp before you officially go out into the world. You're going to grow up with several people and learn how to get along quickly when they're immature.
2.Focus on the weaknesses of human nature. Human nature has a lot of weaknesses, and everyone has some.
It's not that someone is bad, but human nature is **. For example, most people will be vain, jealous, and so on. You may have a good family, but if you spend lavishly, people will think you're not showing off, even though you've lived that way before.
What seems normal to you may be another in the eyes of others. Again, there are grades and so on, it's all the same. Actually, this is normal.
You need to pay proper attention to the feelings of the people around you so that it doesn't hurt too much.
3.If you do have roommates who are difficult to get along with, don't push yourself. To put it bluntly, everyone happens to live together.
It's fate to be able to get along. But after all, there are differences between people. If they don't deal with each other, that's it.
If you push yourself too hard, think about it every day, and be overly sensitive, it will become more and more uncomfortable. Just jump out and don't take it too seriously.
4.The human heart is a bottomless pit. This is true not only for roommates, but for anyone.
You don't want to be kind to others, and others will treat you just as well. Don't try to be honest with everyone, but stick to the bottom line. Only by having the right expectations for people can you not let yourself be disappointed by expecting too much.
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Don't do small groups.
In the dormitory, everyone should be treated with an equal attitude, and do not favor one over the other, and fight with some people, while ignoring the other group and some people.
Some people like to be very close to one of the dormitories, and in normal times, they always whisper to the same person, and they are with one person in everything they do, in and out. This can easily cause displeasure among other members of the dormitory, who think that you disdain to associate with them. As a result, the relationship between the two of you may have improved, but it has alienated the other key stool people.
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The dormitory is a group environment, and it is inevitable that there will be roommates with different schedules, so if the roommates affect your rest at noon, you can communicate with them directly and make him quieter.
1. Tolerance, the contradiction is common, there will inevitably be a lot of small friction after getting along for a long time, everyone's personality is different, and it does not necessarily meet the requirements of everyone, we should be more tolerant.
Second, empathy, think more about others when doing things in the dormitory, and don't let your own things affect others. Think more empathetically, if others are like this, you will not be angry.
3. Trust, living in the same room, basic trust is to have. Don't always be suspicious and distrust your roommates. Mutual understanding and mutual trust. Everyone is mutual, I will see you how you see me, and when you open your heart, others will not deliberately close it.
Fourth, share, take out more good things to share, don't be stingy. If you are generous, others will naturally be generous, don't always care. When you buy something, if the conditions promise, you can also buy a copy for your roommate, which will enhance the relationship, and the roommate will remember your good.
Fifth, no hypocrisy, people are too hypocritical, no one wants to approach, when you see your hypocrisy, they will gradually alienate you in their hearts, don't be hypocritical, be more sincere.
Sixth, people who are not selfish, who are not selfish and quietly prepare for pickpocketing are very popular, and there will be many people who are willing to help. Because what kind of person he is, what kind of person he will be by his side.
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You can choose to be a normal friend, or you can choose to stay away from it. 1. Adjust your mentality, maybe your roommate said something wrong, maybe she did something wrong, in fact, think about the other party's good, these are nothing. Learn to understand others, give others a chance to make mistakes, and at the same time be your own 2, don't take advantage of this kind of thing, you do it once or twice and believe that the other party is not very willing to play with you.
Don't treat your roommate as a stupid Sakurako, and don't lower your worth. Getting along with roommates generously is the long-term way. 3. Respect each other's privacyWhen it comes to privacy, privacy must be some secrets that you don't want to disclose, and if you chase after a roommate and ask the other party something you don't want to tell you, it may be annoying.
On the basis of a good relationship, the limit can be appropriately magnified, but everyone will have a bottom line. 4. Don't care about roommates borrowing money and borrowing money is quite emotional, I believe you don't know it, I won't go into detail about the reasons. And college, like a small society, allows you to start to get in touch with more things about the social level, interpersonal relationships, it seems to be more complicated, if you can make a confidant, then you are lucky, but most of the time, you will feel that most people, and you, are in two different worlds.
In this regard, my advice is not to sentence your relationship with your roommate to death based on your feelings at the beginning, if you always reject your roommate in your heart, then you will not be comfortable staying inside, so you can change your way of thinking, you are not unable to get along with them, even if you are not a good girlfriend, you can also become a good friend because of some common interests. If you have a good relationship with your roommates and you make a big warm family, then you are in luck. If you have a roommate who is having a good time, you can be with her and block out others.
But if you're staying with a group of people who don't have anything in common at all, you're going to be very awkward over time, and I suggest you choose to move out at university. I don't agree with changing the original self in order to fit in, but the former Lahuaiti is, whether that self is a good self or not.
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Roommates' private life issues, such as love, friendships, personal preferences, etc., should generally be respected, and should not interfere with their personal freedom and privacy. But roommates can meddle modestly in some of the following situations:
1.If these behaviors seriously affect the rest and study of other roommates, I personally believe that other roommates can communicate and negotiate with them to seek a harmonious and comfortable living environment.
2.The private life of the roommate affects the integrity and health of An Chicong, such as smoking, drinking, taking drugs, taking strangers back to the dormitory, etc., such as Zheng Chengguo, these behaviors pose a direct or indirect threat to the physical health of himself or other roommates, and other roommates can intervene moderately and stop it in time.
3.Roommates' behavior is illegal or contrary to public morality and public order, such as roommates who ask others to help take the test in order to skip classes and skip exams, or steal from others and other immoral behaviors, at this time, they should promptly report to the relevant departments or **, prosecute or report the case to investigate or stop it.
In general, as roommates, you should respect each other's privacy and personal freedom, try not to interfere in their personal affairs, and at the same time should observe the public rules and order of indoor life. For problems involving the lives and studies of other roommates, you can intervene moderately, communicate with each other, and seek appropriate solutions together.
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