I really can t figure it out, my husband thinks that I give my sister a lot of money for her wedding

About 1,000 is OK, and it's good to give

Did your sister give it when you got married! Didn't give it, no

There is too much money to spend

No wonder your husband isn't happy

I'm not happy either

Your little family is yours, not your sister's

In the future your sister will also have his little family is not

Who is not a hard to get into their own small home

I'm an only child, and if I have siblings, I'm the first to earn my parents' property, and even if my younger siblings get married and contribute some money, I'm reluctant

The so-called sophistication of human feelings must also have a basis

My cousin and cousin got married, and my parents paid for it

Now that I'm married, they're just giving a little symbolic gratitude, which is called a return of the courtesy, you know!

Excuse me, your sister didn't give you a baby in the first place! Do you still have a chance to get the gift back!

So it can only be given symbolically

Life is your own, your husband's money is blowing in the wind? When my sister gets married, you give gift money just for the sake of your heart, and there is no need to give too much.

Of course, your own sister is not his own sister, if he has more sisters, he will not be too much, our family is like this, you don't want to count him in this regard, it is understandable.

You can understand your husband, you can give behind your back.

Your LG is not only for your family, is it different from his family It is understandable that you still have twins and mortgages You have to think about the future But after getting married, you will be a sister You can secretly give some more behind your back.

Summary. My husband's sister got married, should my mother go with the ceremony, of course, because they are all in-laws, and they have to hold a personal field, in fact, it is not far away, because your husband's sister is also your sister-in-law, and you are also the closest person, and now it is generally the only child of my husband's sister when she gets married, my mother will follow the ceremony. As for how much you want, it depends on the situation on your side, you can give it or not, you and your boyfriend are just married, and it is correct for your sister to get married, and it is the wrong proposition of your boyfriend's family to be rejected.

My boyfriend's family thinks it's unreasonable that my parents should go."

Can you elaborate on that a little bit more?

My husband's sister got married, should my mother go with the ceremony, of course, because they are all in-laws, and they have to hold a personal field, in fact, it is not far away, because your husband's sister is also your sister-in-law, and you are also the closest person, and now it is generally the only child of my husband's sister when she gets married, my mother changes with the ceremony. As for how much you want, it depends on the situation on your side, you can give it or not, you and your boyfriend are just married, and Yunhe sentenced his sister to marry You are right, and it is the wrong claim of your boyfriend's family to be dismissed. "My boyfriend's family thinks that I should take pictures of my parents" is unreasonable.

In fact, this problem can be dealt with flexibly, if your husband only agrees to give 1000 yuan when your sister gets married, and you feel that it is less, then you can first follow your husband's wishes, and when you get married, you will first disclose a red envelope of 1000 yuan.

Then you can privately wrap a red envelope to your sister, the best thing is not to let your husband know, and the poor will not let your sister know the specific reason, just let them control the news is, just know each other, don't expand the scope of knowledge, everything will be easy to do.

Many times, it is entirely possible to disagree between couples in life.

However, as far as possible from the overall situation of family harmony and as much as possible to avoid the intensification of conflicts, we have to adopt other more flexible ways to deal with it, as long as it can solve the problem!

It is difficult for a clean official to cut off family affairs! Your sister is married, and as a sister-in-law, she naturally needs to pay money to express her heart. Although a thousand is not much, the jujube spine sedan chair, you have to think about it:

How much can you give out of his younger siblings when they get married? These are all the same. Why did he say that you are not good to your brother and sister?

Do you feel that you are as good to his loved ones as you are to your own? If you want to take it, you must give it first, compare your heart with your heart, empathize, you have paid more to his family, and he will also pay to your family.

Your sister's marriage should be paid by you, and you should decide how much money you pay, so you shouldn't ask your husband to pay this money.

It's a bit verbose, but it's something that someone who has experienced it firsthand.

Do you love your husband Do you think you are from his own family, or do you think you are from your mother's family?

If you encounter this kind of thing related to your mother's family, you first consider whether your mother's family has difficulties and how much help you need, and then think about asking your husband if you can help, how much to help, you let your husband bear the burden of your mother's work, logically no problem, you think about why your husband doesn't help, how much you should help, this is a problem of the two families, not a problem of your personal attitude, you put your attitude in front of everything, which is a manifestation of selfishness, I don't know your family's economic situation. How much do you think your husband should pay to represent your attitude towards your mother's family?

You have to accompany the leakage high to understand, the husband's slamming the door or really not, the saved are for your family, the mentality is not correct, that is, from the Lu ruler has tossed and isolated the feelings of the husband and wife, change the attitude, change the angle, how much relatives and friends give, but also take care of the ability of relatives and friends, everyone gives 1000, and it is understandable that the sisters are a little higher, but you can't raise too much, or let people gossip, the gains outweigh the losses. In the same way, discuss it with your husband, and discuss it from the perspective of face, it is not impossible to talk about a man's good face.

When people say something when they are angry, they will exaggerate certain things, but your attitude towards your in-laws may need to reflect on it.

It is difficult for a clean official to decide family affairs.

When my husband's sister gets married, doesn't my brother-in-law want to get a lot of bride price? So if you buy a dowry, you can use this part of the money, so why spend your savings to make a dowry for your sister. When my sister gets married, you should still give a gift.

They are all brothers and sisters, and it is understandable that the gifts they give are expensive! But the premise is that your family's financial conditions are enough to afford this expensive gift for your sister.

After getting married, your husband's money is also your money. Everything in your family is your common property, so what your husband wants to do, he must discuss with you, and he can't just make a claim and buy all the money in the family as a dowry for his sister.

