Is it important to marry a person who is compatible with practical factors or spiritual?

I think that if you are in love, it may be more important to fit the spiritual factors, but if you want to get married, it is more important to fit the practical factors.

Falling in love is a matter for two people, mainly two people have the same interests and have a common topic, then they can be together, and in this way, the two will not feel bored together.

When falling in love, it is mainly spiritual communication, which will not involve firewood, rice, oil and salt in life, and will not involve two families, as long as two people love each other, others have no right to interfere.

But once it comes to marriage, it will immediately escalate to the matter of two families, and both parents will interfere, and the actual situation of living habits and family background is also a key consideration.

When we fall in love, we feel that the other party is good at everything, and there are no shortcomings at all, but only after we really live together, we will find the shortcomings in this person, and we will find that the two people do not fit each other.

Only after marriage will you know that love is not worth mentioning in front of marriage, and all kinds of trivial things in life will quickly wear out love, followed by quarrels between two people, unable to spend this period of quarrel peacefully, followed by divorce.

Why do many college students fall in love now, but they rarely come together after graduation.

Because college love is very innocent and does not mix any impurities, two people can be together as long as they look at each other and have fun, which is what we call the spiritual factor fit.

But when you encounter practical factors after graduation, when you are faced with different places, your respective family backgrounds, and your choice of work, the proportion of mental factors will become smaller and smaller, until you are defeated by realistic factors, and that is when two people break up, which is what we call the graduation season, which is the reason for the breakup season.

It is really not easy for two people to come together, and it is even more difficult to be able to grow old together, so all factors must be taken into account, solve practical problems, and make the road of marriage longer.

I think both factors are very important, for ordinary people, maybe the practical factor is more important, but for people who want to pursue a high quality of life, they care more about the spiritual factor.

The so-called reality factor is nothing more than the opposition between bread and love, there is no bread, only love, maybe this kind of love is beautiful, but it will inevitably deteriorate. There is only bread, no love, so maybe the two individuals live together only for interests, endless quarrels.

Many people tend to consider practical factors when choosing a marriage partner, and they have always pursued bread, preferring not to seek spiritual fit, thinking that only when realistic factors are satisfied, will there be happiness, and they will not be sad about life.

However, with the satisfaction of practical factors, the two will pursue the spiritual fit of the two individuals, and the two individuals have a common topic to discuss, just like a person who has finished reading a book and wants to share her reading insights with others, and it just so happens that your partner has also read the book, and the two of them can talk about their feelings together.

If your partner is an uneducated person, then no matter how you discuss it with him, he will be indifferent, as if you are speaking an alien language and he does not understand it at all. You may be very helpless and angry at this time, why didn't you find someone who had a common language?

Don't be at an average level and want to pursue the spiritual factor, it's like you can't even eat enough, and you still want to listen to a ** meeting, can you really draw cakes to satisfy your hunger?

There is a big difference between the reality factor and the mental factor, it depends on what level you are at, if you earn that little money all day long, it is still the reality factor that is more important. If you have enough life and don't need to be busy with life, it is still the mental factor that is important.

In the eyes of ordinary people, the most important thing for a marriage partner is reality, because no matter how perfect a relationship looks, it can't beat reality. No matter how much two people are together, if reality does not allow you to be together, how hard you have to work to break the chains of reality, and even if you put in a lot of effort, you may not be able to be together. Because two people living together still have to face trivial "trivialities" in the end, they finally chose to give in.

And what I'm going to say today is that no matter how important reality is, spiritual fit is just as important, if not more important than reality fit.

I know that there must be many people who are surprised by my statement, after all, people live in reality, even if it is so beautiful as imagined, but in the end, people still have to see the reality clearly, recognize their own situation, and then make a final decision, whether it is subjective or not. However, have you ever thought about it, that is, if you want to live a more meaningful life, it must be what everyone says, having a good living environment, a good position, a good working environment, a stable life, and a cookie-cutter life. It's very boring to think about, not only to endure the pain of work, but also to endure pressure from all sides, so you want to find someone to support each other.

What do you want her to be? Realistic enough and spiritual enough? <>

Realistic things, you can use material or your ability to obtain, because everything that is realistic, it is inextricably linked to this reality, whether you want to or not, you need to face no less than the pressure from life and work, or even the pressure of your life or work. However, the worst thing is not physical fatigue, but mental fatigue. You need to relax, you need to be liberated, you need to have your own life, belong to yourself, a real life, then this partner is also the marriage partner, the person who can relieve your mental pressure, and it is not mixed with any realistic factors.

Only in this way, even if you face all kinds of pathos in real life, your spirit is alive and energetic, and this is a complete life body.

Many times, the idea of the family is to let you have a happy family life, and want your marriage partner to be able to provide you with material help in life, but you don't love him very much, even if you are very compatible in reality, but there is no spiritual fit, do you think your life will be happy? If you marry someone who can only meet the basic material requirements of your life, then you will not find the true meaning of life.

Desperate in the face of love, can still be used as the foundation of your happy life in the future, even if the reality is cruel but a part of life, we are ultimately just giving ourselves a reason to come to the world, but why not make yourself every day meaningful?

Personally, I feel that it is equally important, both in terms of reality and spirituality, and it is an important factor that we should carefully measure.

Marriage is definitely different from falling in love, you don't have to think about anything when you fall in love, you can be stress-free, you can be romantic, you can be romantic, you can be in love, but if it really involves marriage, you should not only consider the practical issues, but also consider the emotional foundation and emotional status of the two people.

