How to evaluate the fact that the mother can t give the bride price and commit suicide?

On November 17, in Ningling County, Shangqiu, a mother committed suicide by jumping into the river, suspected that because her son got married, the woman asked to buy a car as a bride price.

When his father saw the corpse, he was so sad that he jumped into the river and committed suicide, but fortunately he was rescued.

Alas, for this reason, the man's parents almost died, and this wedding festival is not worth it.

In the common understanding, the bride price refers to the bride price or gift money given by the man to the woman in marriage. In today's Internet, it also refers to the act of exchanging lottery tickets and blessings between friends. Some local customs are called levy, which means success, that is, after the bride price is given, the marriage contract is formally concluded, and it is generally not allowed to renege.

For a period of time after the founding of the People's Republic of China, the bride price and the engagement and marriage contract related to the bride price were criticized and once abolished, but they have always existed tenaciously among the people.

Nowadays, people often need a bride price of hundreds of thousands of yuan when they get married, and they also have a car and a house, which has caused a lot of pressure on the man's family. Of course not.

Both materially and spiritually. The threshold of modern society is the same, the salary will not be higher because you are a man, and if you do business, it is the same as men and women, make money according to ability, if the fields and cattle and horses are just needed in the farming society, I can understand it better, but in modern society, you can rent a house on the Internet, you can move in on the same day, and the era of Didi will set off immediately, and people are forced to have a house and a car, which really doesn't make sense.

There are too many good young people around me who have to give up the most beloved person under the coercion of their mother-in-law, and marry the one they don't love. Unless you can convince your family, or go out to resist feudal traditions, otherwise, even if you get married, you will have a lot of problems with the other family, which will have a bad impact on your life trajectory.

When it comes to the word marriage, young people will definitely have fantasies such as "grand", "romantic", "dreamy" and even "luxury" in their eyes, but the bride price plagues our new generation, so it can't change the status quo, you can only change yourself, make yourself work harder, and happiness can come.

According to the police of the Huanggang Township Police Station, a police report was received at around 12 o'clock on November 17 that a female body was found in the river. After the family identified him, the husband jumped into the river in grief and committed suicide, and the son also jumped into the river when he saw this. Fortunately, the police intervened in time to rescue the two fathers and sons.

The son of the deceased was engaged not long ago, and the married woman offered a car of about 100,000 yuan as a bride price. The man's family could not meet this requirement, so that the family affairs could not be carried out, and the mother couldn't think about it for a while before she chose to commit suicide by jumping into the river.

After reading the whole thing, I am really angry and distressed about this suicidal mother, but there must be many reasons for such consequences, first of all, the woman and her family, the bride price is a convention that has been handed down by our Chinese nation for thousands of years, but some people are always "lion mouth open" is not right.

The boy's family conditions are indeed not very good, and 150,000 yuan may be a big burden for them, so the amount of this bride price should also be reasonably adjusted according to the other party's family, and this is just a marriage and forcing people to buy a car.

The second is the son of this suicidal mother, shouldn't buying a car be achieved by his own efforts? Why do you have to search your parents? Marrying a wife is your own business, so you really don't have to let your parents bear everything for you, right?

Since he doesn't have that responsibility at present, why should he be hard, and in the end, he will feel guilty for the rest of his life as a result of causing his mother's suicide so painfully.

Finally, there are a number of parents like this poor mother in the world, I know that children are very important to many parents, they will even pin the rest of their lives on their children's wives and children, and will do their best to work hard for the so-called bride price of their children, but parents are really not obliged to do this! Why do you have to push yourself so hard and tired, I hope that parents in the world can understand the truth that their children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren as soon as possible.

"The bride price is first and foremost a courtesy. "This kind of etiquette is not regulated by the system, but a folk custom. ”

In traditional Chinese society, as well as in contemporary rural society, bride price was once common. Although the bride price and the engagement and marriage contracts related to the bride price were criticized for a period of time after the founding of the People's Republic of China, they have always been tenacious among the people.

The Zhou Dynasty is the era of the collection of etiquette, when a complete set of marriage etiquette was gradually formed, there are detailed regulations in the "Etiquette", the whole set of ceremonies is combined into the "Six Rites", the Western Zhou Dynasty was established and followed by the previous dynasties of the "Six Rites" marriage system, is the "bride price" custom of **.

