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Nowadays, there are indeed a lot of single men in rural areas, and the reason why they have never been married is actually only a small part of the reason why they can't get the bride price. The most important thing is that their own conditions are too poor to find a better half, or they themselves have no plans to get married at all. <>
Their own conditions are too poor, and it is difficult to find the other half.
In the countryside, there are some boys who are not only not financially well-off, but also very unmotivated, and can even be said to be unprofessional. They don't have a serious job at all, and they are idle every day, only knowing how to go around the village. In fact, there are a lot of girls nowadays who don't have so much material at all, if a boy is really very positive and sunny, and willing to be motivated, then they will not be very demanding about the amount of bride price, even if the girl's family may not agree, then she will try her best to persuade, choose to work hard with the boy in the future, and live a better life.
And for boys like those whose own conditions themselves are particularly poor and who don't want to make progress every day, girls will naturally choose to stay away. And some matchmakers in the countryside will naturally not look for new people for him after introducing several objects to such a boy and all of them have failed. <>
I have no plans to get married.
Now the gap between rural and urban areas is getting smaller and smaller, and many young people in cities and towns have begun to move to rural areas. In this case, many single men in rural areas today are not unable to get married, but they have a very clear plan for their future, and want to do a good job in their careers first, first have a certain economic foundation, and then get married. <>
Therefore, even if their own conditions are actually very good, and they can even be said to be excellent, but for the sake of their own future, they have temporarily put aside their marriage, even if someone wants to introduce them to the other half, they will politely refuse.
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It's not like that, the main reason is that they are not good enough, they are not self-motivated, and they are not ambitious, so they can't marry a wife.
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It's not that they can't get the bride price, and they don't want to let the money go to waste, many people don't want to marry rural people, and they won't be stable, they don't want to be wronged, they can't live long at all, and there are people who cheat on marriage.
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It's not that I can't get the bride price money, but because my personality is too withdrawn, I don't have any interest, and my horizons are not broad enough, so I'm single.
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It's not like that, the main reason is that these men are not good enough, so they can't marry their daughters-in-law and are still single.
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It's not all because you can't get the bride price. There are also many single men in rural areas who have no ability, are too honest, clumsy, and have relatively backward concepts, do not want to work hard to develop in the city, and just want to stay in the countryside and live a comfortable life. Often, such men are also not easy to find a partner.
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It is true that the bride price cannot be taken out, because the bride price in the countryside can now be said to be sky-high, and many families cannot afford it.
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Indeed, many of them are because they can't get the bride price money, and these men themselves are not strong.
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The stipulation is that the bride price must be controlled within 30,000 yuan, and there are also requirements for the number of tables for the banquet to prevent everyone from comparing with each other.
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It is not allowed to carry out ** ceremony, help more young people get married, and suppress ** ceremony.
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The new regulations of the marriage law issued by the state are mainly aimed at cheating marriage, and most of the policies are to protect the interests of the man.
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These people should lower their requirements and impress each other with their sincerity, and they can get married.
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These people will definitely be very miserable, they will beat singles, and they may also marry second-married girls, in short, they will not be very happy.
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If you can't get married, then you have to make money through your own efforts, and you can also find some women with lower standards.
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I think the bride price is compared with modern people and the heart of a good face has no meaning of the bride price, but the man married some even paid a very heavy price, in order to make up the number of the mother-in-law, at the expense of taking risks, and finally get a result that no one wants to see, the bride price can be wanted, according to the actual situation, if the man and woman have reached a consensus on voluntary marriage, please lovely mother-in-law according to the man's conditions to set the bride price requirements, men remember that it is a man who is not afraid of difficulties. If your conditions are not good, then step up to improve the conditions, and let the women go crazy for a while, this trend is irreversible. The more they are about to do it, not only will they not introspect, but they will only fuel their arrogance, which is called kicking their noses in the face!
Even after all the hardships in this way, don't be single and compromise like the real society! When a person is young, he can live casually, and what will happen in the future? For a lifetime?
Only when we marry a wife and have children can we have a home in the true sense of the word, be considered complete, and promote social harmony. The current imbalance of yin and yang is said to be a personal problem, and it is also a sequelae of society.
I also have two male tickets in my family, so I don't dare to take risks in this momentum. I.
Tell your sons: Work hard to make money, those ugly people are weird, don't look at them with your eyes. When you have everything, there are a lot of big girls!
I've lived most of my life, and I still don't know the difference between fresh rice and leftovers? Men always remember one thing: start a business first, then start a family!
It is considered that the word compromise with life is inappropriate, and it is more appropriate to face real life correctly, because in a social environment where there is a serious imbalance between men and women and a huge disparity in economic income, it is necessary to admit the cruelty of real life.
Don't always say that a man is not qualified to marry if he has no money! This is tantamount to completely linking money and marriage, and it has become a kind of business!
A reasonable bride price is respect and tradition, and an unreasonable amount of money ......It feels like blackmail!
