I have been married for 16 years, and my daughter came when she was 13 years old, because my salary

You are a very good and kind person, but you can't always let yourself be wronged, your husband's approach is really unfair to you, but you can't be impulsive, you have to find the best way to solve it, to be more direct, he can't change it, just tell him directly, if he doesn't care, then you and him will always suffer and suffer, in fact, a good man doesn't need to be very rich, as long as he is responsible, it is enough to love his family. You know him well, you should know very well that he is objectively still not a person who can continue to make you accept, you can't jump to conclusions when you are very impatient, you have to calm down and think about it. If it really doesn't work, then you can think about it yourself.

However, that may not make you feel better, and it may be more uncomfortable, so it is important to communicate a lot, and it is really not possible to say it.

You lose your job, make it difficult for the family, and see what he does. He panicked all of a sudden

Hey,,I think you chose to marry him, you must have liked him or felt that he was a good match for you, so you were responsible for your choice, you said a 'unintentional word' This is your euphemism for your expression, I feel that your words must have been very harsh at the time.

He treats your words as 'wind in his ears' Generally this word is used by elders to juniors, and you obviously put yourself above him, and he is considered civilized if he doesn't beat you.

Is he lazy, is he born with it, or is it deliberate? I don't think he's a lazy person, it's just that he doesn't have enough ability to catch up with you, so that's it.

There is a problem with your way, husband and wife are equal, before you are ready to start communicating, find the right position, and would rather lower yourself than put yourself above him.

The initiative is in your hands to solve the problems between you, as long as your way is true, everything is fine.

IMHO.

To a good woman like you, there are many people who love you, first talk to him about your thoughts, if not, you can marry me, I will love you for the rest of your life;

A happy marriage should be grasped An unhappy marriage must be given up If you love him, give him tolerance Give him warmth If you don't love him, let him get out of the way, you can't bear it, you don't need to endure it anymore.

I want to break up someone's marriage, and I feel that I can't even see love in the world of two people, and I feel miserable.

Reluctant to give up, reluctant not to get.

Let the Women's Federation solve this matter, first warn him. Scare and scare him, if he can't do it, go back to his parents' house and hide for a whole time to see if he has the heart to repent, it's really not good, forget it.

It may be that your husband's vision is too high, there is no self-esteem in front of you, and there is a possibility that your husband is really lazy and useless, I believe in the latter more, sometimes when it is broken, the child is also older, I believe he can understand!

If a man doesn't have a sense of responsibility and self-motivation, it is recommended that you liberate it as soon as possible, because it is not worth it for him. As if you can't live without him, let him know your importance!

Like you, I have a lot of lazy thoughts, some people will think that they are content, and some people may think that people like me are not pursuing...

Whatever, I think it's good to live in the moment, life is short, just be happy, as long as you are old, you won't regret it! The view on the second floor is quite agreeable!

I think so, it's your choice, everyone has the right to choose the life they want, so why care about what others think.

Your mind is not right, you don't think about your parents why, just take into account him and you will know how to do it.

I have the same idea as you, and now I can only take one step at a time.

I've wanted to ask this question for a long time. My mother told me that it was because the ancient people were relatively backward, and marriage was not because of love, but it was an instinct to survive, but in my opinion, it was unfair. . .

Yes, this question is a good question, why can people get married at the age of twelve or thirteen, but they can't get a marriage certificate at the age of twenty, so they have to wait until they are twenty-two years old?

The ancients lived to be forty or fifty years old and then died, why don't you compare this?

You can discuss with him first, analyze some things with him, and let him think about it from your point of view, after all, this is a bad habit he has developed for many years, if he is willing to change, don't be too anxious, take your time. If he procrastinates or makes excuses, you will also follow his example, be even lazier than him, fight poison with poison, and make him feel that this habit is not good, and it is easy to delay things. However, this method is extreme, and it would be best if it could be said and solved.

Hehe, if you let him do one or two jobs, and he does a good job, you have to praise him, make him feel good, love to do it next time, and slowly cultivate his interest in work, men are the same as children, and they have to be coaxed to work. If he really doesn't do it or argues with you every time he does it, you have to think about what to do, whether to let the housework ruin your marriage. If you can't change others, then let yourself change, this is an eternal truth.

and praised him, and praised him for his diligence, and for his ability.

Have a child and let him work hard to earn money to support the child.

If he becomes lazier than him, then he will be diligent!

Chinese law does not allow it, men get 22, women get 20, it seems to be, but at the age of 13 it definitely can't.

It is not possible to marry under the conditions prescribed by law. If you have a non-agricultural household registration, only men who are 25 years old and women who are 22 years old can apply for a marriage certificate if the state can give you a marriage certificate; The agricultural household registration is 22 years old for men and 20 years old for women. As the saying goes:

If the people don't sue the officials and don't hold them accountable, they can get married, but they just can't get a marriage certificate.

No, China's latest marriage law stipulates that men must be more than 22 and women can only get married if they are more than 20, and you can't register in Las Vegas before this age.

Of course not, the legal age of marriage in the country has not been hit, what do you think?? At this age, I should be studying.

Let me tell you an example, Romeo and Juliet's mother gave birth to Juliet when she was thirteen, but his father was very old.

Besides, foreigners develop early, and you don't think about it. Youngster! Hehe!

No, you can't! The earliest is South Korea, 16 years old, you are too young.

No, you are not of legal age!

Not allowed by law.

Parents don't allow it.

The first thing you don't ask is whether you're in a legal marriage or a traditional marriage.

Legal Marriage License Your age Do you think it's okay?

