Why can t I bear my roommate to bring me the same watch?

I didn't talk to them or anything like that, in the dormitory I was cleanliness and had a lot of things, that kind of person, so I could only show that we were still good roommates, and then silently wipe our things clean and put them away. It's not that I discriminate against them, I just feel that the way of life is different and I can't accept it, just like they can't accept me.

I won't complain much about my roommates, living habits are not something that can be changed overnight, but I think people's upbringing can be cultivated. When you see someone else sleeping quietly or go out to play, don't put your own things on someone else's table, watch movies or catch up on dramas as much as possible, wear headphones as much as possible, if only one person smokes, try not to smoke in the dormitory, etc., ask for permission before using someone else's things, if you get up early and go out and close the door, don't slam the door and there are still people sleeping....These are things that seem to be very normal and should be, but some people really don't realize that from what you eat to what you wear to the bits and pieces of life, you may have disagreements, if you are kind, remind me, if you don't want to care, forget it, as long as it doesn't have much to do with yourself, so be it.

Weibo. I am still deeply impressed and unforgettable. My roommate has nail fungus but likes to wash her hands with soap and dry it with her towel. I have athlete's foot, but I never dry my shoes or brush them.

So don't use other people's belongings, especially personal belongings, without her consent, it's really tasteless.

I feel weird about them having the same watch as me, it feels like they're imitating it, and I hate that kind of person who imitates me the most, and I basically don't bring that watch anymore.

I think you should think too much, maybe your opinion is different from your roommate's opinion, you think she likes to use the same thing as you, it is likely that she wants to imitate you, but I think he is a person who has no opinion, she just looks good at what you buy, she also wants to buy, and enhance the relationship with you, don't worry, you can be a little defensive of her first, and determine whether she is really a threat to you before making plans.

In general, there are a lot of shirts and shoes in schools, and if the sisters who play particularly well in the dormitory use the same thing, of course, they don't mind, but they will be a little happy. It's a bit annoying to always use the same thing when you don't play well, so I personally prefer something different, or something ordinary but shiny. Strange what, this is me, a different fireworks!

Juvenile, you can choose to move out and escape from this place that is unbearable for you. If you are allowed to rent a house, no one will disturb your world, and in a few years, only your wife will be able to share your space with you. I'm not saying that moving out is a bad thing, it's all about escaping, it's just a choice.

In the future, you will also encounter similar choices in your work, such as unpleasant getting along with your colleagues, conflicts with your family, many times we will find it intolerable, and choosing a good attitude is itself to solve this problem.

There is a psychological problem, it feels like someone else is close to him, but he doesn't want others to be close to him, so in this case, he just doesn't bring it, he wants to take it, let him take it, leave him alone.

From your question, the following points can be basically deduced: 1. Your watch may have a deep emotional sustenance for you, so when you see your roommate wearing the same watch as you, you will feel that this emotion is tarnished or you don't want to share this feeling with others, even though this is your subjective imagination. 2. You are originally a person who seeks independence, likes to show yourself, likes to be different, but when your roommate brings the same watch as you, you will feel that there is no way to keep your difference, you can't show your own maverick, there is no way to show your personality, so you will feel very unbearable, just like you buy a piece of cake and you think it's delicious, but your friend says in front of you how unpalatable this is, this is the same experience.

3. You may hate this roommate of yours. When you hate a person, you will hate everything about that person, and when you hate this person and find out that he has the same watch as you, you will have a bad impression of this person again, which makes it difficult for you to bear.

So, when you encounter this situation, you are unhappy no matter what, you have to adjust your mentality well, let yourself come out of the negative emotions, no matter how much you can't bear it, you can't change it. Since we can't get rid of it or can't change it, we have to accept it and think about it from a different perspective. For example, he has a good taste with this watch, just like me.

If you think so, you will not have a bad impression of yourself without having a bad impression of others. Finally, if you really can't improve this mode of thinking, then you can change the watch yourself, so that you won't be able to stand the embarrassing situation of using the same watch with others, in fact, your heart is more relaxed, and it is good for everyone.

This may be a very self-expression, that is, self-centered, I don't want to collide with others, wear the same clothes, wear the same watch, I want to highlight myself, I want to highlight my own characteristics, special, maverick, unconventional, different, in order to highlight these.

