How should parents manage bear children who love to scream?

Sometimes, because children are unable to communicate their needs and ideas in words, children will use screaming to attract the attention of parents, so as to convey their emotions to parents. However, if this is the case for a long time, it must not be a good phenomenon, so how to deal with it? Let's take a look at the advice of those who have come before:

Take advantage of the game. When a child screams, parents may wish to let the child scream as much as he wants, or scream with the child or even compare with the child whose voice is louder. Parents need to turn screaming into a game, not a way to vent their emotions.

Secondly, after the competition of whose voice is louder, parents can compare with their children whose voice is smaller, or imitate games with their children. For example, parents can ask their children to jump up and down with them, so screaming becomes one of the ways for children to play. If the parent and child are in public, the parent can let the child imitate the cat's voice, so that the child will be quiet.

Let the child understand the feelings of the parents.

When a child screams, parents should control their emotions, speak to the child in a calm tone, and tell the child how he feels. For example, "Baby, you wait a little longer, and when mommy is done, I'll take you home". In this way, the child will know that he has not been neglected by his parents, and this method can also help the child to communicate his thoughts in words.

Keep your child busy, too.

Parents can encourage their children to do fun things with themselves and not make them feel aimless.

1.Let your child play with toys.

Parents can give their child some snacks or toys, and it is best not to give them after the child has screamed. Otherwise, the child will mistakenly think that he will only get these things after screaming. This way, the child will be busy playing with toys or eating, and the child will not have time to scream.

2.Play games with your child.

When parents and children go out together, they should constantly tell their children what they are doing and what they are around, and when the children's brains are thinking, they are relatively quiet. Of course, parents can let their children help them get the items on the shelves when shopping with their children, or parents can make up simple, catchy nursery rhymes about what they experienced today, and children will naturally have fun in it.

When parents can also train their baby's language skills, so that children can learn to use language to express their emotions and needs, so that the number of times children scream will gradually decrease.

Take a ruler, carry the bear child into the room, close the door, and tell him, bark, don't stop.

As soon as he stops, you whip him with a ruler!

Doesn't he like to scream? Then let him call enough.

Just force him to scream for a while, and you'll hear his voice visibly hoarse. Don't stop at this time, and consolidate the effect again. Of course, you can't let him really scream bad throat, it's almost fine.

After doing this, congratulations, you can be quiet for at least a day or two, because he can't call him out. If he still screams after a few days of getting better, he screams once, and you repeat the process again. As long as it is insisted on more than three times, 80% of the bear children will get rid of this problem.

If your child falls into the 20% of those who are determined to change, it is time to consider whether there is something really wrong with him, and you can take him to the hospital to find a doctor.

The key to this method is that the heart cannot be soft, and if the heart is soft, the child will never be able to get rid of the smelly problem.

In addition, this method is suitable for bear children, that is, they are over 6 years old and already speak fluently, even seven or eight years old, they just like to scream, they are looking for trouble for adults, and they don't change it.

Children who are two or three years old and do not speak fluently do not count.

Tell his parents, and if they ignore him, you say to his parents, "How can you let your child make trouble." You asked him to make trouble, he doesn't understand it at such a young age. You are still the guardian of the child, you can do this thing, don't think that indirect troublemaking is not troublemaking.

Are you still a parent, instigating your child to fix me, and be cheeky? ”

As a mother, they all have endless housework, endless hearts, and interpersonal and emotional relationships; I know that they all catch the car in the morning, eat at noon, catch the schedule in the afternoon, and when they come home, they are physically and mentally exhausted; I know that children refuse to eat, refuse to get up, refuse to brush their teeth, die to buy toys, die to sleep late, die to eat snacks, shout when they are unhappy, bully other children, litter toys that have just been sorted out, the above must say a lot of mothers' hearts, at this time many angry mothers find that gentleness really does not work, it is better to be harsh, or even yell.

Gradually, when mothers find out that they threaten him not to eat or watch TV without tidying up, the baby will always obediently put away the toys and become obedient.

It's just, you know, what are the consequences of yelling at a child? Following the experts' opinions, we summarized the following: Consequences One:

The child is insecure and has a cowardly personality. Ingredient 1: The child is indecisive and unconfident.

Ingredient 2: The child is seriously emotional and loses his temper at every turn. Consequence 4:

Children become well-behaved, but they just love to please people.

