Who can enlighten me, some people can always enlighten others, but they can t enlighten themselves,

Self-confidence, do you lack it? Hehe...

It's too autistic, I want to go out to see the world, all living beings, I want to learn to be confident and cheerful, it is recommended to go to KTV to find a sparring singer to sing, and slowly I will have confidence.

You'd better not do what you're doing now, it's only worse to stay there in your situation....Eloquence is practiced, and you can't be afraid to speak. The more scared you are, the less you dare to speak, and you will have to keep the status quo forever....Try to talk and look into the other person's eyes, don't dodge, even if you don't know how to speak, but it makes people think you're sincere!

Take a look at the lines in it.

Self-confident people usually like to remind themselves with some negative and negative words, such as: you wake up in the morning, look in the mirror, and say to yourself, "I may fail today, I may fail", "failure" is a negative and negative word. You need to stop using these negative words and phrases and use more positive words, such as:

I will succeed today! You will be able to regain your self-confidence. Because human beings are sensible, they will not be confident enough.

If you are more sensible than others and know more than others, you will be full of confidence. When you talk to others, talk about what you know, don't say too much about what you don't know, and you'll find that you're more confident when you speak. Knowledge is also self-confidence**, and with the power of knowledge, you will be very confident.

The reason why many people are not confident is that they always like to compare other people's strengths, for example, if you compare yourself with someone who is more handsome than you, of course you will not be confident enough.

Comparison is a bad habit, it is easy to destroy your self-confidence, it is best not to compare, if you can't avoid not comparing, then you have to show your strengths and compare with the weaknesses of others, so that your self-confidence will not be shaken. To evaluate oneself correctly, we must not only see our own shortcomings, but also see our own strengths, and we must not fail to see our own similarities and superiorities because of some of our inferiority to others, which is the correct comparison with others. Self-confident people are usually more independent people, because independent people are usually not helpless people, they will solve problems on their own.

I'm such a person. Usually some friends will come to me to complain about any troubles, and I will explain them, listen to them, and help them come up with ideas. There are a lot of friends who come to me to talk to, and sometimes I feel relieved that they are willing to complain to me, at least trust me.

In fact, I had a miserable life, worse than most of them, I had never been in a relationship at the age of 27, I was introverted, I didn't have many good friends, my economic conditions were very poor, and I kept paying off my debts after working. In fact, I am also very depressed inside, and sometimes I want to find someone to talk to, I really hope that.

I have a friend who will talk to me about her troubles, and I will comfort her at the first time, relieve her, and finally she will leave satisfied. I gradually regarded her as a good friend, thinking that I could complain to her about my troubles. Again, we were chatting, and I tried to talk to her about my troubles, but she didn't respond to me just a few words.

I understood that she didn't want to listen, she didn't want to share my negative emotions, so I never talked to her about it again.

Gradually, I gradually understood.

It's not that we don't want to talk and complain, it's that no one really wants to listen. You can only be a trash can for others to dump their emotional garbage, not the other way around.

Some people can always enlighten others, but they can't enlighten themselves, because they also understand the truth, but it's easier said than done. In addition, if you don't have self-control, you may not be able to do what you say. That's why some people can enlighten others but not themselves.

This is a common phenomenon, can see other people's things clearly, can not see through their own things, can enlighten others, but can not enlighten themselves, is the so-called do not know the true face of Lushan, only because they are in this mountain, the bystanders are confused.

Such people do not know enough. I don't know myself well enough and I'm small-minded. When she persuades others, her head is the way, but she can't persuade herself, which means that she doesn't know the true face of Lushan, only because she is in this mountain.

We always feel very relaxed when we enlighten others, because it is someone else's problem! So we will feel that this will only happen to others, it is someone else's problem, it will not happen to ourselves, at this time our mentality is very relaxed, we can laugh at everything, we will feel that nothing is a thing, and always feel that others are too stupid.

But when the problem really happens to us and we have to face it, this sense of tension and oppression will make us lose our minds. It is no longer easy for us to face it calmly, and this leads to confusion in our minds. When the predicament is really in front of me, we will be at a loss, blank, as if we don't know how to think at all, and repeat the predicament of other people's homes.

Therefore, when facing difficulties, we should remain calm and rational, and then look at our own problems as a third party, which will feel suddenly enlightened and will no longer be disturbed by mediocrity.

Because the authorities are obsessed with bystanders. We are in it, we always have feelings, we will always have our own entanglements, there is no way, so sometimes outsiders don't understand, explain what can be decided very simply, why can't you make the right choice. Because we were so engaged, and we put in the time and emotion, we couldn't get out of it anytime soon.

