The bride price is a custom left over from ancient times to the present, but why are men reluctant t

Because there is no money. Now it costs a lot of money to marry a daughter-in-law, and it is difficult for men to earn money, so they are reluctant to leave.

Personally, I think it's not that men nowadays are unwilling to pay the bride price, and the current bride price men can't afford it at all.

The bride price is acceptable within two years of the family's net income, but the woman is not allowed to file for divorce within five years, otherwise it will be returned, so as to prevent anyone from making a fortune with the bride price.

In fact, it's not that I don't want to pay it, but now the bride price is frighteningly high in some places, beyond the scope of personal bearing, resulting in increased pressure, and I am unwilling to give the bride price.

Because the times have progressed, and now the way of life has changed, the bride price is a custom, and it is not applicable to the current era, and now men are of course reluctant to go out.

Because now men feel that women are very independent, women have been working hard to move forward, and men have been retreating, men always feel that women are particularly insatiable, and very money-worshipping, and feel that women are not good, so they are slowly unwilling to pay a bride price.

Because many women are very realistic now, they often ask for some sky-high bride price when they ask for a bride price, so it will make men very disgusted.

Because the bride price demanded by women is very high, hundreds of thousands to hundreds of thousands, all of them are ordinary people, and many families can't afford it at all, so men are becoming more and more reluctant to give the bride price, which is also their sore spot.

Because the current bride price is ridiculously high, for men, they can't earn this money in their lifetime, and they can't take out so much money.

Because the bride price can be a burden for many men, and now the bride price is getting higher and higher, and many people can't afford it.

This is because people now feel that the cost of marriage is relatively high, such as the need for a house, and also need a car, so the burden on the family is also heavier.

Because now there are some men who feel that the bride price is too much for the woman, and they simply can't accept the price. But I think you must have a bride price when you get married, because it can tell if the other party really cares about you.

Because today's men feel that such behavior is selling their daughters, and it will also cause a certain burden to their parents, they are reluctant to pay a bride price.

Because the current development is too fast, everyone's economic strength has improved, so some families will get higher and higher in her bride price, so that some boys can't afford it, so now there are many families who are unwilling to pay the bride price.

Because now girls are getting better and better, and the bride price is asking for more and more, so men are reluctant to go out.

Maybe it's because there's too much social pressure, and I think that if men and women are equal, it shouldn't be like this, or maybe it's too much to pay.

Men are reluctant to come out at any time, but the current culture is more open, and these things can be announced.

In reality, of course, the normal bride price is willing to pay. But part of the bride price has deteriorated, like a lion opening his mouth to seize the opportunity to extort generally, once in a lifetime, don't miss the opportunity, because the woman also has to help her brother and brother marry a daughter-in-law to save money for the bride price, and there is also a problem of face, the man and the woman are not very rich, but they have to try their best to support the façade, and some places have formed such a vulgarity, comparing with each other, and dying to save face and suffer crimes, so that the man exhausts his family wealth and even goes into debt. The most humane should be to look at the strength of the families of both parties to determine the amount of the bride price, the bride price is only the meaning of etiquette, and the amount of the bride price should not become a bargaining chip for marriage.

Wealthy women's families don't care much about the amount of bride price, and will measure the man's family strength before marriage, or pay more attention to the man's character, and use the bride price as a bargaining chip for marriage, because there is no money, so they will pay more attention to money.

It's unaffordable, it's not promising! The main thing is to take advantage of more!

Simply because the divorce rate is too high nowadays

The vices that have been unpopular since ancient times were abolished after liberation. Only now there is a resurgence and interference.

Chastity before marriage has been a tradition since ancient times, so why don't women observe it now?

This is a very normal thing to collapse brotherhood, after all, parents have spent so much energy to raise their children to grow up in orange shirts, and it is understandable that Yuanyan wants a bride price, and these bride prices will be given to the children, so that they can start their own businesses, I wish you all the best.