How many people have given up their feelings because of the sky-high price of the bride price? Real marriage, money, feelings, who is young!

The bride price and the betrothal and marriage contracts related to the bride price were criticized and abolished for a time, but they have persisted in the people. The bride price is a traditional model in China, and it is also a direct subsidy for the man as a bride for the woman.

Nowadays, the bride price has become a way to compare with each other, and the poorer the place, the higher the bride price, which is a historical problem, and it is indeed very troublesome for our new generation.

Are there a few people who give up their feelings because of the sky-high price of the bride price?

The sky-high asking price, the idea is basically that the daughter who got married and worked hard to raise her needs a sum of money, even if she divorces after marriage, at least there is still money!! The sky-high asking price, saying that the daughter who was raised with hard work, then may I ask whose son grew up by himself, wasn't he raised by hard work? The sky-high asking price, is that after the sale, it will be disconnected from the woman's mother's family!!

True love doesn't care about the amount of money, what I care about is a sentence, I want to be with him, no, everyone works together to create!

Li Xiaoli, the bride of Quzhou County, Hebei Province, became popular on the Internet because of the bride price, and the local bride price was often hundreds of thousands or millions. Marriage often puts a heavy burden on the man's parents. "I want to start changing from my own wedding."

In addition, Li Xiaoli said that the wedding was simple. didn't go to the hotel to set up a banquet, just made a big pot of dishes at home; The ring was also made by Jia Zhixin, the groom who was a soldier, for more than a month, with bullet casings.

However, such as the bride Li Xiaoli of Quzhou County, Hebei Province, the bride price is a minority after all, the bride price is a social phenomenon, we can not change this reality, we can only change ourselves better, in fact, the most terrible thing in this life is not regret, and regret, do not regret can only fight.

Recently, a mother who committed suicide because she couldn't afford to give her son a bride price has been spread on the Internet. Today, Ningling County, Shangqiu City, Henan Province, where the incident occurred, issued a notice saying that the online rumor that the bride price was untrue, and the deceased Lin Moumou committed suicide by jumping into the river because he was dissatisfied with the object of his son's photo.

A reporter from Beijing Youth Daily saw from the Internet that by a river, a man lay on the body of a woman and cried, and then suddenly turned around and jumped into the river, and was rescued by the police and the surrounding people. Du Chuanfeng, a police officer from the Huanggang Township Police Station in Ningling County, Shangqiu City, Henan Province, who was responsible for handling the matter, told ** that the son of the suicide had just gotten engaged not long ago, and the woman asked for a car as a bride price, and the man could not afford to pay it, which led to a tragedy.

On the afternoon of November 22, the Propaganda Department of Ningling County issued a notice in response to the incident, saying that the Internet rumors were untrue. According to the report, the deceased Lin Moumou disagreed with his son's media subscription because of his son's talking object, and his son's object was his fellow villager, and Lin Moumou disliked his low height because he didn't like the object of his son's talk, so Lin Moumou forced him to die, and couldn't think about it for a while, so he rode an electric car to Zhangqiao Village, Huanggang Town, Ningling County, and committed suicide by jumping into the Yellow River. After the incident, without knowing the truth, he mistakenly believed that Lin Moumou committed suicide by jumping into the river because of the high bride price.

The report said that after the incident, after receiving the alarm, the critical Huanggang Police Station dispatched the police in time to salvage the deceased Lin Moumou. After the husband of the deceased Lin Moumou arrived at the scene, he saw that his wife had died, and he jumped into the river when he was emotionally out of control, and his son saw his father jumping into the river to save his father, and the police at the scene immediately jumped into the river to rescue the father and son on the riverbank.

Recently, Ningling County, Shangqiu City, Henan Province, where the incident occurred, issued a notice saying that the online rumors of suicide were untrue, and the deceased Lin Moumou committed suicide by jumping into the river because he was dissatisfied with the object of his son's photo.

Although, the cause of the tragedy has been clarified, but the tragedy has happened, the deceased has passed away, and I just hope that the living can live well and not give up life so easily.

