How to deal with setbacks and insults wisely?

If someone quarrels with you, then you look at him with a smile (but then you must chant Buddha in your heart), and you don't say a word, and after a while he gets bored and walks away on his own.

There is an example, the two always quarrel, and then the aunt found my mother, and after my mother told me this method, she went back to try, and the person stopped arguing with her in a few minutes. After a few times like this, my aunt was like this, and once the man asked why you didn't keep smiling and don't quarrel with me, what were you thinking, and she said that I was chanting Buddhism, and since then they have stopped arguing.

Here are examples from my side.

If it is mine, I don't have to fight, if it is not mine, I can't fight for it, let it be.

You won't feel unsettled and unjust in your heart.

I have a motto: "The Tao is in the ordinary".

When I do something, I like to devote myself to it and do it in a way that is enlightened and experienced. If you succeed, you will learn from your experience, and if you fail, you will learn from your experience. Give yourself three chances to make the same mistake. If it is more than three times, it is a disgrace.

Wu Boxiong, the chairman of the Kuomintang, said a wonderful sentence: "The Bodhisattva lowered his eyebrows, and King Kong looked angry." "If we want to save ourselves, we have to put ourselves in a strong position. In this way, we are not bullied and can also help others.

However, if we want to let go, or when we can't be in a strong position, we have to learn how to survive the weak. Don't cause trouble, endure humiliation, and learn the spirit of Q.

In short, let's treat it with an attitude of enlightenment and experience.

Go deep into the scriptures, wisdom is like the sea!

Matt. 5:38 And you have heard that it was said, An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth. 』

Matt. 5:39 But I say to you, Do not oppose the wicked. Someone hits you on the right cheek, and even the left cheek turns around and hits him;

Matt. 5:40 Whoever wants to sue you will take your tunics, and let him take away your tunics.

Matt. 5:41 If someone compels you to go one mile, go with him two.

Matt. 5:42 Whoever asks you is given; Whoever borrows money from you, do not shirk it. 」

Matt. 5:43 And you have heard that it was said, Love thy neighbor, and hate thy enemy. 』

Matt. 5:44 But I say to you, Love your enemies, and pray for them that persecute you.

Matt. 5:45 So that you may be sons of your Father who are in heaven; For he makes the sun shine on the good and on the evil; Rain is given to the righteous and to the unrighteous.

Matt. 5:46 What reward do you have for loving him who loves you? Isn't that what the tax collectors do?

Matt. 5:47 If you ask your brother's greetings, what advantage do you have over others? Isn't that what the Gentiles do?

Matt. 5:48 Therefore be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect. 」

Learning and understanding in the midst of setbacks are valuable experiences. In particular, I couldn't understand the comprehension of learning the Dharma before, but when I read the Buddhist scriptures and studied Buddhism, thanks to these valuable experiences, I was able to understand life and the Dharma. Looking back now, I would like to thank those who have insulted me for making me stronger and more determined, and for making me realize my perseverance and perseverance.

I have never found such a good quality in me, how to maintain interests at work without resentment, I need you to read books on interpersonal relationships, teach you how to deal with various problems in the workplace.

The person who loves to bully is steel, and water can carve it, don't hit it hard. It is a very effective way to overcome rigidity with softness.

Venerable Sheng Yan said: People need to communicate with each other, and if communication fails, compromise will be compromised, and if you can't compromise, you should tolerate him more.

The easiest way to do this: knock them out with your actions.

Kill him for a while, and then tell him gently: Dude, I'm here for your good, so that you can practice forbearance.

There is no definite law, and this is also the law, but when you eliminate him, it depends on what kind of "heart" you use

Suffering is a blessing. The right mindset will eliminate karma for you, and it's better if you don't move your hatred.

If you don't have a bad relationship with a wicked person, you will hide from him, let him go, let him do whatever he wants, ignore him, and look back at him ......

