What should I do if the teacher educates the child, but the parents are uncooperative and unreasonab

First of all, it is necessary to understand the reasons for the parents' unreasonable and uncooperative behavior. Is it because he doesn't pay attention to the child himself, or is it because we have some practices in our own treatment of the parents that make the parents unhappy! If it is the former, no matter how we communicate, we will be weak, after all, parents have no intention of loading, if it is the latter, we have to think about our own problems!

Second, ask yourself whether you are educating your children in the right way, and what is your attitude when educating them? Do you dislike complaining or do you guide patiently and carefully? Is it a reprimand or a guide for the child?

Finally, do you notice your own attitudes and emotions when communicating with parents? Could it be that your tone or attitude makes parents dissatisfied and deliberately make things difficult? People can protect their weaknesses to a certain extent, do the methods you use when educating your children make parents think that you are deliberately targeting their children?

Attitude on the side of the problem is not seen" especially appreciate Zhou Hong's words, treat the parents' uncooperation and vexatious should be treated coldly, when the parents are emotional, the teacher should be calm, it should be said that a lot of non-cooperation is due to the teacher's work does not understand or do not recognize, if it can calm down, communicate patiently with it, let them understand the teacher's starting point The teacher's efforts, a parent who recognizes the teacher will actively cooperate with the teacher's work, in front of the parents the teacher is too strong often causes dissatisfaction with the parents, After the accumulation of this dissatisfaction, it is difficult to carry out the teacher's work, sometimes the teacher may wish to put down the shelf, play the role of the weak, treat the parents like friends, people are heart-to-heart, I believe that parents realize that the teacher and parents have the same desire "for the child" parents will support and understand.

It is advisable to ask the old teachers of your school, they have seen a lot and have experience.

If the teacher can't communicate with the parents for a while, you can communicate with the child first! In the process of continuing to care for the child, enlighten the child's correct perception and feedback to the parents to understand that the teacher's discipline is right and is truly conducive to the child's growth. A good class teacher and teacher will benefit the child a lot, and a civilized and moral family environment will benefit the child for life.

On the contrary, a parent who is already unwilling to manage the student and directly wants to push the child into the school gate and ignore it, which will only ruin the child.

Especially when the head teacher still wants to pull him, and the parents will only look for the responsibility of the school teacher, at this time they must be clear about what their original intention is. Whether it is to stand on the opposite side of the school or to stand on the same side as the school, the students themselves must be able to feel it.

Communication Skills:

1. Packaging bad news. Henry Ford, the American automobile magnate, usually arranged for assistants to reply to those who asked for him, and sometimes when he refused, he would be extraordinarily respectful, such as inviting him to a snack or lunch.

Of course, it is also necessary to speak from a different perspective. For example, if a shopping guide wants to tell a customer that her feet are bigger and one is small, it is more likely that the customer will pay than telling him that "this foot of yours is bigger than that foot" and saying, "Mrs., this foot of yours is smaller than that foot".

2. Great wisdom is foolishness. The pursuit of excellence is inevitable for everyone to meet their own needs for achievement, but be careful not to let your perfect light sting the eyes of others. Especially in the face of some people who are more stubborn, conservative or hostile, don't always try to prove yourself to convince the other party at the beginning, appropriately restrain a little, be decent, and approach more people "moisturizing things silently".

Then, if you make a splash at the right time, you won't bury yourself. A management psychologist specifically pointed out that even when talking to subordinates, don't say the word "I" in one mouth.

3. Don't "grab credit". Psychology has found that when people find that a leader shows a little bit of individualism, they will become apathetic and even hostile. Conversely, leaders who hide behind the scenes and are less visible are more universally respected.

Whether it is a class teacher or a classroom teacher, the bottom line must be guarded in education and teaching, and corporal punishment or disguised corporal punishment must not be used to punish students, so that they cannot find the truth. Education is not omnipotent, teachers are not saviors, we cannot save all students, and it is more admirable to choose to give up than to choose to charge into battle.

No matter what kind of fallacy you hear, you must learn to deal with it coldly, not answer, not explain, and not get angry, so as to avoid "short-handed encounters", otherwise you will have-for-tat confrontation and "endless troubles in the future".

