Are your children taken by grandmothers or grandmothers?

My family was brought by my grandmother at the beginning, and now it is brought by my grandmother, no matter who takes it, the children are their grandchildren, and they must be attentive.

Our children, is my grandmother to bring up, our husband and wife are double workers, my mother did not retire at the time, my mother-in-law is far away in the Northeast, before there are no children, came to live with us for a period of time, but every time not for a long time, there are always all kinds of discomfort, said that it is not adaptable, and then it will not come, until I am pregnant until the child is 4 years old, we went back to the hometown of Northeast China, she only saw what her granddaughter looks like (sent once in the middle **), a friend asked me if I have complaints? To be honest, there really isn't, why, I myself am a person with strong self-care ability, I don't like to be too dependent on others, secondly, my mother-in-law was widowed when she was young, she couldn't read big words, she didn't have a job, and she suffered a lot to train my husband, and my sister-in-law, to be (a teacher, a doctor), so I admired her in my heart, as for me, she likes to take care of it, and she doesn't force it if she doesn't like it, anyway, she can't vomit with her husband for this reason, right? Unless you don't want to live this day, why embarrass your husband?

Later, I took care of myself (from pregnancy to childbirth), until the child was 5 months old, my mother felt sorry for me, so I invited my grandma (during this period my grandfather died), mainly because I was afraid that my grandma would be sad, and it happened that our mother and mother could also be a companion, so my child was in the help of my mother's family, and the child was taken care of by my grandmother until she was more than 9 years old, and my grandmother was taken home by my uncle, so our couple is very grateful to my grandmother for our efforts, and the child is also very close to her. I picked up the old lady every once in a while to stay for a few days.

Our children are brought by grandmothers, after all, grandmothers don't have much energy to help take care of children.

We have many brothers and sisters and many children, and my mother can only take care of my brother and brother's children at home, and I have no time to take care of our children. The child's grandmother also occasionally assists in helping to take a look. In the end, I was alone with my two children.

When my husband and I got married, his father had already passed away, and when the child was born, his mother was bringing it to my brother's house, and I basically brought my own children, and occasionally my mother helped bring them. After marriage, I borrowed money to buy a house, and when the child was more than a year old, the child's grandmother passed away, and I had to go to work, and the child was only taken care of by my mother. My mother said, "The doll is so small, the parents are not around, the child is wrong, just talk about him, and if she doesn't listen, she is reluctant to fight" Now the child is used to a bad problem (no manners, no hygiene, uncivilized eating, short temper, etc.), I am sad to death!

My mom said, "It's good if the child is older and she is sensible," and now she's almost 12 years old, and that's it. Now that my second child is three years old, I don't go to work anymore, and I've been alone since I was born, and my personality is completely opposite to her sister. At the beginning, I didn't take my own children in order to repay the house payment.

I think it's possible to bring it yourself, and I don't blame anyone for the good or the bad. Although the process of raising a child is hard, it is still quite happy, especially when the child grows up day by day, her language changes, wow! You're going to feel amazing!

How can such a young child know this? I feel so happy to say something like that! If you really don't have the conditions to bring it, then it depends on who is more suitable for grandma and grandma!

I am a post-70s generation, my son has been married for eight months, and I don't have a child yet, but now my plan is that I will bring it after the child is born, why should I bring it? It's just that he two go to work, one is busy, and the other is his grandson. Can I leave my granddaughter without it?

Originally, now there are few children, and when you see a child, you will kiss it, how can you say that you don't bring it? In my opinion, whether it is grandma or grandma, as long as the old man can help us look at the child, we must first be grateful, no one has the obligation to help us take the child, since they have no time to take the child, let the old man help us bring, we have to let go, don't care about that and feel that this is not good, the old man with the child, may not have the concept of young mothers novelty, there is no young mother said scientific parenting, but they are also using what they know, good way to take care of children. Therefore, for the elderly and children, we should be more tolerant, as long as it is not a matter of principle, there is no need to care, if there is a problem, choose the right way to communicate.

Surely we are better than the elderly? Not necessarily. There is no need to worry about who will take care of the child, if both parties are able to take care of the child, it is best to choose an environment that is conducive to the child's growth.

It should be said that there are indeed drawbacks in grandmothers taking grandchildren, and they always pamper their children, because they are intergenerational. To meet the unreasonable requirements of the child, that is, to ask for the stars in the sky, but also to find a way to get it, not strict requirements for the child, of course, do not dare to discipline strictly, because of the fear of the son and daughter-in-law to blame, but also afraid of any mistakes, unable to explain to the children. Grandma with grandchildren, as the parents of the children, can not be the big shopkeeper, to be the legal guardian of the child, to discipline the child strictly.

The responsibility of bringing grandchildren is heavier than Mount Tai. In my opinion, I think grandma and grandpa should not spoil the child too much, but should be like a mother to a child, in short, for the good of the child, if there is something wrong, it is still necessary to correct him. It is necessary to accept some new ideas of young mothers to discipline their children when they are young, so that they can be managed when they are older.

I think it's better to do it like this. If there is a conflict between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law because of some things about the child, I advocate that the mother's opinion should prevail. You don't have to be tough!

It's okay to look up the information, or how to be good for the child. Speak for yourself. This will also convince others of you.

In short, it is a principle, that is, I hope that our grandchildren and daughters will be better than sons and daughters-in-law in all aspects! Better. I think this is the main thing.

Everything else is trivial and negotiable.

