The conundrum: Both parents of a young couple insist that the child take their respective surnames 3

According to the Chinese tradition, the father's surname should be taken, and if both parents strongly want to take their own surname, then a composite surname can be considered, and the surname of both men and women should be put together and then the child should be named, which is a compromise solution.

The household registration should still follow the father's surname, after all, it is a Chinese tradition. However, you can give the child a nickname with the mother's surname or homonym, which is often called by the family, and it is much more commonly used than the name in the household registration book, so that the grandfather and grandfather can balance their hearts.

Or follow morality and the general concept of Chinese, with the father's surname.

This is fair. Even if there is a small complaint, it will not be very serious.

I'm a woman, so I want my children to take my surname, because my surname is relatively rare, and it's fun, but it seems that it is difficult for ordinary people to accept it.

Many people are desperately trying to have sons just to pass on the lineage, and passing on the family name is actually passing on the surname, so it's very difficult to do.

Why don't you have another one?

There are still problems with the compromise method, such as which word comes first? Who's behind?

In my opinion, I don't want either surname, find another way, and see what else they say!

One more one, one with your surname and one with his surname.

Take a 3-character name and use both people's surnames!

Both husband and wife are single-child families, and the child should take the father's surname, not the mother's. As the mother of the child, although it is said that the child is born, the child's surname cannot be decided alone, but should be discussed with the child's father whether the first child will follow the mother's surname or the father's surname. If the child's father firmly disagrees with the child's surname taking the mother's surname, then you can also consider waiting for the second child to take the mother's surname.

As a husband and wife discussing the issue of the child's surname together, the child's name should be thought of, which is just a title. <>

Regardless of whether the child has the mother's surname or the father's surname, the child is always the child of two people. But for most macho men, they will feel that once the child follows the mother's surname, then the man will not have the right to speak in the process of marriage. Men will have the traditional concept that as long as the child's surname follows the mother's surname, it means that the man is a door-to-door son-in-law, and men think that it is very unacceptable to be a door-to-door son-in-law.

When the husband and wife discuss the surname of the child, they can first discuss that the child of the first child can follow the husband's sex, and the child of the second child can choose to follow the wife's surname. This approach will also be approved by the parents-in-law, because most fathers-in-law and mothers-in-law will also want to have a grandchild of their own, whether it is a grandson or a grandson, they will love both children in the same way. For traditional Chinese culture, children are allowed to follow their father's surname, and as a husband, the wife should also be able to understand her own thoughts.

For many young people today, they will choose to have two children when it comes to having children. Regardless of which of the child's surnames is with the two people, choose to have two children, so that they can grow up together with the two children. And parents who are only children can also understand that being an only child is a very sad thing.

Especially when facing the illness of parents, without the help of siblings, the pressure will become very great, and having an extra helper to take care of parents together can save a lot of trouble.

In fact, I think it should be the father's surname, after all, this is the tradition of our Chinese culture, but you can also have another child, one with the father and the other with the mother.

I think it should be my father's surname. Because that's been the way it has been done since ancient times. And if you follow the mother's surname, the child will have a lot of trouble going to school.

I think we must follow my father's surname, because this is a tradition of our Chinese nation for thousands of years.

I agree with whoever he likes, he just has his own surname, as long as it's his own child, what can the surname be, there are more people with a surname in the world, and they can all be a family, and most of the entangled surnames are men.

Husband and wife live together and have children, and the children generally follow the father's surname, because since ancient times, Chinese have paid attention to the inheritance of ancestors, generation to generation, and pay attention to the three principles and five constants. In feudal society, the development and replacement of patrilineal society, children follow their father's surname, and eventually inherit their father's inheritance. Looking at the present, the child's surname is generally followed by the person who has actual status in the family, for example, a man marries a woman's family, and the woman's family has money and power, then the child follows the mother's surname.

Nowadays, men and women have about the same level of education, and if the woman is more capable, then the child may not necessarily take the mother's surname.

Children usually take their father's surname.

Let's take a look at what the law says.