If you don't feel angry, you can also scold him a few words, such as scolding him for not being able to spit out ivory from his mouth, and so on. If you ignore him, you are only focusing on your own cultivation, and you will not be able to do it without charity. Don't simply regard almsgiving as some ordinary rituals, scolding him is also giving or exceeding, depending on the situation, it is okay to hit him twice, as long as it is permissible to break the law and commit crimes, and the same is true of Buddhism, and the Buddha also makes a lion's roar.

Great wisdom in the story.

The first story is when a truck driver is driving through a small village, a middle-aged peasant woman suddenly trots across the road, and the big truck brakes sharply, almost hitting the peasant woman.

The peasant woman was furious and rushed to the cab and scolded the driver endlessly.

The driver didn't talk back, lit a cigarette, smoked slowly, and listened to the peasant woman rise from "village scolding" to "national scolding". After smoking a cigarette, the peasant woman scolded, and the driver became angry: "If I braked late just now and crushed you to death, can you still scold at this time?" The peasant woman thought about it, so she stopped scolding.

When we encounter setbacks, we often feel very depressed, and we rarely rejoice ourselves that if it weren't for it, things could have been worse. Because of this, many clouds are often born in the air of our hearts, and many joys are lost.

The second is a newly assembled small bell placed among the two old bells. The two old clocks "tick" and "tick" walked minute by minute. One of the old bells said to the little bells:

Come on, it's time for you to work too. But I'm a little worried, after you've done 32 million walks, I'm afraid you won't be able to take it. ”

Oh, my God! 32 million times! Xiao Zhong was surprised, "I'm going to do such a big thing?!" It can't be done, it can't be done. ”

Another old bell said, "Don't listen to his nonsense. Don't be afraid, you just need to tick every second. ”

How can there be such a simple thing in the world? Xiao Zhong was skeptical, "If that's the case, I'll try." ”

The little clock easily "ticks" every second, and before you know it, a year has passed, and it has been swinging 32 million times.

How to deal with setbacks.

Life in the world, everyone will encounter setbacks, life without experiencing setbacks is not a complete life, moderate setbacks have a certain positive significance, it can help people drive away inertia, prompt people to forge ahead. At the same time, setbacks are a challenge and a test. The question is, how do we deal with setbacks when they come?

Everyone must have a correct understanding of this issue.

In a person's life, setbacks are inevitable. If we want to be successful and happy, we must be able to endure pain and setbacks. This is a tempering of people, and it is also a necessary process for a person to grow.

We can think about it, if human beings had been happy and happy in everything since the day they were born on earth, and did not feel any setbacks and failures, would they still be as wise and successful as they are today?

Facts have proven that the success of many celebrities in ancient and modern times, both at home and abroad, has been achieved after overcoming all kinds of difficulties and setbacks. Dayu, who is famous for controlling water, Qin Shi Huang, who swept the six countries to unify the world, Sima Qian, who endured humiliation and worked hard to write the "Historical Records", Sun Yat-sen, who revitalized China and ended the imperial system, overthrew the three mountains to create a new China, and Edison......, who finally invented the electric light after 10,000 failuresIn order to succeed, they all worked hard, overcame unimaginable difficulties and setbacks, and even experienced the struggle between life and death.

These success stories show us that setbacks in life are not terrible, but only how we treat them. It's like the road is under your feet, and it depends on how you go. By finding the right way to deal with setbacks, we will learn from them and make our lives go smoothly.

First of all, when encountering setbacks, we should conduct a calm analysis, find out the causes of setbacks from the aspects of objectivity, subjectivity, goals, environment, conditions, etc., and take effective remedial measures. We should have a dialectical view of setbacks, know that setbacks are unavoidable by anyone, maintain a confident and optimistic attitude towards setbacks, and realize that it is setbacks and lessons that make us wise and mature, and it is failures and setbacks themselves that ultimately create success.

Secondly, we must have a normal heart and look at setbacks calmly. When encountering setbacks, you should not sigh, complain, lament that fate is unfair to you, and you can't give up on yourself. We should realize that setbacks can not only bring hardship and hardship to our growth, but also help us grow in the future.