This means that we can enlighten others, but we can't enlighten ourselves, because we can't get past ourselves.

If you are enlightening others, you can always enlighten them, maybe because you have not encountered his kind of situation, so you don't know the pain of the other party, so you always enlighten the other party, so that the other party is not too sad, the main reason is to comfort the other party from the perspective of a bystander. But if you encounter the same thing as the other party, because you feel very sad, you can't calm down, you can't enlighten yourself at all, and you need the help of outsiders to enlighten him at this time. Let him come out from a sad point of view, mainly because part of the reason may be that he is unwilling to come out, so the main reason why he can't enlighten himself.

Because those are other people's business, that bad street saying: no one in the world can empathize.

If it doesn't happen to you, you won't know where other people's tangled points are. The occurrence of a thing will not only be black and white, but also other uncontrollable factors such as feelings and interests that do not want to be lost.

If everything in the world is really right and wrong, then everyone will live a simple and happy life, but often behind a decision, you need to cut off, give up, and even sacrifice much more than others see, which is the reason why most people can't enlighten themselves.

But all messy things must have a solution after all, whether it is left or right, it is destined to lose something, lose something, and the lesser of the two is the only solution.

Besides, there is another saying: Misfortune and blessing are relied upon, and blessing and misfortune are lurking. Whether the decision is good or bad now, there will be corresponding compensation in the future, and you may not see this compensation, but it must be the result of your current choice.

So don't get too caught up in what is happening now, because it always has to be solved, and you always need to change, just let it go and don't put too much pressure on yourself. Whatever the choice, there are consequences, and all you have to do is don't shy away and let it go!

Some people can always enlighten others, but they can't enlighten themselves. It's because things didn't happen to me, I don't have backache when I stand and talk, and there is another point that bystanders are confused by the authorities, so when I really get into trouble, there is no way to get out!

This is called "darkness under the lamp", or "the authorities are confused, and the bystanders are clear". If a person is deeply in conflict, they will not be able to judge things correctly due to the influence of their own environment, background, and interests, and it will be more difficult for them to make decisions about trade-offs. So, it's hard to "enlighten yourself." ”

The ancients had a saying that a healer cannot heal himself, perhaps this is the truth.

Many things seem to others to be very simple and easy to deal with, but it is not so easy to see through them when you look at your own problems from your own perspective.

We can enlighten other people's lives, because the authorities are confused, and the bystanders are clear. That's why you have to sort out other people's things clearly, but you can't sort out your own things, so you can't enlighten yourself.

As the old saying goes, we can heal but not self-heal, in fact, this situation is still relatively common, often we are used to solving other people's problems, giving advice to others, but once things fall on themselves, there will be a dilemma, resulting in their own stagnation, not knowing what to do.

Some people always enlighten others, but they can't enlighten themselves, this is because everyone can talk about the big truth, we can say a lot of our own opinions about others, but for ourselves because we are in it, so we can't convince ourselves.

Some people can always enlighten others, but they can't enlighten themselves. This is normal, phenomenon, because for everyone, the most difficult thing for him to see clearly is that it is difficult for a person to recognize his own shortcomings and strengths, so. Everyone enlightens others normally, but it is difficult to enlighten themselves.

Some people can always enlighten others and make people have the courage to live, but they always can't think about it when they have a knot that they can't unravel, and they don't listen to the enlightenment of others.

Some people can enlighten others because they have a lot of knowledge and social experience in psychology. But if it's really your turn, it's hard to convince yourself with your own knowledge, and it's hard to ** yourself. Often many psychologists are like this, they can enlighten others well, but they can't enlighten themselves.

Watching the fire from the other side and actually fighting the fire are two different situations. If you want to enlighten yourself, you have to rely on your own strong heart, and this knowledge alone is definitely not enough. This is also a problem that many people can enlighten others, but they can't enlighten themselves, because when the problem is not their turn, they often can't actually feel the pain of the other party.

In fact, this is very normal, and bystanders are clearly fascinated by mistake, so there are often such people. When enlightening others, the head is the way, and when it comes to oneself, it is at a loss. This is also the importance of helping each other.

It's normal for some people to be able to enlighten others but not themselves. Because there is a saying that the authorities are confused, and the bystanders are clear. This kind of person.

I understand the truth. But when I put it on myself, due to the lack of willpower. Not able to follow well.

Rationally speaking, the way to do it. So she couldn't get out of her predicament.