Such a person should naturally feel that he has a sense of superiority, that is, I am unique, others can not imitate me, let alone surpass me, it is a more selfish one, I don't know how you usually treat your roommates, how you look at them, do you look down on them, those who wear tattered and inconspicuous do not want to walk with them, maybe you still have a sense of vanity in your heart, this is not good. <>

In a collective environment such a character is not very good, if you are generous, don't be so careful, others want to wear it, you can't control others, he is not wearing your watch, others wear the same watch as yourself, it means that you have a good vision, and the watch in the picture is also in the picture of others, which is not a bad thing.

I remember once on the Internet, Deng Chao posted on Weibo and posted a **, ** in which he wore the same long clothes as Yang Mi, and posed for Yang Mi, and deliberately @Yang Mi, Yang Mi is a good friend because he has also cooperated with Deng Chao, Yang Mi commented on Weibo and said, "It's not terrible to hit the shirt, who is ugly and who is embarrassed."

Good-looking popular clothing and accessories are not only what you like, but others also like it, that's the right of others, and you can't manage it, don't think about it, just do your best. Only when a person is strong in his heart will he not do what others say or do, he has a clear conscience, and he can live comfortably and happily.

Roommates are actually the closest people in their studies and lives. However, it is precisely because it is too "intimate" that people have a lot of helplessness.

Many people who pursue individuality like to be unique and creative, but your roommate keeps bumping into your shirts, shoes, and watches... It's really bad.

I also don't like the fact that my roommate has a similar style of dressing as me, and girls especially can't stand it when it comes to bumping shirts.

If two girls suddenly appear in a classroom with similar or even identical clothing, the classroom will become a "battlefield without gunpowder" for the two girls.

From the hairstyle, to the overall matching, to the personal temperament, you will definitely be silently compared by yourself, if you feel that you have lost in a certain aspect, you must be secretly regretful and sulky.

It's no longer the time when we used to wear blue cloth clothes and liberate shoes together. The dazzling costumes allow us to position ourselves and promote ourselves.

The dormitory is a place where people are gathered, after time running-in, the overall environment of a dormitory has many similarities, at this time the roommate also wears the same watch as you, naturally you will be helpless. If it gets to the point where it can't be tolerated, how can it be solved?

Don't wear this watch anymore? However, you really like this watch, is it necessary to give it up for a roommate?

Tell your roommate, I bought it first, you'd better return it? Who are you? Can you still manage this?

I'm sorry, but I don't think there's a right way to solve this metaphysical problem.

However, it's normal to dislike similar personal styles. There is no need to dwell on the issue of "can't stand roommates", everyone has their own pursuits, everyone has different ideas, and it is normal to be angry.

One day, you and your roommate will be separated, and how will you feel when you see this watch again years from now? This is also a mystery.

You think that's worthy of you, don't you? Do you think that if you wear that watch alone, it is considered fashionable, and if you wear it like your roommate, it will become a hit, right? How do you think the level of appreciation of others can compare to you, especially the roommate who bumped the watch with you?

I think it's a bit narrow-minded to think of it, because you have the right to wear a watch, and your roommates have the same right. And you say bad things behind people's backs, saying what you wear first, and he wears it later, because you see how good you wear, so they learn from you, is it ungraceful to say this?

You tell me you're not like this? Yes, that's my guess, but I've actually seen it. I've heard a lot of girls say behind their backs, with a bored expression, obviously I bought it first, she just thought I looked good, she bought it, really!

I've heard more than a dozen people say this to me or have been accidentally heard by someone like me, including my girlfriend.

I even said something similar once, although I was much calmer than their girls, but I would also complain endlessly, complaining about why I bought the same thing? Can his taste be as good as mine?

In the final analysis, it is because others have bought the same as themselves, which affects their own "interests" and lowers the level of appreciation of others' understanding of themselves.

Actually, these are nothing, I am too narrow-minded. There's a saying that doesn't say that, it doesn't matter if you hit your shirt, whoever is ugly is embarrassed. There is indeed a problem in this regard, everyone is wearing the same thing, and who is good and who is not good, the superior is judged.

If no one is like us, it really sets off that thing, then if someone is like us, it is a foil for us, which will make everyone invisibly divert their attention.