As a student, we will inevitably encounter some setbacks in life and study, but we must hone ourselves in the ups and downs, and we should face and overcome setbacks correctly. Only in this way can we get out of the predicament and let setbacks become the "whetstone" for our success.

Students, let's cheer up and deal with setbacks with a correct and scientific attitude!

What are the setbacks that succeed and setbacks? Failure said: Setbacks are a mountain that can never be climbed on the road to growth, because after climbing a mountain, there will be another mountain ahead.

Cowardice said: Frustration is a thorny ground on the road to growth, which will pierce people all over the body. Frustration says: Frustration is the vertigo after being knocked down, which makes people lose confidence and lose the direction of progress. Standing on the tail of childhood, looking at the unknown road ahead, I was scared.

At this time, Dante came up to me and said, "Go your own way, let others say go." No matter how many setbacks others say on the road to growth, you have to be brave to go on, only setbacks will make you grow.

Zhang Haidi, who had a high-level amputee, said to me: "Even if setbacks make you fall down a hundred times, you have to stand up one hundred and one times, and only setbacks can make you strong." Beethoven, who was deaf in both ears, said

Hold fate by the throat in the face of setbacks, which will make you confident. Xu Teli said: "It is a myth to want to grow up without experiencing any setbacks.

Frustration is a necessity in the process of growing up. "Standing on the boulevard of youth, looking at the road ahead, I seem to have a little confidence. At this time, I seemed to see Hawking, who was suffering from multiple diseases all over his body, tapping on the keyboard with the only two fingers that could move, making academic reports, and in the face of setbacks, he chose to be strong; I seemed to see the blind and deaf Helen Keller working hard to learn the language, and in the face of setbacks, she chose to persevere; I seemed to see Sun Bin who had his kneecaps cut off again, sitting on a chariot and directing the battle, and in the face of setbacks, he chose to endure humiliation; I seem to see the poor Hong Zhanhui running around with his little sister, and in the face of setbacks, he chose to struggle; I also seem to see Zhang Haidi, Beethoven ......The reason why great people can become great people is because they often experience setbacks that ordinary people have not experienced, and if they overcome it, they will have more outstanding achievements than ordinary people.

The flowers in the greenhouse can never withstand the snowstorm in the wild, and only the tall pines and cypresses can be evergreen all year round. Standing at the crossroads of youth, I thought about it and chose the most difficult path. Don't run away from setbacks, only setbacks can make us strong, make us confident, let us struggle, let us have more experiences, and let us grow.

What is frustration? Strong said: setbacks are mountains, and if you turn over him, you can see the sea of success.

Bravely say: setbacks are thorns, take out the courage to split it, and a broader avenue will appear in front of you. Victory said: Setbacks are reefs in the sea, and if you don't meet him, you will never be able to stir up the waves of success.

To grow, you need setbacks.

Landlord, life is long, it's normal to have a little setback, and you encounter setbacks. Be optimistic, there used to be such a saying. People are the most intelligent creatures, always after encountering problems, and can solve them, think about it, setbacks are the test of us, because of setbacks, we will grow up.

will become stronger, unhappy, you can come out and run. Relax or something, improve your mood. The soldiers will block the water and cover the earth.

There is no problem that cannot be solved. The landlord can also go for a cup of tea and calm down. Solve the problem again ...

In addition, I think the landlord must have a friend with a particularly good relationship. You can talk to him. I hope my advice will be helpful, and again, I wish the landlord to be strong.

Relax, take a deep breath, and build confidence.

Go to the streets and see people who are worse than you and still trying to stay alive.

Find an open place to let off steam and relax.

Relax, there must be a road before the car reaches the mountain, and there is no road and a tunnel

It's going to be okay together!

Work hard every day to make it more fulfilling.

Taking your family out to relax is companionship and love, and arranging such an activity on a regular basis allows you to release stress, love life, care for your family, and don't need to spend a lot of money, you just need to take the time to say go.