What should I do if I feel bad after counseling and think that the counselor is a bit harsh

<>There is only one way that can lead us to counseling, and that is when something goes wrong with our psychological condition.

So at this time of psychological counseling, we must hope that a gentle and meticulous psychological counselor will enlighten us and let our nervous and restless hearts get some small comfort.

But at this time, instead of a soft-spoken counselor who is patient with you, but a counselor who is a little bad and fierce to you, then you will definitely not be willing to share your emotions and your current true emotional state with her.

If you encounter this situation during psychological counseling, then the first thing you should consider is whether to change the counselor, for example, to be more gentle and patient in speech and attitude, and to treat others with more smiles.

This will let you know if the counselor has had a bad influence on your mental conditioning process.

Because if you feel that a counsellor who is too strict will make you nervous, will changing to a gentle one have a positive effect on your emotional outpouring?

If after changing the counselor, you obviously feel that your emotions are relaxed, and you can have a sense of seeing the obstacles you encounter in your daily life that you feel difficult to overcome under the voice guidance of the counselor.

In the future, you can face and solve it with a more positive and courageous attitude, then it proves that the current counselor you have changed is more suitable for you, then you have changed the right counselor.

But if you change to a counselor and you still feel that you can't talk to her and can't use her as a person to talk to, then you may have to find your own reasons to see if you don't trust others enough and don't open your heart enough.

At this time, you should try to treat the counselor as the object of your dependence, she can accept all your shortcomings, can comfort you, and be your trash can. Only in this way can you let your heart be stretched and no longer trapped in your own dead end.

Sometimes the psychological counselor you find is not necessarily suitable for you, so you still need to run in more, and you can try to change to other psychological counselors.

Psychoanalysis: After reading your description, I have a certain understanding of the question you want to ask, and in this way, I will also give you a four-dimensional embrace. From your description, you can know to a certain extent that you have a clearer understanding of your own problems, so it will become relatively easy to solve them.

In my opinion, it is normal for you to have some deep-seated problems because of the psychological counselor, after all, there are many problems that are suppressed by us in many cases, so in many cases, we will choose to avoid dealing with the problem. But when we go to the counseling room, there are a lot of problems that have been suppressed into the subconscious, and they will resurface from the subconscious, maybe at the beginning, when we come into contact with our own problems, we will still be very suspicious that we are obviously not like this, but why would my counselor say this about myself, so, at this time, as an individual, you may defend yourself, but this defense is actually a kind of denial, trying to prove that you are not what the counselor said. But the more we justify, the more it is also very helpful for the catharsis of our emotions, at least the things in your heart are released, without over-suppressing some things.

Therefore, it will be relatively more open-minded to solve your problem. At this point, I have also summarized some ways to help you alleviate the current situation, I hope it can help you to a certain extent. 1) The counselor has poked at the problem you want to avoid the most in your heart, so it will cause you to have a strong defense and resistance at the moment, so give yourself some time and energy to digest the problems you encounter at the moment.

2) You have been slowly changing, and there may be a lot of difficulties in this process, but if you persevere, you will definitely be reborn, and you will definitely become different from before. 3) You can talk to your friends who have a good time, say your thoughts and feelings, and further relieve your emotions, instead of suppressing a lot of emotions in your heart. 4) Try to divert your attention instead of allowing yourself to stay in the mindset you have set for yourself for a long time and keep falling into self-doubt.

It's about getting out of such an environment. 5) You can talk to the counselor about your thoughts and feelings, instead of hiding some thoughts and feelings in your heart and not communicating with your best counselor. 6) Try to accept this emotion of yourself at the moment, although it will be negative, but it is also the catharsis of your emotions over the years, so give yourself some time, right?

The world and I love you? Best wishes?

Psychological counseling, theoretically speaking, should be in line with the professional, attainable, and non-trustworthy conditions of active attention.

However, objectively, it is not denied that this is a case that requires a lot of training and even requires a lot of work ability from psychological counselors.

So, if but in terms of the situation, it is not excluded that those you describe are possible.

It may be that your counselor is not professional enough, she does show impatience, or she does not hide it;

Maybe it's because she's not capable enough to give unconditional and positive attention;

Perhaps, she has a certain emotional resistance to the content of your description.

Of course, it can also be your own resistance to being healed, and by constantly describing the details of the past, it interferes with the process and progress of the healing you should be healed.

You don't need to describe the past and talk about the past in order to solve your problems and make you feel good about the experience.

It needs to be combined with your own actual situation, and the way and progress of the consultation.

Some people need to go through the past, some people do need to shift their attention, and even, it is possible to put their attention in the present.

However, you may not be able to find out clearly and quickly how to suit yourself, otherwise why do you still seek help from a psychological counselor?

Therefore, from a practical point of view, if the financial conditions allow, if you do not feel a good experience and understanding in this period of counseling, you can change to a new counselor, or even, keep changing until you feel okay.

Experience other psychological services or healing methods that make you feel good.

Instead of caring about how it is, the point is to experience it yourself well and make yourself feel good in the future.

Without the past, you will not become the present self.

But if you want to do a good job in the present and even achieve a better self in the future, you really have to work hard, and do it bit by bit now.

The counselor is just one of the guides who helps you become a better version of yourself, but the person who is walking forward, the person who is walking, is your own.

Above, may it be good.