The traditional marriage in the family, as long as the families of both parties do not object, live together, no one says, and when the age is up, go to get a certificate and have a child, it will be fine.

Yes, as long as you really like it...It's the 21st century.

22 for men and 20 for women.

Izzy you, you're not even well developed.

Study hard, children are academically important and naïve!

Brother, do you live in a feudal society?

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The world is declining, and people's hearts are not ancient.

It's not about the money. It's whether he wants to or not. If his monthly salary in this life does not reach 8,000, he will not get married? It's good to have goals. But don't be too blind to customize the goal.

Personally, I think that the total salary of the two people is 4,000 yuan, and the daily cost of renting a house is 3,500 yuan (including water, electricity, Internet access ** meals, not including restaurants).

8,000 yuan is just an excuse, if he loves you and doesn't need you to urge him to get married, he will also take the initiative to ask for marriage.

It's really hard to say, some people start their careers and then get married. But some men use this as an excuse. Be careful yourself.

He doesn't want you. If only I had gotten married first. Eight thousand he was dreaming. Let's divide it early.

He's a **, hurry up and break up with him.

I think he's , his promises are unreliable, he doesn't know the responsibilities of being a man, he's ambitious.

I'm a man.

Have you had multiple tires? It's very dangerous, ** too much, it's very likely that you won't be able to have children in the future. Marriage has a certain relationship with how much money it is, but it is not the main factor, it mainly depends on whether he is responsible and responsible.

Because he made you have multiple abortions, I look down on such a man. Can't get married with less money? How many people who toiled for hunger didn't have to get married?

Nostalgia for your body? Maybe it's possible.

Marrying a person is not based on how much money he has, but on whether he has a sense of responsibility, whether he is self-motivated, and whether he is positive about life.

Well, let's talk about it first, I'm a few years younger than my sister, I feel that your boyfriend's idea is not wrong, the current society is too realistic, and prices are soaring, and it is not okay without a certain income, maybe he really wants to give you a better life, but if he uses this as a reason not to marry you, it will not be the case, I suggest you talk to him well, after all, the most important thing for two people is affection, money is secondary, you can tell him, you can also afford some living expenses after marriage, You can say all your doubts, there should be nothing that two people can't say about living together in the future, the most important thing is not to cause unnecessary misunderstandings because you don't say it, you stabilize your mood first, don't be angry because of what you think to question him, talk calmly, if he is really a master of the eye, you can also realistically help him analyze it, and finally hope you are happy

It's hard to say, two people have their own ideas, and it's best to communicate more, so that you can find the root of the problem and make the most reasonable decision, and you don't necessarily have to wait until the monthly salary of 8,000 to get married. If it were me, I would definitely want to start a business first and then start a family, after all, not having a little economic foundation is cruel for a newly formed family. If we can meet a girl who is willing to work hard with us and work together to create a better future life for ourselves, wouldn't it be a good thing to start a family first and then start a business!

I think he's lying to you, and a lot of people use this as a cover.

Find a man who is suitable to be a husband.

Passing by, I was a little unoptimistic about him.

Forget it. It's so sad.

Your whole life ...

There is a saying that the environment can change people. Today's children are only children, spoiled by adults at home, everything is done by adults, clothes to reach out for food to open their mouths, never worry about family locks. But this can only be done if you are a child.

Once you get married, start a family, your identity will change, you are not only the child of your parents, but also the partner of the other party, and you will still be the parents of your children in the future. Unless you don't want to be independent, you have a particularly strong dependence mentality, and you don't want to deal with anything yourself, but just want to ask your parents for help.

There is also a saying, there is a mountain to back, no mountain is independent, when you have no backer, you must face everything yourself. Rather than being forced to become independent at that time, it is better to learn it slowly in daily life.

Are you embarrassed to let your parents clean up your room after you get married? Can you bear to wipe your mouth and leave after eating and let your parents clean up for you?

Life is realistic, there is no romance when you are in love, there is firewood, rice, oil and salt, life is locked, and the ordinary life is sometimes like boiled water, but life has to go on as usual. It is said that marriage is the grave of love, but if there is no grave, isn't love dead and without a place to be buried?

After living together, the romantic love slowly faded, the family affection became thicker and thicker, blood was thicker than water, family affection, responsibility, and obligation were the weights to maintain the marriage.

There is no free lunch in the world, struggle and hard work need to last, and it is the truth that God rewards hard work.

Having said so much, I don't know if you understand.

It's okay if both of you can accept and tolerate each other's laziness, but it must be like a family, pay attention to marriage and matching, men and women match, and don't get tired of work, maybe what will change in the future has become two diligent people. Ha ha! May a lover eventually become a family.

If you want to combine, you have to get rid of laziness, otherwise you two won't even have anything to eat.

If you don't dislike each other, if you don't feel annoying, it's okay.

You can deal with everything in life with laziness, and you can be together.

2 lazy people together, as long as the relationship is good, laziness is a trivial matter.

Look at the elders in the family and use it first to find a job

What were you doing before you got married, what's the use of telling us now, you want to rely on men, and men ignore you??? I don't know, I'm stupid.

He should be asked to pay for his daughter's living expenses.

Go for a job and think about it for your daughter.

Your husband doesn't pay his salary, and you don't go to work? How can you earn money to support your daughter?

Find relatives and friends to solve a little problem first, and then hurry to work!

I can't help you with this problem, this is not a problem.

The property acquired by one party during the marriage is the joint property of the husband and wife, and the joint property and debts of the husband and wife are jointly owned and borne by the husband and wife, and are generally half of the same person. If one party is at fault, the division of property can be divided with less or no share, and the specific share will be determined by the court.