How can I empathize with others?

Learn more about the person's state of mind, learn more about his character, and then think more about it from his point of view, and if possible, go through some of the same things to achieve this effect.

Put yourself in the other person's shoes, put yourself in the other person's shoes, and then ask yourself how you think about it.

Cultivate a habit of yourself, that is, when you do everything yourself, you learn to empathize, and many times you can do the same as others and empathize with yourself.

This requires you to put yourself in the shoes of others and think about what to do if something like this happens to you, so that you can empathize with others.

It can be difficult to do this, you have to go through the same things as other people, and then put yourself in the shoes of others, and don't define others by your own principles

You have to be a very serious listener, you have to listen carefully when someone is telling something, and think about the situation in your own head, so that you can empathize with others.

Then you need to learn to empathize with yourself, think more about others, and be able to feel the feelings of others, so that you can empathize with others.

When making judgments, it is easy to think from the other person's point of view, and this feeling is very strong.

The best thing is to go through the same thing as others, and generally at this time, you can understand the feelings of others, because you have experienced the same thing, so you will be very understanding.

Personally, I think that even if there is a person in the world who has the same experience as you, he will not empathize with you, put yourself in your shoes, empathize, and think of yourself as him, maybe you can understand his feelings.

The most important thing to empathize with is to take the initiative to establish your own emotional connection with others, to empathize with your heart, and to allow yourself to substitute for the feelings of others. At this time, what you think and feel is the same as his, and what you want to say is exactly what he wants to hear. To acknowledge the diversity of the world, you need to know that with our different types of people exist.

Seeing the larger world, improving our cognition, and recognizing the differences between individuals is the first step to empathy.

Make it clear that the purpose of your conversation is to walk in, not to act as a judge of events. Identify, communicate. Clarify the trigger and hidden points of the other party's corresponding emotions.

Pretend that you are the other person. Imagine yourself as the person who experienced the event you are complaining about, and experience the changes and results of your emotions.

To be empathetic, you have to increase your own experience. That is, emotional sensitivity, some people feel sad and sad when they see autumn. Some people are more sluggish in this convenient way.

The two invited friends to dinner at half past six in the evening.

At six o'clock in the evening, my husband began to urge: "Wife, it's six o'clock, are you okay?" At this point, we were afraid of traffic jams, so we went out early. ”

Right away. A shout from my wife came from the room.

The husband raised his hand and looked at his watch, sighed helplessly, and leaned on the sofa with his legs crossed to swipe his phone.

More than ten minutes passed, and my husband strode into the room: "Haven't you put on your makeup yet?" ”

The wife smiled and said, "Okay, okay." Husband, do you think I look good in this or that dress? ”

It's all good-looking, it's all good-looking. Hurry up, we will have to wait for others again. ”

I know, I know, you go out, I'll change my clothes. The wife pushed her husband and walked out the door.

The hour hand pointed to the seventh figure, and the wife finally stepped out of the room slowly in the air full of flowers: "Let's go, husband." ”

The dinner officially opened in the ** chain buckle on the road jam and the constant apologies when they met......

It's still half past six.

After the last lesson, at five o'clock, my husband took the preemptive action: "Wife, you are now buried in makeup, let's not be late this time." ”

The wife casually stooled and said, "Okay." Then he stirred up his makeup.

At six o'clock, my husband happily changed his shoes and said loudly to the room: "Wife, let's go, go out." ”

After shouting a few words and no one answered, the husband had to take off his shoes and walk into the room.

The wife was blowing her long flowing hair in the mirror, and when she saw her husband coming in, she began to say anxiously: "Husband, you help me clean up the bathroom, I haven't put on makeup yet, it's too late." ”

My husband is full of black lines.

Stepping out of the house, my husband's mobile phone screen displayed a huge white number date eggplant rotten - 19:37.

In the face of such a situation, how to make the other party empathize? The answer is: fight poison with poison.

The man may wish to take a risk when the woman takes the initiative to invite a friend to dinner.

This time, the man no longer asked the woman to go out early, but secretly observed. Before the woman was about to go out, she took a bath and changed her clothes in a hurry, and the urging of her friends was all picked up by the woman, until the woman repeatedly urged her to go out slowly.

At this point, her anxiety is what you usually feel anxiously waiting for her to go out.

What are you doing? I'm so much worse than you. "Why can't you understand me a little? ”

Why don't you think about my feelings before you do this? ”

Cai Kangyong said: "You can't compare your pain with other people's pain, it's not you who hurt, but other people's pain doesn't." ”

The joys and sorrows of human beings are not the same, and sometimes the real experience is worth a thousand words.

For others, fighting poison with poison may make the other person taste the taste of empathy, so as to empathize.

For yourself, always allowing yourself to empathize with yourself is the beginning of tolerance.

Psychological suggestion has a great impact on a person, and can bring a lot of positive or negative things to people.

As a man, he was able to support his family and get home from work with a hot meal. The wife is gentle and virtuous, the children are motivated and sensible, do something they like in their spare time, play games and see**.

If you have money, of course, you can also travel, which is a man's happiness.

As a woman, it is a woman's happiness to have a stable job of her own, so that she has the confidence not to reach out for money, her husband is considerate to her family, her children are filial, her family is harmonious, she is young and beautiful;

Every type of person has their own sense of happiness, and I think this sense of happiness is not the same, just like Mr. Lu Xun said: The joys and sorrows of human beings are not connected, I only think they are noisy.

Nowadays, people like to stand on the moral high ground to evaluate others.

However, it is impossible for human beings to empathize with these four words emotionally, because this sentence itself will be interpreted in the following way in the current society:

1. Most of the time, we don't care about the feelings of strangers at all, because this society makes everyone feel tired, and even if they want to care, they may be misunderstood as caring with other colors; 2. When we care about others, we don't actually understand the development of things, but we just try to understand from our own perspective, so we are undoubtedly creating a fake intimate relationship and trying to pull in the relationship with each other in this way; 3. If you connect everything with yourself, the weight you feel in your heart is indescribable.

Can't empathize.