If the husband's parents are still alive and they will receive the bride price from the brother-in-law, then the parents should give their daughter more dowry, and the daughter of the province will be looked down upon after marrying into someone's family. And you don't need to pay too much money for your sister's dowry;

It is often said that the eldest brother is the father, and the eldest sister is the mother! It means that in the absence of parents, the eldest in the family is the father and mother. At this time, the husband should be regarded as the role of the father, so the sister's wedding must be completely handled by the husband.

But at this time, it is better to do it, and the brother-in-law's bride price will be directly given to your husband after he gets it. Then you don't have the right to dispose of this money. No matter what kind of dowry your husband makes for your sister, don't interfere, this is what an older brother should do.

The brother's friendship with his sister can not be measured with this money, we have some women with good family conditions, and the man asks for a lot of bride price, just to reflect the value of his daughter, but on the day of marriage, the parents will take the bride price money taken by the man, deposit it on a bank card, and give it to their daughter. It is equivalent to the daughter marrying together with these bride price money.

So now you have to decide according to your family's situation, buy a dowry when you should buy a dowry, give a gift when you should give a gift, and don't worry too much about your brothers and sisters!

I said that this depends on the situation of your family, if your family is doing well, if your parents are not rich, you can contribute a little less, but after all, you are his elder brother and you have to contribute a certain amount of money. If your family conditions are not good, and your parents no longer have the ability to work, I think most of the money should be paid by your husband.

This is the case in many rural villages, where a family has two young children, the elder brother is married, and the younger sister is not married. At this time, the pillars of many families, such as fathers and the like, are no longer able to work, that is, the family is already very poor, and this is because after the marriage of the elder brother, the family has used up all the money in the family. For the younger sister to get married, many families have no way to come up with so much money to marry her, so at this time I think my brother should also contribute some money, after all, you got married in front of your sister, and your family has spent a lot of money for you.

Moreover, the money paid by the boy for marriage will definitely be more than the money paid by the girl.

Another one you are all a parent, there is not so much need to care about who should pay this money, I think no matter which family spends, as an elder brother to the sister's dowry is to contribute, just say that if your family is good, you will give him a little more money, if your family conditions are not good, you will pay a little less, this actually doesn't matter much, you just need to do your best to do your best is enough, I think your sister should also be able to understand that you understand you.

It doesn't matter if you pay the money or not, the main thing is your heart, you have your heart, I think it doesn't matter who pays for this dowry. And if you are a family, you won't be particularly concerned about this money, everyone is a family, and you just have your mind. The most important thing is not to cause conflicts between two people because of this dowry money, and the good family relationship is destroyed.

Back to the topic, when my husband's sister gets married, should we pay for the dowry? I'm not going to give you advice, but you can think about the following questions:

1) No dowry money.

Won't it be a little embarrassing if you don't come out with anything.

2) Out of the words:

Considering this situation, if the parents already give a lot of money to the sister's dowry, they can't give more to the younger sister, and the husband and the sister have a good relationship, how much will the husband give?

If the parents are the bigwigs, how much does the husband make? Do you want to refer to the amount paid by my husband's sister?

If so, with money, a house, a car, or whatever?

3) How to give.

Give the dowry, do you give it to your husband or do I give it?

Do you want his parents to know the amount when you give it?

Do you want his sister to know the amount?

4) Afterword.

How much will I give my sister a dowry this time, how much will I give to another sister next time?

How much will I give my sister a dowry this time?

What about the New Year's money for my sister and child next time?

What about the New Year's greeting money for my parents next time, and the New Year's greeting money for my husband's parents?

Therefore, the matter of giving a dowry can involve a lot of follow-up things, and don't treat it as just one thing in isolation. The husband may not have to give the dowry, but if he must give it, he must discuss with the daughter-in-law how much to give, how to give it, and how to give it in the future. Otherwise, a bowl of water is uneven, or the agreement between two people is not observed, which will destroy the relationship between husband and wife.

When my husband and his sister got married, I didn't care about it, so why should I care? Aren't their parents absent? What pays for it?

What dowry does not dowry? No kidding, I've never had a wedding myself! (No house, no car, no bride price, no three gold, no wedding photos, even the simplest wedding has never been done, the child was born, I brought it myself, all the expenses are borne by our husband and wife) When the son marries the daughter-in-law, the in-laws keep saying that they have no money to hold a wedding for their son and daughter-in-law, but it is their turn to get married (sister-in-law) without saying a word, and immediately take out the money to hold a wedding for her daughter, and suffer such unequal treatment, **What mood is there to pay for others? What about the dowry?

Not Our Lady? Originally, I thought that if we had a wedding first, and when my sister-in-law got married in a year or two, I would buy a pair of gold bracelets or bracelets for her as a wedding gift. But what?

This kind of good wish is at most to think about it in your heart. (Because, on our side, as the eldest sister-in-law, at most, on the day of the sister-in-law's wedding, send.)

One or two gold necklaces or bracelets and bracelets for my sister-in-law are called "makeup" in our hometown, and I have never heard of anything? When a sister-in-law marries, does she need a dowry as a brother and sister-in-law? At most, it is just to assist the parents to handle the marriage well, and give a dowry?

On our side, it has never been something that you should worry about as a brother and sister-in-law, unless the parents of the man you marry are absent very early, then, according to the traditional customs of the eldest brother as a father and the eldest sister-in-law as a mother, at this time, when the sister-in-law gets married, as a brother and sister-in-law to help the sister-in-law, contribute money, dowry and other things, this is understandable, after all, human nature, let alone in the absence of in-laws, if the in-laws are alive? This kind of thing doesn't need to be worried about by my brother and sister-in-law at all. ）