Dabao was brought up by my grandmother, and I came back to kindergarten at the age of three, I gave birth to Erbao at the age of 36, my parents are older, my body is not as good as before, and I don't have so much energy, so I started to be a full-time mother, and Erbao has been brought by myself since I was a child. As for grandma, I have been taking children for my sister, and now I am still picking her up, I once wanted my girl and my sister's children to go to a kindergarten for my mother-in-law to pick up and drop off together, but people sent a day and said that they couldn't send it, and let my girl fall, I had to quit my job for a day and work full-time, haha! I don't know if there's anyone like me.

Our children are brought by grandma, and grandma is too old. When I was one year old, I helped to watch for half a year, but it is equivalent to the child's mother taking care of the child and taking care of the grandparents for half a year, the child is the grandparents who push out every day to bask in the sun in the downstairs community, and the mother will take advantage of this time to wash the clothes of the old family, clean up the house, buy vegetables and cook, and wait for the child to come back to serve good food to the old one, and feed the child to sleep! The child's mother and grandma get along very well, love each other, grandma and grandpa also want to help, but the mother is reluctant to do grandma and grandpa, grandma and grandpa are old, afraid of being tired!

More than a year old, the child will run away, the child's mother is also going to work, there is no way but to let the younger grandma to bring, after the grandma comes, cooking and taking the children These things are done by grandma, there is grandpa to help buy vegetables, grandma cooks grandpa helps watch the child not to be naughty and do dangerous things. Mom comes back from work to wash clothes and clean up the house, watch the child take the child to sleep at night, let her mother have a good rest, after all, it is also the old man who is old and does not sleep well at night. Summary:

It's better to bring grandma, grandma is young and educated, can teach children to learn things, and mom can be coquettish and lazy in front of grandma and her own mother! Although grandma is very kind, but the daughter-in-law should respect grandma more, there will be no coquettish lazy mood, every morning as long as you hear grandma and grandpa getting up outside the door, immediately get up to make breakfast, the elderly eat early, afraid to let the elderly wait. When grandma is there, you can sleep until breakfast is ready, get up and eat directly!

Maybe I can't tell anyone, so I think the child should bring it himself. When my husband and I met, my mother-in-law was already sick, and she had a cerebral infarction and was unable to take care of herself, and my father-in-law has always served her. My mom's heart is not good for a herniated disc in her waist.

My husband and I had just entered the society and had average incomes, so we didn't dare to have children at that time. Now that we're on good terms, I'm pregnant. My father and my father-in-law both passed away, leaving me with a mother-in-law who needed me to serve them, and a mother with a strange temper and poor health.

I'm worried about how I'm going to serve them after my children are born. We are not in good condition enough to hire a babysitter. My colleague said that children are born to the elderly, so they have to be served by the elderly.

I don't approve of it, because whether I want children or not depends not on the elderly, but on myself. I don't want anyone to be able to control me, and I want to be without anyone. No matter how hard I am, I have to be responsible for my children.

I brought my children with me. I have two children, the eldest is 10 years old and the younger is 6 years old. It can be said that I was brought up single-handedly since I was a child.

Work has its ups and downs, and it's not uncommon to bring the kids to work. At work, I always think about what I can do with my children, so since I had children. My main task is to take care of the children.

But he never gave up on himself. Let's talk about why I brought my grandmother by myself because it is far away from my city and I am very uncomfortable with life here. Always sick, after more than a month of running-in time, my mother-in-law decisively returned to her hometown.

Offered to take it back to his hometown to see the baby. But I am really reluctant and unbearable, raising a baby is the responsibility and obligation of every mother. If I had brought it back to my hometown, I might have missed out on a lot of his growth, laughter, and even his entire childhood.

I don't want to miss every moment of my child's growth. So, rejected the mother-in-law. Although my grandmother shared the same culture, she respected our young ideas very much.

It's okay to pick up a short one once in a while, but you can't grow up to help me bring it. Because, my nephew is 6 months younger than my family. Northerners usually choose to bring their grandchildren, and they can only have more than enough to do with their grandchildren.

So the reality is cruel, and you can only take care of your own children.

If there are conditions, it is better for the child's mother to take it.

Advantages of the mother's belt:

The child's mother will love the child more, and maternal love is a love that cannot be replaced by any other love, and the mother will not only think about the child's present, but also for the child's future.

She can correct the child's shortcomings in a timely manner, and can also encourage the child appropriately, make a development plan for the child, set goals, and let the child grow up towards the goal in his heart according to his own strengths.

For the sake of the child's growth, the mother will be very firm, and when the child makes mistakes, the mother criticizes and educates the child, which can reach the degree and intensity enough to make the child correct the mistake.

The mother takes care of the child, which can make the child feel safe, the mother is the child's dependence, and the child receives the love from the mother, so that the child learns to love others.

This dependence of the child on the mother can make the child grow up to obey the mother's wishes.

A mother's love cannot be imitated by others, that kind of soft gaze, that kind of emotional outpouring, being a child is perceived, so the child will listen to the mother's teachings and develop in the direction required by the mother.

Disadvantages of grandma and grandma belts:

Grandma and grandmother take the child, treat the child as a toy, the child is cute in everything, has no sense of direction, and gets by, the essence of which is to make the child happy.

Tolerate children who keep making small mistakes, and the punishment is not strong enough, and they are reluctant to punish them.

If the child's mother has to go to work, and she has to choose between the grandmother and the grandmother.

The advantage of grandma is that grandma and grandchild have a deeper relationship and a greater sense of responsibility.

The advantage of a grandmother is that the child's mother and grandmother communicate better.

It also depends on who is healthier, and there are other conditions, which need to be comprehensively measured according to the actual situation.