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Resolutely disagree with cleaning the housework every day, let alone follow your mother-in-law to visit too many relatives, keep these principles, so that you can express your attitude, can have a better status, and will not be bullied in the future, and can stand firm.
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Don't let outsiders interfere in the affairs of your own family, and neither can your mother-in-law, and the young couple will solve it by themselves.
To be independent, you have to be independent. Don't be lazy to eat.
Don't let people blindly ask for it, refuse what should be refused.
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1.Have a certain economic strength and do not need to rely on others. In life, it is difficult to move an inch without money.
Only if you have money in your pocket can you have confidence. 2.Talk less and do more, keep silent about things that don't need to be mixed with yourself, and express your opinions less in front of your mother-in-law so as not to cause conflicts.
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1.Have a certain financial ability. 2.Don't be ambiguous outside. 3.Don't be too greedy for money. 4.Know how to honor your parents. 5.Don't scold your husband. Only by doing these principles can you feel at ease in your in-law's house.
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You must have your own opinions, don't be particularly weak, and don't rely on your husband for everything, be an independent woman with financial conditions, so that everyone in your mother-in-law's family will look down on you.
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First of all, you should be better to your husband, let your mother-in-law see it, in addition, when you return home, you can properly help your mother-in-law to sort out the housework, but not too humble, to have your own business, which can make you more confident in your mother-in-law's family, so that you can also make your position in your mother-in-law's family more stable.
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I think that if a woman wants to have a stable position in her in-law's family, first of all, in ordinary life, we should ensure that we have the economy, and we must also be independent, learn to improve ourselves, and make ourselves better, which will help us to stabilize our position in the in-law's family.
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If you want to stabilize your position, you must establish your prestige under certain circumstances, so that you can better stabilize your image.
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Indeed, after a woman gets married, she is upgraded to a wife, daughter-in-law and mother, and under such a triple identity, she can no longer only covet the romance of the flower before and under the moon, but to maintain the trivialities of married life. For example, in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, few women can be themselves as they want, some people are committed to pleasing themselves, some people are obedient with low eyebrows, and they dare to be angry and sad, after all, they are alienated from the relationship and embarrassed themselves.
In fact, the problem of a thing is often inside and outside, as long as a woman does the following three things, whether it is a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law or family status, no matter how big the problem is, it can be easily solved.
In the face of in-laws' disrespect for themselves, they will also show themselves.
Freedom, calmness, calmness, and elegance all come from independence, which allows you not to be dependent on others and not afraid of the future, which is your inexhaustible confidence. "
I have seen too many marriage tragedies of full-time wives, and I clearly know that women will gradually be looked down upon by their in-laws if they have no income, and the life of palms up is destined not to be too easy. Economic independence is a woman's greatest sense of security, and a woman has the ability to earn money to have the confidence to turn around.
Sometimes it's clear that you've done it perfectly, but you're still picky, ridiculed, and spawned. Therefore, you must be financially independent.
Independent thinking, principled, and bottom-line.
Many times, the unhappiness after marriage is more than the endurance of not knowing how to refuse.
Blind compliance and compromise will fuel the arrogance of the in-laws' family and become arbitrarily bullied"Soft persimmons"。
A woman's independence of thought, principles and bottom line is not only a protection of herself, but also a secret to the preservation of marriage.
Try your best to tolerate the little things in your daily life, and in getting along with your mother-in-law's family, you can't let it go because of your feelings, and you need to solve the problem of touching the bottom line, which needs to be solved in time, otherwise you will only suffer yourself and the relationship between husband and wife.
In marriage, you need to clearly show your bottom line, clarify your boundaries, and then accurately convey it to each other in a gentle way. People who really care about you will not deny it all because of your rejection, and if you explain the disadvantages of your words, your heart will be spacious, and your words will be comfortable.
Independent personality, not too dependent on anyone's emotional guidance.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law determines the lower limit of marriage, but true happiness is created by oneself and never given by others. If a woman lives dependent on others and pleases others, she will only slowly lose herself, lose her independent personality, and live a humble and depressed life. In marriage, the more dependence, the greater the damage, and the dilemma of life can only be broken through by oneself after all.
At any time, a woman with an independent personality can live a decent life, because she will overcome all difficulties, break free from shackles, will not rely too much on anyone, and strive to realize her own value and reflect her ability.
Therefore, if the in-laws do not respect themselves, they will be mad on the spot, which is not only disrespectful to themselves, but also treats themselves as outsiders.
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From ancient times to the present, the topic of discussion about the "contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law" has never stopped**. In ancient times, once a woman got married and became the daughter-in-law of her in-law's family, she basically had no status to talk about. After all, in that era, the vast majority of housewives or mothers-in-law, women had to obey their mothers-in-law.