That's how I chose my marriage partner, first of all, I want to see how the relationship between the two of us is, whether it is good or not, and whether it has stabilized. The degree of compatibility between the two of us is not high, and the difference in ideological level is not big. If there is a big difference and the opinions on many things cannot be consistent, then there will always be contradictions, always quarrels, and it will affect the feelings of the two people very much.

If the two of us have a relatively high degree of spiritual compatibility, we can think about many things the same, and we can tolerate each other, understand each other, love each other, and be humble to each other. If the outlook on life, world view, and values are all at the same level, then I think the two of them are still more suitable for marriage. After getting married, your married life will be very happy.

Second, I also have to consider practical issues, such as the family conditions of the marriage partner, the distance of his family, and the relevant situation of his parents, I will carefully understand it, and I will choose to get married if I can accept it, otherwise I will not agree.

You can't just think about feelings, drink the northwest wind after getting married, love must be there, bread must be less, and the expenses after marriage will be more and greater, so you must consider it, it is very important.

Both are important, and the two are mutually reinforcing.

The marriage partners should be as good as possible and not too far apart, otherwise the marriage will become more complicated.

Practical factors mean that the economic foundation, family background, and personal income of the two will not be too different, and the parents of the two families will not have much opinion.

If one parent is a farmer and the other parent is a university professor, there is a huge disparity between them, and the resistance to marriage will increase.

Or one party has a lot of money and is worth hundreds of millions, and the other party is an ordinary salaryman, the rich party feels that the other party is not worthy of their children, and the poor party feels that their children dare not climb each other.

Of course, the most important thing is the two people who are going to get married. One is highly educated, a company executive, with an annual salary of more than one million, and the other has not graduated from middle school, a factory worker, with a monthly salary of several thousand. No matter how deeply they love, I am not very optimistic about this marriage union.

Because,First of all, there is a gap in spirit, values, and cognition, which is actually an asymmetrical relationship.

Spiritual fit is sometimes more important than reality. It cannot be ruled out that both sides have solid family backgrounds, but one of the families is nouveau riche, and the other is a high-level intellectual who has read poetry and books, which will inevitably lead to a strong conflict of world views.

Therefore, it is recommended that before getting married, both reality and spirit should be considered. You can also think about the spiritual world first, and then talk about the real world.

The real problem facing many men and women in front of marriage is the economy. In addition to talking about feelings, marriage also talks about economic foundations. Now there are many mothers-in-law who will frighten their sons-in-law, and all kinds of economic requirements before marriage are staring, such as asking if there is a car?

Do you have a room? Is there a deposit? These questions are all out of financial considerations, so that their daughters can live a life of spiritual needs after marriage and life is not so tired.

In my opinion, spiritual fit is more important, and many people only have economic conditions, but the spirit cannot resonate. In fact, if there is no communicability on the spiritual level, it is a kind of torture for living together in the future, because the other party who says it is always unable to understand, and the other party who wants to do it will not support it. In such a situation, you can only become more and more unable to communicate, and become more and more unable to communicate, until you come to the end of your marriage.

Many times people will succumb to reality, feeling that after getting married, they will have to face everything in life alone, including financial constraints, rather than living so unsatisfactory by themselves, because the economy is uncomfortable, all kinds of contradictions, it is better to find a good economy, even if the spirit is not compatible. In fact, living together is not a matter of one or two days, it is a matter of a lifetime, imagine yourself every day to a person who has nothing to say, what fun is there.

Therefore, although everyone has different choices for life, whether it is to choose a realistic factor or a spiritual fit, we must not regret it in this life, after all, marriage is a more important choice in a person's life, and we must consider it carefully. For me, I would rather find someone who is not so financially wishy-washy, but whose spirit can resonate, because the mountains and rivers are the spiritual fit of the two, although they are not a love marriage, but, indirectly, tell us that the spirit is very important.

I think this will have different ideas for different people, because everyone is different, so as long as you feel that it is in line with you, that is the most important thing.

At the same time as the relationship is compatible, the material conditions can be matched, and the two people will decide to step into marriage.

Marriage is never a simple emotional fit, nor can it be a simple material condition matching, only when both have a certain foundation, two people who choose to step into marriage can embrace their own happiness.

Couples who enter marriage simply because of emotional compatibility will be taught a lesson in reality. There is really a big difference between marriage and love, when two people enter marriage, various problems such as firewood, rice, oil and salt, housing and car rental loans will follow.

Two people have to keep working hard to maintain the status quo of life, and if you want to go further and make life better, it really takes too much time and energy.

In this unfortunate married life, you will become more and more tired, and you will become more and more sad, until one day you will be completely disappointed in this marriage. With no future marriage in sight, life can really make people more and more desperate.

Couples who enter marriage simply because of material conditions will want to pursue love. This is actually the problem of the lack of people's hearts, people with love want material, and people with material things want love.

When a couple does not perceive love and does not feel happiness in their married life, even if the material foundation is really rich enough, the two people will not feel that life is happy. There is no way to maintain the life of a husband and wife in this state, unless there is a person who completely wrongs himself for the sake of materialism.

But when a person really wrongs himself, the desire for love in his heart will intensify, and the marriage will be put on the execution rack by two people, and burned by the desire, until one day the rope that binds the marriage will break.

Marriage is really a very complicated thing, it is not enough to have feelings alone, and it is not enough to have material things alone. The two need to reach a suitable level, and two people can live happily and happily when they step into marriage.

Manage your feelings with your heart and work hard for your career, and your marriage will be happy in the future.