My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for three or four years, and it is time to break up

Three or four years of relationship, do you want to break up after graduating from college? If it's really impossible to be together, stay away from him, let the pain of separation slowly fade, and don't let each other hurt again and again. Precipitate the joy and happiness of the past and condense it into the best memories of each other's lives!

Wishing you happiness!

My wife also cried when she used to talk to me and said that she was going to break up, and then I cried too, and then she was reluctant to hug me and reconcile with me. We've also been talking for three or four years, and this relationship doesn't mean that we can let go of it.

Three or four years of relationships are not easy to come by, we must cherish each other and understand each other, and some small frictions will naturally be resolved. Even if it's because of the problem of graduation, we can still be together if we work hard to overcome it.

Sometimes it's really the woman who thinks too much. It's not a good thing that the inner world is richer.

Fart! Your boyfriend has no money to buy a house, and your parents said that if you don't have a house, you won't marry, right, this weird man's family has no money! The blame woman's family is too realistic. Then you say scatter, scatter, the man is deeply hit, and he is sure.

Why break up? You cried, maybe he cried too...

Since you have lived so painfully, why not give up a little bit now, maybe you will meet a better one.

Give yourself a chance, and give him a chance.

Unless he loves you very much. 、

Why? Is it just because of the long time? Or is it really time to break up? Are you a little reluctant? Or is there a reason why you have to break up?

You brought it up, what are you crying about, what is the reason?

Redeem it, it's your own decision. Think back to the various moments in the past for you and see if it is worth retrieving? Why I broke up with you, this is the source, I think we should explore this reason.

First, if you want to redeem it, you need to check the source of the breakup

There are no major conflicts in the three years you have been together, but there are constant contradictions in the three months you have been together every day, which is the difference between falling in love when you were a student and living together before marriage or rehearsing before marriage. When two people have to face each other all day long, there will be conflicts of one kind or another. When there is a conflict, you write about the good and bad of your approach.

Losing your temper, ignoring him, saying that he is not good, disencouraging him, these are not appropriate. It's important to realize what the problem is, and then it's time to correct it.

Second, it is important to communicate the issue of marriage

The time between two people falling in love and getting married cannot be too long, which is based on statistics. Of course, it is normal for young people nowadays to have a lot of pressure in their employment and life, and to get married very late, but when two people live together, it is almost like marriage. I don't know if the two of you have communicated around this issue.

This is also a time that must be considered, although it may be too early to come.

3. Discuss solutions together

According to you, your boyfriend seems to be very good and has no shortcomings at all, but I don't think it's possible. In the face of high-pressure situations such as going to school, work, and relationships, men may have more stress concerns, and there will be more factors that affect your relationship progress and decision-making. At this time, it is more necessary for you to consider and act rationally, not to lose your temper at will, to communicate patiently, and to discuss the current problems and future development together.

I think that after the two sides have calmed down for a while, they can still talk, and at that time, you can sort out your thoughts and communicate well. Bless you, even if it doesn't work, don't be discouraged, overall, you are a sensible and good girl, you are still young, and you will meet better in the future.

If you cherish this relationship very much, then what you need to do must be to start with yourself, talk to each other, how to get along is an acceptable comfort range for both parties, and give each other enough personal space. Respect each other's needs will keep going, whether it is love or marriage. For example, if you don't accept to cook your own meals, then you have to at least accept that eating takeout is okay.

can't be recovered, the two of you have been together for 4 years, there is no novelty anymore, and you will break up if you can't get married.

I think it can't be reversed, because men are often very ruthless, and as long as they decide something, 10 cows can't pull it back.

At this time, you can choose to communicate and communicate with your boyfriend, and then ask him what he thinks, if he no longer likes you, you should not redeem him, and choose to let go in time.