With the change of the social system, the public's ideology is still quietly changing, especially the understanding between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Especially in recent years, the status of women as daughters-in-law in the family has greatly improved. From being called by my mother-in-law to being arrogant to my mother-in-law today, it has actually been decades.
Before getting married, many women have fantasized that after marrying into their in-laws' family, they must have their own status and want to experience the taste of being the master of their own house. If it is okay to meet a mother-in-law who saves trouble, the woman has the opportunity to turn over and become a housewife; If she encounters a domineering and tough mother-in-law, that woman is only under the management of her mother-in-law, and has no status to talk about. If we want to have a status in our in-laws' family, we must first make it clear that the position is won by ourselves, and only by relying on the status we get can we last for a long time.
Generally speaking, if a woman wants to have a status in her in-law's family, why not learn these three tricks.
As the saying goes: Ten years of mother-in-law boiled out of daughter-in-law. For women, sooner or later, there will be a day when they will grow old, and there will be a day when they will become a mother-in-law, so when you have a conflict with your mother-in-law, why not empathize and imagine how you will solve these contradictions if you have become a mother-in-law.
Many things, when we can't figure it out, why not think about it from a different angle, maybe you will suddenly understand. I all think: why should women be embarrassed by women.
After the woman got married, she and her mother-in-law became a family. The most important thing in a family is to understand and tolerate each other, as long as we work together, there is no hurdle that cannot be overcome, and there is no contradiction that cannot be solved.
So as a daughter-in-law, you may wish to consider the problem from the perspective of your mother-in-law, so that you can better understand the difficulty of being a mother-in-law. Sometimes, proper forbearance is also a kind of moving forward. In terms of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, why don't women become softer and softer, don't be soft steel with mother-in-law, mother-in-law will naturally like you more and more, and your status at home will of course improve.
We often say: Stretch out your hand and don't hit the smiling person. For women, your ability to earn money is your self-confidence.
When you are strong enough, have the ability to make a career, have a good income, often give your mother-in-law some pocket money on weekdays, and take your mother-in-law to the supermarket to shop if you have nothing to do, then your mother-in-law will of course be warm and thoughtful to yourself every day. If you don't have the ability to make money, you don't even have income, and you throw your mother-in-law in the face for no reason, your mother-in-law will naturally not be very good to herself.
As we all know, economic capacity determines the material of architecture. In a family, how much money you have to earn is how high your status in the family is. If a woman wants to have a status in her in-law's family, it all depends on whether she has a certain ability to make money.
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To make yourself particularly good, to make yourself very capable, to have your own life, to have your own job, to be financially independent, but also to communicate and communicate with your mother-in-law more, so that you will have a status in your mother-in-law's family.
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If a woman wants to have a status in her in-law's family, she must make herself financially independent, have her own job, and constantly improve herself.
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You must continue to improve yourself, be financially independent, have a job of your own, and care about your husband.
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People are a bit of a bully and afraid of the hard. Generally speaking, the first time your mother-in-law wants to bully you, she finds that you are not good at bullying, and she will never bully you again in the future. Therefore, we must be neither humble nor arrogant, and do not suffer losses!
You must learn to give face to men, and don't be stupid and "can't figure it out". Don't be pretentious and save face for him. You have to give a man face on the right occasion, because if you coax him, he will be rude and let him, and he will be grateful to you in his heart, and he will take you to heart when he goes home.
You have your own ability, no matter how strong your in-laws are, they don't dare to make a mistake. Strive to improve yourself, when you find that you can go to the hall, go down to the kitchen, know the general situation, respect the elders, can dress up, can make money, can take care of adults and children, are diligent and virtuous, have opinions, ideas, principles, and bottom lines, I don't believe that there is any evil mother-in-law who can find fault!
Girls, you can be ignorant before marriage, no scheming, Sun Zhen doesn't care about anything, Zhenla, but if you want to gain a foothold in your in-law's family after marriage, you must work harder than before marriage! At least have the ability to support yourself independently, so that you can have more confidence when you want to escape from this family!
Why is the status of women getting higher and higher in the in-law's family, but I don't know why it is caused by these 3 reasons.
If you don't pay attention when you're in love, it's a complete mistake to marry someone, and after getting married, your husband runs away with someone else, and you have a child who likes a woman older than your mother, and there are many, many more.
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Will use the excuse of buying bags and lipstick.
I think that a really smart woman will not disrespect each other's feelings in a relationship, and she will not quarrel with each other often, and she will not often complain and dislike each other, and she will not often distrust each other, be suspicious of each other, feel that the other party does not love her, and she will not be too possessive and controlling of the other party.