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The remnants of feudal thinking, some elders are very conservative, and have a lot to do with the surrounding environment, some remote rural areas, if there is a son is a very glorious thing, if you don't have it, it seems to feel inferior, always feel that the son is passed on to the next generation, and the daughter is someone else's when she marries out, so they all give birth to ten or eight for a son. In fact, the son is not very filial, there is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time, but the daughter is intimate and quiet, I don't know how much heart can be saved. Don't take it to heart, and don't care about the behavior of the elderly, they are sometimes more like children when they are older, and it is not easy for the elderly to live their lives.

No matter how they treat you, you are a junior, you must be tolerant and generous, be filial, people are emotional animals, if you treat them well, they can feel it, and in turn they will change their opinions.

That's right. Some feudal people are like that.

In the old old ideas. Boys are the workforce. You can take care of your home and your home. Succession.

Girls grow up to be someone else's.

It's much better now. But there are still patriarchal ones. We have a patriarchal grandmother right next door.

Never hit her little grandson. But she can beat her little granddaughter and kick her with her feet. I told her this morning.

Grow up quickly. Leaving home. It's good to go back when you have achievements. Ha.

In fact, your grandmother is also very pitiful like this The woman in the past was actually really pitiful and was bound by her own fate all her life In fact, why not now A woman has been for her children and her husband all her life This is the most painful thing for women.

People think boys can do it, girls can't!

Patriarchal people all think that girls are going to get married, and they are from someone else's family, but sons can be passed on to the next generation and send them to the end of their lives.

Since the remnants of this feudal ideology from ancient times to the present cannot be completely eliminated at once, especially the older generation, the concept of patriarchy is more affirmative in their minds. Because of this feudal thinking, some people subconsciously believe that boys are the foundation of passing on the family and continuing the family fireworks.

There are many specific examples, for example, there are still some incomprehensible customs in some parts of our country: men and women are engaged but not married, and they decide to have children before they decide. If the son is lucky, the mother-in-law will take the woman for a wedding in a sedan chair.

If you give birth to a daughter, you will not even get a marriage certificate, and you will continue to give birth to a son.

As the saying goes"The water spilled by the married daughter"In the traditional concept, people think that after their daughters are raised and married, they will become in-laws, and they will not come like water spilled out. Unlike raising a boy, when you grow up, you can inherit the family business and marry a daughter-in-law to continue the incense. Therefore, the idea of raising a daughter to marry is always a loss.

Whether you give birth to a boy or a girl, it is the same, and this concept has gradually taken root in the hearts of the people. However, there is still a patriarchal preference in daily life. Specifically, the preference for sons over daughters is reflected in the fact that boys inherit the family property, boys go to better schools, and take more considerate care of boys.

1. The boy inherits the family property, and the girl has no share.

In some families, the property is divided among the boys, while the girls do not. ......This is the most obvious manifestation of patriarchal preference. ......At the same time, such an approach is also unreasonable.

But in everyday life, such a phenomenon is indeed very common. It can be seen that the phenomenon of patriarchy exists in the hearts of many people.

2. Let boys go to better schools, and girls may even drop out.

Some families have different attitudes towards boys and girls when it comes to arranging for their children to go to school. ......For the boy, the family will give him more resources to go to a better school. ......As for girls, the family does not care too much, and hastily arranges things, and some girls can only drop out of school at home.

This phenomenon is also a reflection of the preference for sons.

For some families, the attitude towards boys and girls is the same, but in reality boys are often more cared for and loved. ......For example, what a boy wants is often satisfied, while what a girl wants is pushed back ......These small things in daily life can also reflect the problem of patriarchy. ......All of the above things that happen in daily life are very common.

These things show that there is still a problem of preference for sons in the minds of many people.

Personally, I think that although equality between men and women has been advocated now, there are still many people who still prefer sons over women. It is mainly manifested in the following points:

First, he advertises himself to the outside world as equals, but he can deliberately favor his son in action.

Second, pamper the daughter and give the property to the son. On the surface, he regarded his daughter as the pearl of his palm, but in fact, he deprived his daughter of her inheritance rights, and even started the idea of her daughter's bride price, and did not hesitate to sacrifice her daughter's happiness in order to get more money. Third, he accommodates his daughter in small things, and helps his son in big things.

Fourth, he asked his daughter to support his old age, but used the money given by his daughter to subsidize his son.

Summary: Although the idea of patriarchy is deeply rooted in China, it is the dregs of traditional culture after all, and we need to abandon it. Parents must constantly correct themselves in thinking and behavior, so that every child can grow up healthy and happy.

Deeply influenced by traditional thinking, I always think that boys can pass on the lineage, and girls are people from other people's families after all.

Don't ponder some unnutritious problems to confuse yourself and other people's affairs, don't worry about it, and don't try to change other people's minds.

My grandfather, my father, and my mother were all patriarchs. Let's start with my grandfather, who has only been close to my brother since I was a child, and treats me like a stranger, with almost no feelings.

The most important thing is that my dad is not low in education, and my mom is also a modern woman, so how can they also favor sons over daughters. Since I was a child, my brother has had good academic performance, and my grades are not bad. But my mother always said that mine was not, that my brother sang well, and that I sang out of tune, so that when I was asked to sing in ** class, I didn't dare to sing, and my self-esteem was hurt.

When I was busy on the farm, when I was helping to clean up the keys, my mother said that I was not as strong as my brother, and she yelled at me almost every year. When I was a child, I harvested wheat not by machines, but by manpower. A few days before the year, ready to eat for the New Year, one day is to be specially fried, every day to the liquid Qiao, my parents are very busy, when I help with the work, I will always be yelled at by my parents because of something not done well, I remember that I have to cry once a year on that day, I have been afraid of that day.

When I graduated from junior high school, I really wanted to go to high school, and my parents knew about it. I was a few points behind the score line of the first high school in the county, and I was able to go to the second middle school, and I paid all the books in advance. On the day of registration, my grandfather blocked me, saying that the girl should go to a secondary school, and what should I do if I can't get into college after high school?

What are you talking about, when it's my brother, aren't you afraid that you won't be able to get into college? Eventually, my parents sent me to the normal school. The truth is, my brother had to go to college.

Well, I don't have to spend that money. It has always been a regret that I didn't go to high school.

My brother and I are both married, and my father wants to buy a house for my brother, and to buy a house, I need a city hukou, so I used my hukou to buy a house for my brother. My dad said I couldn't afford it, but he could afford it for my brother, so let him use it first. At that time, the money he saved for me was also used, and my brother didn't have to pay a penny.

Later, because the name was mine, my brother-in-law and my mother had a quarrel, and my mother actually said that I should write a note for my brother. That day, I cried all the way home on my motorcycle. My brother did all the procedures for buying a house, and I was happier than I was buying a house myself, but what did I get in exchange for in the end?

Later, I saved some money, bought a car, and happily called my mother **, but I couldn't hear the slightest voice happy for me. Later, my dad bought my brother a car, and my mom was so happy to call me Zhengxiao**!

What age is this, and you are still so patriarchal?