1. Children under the Marriage Law may take either their father's or mother's surname, including after divorce.

2. The child's surname is determined by the parents through mutual consultation in accordance with the provisions of the law, and can follow the father's surname or the mother's surname, whether it is during the marriage relationship or after the divorce, and the principle that the child's surname can be taken from the father's or mother's surname is not changed because of the divorce.

3. Changing the child's surname after divorce is an issue that must be mentioned. Once the father's or mother's surname has been determined, it cannot be changed at will, and if it is to be changed, it must be determined by mutual agreement between the child's parents. Therefore, after the divorce, if one party wants to change the child's original surname, he must negotiate with the other party, and the child's original surname cannot be changed without reaching an agreement through negotiation.

Legal basis] Article 16 of the Marriage Law stipulates that a child may take either the father's or the mother's surname.

Most people will think that the husband and wife must follow the father's name when they are together, but in fact, the name can be negotiated between husband and wife, as long as the negotiation is good, it is okay to follow the parents' surname, and there is no clear provision that the father's surname must be followed, this is just a traditional idea. Similarly, it is possible to consider having a second child, one following the woman's surname, and the other following the man's surname. Husband and wife need to be considerate and respectful of each other, discuss things carefully, choose the best solution, and do not hurt the feelings between husband and wife.

It's not ordinary, it's basically the father's surname, because it's been like this from ancient times to the present, but now the society is an enlightened society, and the surname of the mother is also legal, as long as the two agree.

Chinese have a deeper idea of inheritance, and generally inherit the surname of the male family, so children generally follow their father's surname.

Traditionally, children follow their father's surname, but with the development of society and the improvement of women's status, there are also many only children who follow their mother's surname.

There is no legal regulation on whether a child should take the mother's or father's surname.

According to the traditional customs of our country for thousands of years, if the man marries a wife. If the husband and wife are together, the children are born with the father's surname.

If the woman's family can only have daughters and no sons, in order to pass on the lineage, they will ask the man to be the son-in-law. If such a couple is together, the children born will take the mother's surname.

In today's society, because many families are only children. As long as the husband and wife have consulted, both families agree. Nowadays, it is okay for children to take their father's surname and their mother's surname.

This depends on the attitude of the two people, Chinese basically follow their father's surname, of course, there are many people with their mother's surname.

Generally, children follow their father's surname, but there are also mother's surnames, this depends on your own discussion between husband and wife, in the traditional culture of Chinese, it is normal for children to follow their father's surname, and usually the father's income is higher than that of the mother, and the male protagonist is outside the female protagonist. Now as women's education continues to be valued by families, many families have a much higher income as mothers than fathers, and children's surnames have also begun a big war, grandparents, grandparents have waved their flags and shouted cheers, and every family hopes that their surnames will be passed down, which can be understood and understood.

The husband and wife are together, according to the traditional habits of the Chinese, then the child is, of course, more than 90%, with the father's surname. In particular, our older generation is very persistent in this matter, thinking that if the child follows the mother's surname, then the family is unfortunate and the family is in the middle.

They often think that only those who are in the wrong place can let their children take their mother's surname, which means that the man has no place in the family and is living in the family of the woman's parents!

And in real life, especially in contemporary society, there are many young couples who have two children. Because both are only children, one of the children takes the father's surname, while the other takes the mother's surname. I think this approach is also a very desirable approach, and it is also a compromise for the elderly on both sides.

There will not be much disgust for both parents.

Article 22 of the Marriage Law stipulates that a child may take the father's surname and the mother's surname. In other words, at the time of the birth of the child, the husband and wife negotiate to determine which surname the child will follow.

Once the child's name is determined in the form of a "birth certificate", it can be deemed that the husband and wife have reached an agreement on the child's name. No matter whose surname you have, it's all your children, it's all grandparents' grandchildren, and these don't change because your surname changes. It's all the continuation of your life, and the continuation of the family is impossible, if you change your surname, you won't be a member of your family.

Generally, with the father's surname, you can also follow the mother's surname, to see who is the pillar.

