The subject doesn t want to buy a house now, and the parents are pressing, what should I do?

I'll tell you the truth, you're 24 years old, a Tianjin girl.

I am also from Tianjin, but I am now working in Shanghai, I am 32 years old this year, and now my wife and children live in the southwest corner, which is my home.

When my lover and I bought this 50-square-meter 6-storey house in 2000, we were also poor and had nothing, but fortunately, the house was cheap, and I borrowed 40,000 yuan to pay the down payment. But no matter what, although my lover felt that the house was small, not the main house, and a top floor, he was still very happy in the end. Because no matter how bad it is, after all, I gave her a nest, a promise, a hope, and most importantly, a place to belong.

At that time, my monthly salary was more than 2,000 points, and she was more than 1,000 points, and when I first started living, I had to hand over more than 1,000 yuan a month, and the two of them lived for 3 years on less than 2,000 yuan a month. Later, in 03, she quit her job after giving birth to a child, and my career is also booming, and now although we have long had the ability to change to a 200-square-meter house in R&F City, she still likes to live in this small house. I go home about 4-5 times a year, and I only stay for a few days at a time, and the small house brings us a lot of sweetness and memories of the glory days.

Sometimes my wife will bring her son to live in Shanghai for a period of time to stay with me.

So, what I want to say is that when a real man can and is willing to hold up a piece of heaven for a woman, he will do it, without hesitation!

Now the housing price in Tianjin is quite high, but this should not be an obstacle to talking about marriage, from the man's point of view, if he really wants to marry you, buying a house is a necessary choice, not prevarication. Unless there is a possibility, that is, he has not yet decided whether he wants to marry a woman who is you. What's more, you said that your partner is from another place, and if you want to start a family in Tianjin, it is impossible to get married without a house.

Of course, you can plug the door upside down, but we Tianjin is not popular with sons-in-law.

From the woman's point of view, I don't know what requirements you have put forward, such as a certain location, three bedrooms and one living room or something, I advise you, the newlywed family, 40-50 square meters is enough, it is the two of you who are married, not for others to see, don't ask too high to exceed the man's ability to bear. Second-hand houses are still married.

I think you're in a bad state right now, and now because of the house, you've started to question whether he really loves you. Don't be like this, love or not love should be felt by your heart, it has nothing to do with the room!

Finally, think about my example, if I hadn't bought that little house, I might have missed my current wife and regretted it for the rest of my life. If my lover couldn't accept that little house at the time, she might have missed out on my blue chip as well.

I will send you a sentence on the marriage certificate: respect each other, understand each other, tide over difficulties together, and grow old together.

I think it's time to ask him how he thinks about the future of the two of you, when he will get married and buy a house, and if he doesn't want anything between you to come out of it, just to consume you, you and I suggest you have to look at this relationship from the beginning.

ps I think today's parents are urging their children to get married early, but his parents said they don't want to buy it now, I think it's a bit abnormal, maybe they don't want their children to settle in other places, maybe they are not satisfied with you, if it is the worst result, it is too late to turn back at the age of 24.

You're not too young, you should be able to see what's going on.

If he doesn't even want to give you a future and just wants to play with you, then you really have to think about it.

If your parents force you to buy a house, you can buy it first if you have the funds, which is not harmful to you, and you can discuss it with your parents if you are short of funds. Once you buy a house, you can live in your own home. Don't worry about the landlord not renting and having to move.

You don't have to worry about raising your rent and paying your rent every month. With a house, there is no need for children to go to school. Living in your own house is very different from renting a house.

I don't dare to buy more things in the rented house, and I usually use it for the landlord's use, and I have to worry that the landlord's things will be used badly. Only the thing of one's own home is open to design and use.

If you don't buy a house, you can only watch the house price go away and rent it for a long time. If you have the money to buy a house, most of them can only watch the house price rise little by little, and then regret why they didn't buy it in the first place. When the child reaches the age of going to school, he has to travel around.

The rent has risen again and again, and you still have to pay it on time every month.

Notes:

In addition to the comfort of the house, some comfortable houses are located in remote locations and lack of surrounding facilities, and are not in the urban development planning area.

Although the house itself is comfortable enough to live in, it will be very inconvenient in the later life, and with the enhancement of economic strength, when you want to replace the new house for improvement, its value will not appreciate much, and it may even decline a lot with the market environment, and the house with a relatively good location, mature supporting facilities and comfortable living will inevitably appreciate in value, contributing to your further replacement and improvement.

You can tell your parents that now that the house price is so high, you can not buy a house first, and it is not too late to buy it when the house price drops, and you can also rent a small house to live in and buy it when the house price drops, so that you can save a lot of money? If you have to force you to buy a house, you can talk to your parents and tell them that buying a house is too stressful now, and you don't need to buy a house now, you are still young, you can rent a house to live in, and then buy it when you have a financial foundation.

It's also good for your parents to let you buy a house.

At least give you a guarantee in life.

If your partner really can't afford to buy a house.

Then you can only persuade your parents well.

It's best to have your subject come to your home in person.

Ask your parents.

All parents in the world want their children to be happy.

I think your parents will approve of you.

I wish you all happiness.

Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read.

Communicate well, in fact, it is like this, parents are heartbroken for their children, and it should be possible to negotiate a solution, after all, parents are also for your future life.

In fact, in terms of feelings, I mainly make up my own minds. Others' opinions are for reference only.

Generally speaking, when talking about marriage, it is generally necessary to pay attention to the right person. At least two families should be about the same in terms of brokerage, culture, and cultivation. This is the experience that human beings have accumulated in their married life since ancient times.

Of course, there are exceptions, unless, the one of yours is super potential stock!