Masters, Serious fear of eye contact and fear of afterglow, Mr. Dong Zhenming

Actually, it's not a disease, it's just that the personality is more introverted, and the courage is not big enough.

You can ask someone else to try it too, and if someone else looks at it for 10 seconds, will they not be afraid?

I don't think the average person looks at each other for more than 2 seconds

I remember when I was young, the leader called me to the stage, and I was so scared that I almost fainted, and I said, "There are so many people in the audience, and when they look at me, I will be embarrassed." The leader said, "No one else can look into your eyes."

I said, "I see people in my eyes."

The leader said: Do you usually look at people and look into other people's eyes? Such words others.

will be when you are sick

The leader said that you are on the stage in front of you in front of a fast open space, put your eyes on the straight wall, and don't look at other people, is it over?

So I was in front of no one in the audience, and I wasn't afraid at all

Who would look at someone for 10 seconds like your dad taught you?

If you're a woman, people think you've got a crush on her, and if you're a man, they're going to be shy

If the old man sees it that way, the woman will run away

So you're totally overthinking.

1。The correct way to do this is to look at the other person's nose instead of their eyes.

2。Anyone looking at each other will feel uncomfortable.

Psychological effect, you can overcome it yourself, but it may not be so easy, you pay more attention.

Find a mirror and stare into your eyes and see that you are no longer afraid** and that's over. Think of the other person's eyes as your own, or look at your own shadow in the other person's eyes.

You don't dare to face the gaze of others at that time because of your psychological fear that you have been a child and slowly deteriorate in the form of inferiority complex tendencies

Eye contact is the window of emotional communication When two people have a conversation or do something else, eye contact means that they are more relaxed in communication, and when they dare not communicate with strangers, people have a sense of self-space, when their self-space is violated, they will produce uneasiness, fear, panic and other symptoms Personal sense of space and the relationship between themselves and others In decision, at the same time, the eyes are the same When people they don't know look at each other, their hearts will be guarded, so they are often people with inferiority tendencies The main reason for this is a lack of self-confidence

And when you start to realize this for yourself, you start to run away from this shortcoming of yourself, which is simply that you don't have the courage to face your shortcoming, and you start to slowly admit this shortcoming, which leads to a pathology

**This method needs to change your own philosophy and encourage yourself Every time you do a small thing, encourage yourself to relax when communicating with others, let go of nature Plus the usual eye practice Take a deep breath before practicing Relax yourself Don't care too much about what others think of you You can try to practice if the effect is not obvious for a certain period of time

So I suggest you go to a psychiatrist, which goes from a psychological disorder to a pathology, and it's okay to go to a psychiatrist, who can pull you out very quickly, and it's not expensive

Don't care, the more you care, the harder it is to control.

You care too much about your gaze.

Caused by self-compulsion.

You have to tell yourself all the time: it's okay, it's normal!

Your situation with Morita ** will be very effective

Generally, major hospitals have psychological counseling rooms

Don't worry too much, as long as you sincerely want to cooperate with the counselor to heal yourself, there will definitely be good results

Despise everyone from the heart, and you won't be afraid.

I still recommend that you go to the CEIBS International Youth Psychology Institute, they specialize in helping young people, and their experts are very professional and often study abroad;

There is also the Department of Psychology of Tongren Hospital;

Anding Hospital** is better in spirit. You can compare.

In view of the fact that the course of your disease lasts for a long time, it will only have an effect through formal **, this kind of neurosis is usually caused by psychological reasons, and it can be excavated through psychological counseling to the initial cause and solve the deep-seated cause, or it can be carried out through Morita ** without asking about the past**.

The more you are afraid of looking at each other, the more you want to control yourself, don't be afraid, the more you want to control, the more you pay attention and experience fear (key), the more you pay attention, the more you want to control. Thus creating a vicious circle. This is called mental antagonism.

Take a look at "Morita Psychology ** Practice - Life in Harmony with Nature" and "Action to Change Personality - Morita Style Mental Health Method".

Analysis: Hello, generally speaking, this is a psychological problem, and the cause may be related to the environment in daily life and one's own personality and behavioral factors. It is necessary to pay attention to maintaining a good attitude and self-regulation and inhibition.

