Why do parents like to teach their children?

Parents are sometimes angry and accustomed to being reasonable with others, but their children still don't understand so many rules. I used to coax my sister's child to get angry, because he was very willful and unreasonable, and he didn't listen to what he said, and continued to commit crimes. Later, when I took the teacher qualification certificate, I looked at the age of the pedagogical child when there was no sense of right and wrong, in short, it is best to raise a child to read these books, and you will understand which age of the child you need how to guide.

When he thinks about it when he's naughty, he probably won't be so angry.

Children have a sensitive period of order in the preschool years. At this stage, due to the child's sensitivity to order, there will be a manifestation such as a tantrum if something is not done in his order, which may be true in the eyes of adults. If your child is preschooler, then please respect his more serious child when he is more serious, see if he is more serious, if you are more true you have to obey the child, he has a certain grace.

ability, parents must respect their children's choices, parents should also give some encouragement, so that he can enhance his self-confidence, have his own opinions, it is a good thing, this is his advantage, parents should not erase the child's advantages.

It is a blessing for parents to meet a child who loves more seriously! Children love more seriously, explain that they can think, have opinions, and are very persistent, such children are not easy to be eliminated in an intelligent society. But when a child argues that he or she must buy something he likes, and he or she really wants to buy it, this is the "wrong" behavior.

Parents can buy in another way, such as when they can buy, or if they have reached an agreement or commitment to their parents, they can consider buying.

A child who is more serious generally does not beat, so that he becomes more and more serious, and if he doesn't listen, he will be cold and violent.

Don't talk to him, don't buy anything casually, some children cry and don't move, you just let him go there, generally you walk a few steps and will follow you, don't spoil the child who loves to call the truth, it means that love to use his brain, will think, have his own opinions, meet such a child, parents should know it with reason, move it with affection. Whoever is right obeys whomever is right, and adults who are wrong must be corrected immediately, only in this way can children be led correctly.

It is more important for children to establish a outlook on life.

The starting point of values. If he just thinks that others like it, I should like it too. What others think is right, I can't think it's wrong.

That's the sorrow of education. Children love to be more serious, parents should have a headache, think about it again "more true" does not reflect the child's superstitious authority, dare to think and dare to speak the spiritual outlook? Who like their children to be timid and submissive?

Therefore, adults should be "more serious" in the face of children

Parents should tell their children that this is not the right thing to do, and sometimes they should not take it too seriously, and they should also tell their children the right way to do it.

Parents should tell their children that they should not live so tired, and that they should let them relax, improve their mentality, and also relax their minds.

For the more serious children, we can only temporarily let this matter pass, if we are also more serious, it will hurt the child, and then slowly tell him what to do and how to deal with this matter when the child is in a good mood.

Tell him why he doesn't have so many reasons, then answer his questions well, and enlighten him not to be so serious.

Parents when educating their childrenYou should also find that there are still some bad habitsAlways, alwaysIt's hard to correct itEven after the parents angrily reprimanded their children,They still won't make it right。And these bad habits, tooaffects the child's daily life,It affected her even moreBe in good health, theseBad habits aren't just in his behavior, it's more likely that he's in terms of life and rest, so are weChildren need to be helped to correct these bad habits

If we want our children to correct these bad habits,It's best to start small, at a young age,Let's not indulge childrenany behavior. For sometimes, he follows these actsSlowly evolvedBad habitsofWhen the child grows up, we will goIt is actually very difficult to correct his bad habits, because at that time, he already had his own ideas, he had his own habits of behavior, after he had developed a habit,We are hardGoCorrected, so we can't indulge when we're young. Like when he was youngEnjoyed watching TV while eating, so he eats very slowly, and usually goes out tooAlways procrastinatingThese things can actually be done as wellWhen I was young, I went to help him correct itOtherwise, wait until you grow upThese things can affect his daily life

