When did you want to change but your parents objected?

When I was in the rebellious period of my youth, I wanted to change. Because that was the time when I showed off my personality and let myself go. And doing things will not be processed. And it will also be reckless, so it will always be opposed by parents.

I've always had black hair since I was a child, and I especially want to change my hair color but I don't like those very ordinary hair, and I think those more exaggerated colors are bluer than pink denim, but my parents are very opposed to dyeing my hair.

There are many times when you want to have a strong sense of breakthrough, but sometimes the change may be too radical and your parents may not be able to accept that they want you to change in a more gentle way.

If I wanted to make myself beautiful, I asked my parents for money to buy cosmetics, but my parents felt that this would affect my studies, so they wouldn't let me wear makeup, and my parents firmly opposed me wearing makeup.

That is, when you want to make money and don't want to study, your parents are particularly opposed, because they think that you can make money at any time without being in a hurry, but learning is not.

You have to have a sense of self-discipline, but you don't have a specific goal or method. Then, thoughts determine behavior, behavior determines habits, habits determine character, and character determines destiny. So you have to understand first of all that you are different from others and what you want.

It may be that I feel that I have no intention of learning and want to enter the society. I have some confusion in my studies, I feel that my studies are a little out of society, and I want to enter the society as soon as possible. Parents still think that academic qualifications are more important.

Being intervened by parents when they are in love is really a common phenomenon for wives. There are many people who are sad after obeying their parents' arrangements for many years, and there are many people who regret not listening to the old man after getting married for many years. Of course, there are very few male guests like "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb" are so tough.

When asked by the female guest how to deal with the relationship between the spouse and the parents, how to deal with the opinions and participation of the parents when choosing a mate. The male guest made something unexpected, he bluntly said that he would not consider his parents' opinions, and even Grandpa Meng expressed his amazement. After in-depth understanding, I found that the male guest's hardness was not without reason, but because the original family itself was very tolerant, supporting him "I am the master of my life", and giving the male guest enough space to choose.

But the truth is that not everyone's family of origin will be so tolerant. It has been said that "a marriage that does not have the approval of parents is a marriage of courage." "It takes a lot of courage because you have to face more difficulties and obstacles, so it is best to have the support and approval of your parents for love and marriage.

And when facing the interference of parents, what we have to do must not be to worsen the existing situation, but the following three points: respect when there is a difference of opinion, first of all, we must respect, not only respect the parents, their opinions are for your own good, but the important thing is your own mind, you must know what kind of person you are suitable for and need, after you are determined, you need to respect your own ideas, so that you can grow into a truly independent person. Communication is followed by communication with parents, and no matter what the outcome is to be achieved, effective communication is always essential!

Communication is crucial in how to convince parents to handle a good relationship. Attention needs to be paid to the tone of communication, attitude and logic, and it is necessary to communicate rather than arguing. You can first ask them about the reasons for their objections, and then make targeted breakthroughs, combining theory and examples, and finally introduce your partner to your parents and achieve communication between them.

Balance Finally, for parents interfering in love, we must remember "harmony" and "balance", in the face of parents' intervention in their feelings, we must stay sober, do not be carried away by emotions, no matter whether the situation is difficult or not, it is very important to maintain the harmony of parents, yourself, and lovers, and it is also a long-term consideration. Sister Fei still hopes that everyone's love can be blessed by their parents, and they can be properly handled in the face of family interference, because love and family affection are very important.

No. 1. I will persevere, I will not fight for steamed buns, and I will stick to the end 2. As far as I am concerned, I will. Life is my own, not theirs, and if I don't like the path I follow, I'm going to have a miserable walk.

I like it, I'm tired and crying and kneeling will finish this road, success counts me lucky, failure, I'm still young, fight this time I'm old and won't regret why I didn't try it when I think about it.

It's a big deal because of the pain I like and then everything starts again, before the age of fifty, I think I have that hard work 3, if it's my own insistence on the job, it doesn't matter who opposes it, how many setbacks can be persisted, the key is whether I insist enough, love can't be hidden! 4. The perception of contemporary social animals, if you follow the opinions of your parents, you will be unhappy, and if you blindly pursue your dreams, your life will be fluctuating and unsettled. It seems that only children talk about dreams, but now adults feel extravagant when they talk about dreams.

5. Let's look at the reality, just like my friend now wants to go out by himself, but his parents still want to take the public institution exam, there is an iron job bowl, what should I do if my family opposes my career, first of all, you have to calmly analyze the reasons why your family is anti-Kai. If the reason is correct, then you should listen to your family, otherwise you can communicate with your family members to understand that what you are doing is right and that they can help you. They are all relatives whose blood is thicker than water, and they all have a purpose for the good of their relatives, and they can communicate well about everything.

Ideas can be different, but choose well. As long as you are genuinely good and love your family, don't be afraid to communicate with them, the more you don't communicate, the less your family understands your thoughts, and the more worried they are about you. Therefore, you should speak your thoughts calmly with your family, and listen carefully to what your family members have to say.

Words are happy locks, and there is nothing that cannot be solved when you say it. But first you have to respect them and let your family know that you love them and that your parents are doing it for their own good. Talk to your parents!

1. You are not an independent person. If you go out independently, get married, and buy a house by yourself, even if it is a rented house by yourself, no one will care about you whether you clean the room inside or outside the room, because you can't manage it yourself, and you now have a feeling of being under the fence;

2. You are not financially independent. You don't go to work, the money you spend is all your parents', the mobile phone you play is theirs, and the game console you play is also theirs, so if you use their money and play games all day long, you will definitely dislike you and won't let you play, and at the same time, the money you spend will also feel like you are wasting;

3. There is nothing you can do with the Lord. From sweeping the floor, playing games, and buying snacks, to the job you choose, or the person you marry, you can't be the master. Because you don't have the confidence to be the Lord.

