How to distinguish adversity from frustration How to deal with setbacks and adversity in life?

Adversity is an objective environment, and setbacks are subjective.

In the face of difficulties and adversities in life, it is necessary to do:

1. Accept your own shortcomings, accept the fact that your ability is limited, and choose what you really want to do in your life and the person you really want to love.

2. To release the pressure in our hearts, we should learn to relax our mood, that is, to let our mood sink and not be impetuous. Especially when you encounter difficulties, you should not put too much pressure on yourself, in fact, when you have a lot of ideas, you are often mediocre and self-disturbing.

3. Talk to friends in a timely manner, we all have good friends or relatives, so when we encounter difficulties, we must know how to self-regulate, don't hold it in our hearts, but should be with friends, talk to them more, and let them give ideas.

Both good times and bad times are good for personal growth, and both are detrimental. The main thing is to look at the degree.

Excessive adversity makes people depressed and pessimistic. We've seen too many examples of this kind of collapse. Some people can't bear the adversity at work and give up their lives, and some people can't stand the emotional conflict and choose to avoid establishing a relationship with Yehongdong people.

Some people are young and just want to lie down and stay by themselves. When they want to do something, all they think is "I can't do it" and then they feel stressed, hard, frustrated.

One of our classmates had a longing and fear of marriage due to the quarrel between his parents since he was a child, and this long-term frustration made him both eager and afraid of marriage, unable to enter into marriage, and unable to settle for singleness. Both states were adversity for him and unbearable. Excessive good times make people inflated blindly.

The three major misfortunes in life are: being a young man, being born in a wealthy family, and flying a windfall.

These good times can lead to a false perception of the world, an over-exaggeration of one's abilities, and a loss of resistance in the face of real setbacks. There is a very good student in our class, who has been the first in the exam since he was a child, and he is the kind of abusing others when he studies for a doctorate in a prestigious school. The good times along the way made him feel that everything is very simple, as long as he wants to do it, he can do it well.

As a result, under such thinking management, his marriage and family were in shambles, and after entering the workplace, he was repeatedly depressed due to frustrations in interpersonal relationships.

Excessive adversity will make people form the cognition that "I can't do anything", "my essence is bad", and "my life is superfluous"; Excessive favorable circumstances make people have the perception that "I can do anything", "I can change the world", and "the world revolves around me". Once these perceptions are formed by the environment, they are difficult to modify. In the same context, this perception is reinforced.

In different contexts, it will be ignored and closed.

When a person feels that he is not good, even if he does, he will find the reason and say that it is because of good luck and not because of his own ability. Once a person feels that he is good, when he is not good, he blames others instead of himself. People will selectively pay attention to the things around them, and then selectively explain the things around them, reinforcing their inner beliefs again and again.

The right setbacks make people grow. The appropriate frustration is: there are setbacks, but within the scope of ability, at this time people have space to reflect, train, and make their abilities stronger.

I can be frustrated and fail without dampening my sense of self-worth and not affecting my view of life and other things.

Good times are the best, moderate setbacks are conducive to growth, and too much tribulation becomes an abyss.

In the face of adversity, do not be pessimistic and disappointed, complain, take the initiative to abandon laziness, casualness, vanity, luxury and other bad habits, and strive to stimulate your creativity, then adversity will become the best "stepping stone" for success.

In a good situation, the more smooth the wind and water, the more we must see the subtle things, be prepared for danger in times of peace, always maintain a clear mind and positive fighting spirit, and constantly strengthen the gross and high cultivation of character and official morality, then the good times can be the icing on the cake and help people climb to a higher realm.

We must treat the good times and bad times of life correctly. It's messy.

Luck does not have many joys and blessings, and bad luck does not have many troubles and comforts.

In good times, you need to follow the trend, be invincible, ride the wind and waves, move forward bravely, and don't be arrogant.

Adversity requires perseverance and strength. Keep calm, bravely face setbacks, the so-called "sail against the current, and retreat a thousand times with ease." That's what I'm talking about.

We must correctly and soberly understand the good times and adversities in life, and the correct treatment of good times and bad times requires calm thinking and calm response to what happens in life.

In short, we must correctly understand and treat the good and bad times in life.

It is normal to encounter setbacks and adversity, and a person's life cannot be smooth sailing, no matter how smooth it is, there will be setbacks, problems, and pressure. When encountering these adversities, it is the ability that each of us needs to learn and improve to correctly view and deal with adversity.

1. To move forward in the face of adversity, you need to have a growth mindset. People react differently to adversity, failure, and setbacks. Carol Dweck puts a person's mindset in mind.

It is divided into growth type and fixed type: people with a fixed mindset believe that our intelligence level is fixed at birth, it is difficult to change it through acquisition, and they will also have self-doubt when they encounter failure; People with a growth mindset believe that their intelligence can be changed, so they are willing to learn more actively, and they will readjust their mindset and try different strategies when faced with failure.

For example, for people with poor reading ability, people with a fixed mindset will feel that their reading ability is like this, and there is no way to change or improve, so they will give up on themselves; But people with a growth mindset will take the initiative to find ways to practice, such as learning "elite ultra-fast reading skills", so as to make themselves able to read and learn.

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2. In the face of adversity, you can use these 4 steps to help you overcome and get out of adversity.

When you are in adversity, thoughts such as "I can't do it, I'm too stupid" pop up in your mind, or when irritability, anxiety, and powerlessness appear, you should first "deliberately" remind yourself that "adversity is coming, this is adversity", instead of letting it develop all the time.

Then we must change our mentality, take the initiative to face or bear the consequences of this adversity, and take the initiative to think about what we should do and what we can do, so as to regain a "sense of control".

Then by analyzing the evidence, let yourself know that it is not so bad, for example, ask yourself, is this situation out of control? What other aspects does this affect? Will this difficulty last long?

Through such a rational analysis, we can look at the problems that arise correctly.

Fourth, do something, doing things will give us a sense of control. Through the first three steps, list all the things that can be done, choose one action that needs to be implemented first, and then take action.

At this time, you must have a correct mentality. Find the crux of the problem. and their own shortcomings. Slowly increase your strength. Overcome positively and courageously and get out of adversity.

When we encounter setbacks and adversity, we must first be calm and calm, find out the corresponding countermeasures and methods, so as to get out of adversity.

I think the first thing is to clean up your mood, give yourself enough encouragement, slowly see the reality of the situation, and find a solution to overcome and come out.

First of all, we must not be discouraged. We need to adjust our mentality, find out the problem, and then go on bravely.

We will be very uncomfortable when we encounter setbacks, the more uncomfortable we are, the more we want to escape from such a situation, and make it difficult for us to complete the task and more likely to produce frustration, which seems to be an unsolvable mystery, today we will talk about this topic, hoping to give you the strength to find the answer to the mystery