I feel that life is very confused, how to improve self confidence and perseverance?

I am the same age as you, post-80s, also graduated from a key university, and now I also work in a foreign company, I think you are at a bottleneck in life, that is, after a woman is 25, youth is no longer so gorgeous, and it is replaced by more trivialities and pressures of life, troubles, and more often in the fight for those things that I don't want to fight so hard, but I don't have it (at least the world doesn't think it's okay, we don't really care so much in our hearts), and I feel physically and mentally exhausted, In fact, the experience of life may have just begun. To be honest, we think that unless a woman has a proud career (in fact, a woman with a proud career also conforms to the following statement), she will need a shoulder to rely on, find a man who is worthy of trust, and feel that she can trust and rely on it in her heart, for a woman, it is indeed the most important thing, no single woman will have real happiness, and the vision of a better life, the yearning for the future full of hope, to a large extent, to find a person, I think I can fight these things with him, speaking of which, we think maybe you can see it a little, we feel that in the past two years, your depression may have a lot to do with the boyfriend you are looking for that you feel "can't talk about how you feel now", from your description, you don't think there are many longings and expectations for the second half of your life with other countries, since this is the case, there is no light in looking down, so you can only feel more and more hopeless and fearful when you walk, how can you still expect self-confidence? As for perseverance, the same can be proven, how can you stick to something that you yourself don't want to believe, or can't see, and then regain the perseverance to walk into a key university with your head held high?

People say that it is better to demolish ten temples than to destroy a marriage, but if you feel hopeless, and people treat you only "so-so", then you should find a man who can be entrusted to him for life and make him feel a sense of belonging, and live a life full of hope, rather than a perfunctory life, a perfunctory life can only turn you into a yellow-faced woman who has no power to return to the sky after a few years, it is difficult to find such a man, but how can you be happy if it is not difficult? Bless you, friend.

You need to find the meaning of life: emptiness, emptiness, emptiness, people come and go empty, and they can't take anything with them; A person's life is like catching shadows, like chasing the wind, and in the end everything has become empty, leaving tears and pain, and the past is lonely in the heart. Everyone has an emptiness, fame, status, pleasure or success in their hearts, but they are only praised and praised for a while.

The average life in the world is 70 years old, and the strong live to 80 years old. Life is like grass, flowers will wither, and grass will wither. So what is the purpose of human existence?

We all know that gloves are made in the shape of the hand, in order to hold the hand, if the glove does not fit the hand, the glove loses the value of the creation; We are like this, we don't know the value of our survival? It's because we put things wrong, we put money, fame, status, pleasures, knowledge, learning. But we still don't know what we're living for.

The Bible's book of Genesis records: God created man in his image, in his likeness! We humans were created to dress up God! Only when we have the right things can our existence be meaningful.

You're done with this, are you right about your parents, did they raise you so big to see you now?

Life is only a few decades, why bother with what you don't have, live as you like, and live with a clear conscience! However, do anything, either don't do it or do it to the best you can. "In its place, seek its government"!

Confusion is the truncation of life, but you have to go out to contact the world, you can't close yourself, as long as you contact the world, then you will have a day of change.

You can make a plan, do a little tick every day, and reward yourself with something. It's best to find someone to supervise, like you BF is good!

Kindness. You can ask the people around you (such as: girlfriends, family members, etc.) to encourage a lot, after a long time, it should be fine. Note: Be open to everything.

I think the best thing to do is to leave everything behind and take a trip to a distant place. When you come back, you'll find that everything is new!

Read more inspirational books!

It expresses my love for the motherland, and compares my feelings with the motherland to a kind of deep affection that dissolves in water with my mother's feelings, reflecting my patriotism.

Self-confidence is something that depends on yourself.

How to say: It is better to ask God than to yourself.

Calmly analyze the whole process of the incident, and analyze the problems that exist in oneself, so as to avoid the occurrence of similar incidents? Instead of rushing to hold yourself accountable or blaming yourself, you should think about whether there is room for change. If so, what should be done to minimize the loss or pain, keep the mind clear, and face the reality that everyone has setbacks at times?

If it is its own factors, there is no difficulty that cannot be solved, it is just the length of time to solve it. Difficulties compared with life, it is just a pigment, a pigment that adds color to life Believe in yourself, find your own advantages, stick to your beliefs, victory beckons to you, but don't be frustrated for a while, then you should reflect on yourself, and doubt your ability, or due to external factors, why do you make such a mistake, the sedan leather and then form a kind of pressure.

When you encounter setbacks, face them bravely and don't run away? Or is it both, remember the phrase——— there are no eternal difficulties? What should I do in the future? What should I do to feel better?

When you get stuck!!

In fact, it is very simple, it is to see things very lightly, but it is difficult to do, this is a matter of mentality, it is recommended that the first thing you do after getting up every day is to shout to yourself in the mirror: I am the best! I remember that Carnegie, the world's heartfelt shirt master, once told a story:

One of his Li Yun's students is unhappy every day, and he feels upset about many things such as work, family, career, and friends. One day, after listening to Carnegie's lesson, he was walking home with a lot of worry, when he suddenly met a man with disabled legs, supporting him on the sidewalk, and this person said to him with a smile on his face: Hello!

This person had a sudden inspiration: a disabled person can be so carefree and happy! And why should I be unhappy if I am a man of sound limbs and a career?

When he returned home, he immediately communicated with Carnegie and received a positive answer, and since then the man has become happy and healthy, and his career is thriving.

As long as everyone understands themselves correctly and can look at others and themselves holistically, they will feel that they are not so bad, but they may feel that they are not in the best state or care too much about the opinions or ideas of others. And other people's opinions or ideas are often one-sided, causing you to have an unnecessary sense of inferiority. As long as you do the bad things and repeat them a few more times, you will gradually become familiar with them, things can be done well, give yourself more encouragement, and believe that you can do it well!