Many mothers said that they have read a lot of parenting books and understand a lot of big truths, but they can't do it when they really face their children, in fact, children can learn to be obedient and sensible, but this process requires certain ways and methods. We're going to teach them. This requires us to be proactive, persistent, and keep a cool head at all times.

The six tips we'll follow are very effective. Although, it can't prevent a mischievous child from making mistakes once in a while, but it can help you use love and patience to transform that mischievous and troublesome kid from such a troublesome role.

Gentle and firm, it means several ways:

First, raise children who have both rules and freedom.

Rules and freedom are the key to education, and only with rules can there be real freedom. It is important for children to start setting rules for them from an early age. Especially before giving them the space to create, it is necessary to establish rules first, so that they can learn to face life and things that arise in an orderly manner, and live freely within the rules.

Second, parents must have courage to educate their children.

Most of the children who are not self-disciplined can find the reason in their parents. Love the child too much, meet the child's requirements, be reluctant to refuse the child, and appear not firm enough in the face of the child's unreasonable request.

Once children notice this, they will instinctively seize the moment, some crying, some reasoning, and some bargaining. In the long run, it is difficult to develop rules, and children learn to break the rules.

Have you learned from it?

The reason why a child yells is that he needs to prove his presence. I often see parents holding their phones in public while their children sit idle.

Or, the child wants to talk to the parent, but the parent is too busy with the matter at hand to pay attention to the child. So the child yelled loudly, because the child knew that only in this way could the parent's attention return to the child.

Patiently remind.

It is in the nature of children to play happily.

Even their vandalism is for fun. If parents can pay attention to their children, accompany them, and spend their children's energy on the fun that is truly meaningful and does not disturb others.

For example, parents can accompany their children to play games, or parents can accompany their children to play some kind of competition, or parents can guide their children to play with toys that children can play with on their own. And these are things that parents need to consciously prepare for in advance.

I usually tell my child at home that his small space is completely at his disposal, but the drawers of my parents are personal belongings and cannot be left untouched. You can also use the role reversal method to educate children, for example, if the children upstairs are jumping and jumping at home, you will also be affected, and if you want to run and jump, you can go to the community or park to play. Finally, parents should also lead by example, and reward and punish clearly, and do what they say.

First of all, parents should understand that no matter whether their child's behavior is naughty or curiosity-driven exploration, running around in other people's homes is a sign of unculture, and must be stopped and not connived. If the child does not pay attention to the parent's stopping, the parent can take him away from the "scene" and go to a quiet and independent space, and after the child has calmed down, then calmly let him apologize to others and cultivate the child's sense of responsibility.

I still remember that time when I took the bus, I met a particularly disobedient child, and then theorized, but I didn't expect the child's parents' attitude to be particularly bad, so when I encountered such a thing, I simply didn't want to theorize, it didn't mean anything.

Secondly, parents should be calm in anger, take matters into account, and avoid saying things that hurt their children's self-esteem, such as "you have been making trouble for me since birth" and "you are a nasty bad boy". It should be reminded that sometimes children may imitate other older children, at this time, do not blame all the fault on your own child, just let the child admit his part of the mistake.

Adults to adults, children solve their own problems. Then a relative came to play with his child, who was about the same age old. As soon as his grandmother came to my house, he jumped up and down, and after going to the bathroom, he didn't flush the water, and he jumped up and down on my sofa, all of which were dirty.

Then my brother and I went to the commissary again and picked up a few bags of snacks. When he was about to pay, the kid also took a few packets and opened them to eat. My brother and I were instantly angry, and after paying, we took him to a corner, yelled at him, and then took him away.

In fact, he was not hit.

From kindergarten, to elementary school, junior high school, and even high school, which class can not have a bear child? It can be said that bear children have actually become the standard in life, and we have to face it. The eldest of our family is now in the fourth grade of elementary school, and there is a bear child in their class, which is very representative.

The teacher manages the bear child, and the bear child calls back, and the bear child's parents say that the child is still young. The best way is to avoid the bear child and not refute the bear child's parents.

I don't think it's wrong, all in all, all the troubles caused by the bear child are because the parents have no way to discipline them, if the parents are not sensible and justified in the name of the child, then such a child can only be handed over to the society for a simple and rough education. Although hitting a child is wrong, but this is a person's stress reaction when his life is greatly threatened, although hitting him can't solve the problem, at least simply and clearly let the child remember that he can't repeat such a dangerous act in the future, even if he doesn't know why, but he who has been beaten because of this, he will not do the same thing, and the truth will understand when he grows up.