Why do you feel that the more you feel inferior, the more you fail, and the more you fail, the more

I feel like life is stressfulThe more inferior you are, the more you fail, and the more you fail, the more inferior you are, and there are other reasons, such as:

To be honest, I don't aspire to such a lifeIt's a desperate way of life. Nothing appeals to me except freshness and boldness, and the thought of possible troubles is actually a burden. But when I read the beginning of the second chapter of Minimalism, I was sure of one thing - the author of this article had to be someone with a deep understanding of minimalism, at least not a young man who would only impress.

Minimalism is used to enrich life, not to be ascetic.

Just like the sharing economy that has become popular recently, many people think that with so many idle resources in their hands, why can't they be reallocated to generate economic benefits? Then there is a lot of O2O sharing economy, such as sharing household tools, washing feet, washing clothes, and manicures, ......But so far there have been few successful examples: Airbnb for short-term rentals, Didi and Uber for ride-hailing, and Mobike for cycling.

They succeed because they create new **, not consume inventory. For example, some people buy cars to make Didi. Mobik's bikes are all made by themselves, and they don't get thrown out on the street because of damaged car parts.

Airbnb's home rentals have increased the demand for overseas travel.

What kind of person you can become, your values and goals are very importantGoals give you a destination, and values help you revise your goals and make sure you don't go astray. The gap between people and people will become very large with the passage of time. Why do you give up something to improve your life?

In my opinion, keeping the house tidy and tidy also brings happiness. The author categorically denies this point of view, saying that simple things can not only bring a good life, but also a burden. So I feel that life is stressful, so the more I feel inferior, the more I fail, and the more I fail, the more inferior I become.

I think it's a psychological reason. Psychologically, the girl in the anime is a typical inferiority complex. The Austrian psychologist Alfred Adler once defined inferiority in his book "Inferiority and Transcendence" in this way:

When a person is faced with a problem that cannot be solved for the time being, he tends to think that he will never be able to solve the problem. The mood at this time is inferior.

In other words, low self-esteem is actually an amplification of personal defects or lack of ability, which forms the inertia of thinking. This inertia is like a chain that closes every possible door of lifeTightly bind people to narrow relationships and poor emotional experiences. Low self-esteem is the natural enemy of realizing one's personal worth.

We should strive for change.

In our lives, we often hear others denying themselves: "You're not good enough. You can't.

You're a loser. ”However, what matters is not what others think of you, but how you accept them. If all your value judgments come from other people's point of view, then every time you accept a negative, you add a shackle.

As time went on, he was overwhelmed. Some people are normal on the surface, but in reality they often lock themselves in dark corners of their hearts. Others can't get in, can't get out.

American psychologist Seligman once put forward a concept - "learned helplessness", which refers to a hopeless behavior and a psychological state of reality formed in repetitive behavior.

We often encounter similar phenomena in our lives. After multiple failures, we don't choose to try or change, but let it evolve. In fact, for the most part, we are not "really can't", but are in a "learned helplessness" mentality.

This mentality allows people to set up their own obstacles, blame their failures on their own constant factors, and give up the courage and confidence to keep trying. I think it's a psychological reason.

Because life is so stressful.

Because the mentality of low self-esteem will lead to failure, be confident.

Other people's boyfriends are all going to be ready for a lot of little surprises.

Maybe it's because they will have a little low self-esteem.

Mainly, because the pressure of life is really huge.

1. People with low self-esteem are more persistent

People with low self-esteem, once they find the right direction, will never give up, as said in the TV series "Soldier Assault": don't give up, don't give up. But this dedication often makes them closer to success, just look at the success quotes summarized by the ancients, and you will know:

Where there's a will there's a way; Sincerely, the gold and stone are open; There is nothing difficult in the world, as long as you are willing to climb; The rope saws the wood and the water drops the stone; If there is constancy, there is nothing that cannot be done, and so on.

Xu Sanduo has often been beaten by his father since he was a child, and he feels worthless and has low self-esteem. But he is persistent in doing things, and he will never give up on what he recognizes. The squad leader made a joke about him to build the road, so he bit Qingshan and did not relax, paving the road day after day, and finally completed something that seemed impossible to ordinary people.

After this incident, Xu Sanduo was recognized by everyone, and also ushered in good luck in life, and was made an exception by the head of the regiment to fall to the Seventh Steel Company.

2. People with low self-esteem have self-knowledge

Lao Tzu's "Tao Te Ching" cloud: Those who know others are wise, those who know themselves are clear, and people with low self-esteem know their own strengths and weaknesses very well, so they are more self-aware. Because of self-knowledge, they know what they are suitable for, they dare not be complacent, and then do the right thing.

In the end, like Yugong moving mountains, they can move forward little by little, and they can eventually change from quantitative to qualitative change, completely reborn, and transform into gorgeous and colorful butterflies.

