What s the one thing your parents hurt you the most?

My junior high school is one of the top middle schools in Beijing. At that time, according to the requirements of the Education Commission, in order to balance educational resources, the city's key middle schools were not allowed to run junior high schools. As a result, the junior high school and high school of the key middle school were separated, and the junior high school became a private middle school in nature, and a large amount of tuition fees had to be paid every year.

I'm at the beginning. The grades in the first and second years of junior high school are good, and they are basically stable in the top three of the grade. In the summer vacation before the third year of junior high school, the key class began to have chemistry classes in advance, and I fell in love with a girl in the class at an inopportune time.

The early love came so suddenly that I didn't listen to a single session of the make-up class. By the beginning of the school year, I had two consecutive exams, and I had plummeted from the second in the grade to more than 100, the bottom of the key class.

What impressed me the most so far was that the walls of the class were always plastered with the grade rankings of various quizzes and exams, and there were no gaps. In such a group, it is basically the instinct of every parent to hope for their son Jackie Chan and strict requirements for grades. And the time period when my grades fell sharply happened to be the key time to decide the third year of junior high school.

Losing the protection of grades, I became a negative example in the teacher's mouth, which was more hateful than pity. Every day I go to school, in addition to attending classes, I keep writing checks for various reasons. Over the course of a semester, my inspections have accumulated a thick stack.

The most ironic thing is that, in the words of the teacher, this kid has a good handwriting, and every time he writes and checks, he actually has something new. When I got home, I was faced with my mother's endless count. Why are you so unhappy, the family spends so much money, and has accompanied you to various cram schools since you were a child, etc., etc.

That semester, I was like a demon. Now I'm desperately trying to cram chemistry on my own, but I don't know why I can't understand what I thought was simple before. After working hard for a long time, the monthly exam climbed from one hundred and ten to a pitiful ninety.

In the midterm exam, he reached 40, and he barely returned to the examination room of the top students, but then in the final mock exam, he fell back to 90.

I remember very clearly that after the mock test, it would still snow heavily in Beijing at that time. I waited at school until it got dark, and my mom was the last to leave the teacher's office. Walking on the thick snow, crunching on the foot.

My mother only said one sentence: The teacher said that you are out of play. No matter how hard I worked, that is, I was at the level of more than 40 people, but I was left behind, and I couldn't return to the top three.

For a whole semester, I lived in the eyes of my teacher and claimed to be smart, but now I have become a hopeless student. In the process, I struggled, but hope was always a little short, I didn't get any encouragement from anyone, everyone told me, you can't.

And it was my mother who hammered the nail on the nail in the coffin.

One of the things that hurt me the most was that my parents lied to me, I wanted a car and said I would buy it for me, but it didn't.

The biggest hurt my parents did to me was that they divorced when I was very young, so I have been living in a single-parent family and have not enjoyed full fatherhood and motherhood.

My parents went out to play cards when I was a kid and left me alone at home, which made me feel lonely and hurt me a lot.

One of the things that hurt me the most from my parents is that my parents have a serious patriarchal mentality, so I have to let my younger brother do everything at home, otherwise I will be scolded.

He laughed at me when I was going through failure. Once I made a fool of myself on stage while participating in a speech contest, my parents did not comfort me, but laughed at me.

My parents broke up me and my girlfriend on the grounds that her family didn't have as much money as my family, and after my girlfriend was forced to break up, I was depressed for a long time, and I wasn't in the mood to do anything, and I was very sad.

One of the things that hurt me the most was when I went to college, because I couldn't come up with a sum of money, so I delayed my studies.

When I was a child, I forgot what it was, and then they said I was dirty, and these two words hurt my heart deeply.

After the college entrance examination, my parents forcibly changed my wish regardless of my wishes and preferences, and finally I went to a school I didn't like and studied a major I didn't like.

When I was sick when I was a child, they dragged me not to see a doctor, thinking that I would be fine if I was strong, but then my uncle carried me to get an injection, and now I think about it a little sadly.