The bride price is mentioned in this tragedy, although the mother may not have committed suicide because the bride price was too heavy, but there are really many tragedies in life like this because the bride price is not good to talk about. To tell you a real example of what happened to my friend, it is very sad for all of us.

Arwen and Xiaoying met at a dinner party of our college friends in their sophomore year, which can be regarded as love at first sight. Arwen fell in love with Xiaoying at first sight and pursued her passionately, and Xiaoying quickly fell in love. Ah Wen cares about Xiaoying very much, loves him a lot, and always envies us of others.

In the blink of an eye, I graduated from college and broke up as soon as I graduated, which seems to be a curse, and I don't know how many people have been recruited. But Arwen and Xiaoying are indeed an exception.

After graduation, the two of them went to Shanghai together to look for a job, and at first life was really sad, but after three years of joint efforts of the two people, life is getting better and better. At this time, Xiaoying was also 3 months pregnant, and Awen was very happy, so he discussed marriage with Xiaoying. Xiaoying lost her father when she was a child and was brought up by her mother alone, and the relationship between mother and daughter is also very good.

Xiaoying and Awen have been together for so many years and have a good relationship, and their mother is very clear and does not object. But when she heard that her daughter was pregnant and planned to get married, the mother seemed to be a different person, completely different from usual. She said to Xiaoying:

Awen must buy a house in Shanghai before getting married, otherwise he won't talk about anything, and he can't have the child in his belly. Hearing such an unreasonable request from Xiaoying's mother, Ah Wen was very angry and helpless, because with their current salary level, it was impossible to buy a house in Shanghai in such a short time.

After many times of communication and persuasion, he still couldn't change Xiaoying's mother's attitude. And Xiaoying is not firm enough, too much to listen to her mother, when Awen sees Xiaoying again, without knowing it, Xiaoying has already beaten the child behind Awen's back. Seeing that his child was gone, and seeing the girlfriend in front of him who he had given everything and cherished so ruthlessly, Awen was in tears with indescribable sadness and despair.

The two broke up like this, and it became a tragedy.

For the sake of a suite, the happiness of his daughter was ruined; For the sake of a suite, an innocent little life can be desecrated, is this a bride price or a funeral? It's really heartbreaking!

Seeing this question, I felt very heavy, and entered"The bride price was too heavy and forced the parents to death"There are more than 35,000 search results, which shows that family tragedies caused by bride price in various places are not isolated cases. In fact, I have seen many helpless parents who are worried about the bride price.

Bride price is a traditional custom, in the old times there was no marriage certificate, men and women marriage is mostly the order of their parents, the words of the matchmaker, after determining the marriage, the man to give the woman a dowry, exchange of marriage post, as a witness and agreement of the marriage contract between the two parties, in essence is an agreement, not"Sell daughters"。

But in the process of evolution, because of the idea of preference for sons, some unscrupulous parents take marrying their daughters as an opportunity to collect money, and they will ask for a bride price, which is almost the same as marrying a daughter. Such as Tian Xiucai in "White Deer Plain", and Song Lian's stepmother in "The Red Lantern Hangs High".

In modern society, almost no parents simply want to obtain money through the marriage of their daughters, but the trend of bride price is becoming more and more intense, mainly in rural and underdeveloped areas, because of the imbalance between men and women, more men and fewer women, and the scarcity is expensive, and the bride price is more and more.

In our hometown, from thousands of purples and thousands of reds, that is, 10,000 pieces of 100 yuan, 10,000 pieces of 50, 10,000 pieces of 20, and 10,000 pieces of 10 yuan. to"Three pounds", that is, a 100 yuan banknote weighs enough for three catties, and it has to be added"The car is a small building and a little mother-in-law"The bride price has really become a heavy burden for families with boys. And the more the family is in poor family conditions, the more the woman wants to occupy more.

Although the bride price has its social basis, I strongly oppose the large amount of bride price regardless of the other party's family situation, marriage is a matter of two people, if you are going to spend your life with one person, you must be considerate and tolerant of each other, and share life. And the parents who marry their daughters, isn't their greatest wish to make their daughters happy? And happiness also needs the acceptance and support of the man and his family, if the daughter's husband is not happy, can the daughter be truly happy?

As for the girls who want to get married, think about it, is it important to have a happy marriage, or is the bride price important?