How can I overcome my dependence, and how can I heal my dependence?

In life, people often feel that they or see others as unhealthy or flawed. Clients with such problems often seriously affect their social development due to personality problems, and it is difficult for them to establish their dignity and value in social life, and even often bring constant trouble to themselves and their relatives and friends due to personality problems. Among them, dependent personality problems are a more common unhealthy personality problem, which is mainly manifested as:

It is characterized by a lack of independence and excessive dependence. 1. Hold others accountable for important aspects of their lives. 2. Subordinate one's own needs to those on whom one depends, and excessively obey the will of others.

3. Unwilling to make even reasonable demands on the people they rely on. 4. Feeling helpless, incompetent or lacking in energy, and afraid of being abandoned. 5. Indulging in the fear of abandonment, constantly asking others to give assurances about it, and feeling uncomfortable when alone.

6. When intimacy with others ends, there is the experience of being destroyed and helpless. 7. Often shift the responsibility to others to deal with adversity. For unhealthy personality problems, the person concerned and his family are often accustomed to it, allowing it to naturally influence themselves and endanger others.

Many people often incorrectly believe that "the country is easy to change, but the nature is difficult to change". In fact, dependent personality problem is often referred to as dependent personality disorder, which can be adjusted and changed through psychological counseling and psychological **. Therefore, our counselor provides psychological counseling and ** services for dependent personality problems.

To put it simply, I generally have a few suggestions:1Cultivate self-confidence, try to make yourself work hard to do your own things, and discover more of your talents2

Adjust the relationship with your parents, tell them to ask your parents to help you change some shackles in your education style, so that they can give you more confidence at some times, so that you can have enough confidence to do things independently. Because the support of your parents will be the motivation that will influence you the most. 3.

Industrious and take the initiative to find ways to exercise. You must be proactive in doing things and take the initiative to do some seemingly difficult tasks. The idea must be taken by yourself, and you will gradually develop self-confidence.

4.Don't worry too much about the consequences. Many times, people are afraid to make decisions because they are afraid that the outcome will not be satisfactory.

Remember to believe in yourself and be brave in the process, no matter whether the result is correct or not! The last thing I want to say is, from now on, try not to remember how dependent you are, and when you have a hard time making a decision and can't help but rely on others again, smile lightly and then act. There will come a time when you will be amazed at how easy you are solving a problem that you once struggled to solve.

The most important thing to overcome psychological dependence is to learn to be self-reliant, and the personality needs to be cultivated to be fruitful, and to find your own way when you encounter some problems.

If you have confidence, you won't rely on it too much.

1. Recognize yourself and lower your requirements and expectations.

For the person who is attached in a relationship, it can be particularly strict for an emotional state, and they always want everything to go according to their own ideas. On the one hand, over-demanding, and over-fearful, the final state will make the partner nervous.

So first of all, you need to be clear about your strengths and weaknesses, and your needs in intimate relationships. Have a clear self-awareness, don't base your cognition on a relationship or a person, and focus on yourself.

In an intimate relationship, you should lower your requirements for your partner in this relationship. It is necessary to understand a truth, everything is about everything, regardless of the heart, and there is no perfect person in the world. Give your partner more tolerance instead of being harsh.

In this way, the relationship between two people can develop easily and comfortably.

2. Establish a sense of self-security.

There is an old saying, "You can only give yourself a sense of security, and others can never give you a sense of security."

When you put the establishment of a sense of security on a person who will produce changes or on a thing that will produce changes, you will find that a sense of security is actually difficult to find, and things that can establish a sense of security must be stable, reliable, and have long-term development.

Therefore, to find a value system that is more reliable than people, relationships, and emotions in life is to strive to improve one's own value, so as to establish one's own sense of security, and will not rely on each other in the past.

Hello, if you want to rely on psychology, you must set goals for yourself, starting from the smallest goal, for example, a thing usually you always like to find someone to help, now tell yourself, I can be prepared to complete it alone, of course, the choice of this thing must be done by you alone, once you succeed, you will get a small sense of satisfaction, but also realize that in fact, you can scatter and not rely on others, the most important thing is perseverance, starting from the smallest does not depend, a little progress every day, When you feel that you can no longer rely on it, you can set a bigger goal than the previous one, slowly approach, remember to be anxious, and continue for a long time, you can ** your dependence psychology.

People have to go through two "umbilical cords" in their lives: the first is "umbilical cord cutting" with the mother, and the second is the "umbilical cord" from other people, so as to become an independent self. Only by overcoming dependence and moving towards an independent world can people appreciate the scenery of life and feel the beauty of self-reliance and self-reliance.

As the saying goes, "Everyone can only light up their own sky." "Everyone is sleepy, and Mingxun can only run to his destiny.

Without a cold bone, how to get the plum blossom fragrance.

Self-reliance is to do your own things, be clear about your own responsibilities, and have the courage to assume your own responsibilities. We should start from the small things we usually do, start from what we can do, and strive to be a person who can stand on our own.

The well-known writer Zhang Haidi, he suffered from myelopathy at the age of 5, and the poor her was paralyzed from the chest down, and under such a big blow, she did not give up or be disappointed, but stood up bravely. Since then, she has started her independent life with superhuman perseverance. Because of the disability, she could not go to school like a normal person, so she studied all the secondary school courses at home.

In addition to this, she taught herself university English, Japanese, German and Esperanto, and took part of her university and graduate studies. Since then, Zhang Haidi has embarked on the road of engaging in literary creation, and has translated hundreds of thousands of words in English such as "Seaside Clinic". He is the author of books such as "The Question of Life".

Many of her works have been published in various countries.

These examples tell us that only by being self-reliant and self-reliant can we create a better future; Only self-reliance and self-improvement can allow us to overcome our own destiny. If we have been living under the umbrella of family and school, then we have failed in life and our fate will be miserable.

If we want to be self-reliant, first of all, we should establish the concept of self-reliance and set a feasible goal for ourselves. Secondly, we should be based on the current problems in life and learning, and start from the small things around us; At the same time, we should cultivate our own self-reliance and boldly devote ourselves to social practice. Because only by repeated exercise and practice in social life can we gradually improve our ability to stand on our own feet.