At a young age, if parents are onlyBlindly conniving at the child's behavior,Then when he grows up, he will be more unscrupulous to do some bad things, because he will feel itParents can forgive themselvesself, so they will not be introspective and self-disciplined. When the child is young,Parents are not able to discipline their childrenWhen we grow up and find that he has bad habits, we must correct them in timeAfter multiple corrections, in fact, he himself willform oneConditioning

While doing this, because it willFearParental scolding, then they will tooConsciously avoid itLike thisbehavior。For parents, it is a way to help children break these bad habits, and it is also possibleHelp her make some schedules, made his life regular, there are a lot of bad habits, also becauseHis schedule is irregular, so it is slowly formed

When parents discipline many times,He still isIt is the words that are not correctedIn fact, parents can also reflect on whether they are in the ordinary process of lifeThere will be these bad habits。We always sayThe child is a mirror of the parents, in fact, it is also fromThese aspects are slowly manifesting themselves, there isA lot of bad habits in childrenIn fact, I learned it from my parents, not that they developed these bad habits from an early age.

So when weWhen you find out that your child's bad habits are not changedand we need it tooReflect on your own behavior。When we have these bad habits ourselvesIt is also necessary to make correctionsIn this way, we can better set an example for our childrenChildren are also better able to make corrections

1.Take the trouble to tell your child what is bad about those habits and what negative effects they have on them, and make sure that they are bad habits and must be corrected.

2.If the child does not listen and repeats the offense, then some punishment is needed, such as doing housework, such as not being able to watch TV, etc.; Similarly, if the child is improving, it can be given some small rewards.

3.Lead by example and set a good example for your children.

Interrupt behavior, but be careful to control your emotionsRemember that behavioral interventions are only designed to break bad habits in children, not to vent to parents. Don't blame the child or blame the child.

I think parents should set punishment measures for their children, and if their children continue to have these bad habits, they should cancel some of the benefits of their children, such as not giving them games to play.

I think parents should beat and scold their children, let them know that these bad habits are very incorrect, and they will also attract scolding, and slowly he will know that he has changed.

One is that many parents nowadays generally lack empathy with their children, so they cannot gain the full trust of their children in time.

The traditional parental approach is still a "one-word" paternalistic discipline model, which tends to treat children with condescending arrogance and teach them a lesson. They completely forget the subjective identity of the children, ignore the children's ideological positions and views, and cannot persuade and educate the children with an equal and kind attitude. The habits and ways in which they teach children are always "old-fashioned" "Lao Tzu is the first in the world", "Lao Tzu is always right", this kind of style is easy to come by, either sarcastic and sarcastic, or beaten and scolded, noisy, noisy, and unhappy.

The effect of discipline not only does not get positive energy education, but will anger the children, make the children miserable, and the negative energy will increase day by day.

The second is to teach the children a very good reason, at every turn to take the year of their own archway tree benchmark, do not know that the times are changing, society is progressing, human beings are developing?

Family education, like social education, has a pattern to follow. Every parent should constantly update themselves, keep pace with the times, take into account the development of the times, social progress, changes in concepts and other practical factors, and educate their children with dynamic ideological positions and behaviors that develop and change. Instead of using the same conservative attitude to "teach" and "scold", or even use uncivilized beating and scolding methods to educate children.

You can't always think that the lessons you have learned from growing up are the eternal law of conservation. "Yiyantang" and "patriarchy" are invisible poisons that poison children, and they must be unconditionally discarded and let go. Tearing down the memorial arch and setting up a benchmark is just a rigid way of education, just an external manifestation of metaphysics.

What can really educate and guide children is to keep pace with the times and conform to the new ideas, new methods and new concepts of modern education concepts. Parents must let go of the traditional condescending, treat their children with a lesson attitude, be honest, down-to-earth, study seriously, constantly update, and treat and educate their children with a warm-hearted attitude of equality, unity, harmony and kindness.

