What are the consequences of two people in a relationship who don t move in lockstep?

The so-called inconsistent pace in love actually refers to many things. The difference in the small environment leads to the difference in the worldview of the two people. Different hobbies can be regarded as inconsistent pace, different degrees of mutual affection, and inconsistent pace, just like a hot one, attacking its heart, and a dull one, not advancing or retreating.

The final result can be imagined, that is, the most common unhappy breakup. In the end, when I calmly recalled that I was at an inconsistent pace, I would feel ridiculous and wishful thinking, and I would find that everything was an illusion.

The pace of two people is inconsistent, one person asks for positive progress, while the other person likes the quiet years, and the dull is true, then the one who asks for progress in these two people will slowly dislike the person who does not want to make progress. People's feelings are always fragile, especially in modern times, which can be said to be completely unable to withstand any wind and rain, and cannot withstand any suffering. ‍‍

Falling in love is not the same as marriage, and in love, you don't think about the factors that will affect your progress. But in marriage, reality will force you to consider the factors that go on, whether you are suitable, whether you have the same taste, or whether you have the same three views. Specifically, whether you are on the same page or not is not prominent in a relationship, but in marriage, it is really dangerous. ‍‍

When you are trying to get better, he will think that you have a whim, do not understand you and even taunt you. These are the deadliest in a relationship between two people. If you want to maintain it well, then two people must maintain a balanced distance, they must be equal, you must have a shining point that can attract each other, and only by attracting each other can you have the power of a magnetic field. ‍‍

Please imagine that when you have no income, no independent foundation, or even an independent person, you only put the man in the most important position every day, your life revolves around him, and you don't have a little pace of your own, he tells you to go east and you don't dare to go west, and you don't dare to go to the ground, can this kind of relationship that can only be maintained carefully for a long time? The answer is no. ‍‍

The inconsistency of two people in a relationship can lead to two people moving further and further apart.

I think that the inconsistency of two people in a relationship will lead to a growing gap between two people, and finally there will be a disagreement, which is not good for the relationship of two people.

If the three views of two people are not consistent, then in the future life will encounter a lot of problems that cannot reach a common solution, because the ideas of two people are opposite, so to see whether the two people are suitable, we must see whether the three views of these two people are consistent.

They don't understand what each other is busy with, and the two people drift apart and are not in the same channel.

Whether you are in love or married, you must be clear about what kind of person you want to find, only when you figure out what you want, when you meet that person, you can know that this is what you want. Although we often say don't judge people by their appearance, in marriage and love, the first thing we see when we know a person is his appearance. If you are a person with a high appearance, you are generally not a match for someone who is much lower than you. ‍‍

Why don't boys who love to travel everywhere look for girls who stay at home all day and cry and watch Korean dramas? Why don't the boys who live in the gym look for a girl who is holding a big chicken leg and saying ** again? I believe that you and I have the answer in our hearts, because they have different concepts and are in opposite steps.

This is the so-called inconsistency of the three views. ‍‍

Some couples in love are in step with each other, and they are very compatible in everything they do. And some people will not be in step and always have small fights, but in fact, it is also very happy. Love is originally a process, and there are not so many right and wrong, good and bad.

Cherishing the present moment is the most authentic.

In the end, they will be separated, because the current society is changing too fast to be complacent.

After talking about love for almost a year, I have dealt with two different people, I probably feel that the conflict between couples is not only because of communication problems, but also because of the inconsistent pace, sometimes the difference in the value concept of the stage is because of their different experiences, the pursuit of life, the direction and speed of progress will be different, and this difference will make two people who originally wanted to move forward together conflict.

At this time, it is like two people who play a stupid game of "two people and three legs", because they are not in step with each other, they are easy to fall and conflict. Maybe we all have a common destination, but there are differences in rushing forward and striding forward, or maybe someone pursues success and speed, and the other half just wants to go slowly and experience the process...

Let's talk about a story in the past, A when he was a student was bent on studying, although he was a freshman, he was still ignorant of love, and B liked to talk very well at that time, and he could always let A know something new, so that A was happy, it seems that A was also excited about B, but at that time, A didn't know how to manage love, and many times even if he had B in his heart, he would want to focus on his studies, and he wanted to solve it by himself when he had something, and he was alone. And for B, this special independence and need is to push it away. At that time, A and B spent most of their time together studying....

That's how two people, A doesn't know positive feedback, doesn't know how to fall in love, and B is also doing it in his way, and they are tired of each other, so B finds another C who has a good sense of each other together, and A also realizes the problem, but it's too late and misses the time to operate. is that two people have different ideas about love at the same time, which makes it difficult to get together even if they like each other at first.

Even if two people have a good impression of each other, A doesn't dare to fall in love and doesn't know the skills of falling in love, while B wants to fall in love and exudes charm. One is trying to show himself, the other is trying to avoid being alone, such two people, one only thinks about rushing forward, and the other wants two people to accompany each other and want to experience the process, even if they are both excited about each other, they can't get together in the end.

In a relationship, do you ask your partner to be in step with you?

First, I will tell him tactfully that if two people are in the same step, then they will definitely be able to get things done.

Everyone wants their other half to have the same goal and a common cause with them. Even if the other party doesn't understand the work he does, but the other party is willing to support him unconditionally, he will be very grateful and will do it without hesitation. This is in lockstep, often when I want to do something, I will not force the other party to follow my train of thought, but I will express my thoughts, if two people have a deep relationship, the other party will understand, and will try their best to cooperate with me.

Second, I will not force the other party to be in step with me, which will hurt each other's feelings.

Consistency is reflected in many aspects, such as having a common career, common interests and hobbies, and having a lot of common language, which can better maintain relationships. But if we hope that the other party can catch up with our own footsteps, we must not speak to the other party in a commanding tone, but should lay out the facts and reason, so that the other party can be willing, as long as the two people are equal, such a relationship can be long-lasting.

3. Everyone is an independent individual, therefore, the other half cannot be completely consistent with their own pace, and there is a certain sense of boundary between lovers, so that the relationship will be more free.

Lovers should know that although they are in love with each other, we cannot control each other's thoughts, and when he is not willing to do this, we should respect each other's ideas. Everyone is different, they have their own way of doing things, their own ability to understand, tolerate each other, understand each other, and give each other a space, so that two people can be together more easily, without any pressure, and the quarrel will make the relationship more stable. After a long time, on the surface, it seems that the pace of the two people is inconsistent, but in fact, the two people can reach the same opinion on many things.

No. Because we are in love, our thoughts and personal habits are not chaotic, and we can't ask to change others to be the same as ourselves because we are selfish, so I won't ask the other half to keep pace with myself.

In Love, I will ask the other half to be in step with me, because two people can work better towards the goal if they are in the same step, if one person stagnates in the game, there may be problems in the relationship between the two people.

I won't. Because I will respect each other, two people don't have to be exactly the same when they are together, they must ask for the same while reserving differences.

Actually, I wouldn't ask for that, because I don't want to put too much pressure on the other person.