How to evaluate the wedding bride price, which is getting higher and higher?

When will this vice be ended? Chinese like to compare, good face, some families to marry their children basically ruined. A little better, after getting married, there is not much savings left, it is too unnecessary, I think this country should force a limit of a certain amount.

Many girls flock to big cities, so there are even fewer girls left in the countryside, and this is basically introduced by the matchmaker, and they don't know much about both families, so they can only judge the man's family background by the bride price.

With regard to the boy's marriage, the increasing bride price is mainly related to a socialization problem, which is caused by the serious imbalance between men and women, especially in remote mountainous areas.

Because people's wages are generally **, the living conditions are getting better and better, and various prices have also risen, and the ensuing bride price has also increased.

I think it's mainly a matter of face, my county belongs to the old area of southern Gansu, and there is frequent population movement in the region, and the bride price from the next village will soon be passed to another village. Therefore, the phenomenon of following the trend is more serious, and the bride price is generally continuous, better than whose wedding is held in the hotel, more lofty than whose wedding photos are taken, and more luxurious than whose team of kisses and so on.

At present, the bride price of young people in rural areas when they get married is getting higher and higher, often hundreds of thousands or hundreds of thousands, resulting in the phenomenon that many young people in rural areas dare not get married and cannot afford to get married.

We Chinese are well-known in the world for wanting face. Seeing that the bride price of other people's families is high, their own family can not be low, low and more faceless, not only can not be low but also high, for the sake of face to see a family, the bride price will be high, the heart is to die to face and suffer the sin!

In fact, this problem is also very simple, now the overall standard of living has improved, everyone is yearning for a good life, as long as it does not go beyond the circle, it is fine. The capable prevail.

Feudal thinking is strange, and now in some rural areas, there is still the idea that giving birth to a daughter sooner or later is someone else's family, thinking that "the daughter who marries out will spill the water", so you can't raise a girl for decades in vain.

The original meaning of the ancient bride price in China is a kind of love token, a handkerchief, a personal object, indicating that the two are consensual and willful. As a result, with the continuous fermentation of the phenomenon of comparison in some rural areas, the bride price has developed from "one in a hundred" and "one in a thousand" to the current "thousands of purples and thousands of reds".

An interesting phenomenon is that the bride price for marrying daughters in rural areas is generally very high, but the bride price in cities is not required. The bride price is a kind of culture, and there is nothing wrong with it. But it has slowly evolved to the present, because of the bride price, I can't get married.

<> mention the bride price will break up unhappily, mainly because the relationship between the two parties is not very stable. For some couples, they will break up unhappily because of the bride price. The reason for this is that if the bride price is not resolved, it will not be possible to get married, because the bride price will affect the relationship between the two parties, and some couples will be forced to break up because they cannot afford the bride price.

Old Signs. One is that if the issue of the bride price cannot be resolved, couples cannot get married. For a marriage, the issue of bride price is a very real problem. If this aspect is not properly resolved, the parties will certainly not be able to get married.

Therefore, if there is a disagreement on the bride price and the two parties cannot reach an agreement, the couple will definitely not be able to get married. Second, if the relationship between the couple is affected because of the bride price, the two parties will inevitably break up. For couples, the most important factor in maintaining a relationship with each other is the relationship between each other.

Only when the feelings of both parties are harmonious can they continue to enhance their feelings and finally enter the palace of marriage. If there is a problem between the two parties in the process of discussing marriage because of the bride price, the relationship between each other will be affected, and the final result will inevitably be that both parties break up, which is a kind of harm to either party. The third is that some couples will be forced to break up because they can't afford the bride price.

When a couple talks about marriage, the woman will ask the man to take a certain amount of bride price. For some people, they will not be able to get so much bride price because of their limited financial conditions. At this time, if the woman insists, there is no room for maneuver in this issue, and the result is that the two tenants may be forced to break up because of this.

Such a situation may be detrimental to the couple, but it can be in reality. Therefore, couples who really love each other should maintain good communication and coordination on the issue of bride price, and fully consider the actual situation of each other, so that they can reap the key to beat the beautiful love, and both parties can get married and live a happy life from then on.