Because I couldn't get the warmth of my family, I rode several kilometers to my grandmother's house when I was a child (my grandparents loved me very much), and when I came back, I was beaten by ma (I really can't say that word, use pinyin instead), telling me that I dare to go to my grandmother's house again and break my leg. This incident left me with a deep memory, which directly led to the fact that I basically do not go back to my hometown to see my parents now.

My parents kept saying that I had no conscience and was going to be struck by lightning. What I want to say is that if God had eyes, I don't know who I would hack. Cause and effect reincarnation, retribution is unpleasant. I don't believe in Buddhism, but some of the Buddha's teachings are still very educational.

The second thing, when I was in college, I didn't go home for a year, once I went home, I took a 28-hour train, and when I was about to get home, I called my family and said that I would be at noon, and my father said okay, come back for dinner. Considering that I would arrive home at noon, I didn't eat instant noodles on the train, so I was hungry all morning, and when I arrived home at 2 o'clock at noon, there was no one at home, and the door was still locked. By this time, I was exhausted and hungry, and finally ate instant noodles with tears in my eyes.

xx said: He didn't tell me to come back (how is this kind of person worthy of being a mother, cows know how to lick calves deeply).

The third thing is that of the demon brother above. I was bullied and abused every day in my childhood, and when I grew up, I still had a tone of telling me to do this and that. The year before last, he gave birth to a baby, I went to the hospital to see my niece, rushed to the bus, high-speed rail, bus, in the afternoon in the hospital asked him the name of his niece, he said he hadn't taken it yet, I said why I haven't taken it, he said he just didn't take it.

In the evening, his brother-in-law and aunt also came, and his aunt asked him the name of the doll, and he told them very happily. I was right behind him, and I heard it clearly. I couldn't take it anymore, my heart raced, and I almost collapsed in the hospital room.

That night, I went home with tears in my eyes, and it was raining lightly, so I didn't dare to tell my wife and mother-in-law for fear of being laughed at by them.

I also got married, had children, married a very nice wife, and no matter how late I came back from a business trip, I would always have a hot and delicious meal. Seeing a good wife and cute children every day, the whole person is full of happiness and love, which has never been felt before. This is the feeling of home, it was not home before, it was under the fence.

Now I basically don't contact them anymore, only occasionally contact my aging father, and marry such a wife, who is quite pitiful. The whole extended family has been torn apart, without the slightest emotional connection, and there is a deadly family group of six people, who basically do not speak. Live your own happy little home.

Tired. The damage of childhood will last a lifetime. Character flaws may not be fixed for a lifetime. Fortunately, I have a good wife. It is not unreasonable to marry a wife and marry a virtuous wife, and a virtuous wife and husband will have few misfortunes.

Hello dear, I'll come to you with this question. The most harmful thing for parents to their children is to threaten and intimidate their children when they are young, so that they can be obedient. After dinner, I took my son for a walk in the small square downstairs.

From afar, I heard a mother shouting to her child again: "If you are so disobedient, I don't want you anymore." "Then my son and I saw the mother turn around and really leave.

The little boy who was crying saw his mother gone, and hurriedly wiped his tears and went after her. It turned out that there was a stall selling toys in the small square downstairs at night, and the little boy saw a favorite toy and wanted his mother to buy one for him, maybe his mother thought that there were similar toys at home, so she didn't buy them for the little boy. That's what happened just now.

Looking at the little boy's cautious and honestly frightened appearance, I was really distressed. Actually, I can understand that I don't buy toys for my children, but I don't agree with teaching children in a threatening way, saying to them "If you don't do anything, I will do what I do". The son, apparently hearing the mother as well, asked me:

Mom, if I wanted toys too, would you be like that aunt, saying you don't want me and leave me? When my son asked, I felt that the problem was even more serious. It seems that the scene he just saw had a huge impact on his son, and the son had a feeling of uneasiness in his heart, and he was afraid that he would be abandoned by his parents if he was not obedient.

I quickly enlightened my son and told him that I would not do that, so as to dispel his inner uneasiness. Dear, I hope mine is helpful to you, and I wish you a happy life.