If the symptoms are severe and cannot be relieved by self-regulation, it is recommended that you consult a psychologist in person.

Suggestions:

I am a social phobia and depression, I participated in the ** of Runxuan's psychological system, last year** for half a year, and now it is basically better; You can also take a look and hope it can help you.

What kind of phobia (phobia), afterglow phobia (phobia), everyone will have this symptom, just don't pay attention to it.

ok.Ha, a bit like my sister, not very good at talking to the opposite sex.

I think people can see people in their peripheral vision, but they can't "notice" people.

Notice what I mean. Note. Right.

It's not that you don't feel good because you can see them out of the eye. It's that you look at it with your peripheral vision, which should be subconscious. Otherwise, you can always look at people with your spare eyes, so how can you look at what is in front of you?

Slanted eyes? Actually, it's a psychological problem. A little slightly forced flavor :

I just don't want to see it, I can't see it with my eyes, but I can sweep it with the afterglow. Then it was extended to practice, and it became a problem to see people and interact with people. When I was a child, this reason was really depressing.

First of all, this sister, there is nothing wrong with you. It's just that I don't feel normal. Besides, your problem is not as difficult and serious as you think.

I suggest you do it, first defeat yourself. One point to find someone to stare at him, all the time. Just find someone, starting with your best friend (maybe you have fewer friends).

You can also find dolls, posters, puppies - you can also talk to dogs) to practice, if you want to change it, you must stick to it. It is necessary to have the momentum of a dead pig who is not afraid of boiling water - if you don't dare, you will lose face if you lose it, what does it matter to me. OK, say it to yourself a few more times.

In fact, there is a suggestion or solution that is not as good as this, which is to make friends, don't be shy, and communicate more. In the future, you should do the same in your work, and you can read some books to increase your depth of thinking and courage. For example, [Human Weakness, Carnegie], some motivational books will also do.

The most important thing is to be brave and defeat yourself, what you haven't done before, what you haven't done.

This will be a disease from a medical point of view, so try to see a doctor In my opinion, your fear of eye to eye is a kind of psychological burden imposed on yourself I think you should treat everything with a normal heart, start with the people you know most well, open your heart, abandon your concerns to communicate, and wait for a long time, when your illness is almost better, and then integrate into a new group

Let's see a psychiatrist first. It's your own fear. Don't make a good excuse to avoid the question.

I think you care too much about what others think of you, and I used to be too, in fact, we are just ordinary people, no one will notice in the crowd, for you, don't put too much pressure on yourself, because in the eyes of others, you are the same as others, the teacher will stutter when he lectures, because the teacher has to analyze the topic when he lectures, and there is a summary of what is to be said below, look at him, he will also be nervous, just like others look at you and you are nervous, (such as judging whether a person is lying, Just stare into his eyes and ask, when the other party looks directly at you, the brain's thinking will be reduced, and it will not be easy to tell lies), so don't pay too much attention to it, slowly adjust your mentality, take your time, you will definitely succeed, I believe you are a person with strong self-esteem, and you are also a very good person. Trust me, you can do it.

Dude, I want to tell you that I'm just like you. I was very confident when I didn't go out of society, but soon after I came out, I was very inferior, because I didn't do anything, so I slowly developed into not daring to look at other people's eyes or even my parents, sometimes I had the courage to look at someone, and the eyes would scare that person to death, because the eyes were too terrifying. It's really painful, and people who don't have enough of it won't know what it's like.

But I'm slowly changing, and now it's not all right, but it's a little bit better, and now I dare to look into my mother's eyes and speak. I'll give you a few ways to do it.

1 You can try looking at someone's mouth first, then slowly towards the nose, and then into the eyes. Then listen to what he's saying.

2. You can work hard to improve your self-confidence, such as doing things that you don't dare to do.

3Do you look in the mirror for 5 minutes a day, look into your eyes, and think that it's not a big deal?

4You can go out every day, find people you don't know, ask for directions, they don't know you anyway, you can look into their eyes and talk, but try to be as soft as possible.