The possibility of problems caused by two children with different surnames will be higher, and it will cause some bad mental changes in the child's growth process.

1. Family belonging, originally having two children is to let the two children support each other in the future, but the two children have different surnames, which dilutes this sense of family belonging, and the relationship between the two children in the future is not good.

2. The love of grandparents (grandparents), although grandparents and grandparents must have said that they are as good as the two children before giving birth to a second child, many of the older generation think that their surnames are the continuation of their offspring, so the preference in this regard is predictable. (Of course, this is not absolute, and it only increases the probability of happening).

3. If the two children quarrel, then when they are at the grandfather's house, the children with the father's surname are likely to say something "This is not your house, you go", and the same is true when they are at the grandfather's house, which is not good for the mental health of the two children.

4. The influence of outsiders on children, two children with different surnames, then it is more likely to happen that others are irresponsible, outsiders ask, classmates ridicule, it will happen.

5. In the final analysis, the two children have different surnames to satisfy their grandparents' hope to continue the bloodline, but in fact, there is no other meaning.

Overall, two children with different surnames can do more harm than good, and it is really not recommended.

But now the status of men in the family is often low, and before the engagement or marriage, the woman's parents put forward the request for the second child with the mother's surname, although the man and the man's parents are unwilling, but most of them agree with a frown. So this kind of thing is becoming more and more difficult to solve. This may leave a knot in the man's heart, which is not conducive to family harmony.

Sooner or later, a quarrel about this kind of issue will break out.

What you think is reasonable is naturally reasonable, and this is normal.

There's no need, just follow your father.

The name is just a nod to Jia too traditional.

The procedures are very simple, it doesn't matter.

Aftermath... I have a friend who gave birth to twins, one with her father's surname and the other with her mother's surname, and her mother-in-law was so much nicer to the child than the other one that she was so angry that she cried.

However, the environmental impact will be different for different families.

First, the Civil Code provides that "citizens have the right to a name, and have the right to decide, use and change their names in accordance with the regulations".

The Marriage Law stipulates that "children may take their father's surname and their mother's surname".

Second, from the perspective of practical operation, from the perspective of the household registration management system, children are allowed to follow their father's surname and their mother's surname. Therefore, when applying to the household registration department, you can follow your parents separately.

In different cultural and social contexts, a child's father's or mother's surname may be taken for granted. In some traditional cultures, children usually take their father's surname, which is considered a way to continue the family lineage and pass on the family property.

1. In some modern societies, more families are beginning to accept the choice of their child's mother's surname, especially when the mother plays a more important role in the family, or when the father's surname is not as important as the mother's. Therefore, whether it is natural for a child to take his father's surname should depend on the cultural and social values of the person concerned. In some societies, mothers fight for the right to take the family name in order to balance the position of the parents in the family, or perhaps to preserve the mother's family name and family traditions.

2. The final decision should be made by both parents, taking into account a variety of factors, including culture, family traditions, individual wishes, and gender equality. If no agreement can be reached, the law will also provide some provisions and procedures for dealing with different countries and regions. Whether a child takes the father's or mother's surname is a complex question, and the answer to this question can vary depending on different cultures, religions, and legal traditions.

In many cultures, it is a traditional practice for children to take their father's surname, believing that this will preserve the family lineage and inheritance. In some societies, people prefer to have their children take their mother's surname, believing that this will highlight the mother's role and status in the family, as well as preserve the traditions and heritage of the mother's family. In some countries and regions, the law requires children to take their father's or mother's surname.

3. In Hong Kong, children are allowed to take their father's or mother's surname. In Western countries, children are usually allowed to take their father's or mother's surname, but in certain circumstances, such as divorce or abuse or neglect in the family, the court may decide to take the child's surname. In some countries, the law also allows children to use dual surnames, which allows both the father's and mother's surnames to be included in the child's name.

This practice can also help balance the position of parents in the family while preserving family traditions and cultural values.

In short, there is no definite answer to whether a child should take the father's or mother's surname, and it should be left to the parents to choose, taking into account the family's culture and traditions, personal wishes, and legal and social provisions.