There's not much to say, there won't be too many people in today's society who 'go bankrupt' just to get married!
Even the richest families don't easily settle for huge cash gifts.
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Yes. In the south, there are more bride prices to be given to the woman at weddings, more than 100,000 yuan. Many boys choose to be single because of the huge bride price, housing, children, etc.
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Yes, because a person's ability is limited, it is not an overnight thing to earn back so much bride price, and some boys are very unwilling to take this bride price, so they would rather choose to be single.
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Because some men choose to get married, just to cope with this so-called obligation, but the bride price is too expensive, they feel that it is not cost-effective, so they choose to be single.
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I don't think so, because the bride price is not much, a boy can save enough money for the bride price in 3 to 5 years, if it is just for the bride price, he should not choose to be single.
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If it is only for the bride price, it should not be a problem, the key problem is to ask for a house and a car, so that the pressure on the boy will be very great, and he will choose to be single.
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The bride price money is given to a small family to start a family, and it is not the parents-in-law who pay the woman's child support, so it should be supported, but it cannot be borrowed.
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I will try my best to discuss Bu Qi with my mother-in-law, if I still refuse to agree, then I have nothing to do, then her family doesn't want me to enter the house at a glance, and there is no need to entangle it anymore.
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I will cut it first and then play, and never give money, if it really doesn't work, then I have to forget it, it's a big deal that fate is not enough under self-comfort.
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Not getting married, in fact, marriage is just a formality, marrying someone you don't love is doomed to failure, it is better to die alone.
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I will communicate with the woman and tell her that I love him, but I really can't afford the bride price, can I reduce it?
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I don't think it's about the countryside, but the bride price is too high for the boy to bear.
Rural wedding gifts are heavy, there are many rules, and family affection is heavy. The man must buy the house and the car, and the woman's name must be written on the house; The bride price of 200,000 is not less, and the dowry is not included! Many young men in the city are reluctant to pay such a heavy wedding gift, coupled with the current atmosphere of "moving without moving" and "thousands of dollars", resulting in many urban boys being reluctant to take girls from the countryside.
Sometimes it becomes a big burden, so it is often difficult for young men in the city to receive home education.
Marrying a rural girl is equivalent to marrying her family. The brother-in-law marries a daughter-in-law, and the man must pay more. If you don't want to do it, you will get a divorce if you can't do it; The woman's family runs errands, and the man has to pay for the doctor, and if he is unwilling, he will divorce if he can't; To provide for the mother-in-law and the father-in-law, the man has to pay for the end, and if he can't do it, he will get a divorce.
This reason also leads to the reluctance of many urban boys to take rural girls.
dragged him and his parents into the water to alleviate poverty for the woman's family, affecting the lives of his parents, him, and future generations. If you are looking for a girl in the city, you will have to marry, and the two parents will help the young couple together, and live a happy life, without so many bad things. Therefore, those rural girls who run to the city can't be in the city, their thoughts stay in the singles village, and now it's not easy to think about moving in, the law doesn't care about men and women, anyway, it protects the propertied people.
In areas where there are more men and fewer women, it is difficult for men to marry wives, and they have to make up enough money for the bride price for smashing pots and selling iron. In big cities, there are many choices for men who have a house, and marriage is a partnership system, thinking about getting something for nothing, and men don't want to marry at all. In areas with high housing prices, the relationship between men and women in marriage is comrades-in-arms, and they are comrades-in-arms in the face of this cruel world together and solve various problems in life, and the premise is that they must not be held back.
Those who don't have the strength will be eliminated.
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Isn't it normal to ask a man for a bride price? If a boy in the city does not marry a rural woman because she asks her for a bride price, then he is prejudiced against a rural woman.
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Because there are very few rural women in real life, their values will be much different from those of urban boys.
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I think it varies from person to person, and in some places their customs and habits are like this, and they don't care about the amount of the bride price, but many urban boys will not marry rural women who ask for a bride price, probably because he can't accept this kind of marriage.
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I am afraid that the woman's family will not return the dowry or a small amount of dowry at the same time as the high bride price, and there are many relatives in the countryside, and there are many heavy gifts during the New Year's holidays, and I am afraid that the woman's parents will have no economic income when they are old, and the burden of providing for the elderly will be heavy.
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Because of the difference in values, the impact of different values is very large, and it can directly change the fate of two people, so it is said that the world view of boys in the city is relatively open, and naturally they will not marry rural women.
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Because of the different living conditions, it is inevitable that they will go to the countryside, and after being in the city for a long time, they don't want to be together and don't want to go back.
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They feel that it is not worth it to find a rural girl without a dowry, and to give a bride price. Under the same conditions, the boys in the city must prefer the girls in the city, and the mother-in-law can help take care of the children in the future, and the parents of both sides will support the small family from all aspects of the economy.
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Because I feel that they have some concept generation gap, and I feel that if I ask for too much bride price, it is a bit like selling my daughter.
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One has no money, the other has no house; Nowadays most girls want to go to the city.
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