What I would say is that everyone's life and family situation is different, so the one thing that hurts each person's parents the most will also vary from person to person. However, regardless of the specific form of harm, parents are loved ones, family members, and they have a profound impact on a person's growth and development. Therefore, when parents hurt themselves, it will inevitably bring great psychological pressure and emotional impact.

Next, I will give my thoughts and insights from multiple angles.

1.Neglect and alienation.

Parental neglect and alienation can have a very negative impact on a child's growth and development. When parents do not pay attention to the feelings and needs of the child's ruler and do not take positive action to improve the situation, the child will feel abandoned and feel unwelcome or unloved. In this case, the child may become negative, lonely, or depressed, and may even affect interpersonal relationships and social skills.

At the same time, such neglect and alienation can also lead to suspicion or distrust of the affection and intimacy between parents.

2.Physical and verbal violence.

Physical and verbal violence is an extremely serious form of parental harm to a child. When parents inflict violence on their children emotionally, psychologically or behaviorally, this behavior not only causes real harm to the child, but also causes long-term psychological trauma to the child. This harm can affect not only the child's feelings and understanding of family and intimate relationships, but also the child's attitude and handling of society and interpersonal interactions.

3.Expectations are too high and pressure is too high.

Parents' high expectations and stress on their children can also cause psychological damage to their children. When parents expect too much from their children, or put too much pressure on their children's shoulders, children often feel unable to handle these pressures and demands. This psychological pressure may not only affect the child's sense of self-worth and self-confidence, but also may lead to anxiety, depression, school boredom and other problems.

If you have suffered harm caused by your parents, I am well placed to understand the dilemmas and challenges you face. In this case, I believe that we need to dissect our own hearts, find ways to heal ourselves, and find some suitable ways to improve and rebuild our relationship with our parents. At the same time, some professional psychological counseling and ** may also be of great help to you.

I hope you will be strong in the face of difficulties and recover a healthy mental state.

Our parents are people who truly love us, and teaching and training them is not a harm.

I'm glad that my parents were kind to me and I was lucky. Some people can have a lifetime in childhood, and some people have been in childhood all their lives.

Don't talk about your own faults, just say how do you do it to be worthy of me?

I think that you love you without worrying about food and clothing, but I never care about your spiritual world.

I'd rather believe in an outsider's mouth than learn more about what I'm really like.

After reading so much, I see that it is all patriarchal tendencies, but let me tell you, I am a boy, from the coastal area of Zhejiang. The family is not poor, nor is it rich. My parents used to be craftsmen living in Shaoyang, Hunan.

I was also born in Hunan. At that time, because the store was too busy, my mother sent me back to Zhejiang after I finished kindergarten, and I was only 7 years old at the time. I got into the sleeper car alone with a very strange relative.

I basically can't sleep in the car at night, and I am afraid that I will be caught and sold by others. A person curled up in a sleeper and shivering, basically stayed awake until the second Zen Shen Yuntian, back to Liangjiang, Zhehe. After Hui Xiaoliang arrived in Zhejiang, it was basically my grandmother who took me, and my father opened a small factory at home at that time.

Every day is busy delivering goods and recruiting workers. I had to play alone in a very unfamiliar place, because I had just arrived, and the children next to me thought I was from the countryside when they heard that I was from Hunan. Until later, I didn't dare to say that I was born in Hunan.

Then I started elementary school, because the family was not a few minutes away from elementary school, so my father sent me once in the first grade and then never sent it again, in school, no matter how good the grades were, the family didn't ask, and then the grades fell, and it has been kept in the middle. This situation has been going through my entire student life, and every time I go home, my parents never ask me about my grades, and they give me my monthly living expenses.

My sister has been in Hunan at the time, and my mother has taken it, and every time my mother ** calls my father, she tells my sister how many points she scored in the test this time. My sister is so great at school. Later, my sister went to Shanghai to study foreign languages, and I always heard my mother and the next-door neighbor say how much my sister spends in Shanghai a year, and then I go to Shanghai to see my sister this year, how fun Shanghai is...

But now that I'm out of work and I'm starting to be independent, there's not much to say.