The insects in the dung are the dirtiest, but once they metamorphose into cicadas, they suck the dew in the cool autumn breeze; Rotten wild herbs don't glow, but once they give birth to fireflies, they shine on a moonlit summer night. People with low self-esteem are like insects and rotten weeds in the dung, although they look inconspicuous, but with time, they can be stunned.

Because they don't care what others think of them, they won't have too many worries and will naturally succeed!

Because when you have low self-esteem, your thinking about life and reflection on life are also more profound.

Everyone has their own weaknesses and internal motivation to get better. When you are missing in one place, you are eager to be compensated in other ways. For example, a person from a poor background will try his best to make money when he grows up, and it is precisely because of his inherent lack that he eventually becomes an enviable rich man.

Overall, low self-esteem stimulates a person's intrinsic motivation to work hard to overcome their flaws and pursue success. And this motivation also shapes a person's personality. If a person is overwhelmed by low self-esteem, he may develop an inferiority complex and fall into a state of depression and depression.

But if a person can adopt a constructive lifestyle and moderate pursuit of superiority to perfect his personality, he can surpass himself and become stronger.

How to overcome low self-esteem

1. Accept yourself: learn to know yourself from multiple angles, live in harmony with yourself, appreciate yourself, accept yourself, discover your own strengths, and enhance your self-confidence.

2. Enrich life: do what you should do, handle your study, work, life, etc., and do more things that interest you, such as listening, shopping, watching movies, etc., to relax.

3. Helping others: Realize self-worth in the process of helping others and achieve the purpose of self-affirmation.

Because the better the person, the more friends will have no friends, and if there are fewer friends, they will be a little inferior!

Have it? Low self-esteem is not sunny enough, if you are really good, you should be confident in all aspects, you are also very strong in your heart, and you will not be inferior, unless it is just a separate excellence in some aspect, not really excellent.

I would like to look at this problem from a different perspective, and analyze this state from a psychological point of view.

Excellent people. The better people are, the more capable people are often people with super abilities, and they are particularly capable people in life and career. This type of person is more likely to succeed in life and career than those who are more likely to succeed in life and career, so from a psychological point of view, which type of person is more likely to succeed?

That's the narcissistic personality.

Narcissistic people tend to be more self-centered, pay more attention to their own excellent achievements, pay attention to the degree of importance of the outside world to themselves, and desperately want to be appreciated, recognized and affirmed by others. And this kind of people's self-ability is generally quite powerful, talented, with a relatively good, intelligent mind, firm self, and has the courage to not be afraid of difficulties, the courage to accept challenges, to accept all kinds of difficulties encountered in life.

However, such people are often more emotional, emotionally unstable, and often particularly susceptible to external evaluations, and sometimes go to two extremes in their self-view.

Sometimes I feel that I have a special inferiority complex, that I am particularly worthless, and that I feel as if I can't do anything.

Inferiority. Because this narcissistic personality is particularly emotional and prone to extremes. Most of the time he is self-centered, self-righteous, can't listen to the different opinions of others, especially difficult to accept negative evaluations, many times in the gaze of others, in the pursuit of others, in the attention, others praise a few more words, praise him a few more words, give him more attention, he will be fluttering, feel that he is an exceptionally good person, is a person that everyone does not reach, he is not an ordinary person, he is super energetic, super smart.

You are valuable, worthy of being valued, and have a sense of indispensability.

However, in many cases, this kind of person should not receive this kind of attention, can not be sought after by everyone, can not be valued by everyone, especially when everyone praises others, often he is particularly easy to feel jealous, extremely lost and depressed, especially easy to feel neglected, at that time there are often denial of themselves, especially look down on themselves, especially easy to belittle themselves, feel inferior to themselves.

Believe in yourself. Therefore, the more excellent the person, the easier it is to feel inferior, can we understand such a personality and such a person's psychological state from the above perspective?

<> "The more you love, the more inferior you are.

Intimacy is a special kind of interpersonal relationship, which is more intimate and important than ordinary interpersonal relationships. In fact, it's a challenge for anyone. In love, everyone will unconsciously reveal their inferiority complex, no matter how proud people may regress into a trembling state of longing for attention and longing to be loved.

But if you feel excessively inferior in this relationship, there may be these 3 reasons why you need to be vigilant:

1.Often constantly denied, suppressed and even derogatory by the other party, resulting in an inferiority complex. In the eyes of others, you were sunny and confident, but in his mouth, you were bad and stupid.

2.The inferiority complex caused by not being able to please oneself, not seeing one's own advantages, feeling that one is not good, and becoming more and more "unworthy" of the other party.

3.Constantly magnify the differences or gaps between oneself and one's partner, resulting in low self-esteem, for example, some people will feel inferior because the other party's family background, education, and other conditions or abilities are obviously better than themselves.

Good love is a two-way run between two people, constantly gaining warmth and strength from each other. In this positive relationship, we can not only experience the happiness and beauty of love, but also see self-worth and the meaning of life.