The bride price has always been of far-reaching significance.

The bride price originated in the Zhou Dynasty, and the marriage etiquette in the Zhou ceremony was divided into six rites, namely, Nacai, asking for names, Najib, Nazheng, inviting the period, and welcoming in person.

And Nacai is the "gift of Naqi Cai", that is, the ceremony in which the man proposes marriage to the woman, and the two parties agree on marriage.

Usually, Nacai only needs a pair of live geese to express his word and faith.

There is another important link in the Six Rites: Recruitment.

After going through the first few steps and the marriage is basically finalized, the man sends someone to send the engagement to the woman's house, for example, in the pre-Qin period, it was valuable hard currency such as cloth and deerskin, and later it developed into money and property, and even shops and real estate.

And the gifts given by these men have become the customary bride price in later generations.

In the past, the meaning of the bride price was like this.

In the new era, the meaning of the bride price is different.

For men, the bride price is about commitment and respect for women.

There is a saying: "Some women want a bride price, not really a bride price, but want to see the other party's attitude towards marriage?" ”

I think so.

Because some people really don't really want a bride price, but just to see the other party's attitude towards themselves.

As the saying goes: "A man who is willing to spend money for you does not necessarily love you, and a man who is unwilling to spend money for you must not love you." ”

For a woman, many times she just wants the man's attitude towards marriage.

Therefore, for men, giving a bride price has always had a deep meaning.

A man takes the initiative to give a bride price, which is not only a promise to a woman, but also a respect for a woman.

Because of the man's behavior of taking the initiative to give the bride price, in the eyes of the female Tong Bu people, he has a feeling of being respected and valued.

Sometimes, being poor and being perfunctory are really two different things.

Bride price is a custom in traditional Chinese weddings, but it has not existed since ancient times. The bride price originated during the Zhou Dynasty in ancient China, when the bride price was more of a sign of respect and appreciation for the woman than an exchange of material wealth.

Over time, the bride price gradually evolved into a symbol of marriage transactions, especially during the Ming and Qing dynasties. At that time, the amount of the bride price and the number of items became an important indicator of the economic strength and social status of the man's family.

However, in modern society, with the advancement of women's status and the change of values, people's perception of the bride price has also changed. More and more people believe that excessive bride price is beyond the scope of reasonableness, and even becomes a violation of women's rights.

Therefore, in recent years, China and all walks of life are advocating the abolition of excessive bride price, calling for a return to the love and mutual respect of marriage itself. Some localities have even introduced regulations to limit the amount of bride price to protect the rights and interests of newlyweds.

In conclusion, bride price, as a part of traditional Chinese wedding customs, has existed historically, but it has not existed since ancient times. With the development of society and the change of concepts, the meaning and form of bride price are constantly adjusting and changing.

The son who was married before knew that it was his own without a paternity test, and his wife was in perfect health before he got married, and it only belonged to you after marriage. There is also the fact that women at home have no right to speak, and they can't go to the hall when they eat, etc., do you want to be rational or equal?

We need to maintain some fine traditions, but we also need to abandon some bad habits and customs, modern people get married is to combine two young people into a new family, the bride price can be had, this is a heart is also a custom, is a grateful thank you to the woman's parents. But it is not possible to extract wealth from the other party in this form. The bride price must be within the scope of the man's family's affordability, and it is immoral to increase the price at zero hour under various pretexts.

A man of marriageable age in an ordinary family, from graduating from college to getting married, is about 15 years at most, we take the annual income of 200,000 as the standard, (taking Chengdu as an example, this income is considered to be the upper middle level), 15 years, it is 3 million. But in these 15 years, there must be living expenses, we don't have to calculate it carefully, just calculate it with a rough one. A year's living expenses, sophistication, commuting, gatherings, buying clothes, etc., 50,000 a year should not be too much.

In 15 years, 750,000 will have to be removed, and there will be 2.25 million left. We won't count the rest.

