How many am I in your heart? What do you mean in my mind that you re only in sixth place?

When we are good to a person, we often think wishfully: I have helped him, and he will definitely help me; I've been so nice to him, and he's supposed to be just as good ...... me

But people's hearts are not equivalent commodities, and you can never know how many pounds and taels you have in the other person's heart.

You treat him as a friend of life and death, and he may only regard you as an ordinary friend; You treat him as a real person, and he may only see you as a flirt...... object

In life, some disappointments are inevitable, but most of them are because we overestimate ourselves and expect too much from others.

First of all, it is to overestimate our relationships with others and overestimate our own position in the hearts of others.

That's why you crave dependence, desire to be loved, and can't let go of your departure from them: disappointed that your lover didn't love you the way you wanted; Friends who have been disappointed for many years, how can they be so snobbish at critical times; How can young people who are disappointed in their sincerity not know how to be grateful; Disappointed relatives with blood relations, how can they not stand the test of interests so much, and they are alienated from ...... as soon as they touch money

But in this world, there is nothing to take for granted, only to blame yourself for taking it for granted.

I think of a saying: "I overestimated my place in your heart, and you underestimated your weight in my heart." ”

Overestimating your relationships with others can lead to unrealistic expectations of others.

The greater the hope, the greater the disappointment. Once the expectation is disappointed, the strong sense of disparity will make people completely chill.

Appropriate expectations are understandable, but too high expectations will only make people fall into the quagmire of desire and cannot extricate themselves.

You can expect something from people, but you must grasp a degree. It's good to look forward to it, but even if it can't be achieved for a while, don't affect your mood too much.

When you lower your expectations of others, relationships are much easier; When you don't have expectations, life is full of surprises.

There are some things that we can't achieve perfection even though we try our best, and some people, despite our hearts and lungs, still can't love after all.

The more we expect, the more disappointed, deliberately forced, the loss always stays around, sometimes, the more we are calm, and some things come unexpectedly.

Only oneself will never turn one's back on oneself; Only when you earn money yourself, can you use it most realistically.

Never expect too much from one person and don't expect too much from others. The higher the expectations, the more disappointment and anxiety there will be. Because you never know when the mountain you're leaning on will collapse.

Don't put your expectations on others, because others are not obligated to live up to your expectations.

Everyone has their own life, and you can't ask others to live your life, and no one else can expect you to do the same.

Instead of expecting a lot from others, it is better to rely on your own ability to strive for the life you want.

You tell me? You know the number of rankings;;;

Summary. My dear, the fact that you are only sixth in his mind means that there are two situations. The first is that there are more important people in front of him.

So before you are ranked, you are only ranked sixth. The second is in his heart, where you already occupy all of him and don't need to be ranked. There is no first second, you are the only one!

What do you mean in my mind that you're only in sixth place?

My dear, the fact that you are only sixth in his mind means that there are two situations. The first is that there are people in front of him who are more important than his eyes. So before you are ranked, you are only ranked sixth.

The second is in his heart, where you already occupy all of him and don't need to be ranked. There is no first posture freshman second, you are the only one! <>

My dear, if it is the first case, then he may be more important to him than his parents, other people and career. You'll be buried in his mind because he doesn't care about you that much. Then you don't have no bottom line to fight to be good to him, so that he feels that you can't do without him.

It's about letting him know that you can leave him, make him feel a sense of crisis, and care about you. If it's the second case, then there's no need to worry. Your relationship is stronger and stronger, because love is selfish.

If he says that you are all in his heart, it means that he loves you very much! <>

Do you have any questions, my dear?

Do you mean ordinary friends?

If you're not in a relationship, and you're sixth in his mind, then you're good friends with him<>

When you like someone, her every move and smile will be remembered in your heart, you will miss it when you eat, and you will think about it when you walk. Your whole heart is full of her, so you always want to ask her, "What am I in your heart?"

What am I in your heart? You will show concern for me when I am sick, but you will only stop at "drink more hot water"; You'll often go to the movies with me, but only when you're bored; Spike, you will give me a thumbs up in the circle of friends, but you never really leave a message to say some suggestions; You'll say goodnight to me softly in the middle of the night, but only occasionally. I see the joy you have with your friends, I see the concentration you show at work, but I don't see your sincerity towards me.

You often can't get through, and the silent sigh after every quarrel makes me can't help but expose my temper in front of you, so that I can only silently guess and cry when I am wronged. I can't see my place in your heart, and you never seem to reassure me. I want to be the truest version of myself in front of you, without deliberately pretending to be emotional, without having to care for each other perfunctorily, thinking about each other, and loving each other.

I want to know how many people I am in your heart, I want to know if you think about me all the time, I want to know if you are hypocritical or fake, I want to know that I am not alone in all this, ...... wishful thinking