For the vast majority of teachers, I believe they have encountered a similar situation. But we should also deal with parents reasonably, instead of being led by parents, otherwise we will not be able to reach the same idea with parents, or even directly conflict with parents. 1. Think from the perspective of parents

When we deal with unreasonable parents, in order to better convince parents, we must think more from the position of parents and think more about them, so that even unreasonable parents will be moved by the sincerity of teachers. Because in the past, I have encountered a similar situation, although I am only a kindergarten teacher, but in the face of unreasonable parents, I will also feel very scoundrel, so later I adjusted my mentality, and finally dealt with the relationship between parents and myself.

2. Look at things and talk

When we deal with different things, we deal with them in different ways, so when we solve any thing, we need to deal with everything according to the actual situation, so that it is more convincing. Because any reasoning is ineffective, only after we grasp the key points, can we better face it. In the past, I was always disgusted with this kind of thing, and I always had a mentality of escaping, but it was not until I met the mentor in my life that I had a significant change and dared to confront my parents in person, instead of being fearless.

It's not terrible to meet an unreasonable parent, it's scary because we don't even have the courage to face it. Although the profession of teacher is very high, but each profession has its own difficulties, so we must not easily underestimate any profession, but to understand with our hearts, so that we can truly appreciate their conscience and hardship, I hope everyone can adopt such a concept.

Parents' selfishness and self-esteem are heavy, and there is a serious tendency to be unreasonable, so they must not stand up, and they often work very passively. As a teacher, parents are still a little in awe in their hearts, and it is not difficult to grasp the initiative, and they will accept him according to the parents' wishes.

It is not uncommon for teachers to encounter vexatious parents at school, but the choice of working methods often plays a great role, such parents must be cold when they meet, do not talk about his child's advantages when they meet, and calmly say that his child's poor performance and shortcomings in school, the purpose is to brake his prestige first.

The first step is peace of mind. When parents start to be unreasonable and unreasonable with us, we must first maintain a calm mind, not have conflicts with parents, and deal with the matter calmly.

The second step is to explain why. Although the parents are unreasonable in front of us, we still have to explain the reasons clearly. Whether parents can listen to it or not, at least we will explain the reasons and have our own position.

The third step is to seek help from others. If the parents are still vexatious after explaining the reason, then you can seek the help of other experienced teachers or school leaders, you can seek some methods from them, or you can ask them to help mediate.

Finally, I would like to say that experience is slowly gained through the accumulation of daily life, and through my own daily experience and the method of asking experienced teachers, I will eventually gradually form my own style of doing things.

Teachers should face it rationally, don't be too entangled, don't lose confidence too much, believe that the facts have their own judgment, first deal with it coldly, don't pay too much attention to it, for some ruthless and unreasonable parents, if they take things more and more seriously, the more they will "be unreasonable". Teachers should also adopt certain strategies to retain all verbal and written evidence of parents' personal attacks on teachers, and if the matter is finally necessary, they can take legal channels.

After learning about the parent's situation, the teacher can calmly communicate with the parent and his family under the auspices of the school leader and the local village committee, help the parent raise awareness, and eliminate the parents' grievances or misunderstandings.

Basic school education is a group education, with a certain degree of discipline and standardized management, students in school discipline and behavior education management and safety education work must be placed in the first place in the education and teaching link, in order to ensure that the school education and teaching work is carried out in an effective and orderly manner, school student education management is based on class management, parents and schools should do a good job of comprehensive communication in the process of class student management, jointly promote the development of students, parents should effectively cooperate with the teacher's student management work, Help children correct the problems existing in the management of education and teaching, help educate students to correct mistakes, and standardize students' bad behavior habits. This is the need of education at present, the need for the development of the educational situation, and the inevitable requirement for the prosperity and development of the country's education economy.

As a teacher, there are few people who do not encounter unreasonable parents, especially the homeroom teacher, so it is also a compulsory course to understand the student's family situation and parents. Since many people in the society regard teachers as enemies, and many parents lack a minimum of respect for teachers, then, for teachers, they should be good at using different methods to deal with different vexatious parents.