I think this statement is wrong.

The high bride price is mainly the evil fruit of the wind of comparison, which increases the burden of the marriage of the man's family.

This burden cannot be underestimated, and it can leave the man's parents in debt for many years, sometimes even crushing the man's family.

The woman's parents asked for a high bride price, their starting point was good, they just wanted their daughter to have a considerable amount of time in life after marriage, and the bride price they asked for was almost transferred to their daughter intact, and there was nothing wrong with them.

However, their beautiful ideas have aggravated the pain of the other family and increased the possibility of variables in a marriage originally based on divine love.

Marriage is indeed sacred, but because of the bride price issue, it has become like a money-losing Zen and Zheng business, and the man's family will definitely have too much unhappiness.

In this society of free love, if two people are destined to come together and truly love each other, then it will naturally come to the step of getting married.

However, before getting married, in addition to the family background and work income of both parties, everyone should be most concerned about the issue of bride price. How many young couples who are about to enter the marriage hall end up out of control because of the bride price, and even regret their marriage.

It is believed that in most areas, there are customs or rituals such as giving a dowry and receiving a gift money.

In ancient times, most of the bride price was some valuable and practical items, after the man was hired, the woman would return the gift, which was generally the items made by the woman herself, as a dowry. But nowadays, the bride price has been given too much material meaning, the bride price is used as a means of comparison by the mother's family, and the high bride price makes the in-law's family a heavy burden, and the bride price has lost its original intention.

In fact, I really envy our parents for the bride price of the old era, a black and white TV, a bicycle, and the dowry is usually a sewing machine. My mother told me that at that time, almost every household had a sewing machine, and it was the most valuable item at that time. These bride prices and dowries are expensive but very practical, but in this year, the bride price is money.

If the man's family really can't afford to give the bride price required by the mother's family, can't the marriage be concluded? Marriage is not a sale, in the eyes of many people, the mother's demand for too high a bride price is a kind of "selling daughters". Is the daughter's happiness more important, or is the bride price more important?

Many people borrow money in order to make up the bride price, and they do not hesitate to borrow money, but after getting married, they are in debt, and they should have a happy and sweet life, but they are made sad by the debts and debts.

The bride price is just a formality, and there is no need to take it so seriously, it depends on the situation. Marriage should be a sweet and happy thing, parents hope that their children can have their own small family, and the young couple can be happy, have a baby, and hold their grandchildren as soon as possible. Therefore, as long as husband and wife truly love each other, cherish and tolerate each other, and live happily, we as parents are already very gratified.

The bride price is not used for comparison, and if you really hope that your children will live well, you should treat it rationally. Children's happiness is always the most important thing.

Nowadays many people have one of the most important reasons that hinder young people from getting married. **bride price and hate,Think that some women's parents accept **bride price,It is equivalent to selling their daughters,Although this view is a little too extreme,But I personally think there is a certain truth。

Although some parents charge the bride price from the man on the issue of their daughter's marriage, the original intention is not to say how much money they can get, but to let their daughter's future life have a certain material security, or because of the face factor fear that the bride price will be less, and they can't hold their heads up in front of other relatives in the family, but they don't realize that this practice is likely to cause their daughters and their future sons-in-law to encounter great obstacles and difficulties in their relationships. Even this practice is a typical stick beating mandarin ducks, I personally think that as a woman, parents should be more open-minded, as long as it is their daughter looking for a marriage partner, is a real good character, self-motivated boy, then they should actively support, should not let the sky-high bride price become a stumbling block to prevent two young people from falling in love.

Of course, for the parents of those families with rocky and rotten children, the reason why they have to receive a bride price when their daughters get married is because when their sons get married, they also have to give other women's families a high bride price, otherwise their sons will not be able to get married, but even so, they should not ignore their daughters for the happiness of their sons and the major events of marriage, after all, the palms and backs of their hands are meat, and parents should still try their best to achieve a bowl of water. Of course, in order to solve such a problem, it is fundamentally necessary to let more female parents realize that it is very wrong to receive a bride price, and compared with the bride price, the happiness of the daughter is always the first.