That's all I can give you, and I hope that people who have the same problems as us will become that confident and optimistic self again. Moreover, you are so good, you yourself know it. I don't really understand, if you can be so good, why can't you be confident?

Finally, please remember one sentence: the heavens will descend on the people, and they must first suffer their minds, strain their muscles and bones, and starve their bodies and skin. I always believed that I would end up being a really good person.

It's a sign of lack of self-confidence, so you do something that you're confident in.

It may also be that you have not been feeling well lately, pay attention to your diet and rest.

Since you have your own advantages, I think the second one is more likely.

I've had a similar experience.

Adjust your mindset, you're not like that for everybody.

Surely it won't be like that to someone close to you.

Try to treat strangers as close to you.

Most of the people who suffer from this disease are actually very good and self-motivated, and their hearts are very high-level. Hurry up and get better!

Fear is because you're afraid of pain, because your subconscious mind believes that you're going to be in pain if you do that, so you're afraid that all the fear, all the pleasure, all the pain is a reaction from your heart.

Sight doesn't hurt you, they don't make you miserable, your pain is your subconscious imagination of pain, it reacts to fear, and sight has nothing to do with your heart and your nerves, it doesn't have anything to do with it, and all pain is a character that you were hinted at and believed by others when you were a child, and everything is your heart's reaction.

This reaction can be controlled, and the best way is to make yourself afraid to the end, and be mentally prepared to be afraid to the end, and see if you can be scared to death, and if you find that you are convinced, you will be obedient for the second time, and the third time, your subconscious will learn not to react to them, and you will not be afraid, be cruel to yourself, be afraid to the end, be in pain, and see if you will die, and you will be convinced, and you will be happy, and you will get a beloved lover, and you will get a true friend, and if you don't engrave, you will live like this for the rest of your life.

Be yourself, try to engrave it, engrave it thoroughly, and wish you the pursuit of happiness and the enjoyment of pain.

It takes the courage to face your fears to solve the problem.

Hello, I am Runxuan's psychological teacher, afterglow obsessive-compulsive disorder afterglow phobia is generally caused by spiritual growth and retreat, not all at once, there must be a few years of accumulation, ** also need to be based on your spiritual retreat, targeted counseling for the growth of your own soul, with the perception of spiritual growth to resolve negative and depressed energy; We generally arrange systematic thinking model counseling courses and spiritual counseling to improve your psychological quality and psychological cognition as a whole, and at the same time find your true sense of self and value. This kind of problem is relatively slow, and it generally takes about half a year. You can take a look at our Runxuan's ** system, it should be helpful for you to understand your ** direction, don't be too anxious, first understand, the psychological barrier method is right, you can ** good.

Our Runxuan's **process: the afterglow of obsessive-compulsive disorder allows a person to recognize his own nature, stimulate spirituality, develop the creative potential and complete personality of the help-seeker, so as to have a true sense of self, rather than a simple **symptom; The root cause of afterglowphobia is psychological withdrawal, avoidance and anxiety, which naturally leads to inner instability after mental withdrawal, which leads to fear of eye to eye. The growth of the soul is the root of the **, through psychological counseling, to find the true sense of self, to restore self-spirituality, after the soul is stable, you can be fine.

It is mainly necessary to pay attention to the following seven aspects of improvement and improvement:

1. Personality and psychological conflict: the conflict between the inner id, the actual self and the conceptual superego;

2. Poor thinking mode: a series of bad thinking patterns formed by extreme, depressed, chaotic and other thinking;

3. Too much repressive energy in the body: the repressed energy accumulated in the depths of the soul cannot be evacuated;

4. Panic in the unfamiliar field of thought: the heart goes deep into the unfamiliar field of thought, causing anxiety;

5. Lack of physical, mental and spiritual: regain the lost spirituality and restore one's spiritual state;

6. The natural self is too weak: find the natural self that has been suppressed to the depths of the soul; Break the external illusory self;

7. Do not have your own life system: establish a self-harmony system, have a sense of grasp and control of the body and mind, prevent similar psychological problems from happening again, and guide the healthy development of your own life.