People can't retreat when they encounter difficulties, they must face them bravely! And resolutely correct! And a little more optimistic!

Smile a little more! Believe in these and you will be fine! will be more confident.

When you are confident, you have courage.

Trying more things to make yourself feel successful will naturally bring about so-called self-confidence and the envy of others.

In life, there are always some people who will unknowingly become "psychological slaves". The so-called "psychological slave" actually describes the uneasy way of life of some people after being bound by a certain rigid cognition or concept. They carry all sorts of mental burdens, and then they trap themselves in a box and are struggling and at a loss.

The above is from a magazine. They always shout "I can't do it", "I can't do it", "It's too difficult for me", ......Gradually, people have entered such a mode of thinking. When encountering something a little harder, the first thought:

It's too hard for me", "I can't do it", "I'm not as good as anyone else", ......Start to avoid difficult things, hope that you will go smoothly, do what you can, and don't come to yourself ...... things that are difficult for youPeople's self-confidence has gradually faded with the days ......To regain your self-confidence, you need to get into the habit of saying yes to everything. By the way, I would like to recommend you a movie "Yes Man", the English name of this movie is "Yes Man". I won't talk about the plot, if I say it, it's boring to watch a movie.

The male protagonist of this movie was not confident at first, but later he ......Saying yes is just starting to change your mindset. It makes you positive and actively deal with the difficult things in life. "There is nothing difficult in the world, but I am afraid of those who have a heart.

Next, do something real. Break down the difficult things to zero. I don't know if you've ever learned Tai Chi?!

Many young people, when they learn Tai Chi on the first day, lose confidence in themselves. "Hey, why am I so stupid? The old woman knows how to do Tai Chi, can I learn it like this?

Regarding the fact that it is difficult to remember the Taijiquan moves, Mr. Jin Yong explained in "Heaven and Dragon Slayer" with the paragraph where Zhang Wuji learned martial arts. Taijiquan, which even Zhang Wuji can't remember, why do the old women remember it? Break it into pieces, learn one style every day, master one style, and then practice the next ......In the process of learning slowly, self-confidence will also come slowly.

Compared with those who don't know a move, they already know a trick and a half, and they can show off in front of others! Don't you feel so handsome?! Self-confidence is built up slowly, when you learn only one style, do you have absolute confidence to learn the whole set of Tai Chi?!

Correct your mistakes from your mouth first. Words are the voice of the heart, and the words on the lips will subtly change people's thinking patterns. Then it's a matter of breaking it down and slowly building up your confidence.

You will succeed!!

How can I improve my self-confidence? A person's self-confidence can be reflected from the outside, so if you want to improve your self-confidence, then you need to manage your appearance well, from clothing to body management.

Self-confidence comes from the degree of confidence in one thing, has been in control of the degree of grasp, in today's era, the basis of a person's self-confidence, in fact, and self-discipline is inseparable, if you want to have a strong self-confidence, then you need self-management ability, especially self-discipline.

Self-confidence is exuded from the inside out, so if you want to make yourself more charismatic and exude self-confidence, we need to read more books, think more and summarize, so that our words and deeds will be decent and attractive.

Strong self-confidence comes from constantly challenging, so constantly challenging yourself and doing something you have never done before, then you will continue to improve your self-confidence.

Money can directly give people a very strong self-confidence, of course, the foundation is based on your own efforts to earn money, which is also the embodiment of self-ability.

It's good to have ideas, but it's not easy to start your own business, you have to have capital connections, you don't have these conditions now, don't be busy starting a business, work for others first, first accumulate experience and wealth, enrich your mind, everything you have, you can do whatever you want, go to inspect the market, see what is suitable for you, once you find your own positioning, you will have self-confidence, you will have courage, now is the accumulation stage, lay a good foundation, for a steady fight, I wish you early success.

Confidence in your heart.

First of all, put yourself in perspective. Find your strengths. Then, let your strengths play to your strengths.

This is the most basic condition for gaining self-confidence. To gain self-confidence, you must first gain a sense of satisfaction and make yourself feel that you are very good.

This is the most basic.

Therefore, you need to make good use of your strengths and try to play to your strengths.

Do more, only in this way can you taste the satisfaction of success as much as possible, then you can build self-confidence.

If you think you can't do anything, and you don't do anything, you don't dare to do anything. The less confident you become, it's a vicious circle.

As long as you get the satisfaction of success, you can further gain self-confidence. Of course, maybe take your time. You can start with small things and gradually increase them.

Self-confidence, in fact, is just a state of mind. All you need is to discover it yourself, and you don't need too many complicated processes.

As long as you have faith in yourself, then you will definitely be full of strength. Don't be overly considerate of others, pay too much attention to what others think of you.

Deal with any setbacks with a nonchalant and normal mindset.

Self-confidence, in fact, is very simple, just believe in yourself.

When you have self-confidence, you will be able to do everything. The key lies in yourself, as long as you have confidence in yourself, you can solve anything.

In addition, the biggest factor of self-confidence is probably the influence of the outside world on you.

To know that what others say about us is always what they think, and we don't have to live in someone else's world. Just do your own thing.

Why don't you care so much about him? It is necessary to have the momentum that the world exists only for itself. Have the courage to go your own way and let others do what they say.

No one can change themselves, no one can control themselves.

When you succeed, it's your own business, but if you are influenced by others and retreat, it's your own business, so why bother to control yourself for irrelevant people.

The last sentence: Believe in yourself, and you will be full of self-confidence. It's all about the mindset.