Three. Of course, this is not to say that children are free of problems. Modern society, whether it is economy, education, science and technology, culture, commerce, etc., are changing with each passing day, developing by leaps and bounds, children are not very mature in grasping and understanding of new things, and parental education and guidance are essential.

Only with such correct guidance can children mature quickly, thrive and develop healthily.

1. Traditional upbringing.

It is undeniable that the traditional concept of parenting still has a subtle influence on us, such as "if you don't fight, you can't make a weapon", "filial piety comes out under the stick" and so on. Because in the traditional concept, the relationship between parents and children is top-to-bottom, and there is no concept of respecting children and getting along with children on an equal footing. The respect of traditional culture is mostly focused on getting along with peers, but it is very lacking in the parent-child relationship.

2. Poor self-emotional management.

If the parents' minds are not mature enough, then it is a very heavy pressure and burden for the children. When encountering difficulties or setbacks in life, some parents are prone to vent their grievances on their children. When parents cannot meet their expectations of life or work, they want their children to follow his instructions completely, and if the child's performance is not satisfactory to the parents, then the parents will most likely beat and scold them.

3. Familiar growth experience.

Because they did not accept new knowledge in time, or they lacked experience, some parents directly applied the original parents' discipline model, and as long as they did not follow their parents' wishes, they would be beaten and punished in this way. Therefore, when he is unable to get his children to do things or live his way, he likes to discipline them in the way he is most familiar with.

4. Seek a quick and convenient way.

Some parents are too lazy to think of other ways to discipline their children, believing that beating and scolding education is the most convenient and effective way. Therefore, whenever a child makes a mistake, the first thing that comes to mind is to punish the child.

The older generation likes to educate people, that is because in the previous era, the old people's thinking was more conservative, in a family, the elders are more nagging, they feel that the child is not sensible, must be managed by the parents, the elders to educate, the child will become better, so in the family, parents always say a lot in front of the child, in the child's heart, the parent's education method has become a kind of nagging, parents will always worry that the child will become bad, so they will like to educate the younger generation, in the minds of the elders, the child will always be a childIn the traditional way, the parent's education method is the traditional concept of "messing up".

Many parents think that it is good to take a beating for their children who do something wrong. Therefore, in life, some parents often educate their children with sticks because their children are naughty and mischievous, intentionally or unintentionally. In ordinary life, he deliberately "poured cold water" education to hit, ridicule, and disagree with children.

In fact, this kind of "percussive education" will not only lead to a lack of self-confidence in children, but also affect their future growth. Although this is the way parents think to love their children, it is a painful way to educate children.

Perhaps many parents think that their children are juniors, not friends. The younger generation should listen to the opinions of the elders and not accept any rebuttals. In front of the child, he usually expresses himself very strongly, does not really listen to the child's inner voice, intentionally or unintentionally exerts all kinds of learning pressure on the child, and denies the child's performance at every turn, or even hits.

They will ask the children in the way they think is right, and the children should follow the rules and not make any mistakes. Have you ever thought about empathy, being denied every day will really wear out the child's self-confidence little by little?

Clause. 3. Who is the most perfect child in the hearts of parents? "Someone else's child".

The importance of good communication to homeschooling cannot be overstated. However, "You see that Xiao Ming is much more obedient than you", "You see that Uncle Zhang's children next door are better than you", "You see that Aunt Li's children are the first in the exam every time" are the words blurted out by many parents, and they always feel that they should always use "other people's children" to spur him and make him progress.

Children also have their own life tracks, what they should bear, what they should experience, and what they should experience. This intentional or unintentional comparison hurts the child's emotion and self-esteem even more, and seriously dampens the parent-child relationship. The older generation is mainly influenced by traditional concepts, and there are many children in the past, how to educate children?

Children will not rebel, on the contrary, many children will be beaten, scolded is more common, the elderly like to use the past way to educate children, so they like to educate people always become very nagging.