The reason why your parents are against what you do is: you are not independent, you are not financially independent, and you can't do anything. So wake up, you're only 30 years old, you have to move out of your home and find a job to do, so that your life will be saved, or you will be like this for the rest of your life.

I did everything wrong except spend money to add things to the house, and I even just proposed a small business (setting up a stall, snacks, ......).And they said it wasn't ......Having a boyfriend is also said to be worthless and useless. In fact, my boyfriend opened a shop that repaired trams, and it was a technical ......I'm really aggrieved, why do they always feel like they're right for me? Is it because they are parents?

I'm 30 years old. I don't have autonomy over even this little thing. It's sad.

You are a dignified man, and if you do something, your parents will not support and oppose it. I think what do your parents think? If a boy stays at home and doesn't go out into society, will your parents let you stay at home and let your parents support you for the rest of your life?

Is this possible? Therefore, you should also do a good job of your parents' ideological work, and don't interfere too much in your own affairs.

Find a girlfriend as soon as possible, get married and have children.

Don't interfere with your own learning:

It is best to start dating after graduation, or when you are about to intern at university, and if it has already begun, you should also grasp the proportions of love, and at the same time do not affect your studies, academics are the most important.

Rational communication with parents:

I have met a lot of friends, fell in love when I was young, was discovered by my parents, and then quarreled every day, in fact, both sides of the quarrel could not solve the problem, or spread out all the problems to communicate carefully, and each other took a step back.

Ask the parents about the reason for the objection

Sometimes there are other factors in the opposition of parents, after introducing their boyfriend and girlfriend to their parents, parents don't like it, don't guess the reason, or ask your parents directly, see what the boyfriend and girlfriend don't meet their minds.

Improving each other's shortcomings:

There may be a variety of reasons for the objection, and it may be very surprising to you, but if your parents ask for something that you can do with each other, then prove it to your parents and change what they think you are flawed.

Tell parents about the decision to stick with it:

The reason why many couples don't go to the end is because they gave up prematurely, after all, it's still up to you to get the marriage certificate, and tell everyone who opposes you that you will always stick to it and won't waver.

Maybe in addition to your relatives and elders, your friends are not used to you being together, you must be prepared to accept their opposing eyes, have a certain psychological preparation, at first you may not be comfortable, but if you really love each other, slowly they will also accept.

No. Although I haven't worked in college yet, I've felt it to some extent.

I am a native of the mainland, and my ideal major is film and television creation. At that time, I was admitted to the Northwest of the Frontier, and although my major was not my favorite, I liked it a lot, and it was also about film and television creation.

When I told my parents about my admissions, I had a big disagreement with them. This school is an undergraduate school approved in advance, and it has a good reputation and reputation in the mainland, but because of the regional environment, distance and major, I had an unprecedented conflict with my parents.

I insisted on going to this school, not only because I didn't want to go through the life of my senior year of high school once, but because I thought my major was promising, but my parents insisted that I repeat my studies and fight again. During that time, I couldn't meet my parents, and when they did, they would be arguing, and even every time I ate, one of them would break his chopsticks and leave. This lasted for almost two months before slowly subsided.

Although my parents couldn't resist me and still agreed, because of the epidemic, I took online classes at home, so my parents told me more than once that I would drop out of school, and even took me to the temple to ask the old monk to help me calculate whether I could take this road, but I never let go.

In fact, think about this matter, why do parents strongly oppose it? Because they are afraid that you will not have a good life, your parents have lived most of their lives and have taken many roads, and they know better which roads are easier to walk and which roads can make you live better in the future. But because their parents are old and have been living in their own circles, they have not learned about some jobs, and even some promising emerging careers they have never heard of, they think that these roads have no future, and they will think that these roads will be unstable in the future, so they will strongly oppose them.

When parents strongly disagree, we will refute it, and when communicating, it is inevitable that there will be quarrels. Why do there be heated arguments? It's not just your parents who think you're contradicting them, but the most important thing is that you're trying to reach a consensus with your parents in a quarrel and are trying to solve problems.

And what is this consensus? Kai is the one you hope you will live well in the future, and your parents also hope that you will live well in the future.

Parents and us will inevitably have a modern disagreement, and there will inevitably be differences in concepts. When you think that one thing is very beneficial to you under the premise of conforming to the core values of socialism, then you can stick to it. Parents strongly disagreed, so wait for both parties to calm down before going into detail.

Happiness has to be fought for by yourself, so whether it is a man or a woman, when your love is received and your parents oppose it, only the two of you are truly in love, I think marriage can develop for a long time.

Because in real life, many old people don't understand this kind of love for young people, because they think that the so-called family pair is the only criterion for two people to get married, because the so-called family pair means that two people have common hobbies in the same place, so that they are suitable for marriage, but they don't understand the so-called love at all, so in this case, once they have opinions about each other or some qualities are not very optimistic, they will definitely put forward their own objections. In fact, I am sure to tell you that happiness is to be fought for by yourself, as long as you take a firm stand and cook the raw rice into a mature meal, they will be forced to make concessions and compromises to accept the two of you together.

So when the girl is supported by the man's family, as long as both parties can stand firm, they should choose to be together without hesitation, when you create your own life, I believe they will slowly change their attitude, so the key is to rely on your own efforts, after all, everything is in your own hands, if you don't work hard, you don't fight, nothing is yours.