In reality, there are often some parents who attack teachers, insult class teachers, and accuse teachers of work in various channels for trivial things, and the arbitrariness is relatively large, the reasons are diverse, the reasons are different, the attitude is ruthless and unreasonable, arrogant, arrogant, arrogant, threatening teachers, making it difficult for teachers to carry out their work, and they are very unhappy, but all teachers who have been engaged in the work of class teachers will more or less encounter such parents or things.

Teachers are not allowed to casually punish students, so there will always be a few mischievous students in the class who give the teacher a headache. At this time, a teacher likes to call parents to come to school, count the child's shortcomings in front of the parents, and hope that the parents can communicate well with the child. Nowadays, many parents are busy with work in their daily lives and do not have much time to communicate with their children, so they do not understand the current situation of their children.

If your child is disobedient, I think parents can criticize and educate their children appropriately, understand what is the main reason why teachers call parents, and then communicate carefully with children to guide them correctly. If the teacher is looking for a parent because of his academic performance, I think parents can help their children with their homework after class, urge their children to study hard, improve their grades, and not let their children resist the teacher. Especially when the child is in the rebellious period of adolescence, it is necessary to communicate well with the child, do not have negative emotions, and do not do stupid things impulsively.

In many educational environments in China, there are situations where students are very afraid of teachers, and even have very serious resistance to teachers. You can communicate with the teacher to understand the situation, and then the two sides can cooperate to educate the child, actively cooperate with the teacher's work, so that the teacher and their own implementation goals and educational goals can achieve the basic united front. If there is a conflict between parents and teachers, this is a very sparse and ordinary thing, as long as the cause of the conflict and disagreement is found in time, and calmly resolved, so that both parties can summarize and communicate through this opportunity to come up with a common method of educating children.

The teacher's behavior of calling parents is also to hope that parents can cooperate with the school's work. After all, the purpose of the school and the teacher is to call the parents if their children can get better, so I hope that parents can actively cooperate with the teachers.

Teachers should communicate with parents to understand the reasons for the child's disobedience in detail, and then prescribe appropriate solutions to solve the problem, and jointly supervise the child.

I think that at this time, parents must communicate with their children as friends, and must know why their children are like this, so that they can solve problems in a targeted manner.

In the education of children, schools and parents should communicate more. It is precisely because the school values children that it invites parents. Parents should actively cooperate with the school's advice.

Teachers are fully respected and trusted.

Because the teacher is a professional, during the teaching process, the teacher must understand the child very clearly by observing the child. As long as parents communicate sincerely with the teacher, they will definitely get the teacher's wholehearted help. Acknowledge and take the initiative to go to the school to find out.

In the process of children's education, parents should first cooperate with the teacher and take the initiative to contact the teacher to understand what is going on with the child's disobedience. It is best to go to the school in person and meet the teachers face-to-face. This is the first step to solving the problem.

After understanding the situation, it will be dealt with on a case-by-case basis.

First of all, parents must admit the shortcomings of their children, which bring great difficulties to the management of teachers. Second, parents should let their children admit their mistakes to the teacher. If your child is stubborn and refuses, talk to your child first.

Finally, depending on the severity of your child's mistake, consult with the teacher on how to deal with it. Provide teachers with some information about the children's family background and growth process that the teachers do not know, so that the teachers can better guide the children and enter the children's hearts.

Parents should communicate separately from their children. After communicating with the teacher, parents should also communicate with their child.

Think from the child's point of view (I think that's the essence of education). Help the child analyze why the teacher disagrees with the child's behavior. Then discuss with your child the circumstances in which the child's behavior is reasonable and in which it is not.

Don't spoil your kids too much. If you spoil your child too much, then the consequence of spoiling your child is that the child will be very willful, develop some bad habits, and even have conflicts with teachers at school. Parents should reward and punish their children's performance, let them know what to do and what not to do, and establish a clear concept of right and wrong.

Parents should not nag and complain, always say that other people's children are good, and compare horizontally. When your child makes a little progress, encourage and praise him.

Parents should lead by example in everything.

Parents are always role models for their children. Therefore, in home education, parents should take the lead and do not let their children bring bad habits to school. At the same time, if the child does something wrong, he must be punished. Let children understand what is right and what is wrong, rather than not distinguishing between right and wrong.