The houses from the third ring to the fourth ring of Chengdu are basically more than 20,000 houses in slightly better locations, with two areas of West Gate and South Gate. The east gate and the north gate may not be looked down upon by many young people. A 120-square-meter house has to be close to 3 million, and the decoration has to be 300,000, right?

If you don't have the support of your parents and want to complete the house purchase, buy a car, fall in love and get married, you can basically only fall in love, as for getting married and buying a house, ......How much do you think you should have? Therefore, the bride price can be had, but it cannot be excessive. Don't talk about whether those men have the ability or not, those who have the ability will only walk with those who have ...... abilitySavor it.

The new family will have a new life, and both parents will have their own retirement. If the man is in debt because of the bride price, you will not be happy after marriage.

Because the bride price required by a woman to get married is very high, from tens of thousands to hundreds of thousands to hundreds of thousands, and now hundreds of thousands, some ordinary families simply cannot afford it, which is why men are very reluctant to bride price.

Because they all want to marry someone who doesn't want a bride price, they feel that doing so is true love, and the bride price in recent years is too high, and they can't afford to pay such a high bride price.

This is because with the development of society, many bride price problems have risen to a height, and the bride price is constantly raised, resulting in many boys feeling too much pressure. Therefore, the bride price is very rejected.

This is because when many people get married, they have relatively high requirements for their men, in addition to asking for a sky-high bride price, and then they also require a house, a car and a stable job.

After looking at the others, let's talk about it here:

1. If you ask your wife to be "complete", you must first "finish" yourself

2. The wife's fertility situation corresponds to the husband's economic situation [i.e., the wife is responsible for giving birth and childbearing, and the husband is responsible for raising and upbringing].

3. Don't objectify women.

First of all, I want to apologize for my previous remarks, because I am from Chengdu, and we Chengdu girls have never had the concept of "bride price" when they get married, and the "dowry" is only a material guarantee that the girl's parents are prepared to give the girl for personal use in case the man abuses the girl, and the man has no right to use it or have the right to intervene.

So I used to use the simple and crude sentence "We Chengdu girls don't want bride price" under the relevant questions, so this sentence was used by many cunning "men" as a tool to shirk the man's responsibility, relying on the material security of the girl when she got married.

The reason why we Chengdu girls don't want a bride price is because all the man's materials are handed over to the girl after marriage, at least the salary card is to be handed over to the girl, when my dad proposed to my mother, he took the initiative to find my foreign bus to wait for his own economic situation, and then handed over all the passbooks he participated in the work to my grandfather to prepare for the wedding, my grandfather didn't want it, because we Chengdu people focus on the man's mind and sense of responsibility for the family, as long as the girl is sure that the man is happy and has true feelings, My daughter will not be cheated if she follows this man, and she will not care about material things, and although my father's income is not all handed over to my mother after marriage, my mother will not accept it, but if my mother wants it, it will all be in charge of my mother, and my mother will not accept it because my father gives me enough security to make my mother not care who is in charge of the family's finances. Anyway, I never saw my parents fight over finances when I was a kid. My mom spent money and my dad never stopped it.

Therefore, whether to accept the "bride price" depends on the safety of the man to the girl and the girl's family, the more secure it is, the more trustworthy it is, the more it cares about the bride price, the more poor the mountain and bad water, the more concerned the man's family, the more uneasy the woman's family, the more material security for her daughter, and it must reach the point where the man suffers, to the point that the man will not be able to raise a second wife outside in his life.

I have this change of mind, but also because I found it after reading the postpartum mother's post on the Internet, after the man's family gave tens of thousands of dowries, he didn't give the girl living expenses, and the girl didn't give it after giving birth, and the little dowry money collected by the girl was spent in the hospital when she gave birth, and the money for confinement had to be helped by her mother's family, not to mention what to do with the cost of raising a child later,,, what if you really meet this kind of man's family, what if you don't want more bride price?