My grandma and mom don t get along, how can I be good

What a granddaughter! There is both filial piety and a sense of justice. Attaboy!

As you can see from your description, your mother is a bit stubborn and a little impatient. And the level of education is not high. In this case, I have reason to say that she doesn't think a lot about things when she does things, and the harm caused to your grandmother may not be known to her, but more often, it is unintentional harm.

But unintentional harm is also a kind of fault, and it cannot be used as an excuse to continue hurting grandma and others.

You are now a child or a student in school, so it is impossible for you to point out your mother's mistakes in a righteous manner. What you have to do is tactfully point out the shortcomings of your mom doing this, such as writing letters. You also have to take more care of your grandmother in life, such as giving your grandmother something delicious to taste first, and helping your grandmother do what she can.

If you can find a dad to do it with, you will get twice the result with half the effort.

I hope you can solve this problem soon.

Write a letter to your mom. Although naïve. But we're not together.

It won't be embarrassing to say it.

The semantics are real. Be reasonable, too. Talk to your mom for advice.

What about myself in life more considerate and helpful grandma.

Let grandma be in a better mood, if mom hasn't changed much.

You don't have to argue with your mother either. You can take grandma out for a walk.

Try to avoid conflicts between mom and grandma when they meet.

You are also older, you should communicate more with your mother, you can talk to your mother calmly, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts have existed since ancient times, maybe some things are much better. You can say to your mother for example, if she becomes a mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law does the same to her, what will she think? Everyone has a heart, and we must compare our hearts with our hearts.

Tell your dad to teach your mom! Or you said to your mother that if you treat my grandmother like this again, I will treat you like this when you get old! Scare her!

Persuade your mother moreGrandma is such an old person, don't hurt the old man's heart too much

Your mom is menopausal, right?Why didn't you offend her, just do this to your grandmaThere's always a reason.

<> shouldn't tell your mother, but talk to your grandmother about your mother's goodness.

1. The Tianfu Star of a family is rooted in ambition. That is, to take the well-being of the whole family as its own responsibility and benefit the family.

2. The upper part should respect the elderly, and the lower part should love the young. With gratitude, we will perfect everything and make the family harmonious.

3. Promote the merits of the elderly and ancestors to their children, be an example of filial piety for their children, and enlighten future generations with gratitude for the kindness of their ancestors.

4. Don't arrange the elderly to do things, they can do what they like, but they should care more about the elderly and often persuade them to rest more.

5. Parents are the beginning of humanity, the way of yin and yang, yin is the mother, and yang is the father. Yin and yang are in harmony in order for all things to grow, yin and yang are incompatible, mental pain, and love is not compatible, that is, the children born must be of a bad nature, or lack of children.

6. Parents are the first teachers of children, and the family is the first school of children.

7. Whether a child is healthy or not has a lot to do with his mother, whether he has wisdom or not has a lot to do with his father, and whether he is virtuous or not depends on whether his parents often do things with happy love and behave as a person.

8. If the children are disobedient and unfilial, they must first ask themselves whether they are not filial to the elderly and whether they are doing something wrong. The superiors do not recognize the merits of their parents, and the subordinates are not in place to educate them.

You can find an opportunity to alleviate the conflict between two people, if you tell your mother directly, it may intensify the conflict between two people, to find the contradiction between two people, in order to best solve the problem.

No, it feels like it will make the relationship between the two worse, but I think it's okay to talk about it on both sides to ease the relationship.

I don't think you should tell "Mom", this will destroy the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it will change the relationship between your "Mom and Grandma", and it will also cause quarrels between them, and at the same time, this behavior of "Grandma" is also wrong, and "Grandma" should be asked to find "Mom" calmly and say what is wrong with "Mom", so that Mom can correct it. This not only reflects the mother's wrongness, but also makes the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law better and better.

I don't feel like I should tell, you can listen to grandma say that mom is not good, and then you let mom correct it in your own tone

No. Positive and supportive words can only be spoken between family and friends.

Grandma can't take care of herself and comes to live in your house, Dad said that grandma was not good to Mom when she was young, and now Mom is not good to Grandma, do you feel very embarrassed?

It is said that not everyone has the quality of repaying virtue with resentment, but some people treated you very badly before, and now some people let you treat each other well, so it is difficult for some strong people, and the twisted melon is not sweet.

First of all, when your father says that your mother is not good to your grandmother, you have to make your father understand that your mother is not a nanny who serves your grandmother, everyone has the obligation to take care of your grandmother, and your grandmother is your father's real mother, and your father is the one who is most obliged to take care of her.

Your dad himself said that grandma was not good to your mother when you were young, and now your mother is also bad to grandma is also a normal person's reaction, so this is the bitter fruit of your grandma's own planting, and no one is qualified to accuse your mother of saying what she should do to your grandma, let your dad take the lead, and try to take care of grandma.

Mom doesn't have to take care of grandma's eating, drinking, and Lazar, and she doesn't have to prepare for grandma's food and clothing.

Don't say anything, we also want to take care of grandma but we don't have time, time is squeezed out of the sponge, will your dad have no time to change a cracked diaper for grandma after work and wash clothes, will your grandchildren have no time to clean the room for grandma when they come back from school?

Nowadays, many people are like this, they would rather waste time playing games than take care of the elderly, and then in turn accuse the person who takes care of the elderly, which is very immoral, I hope your family is not like this, otherwise it will be too unfair to your mother.

Of course, sometimes other family members really can't take time to take care of grandma, and the burden of taking care of grandma has to fall on the mother, but don't take the matter of taking care of grandma for granted, be more considerate of your mother's hard work, and often tactfully tell your mother that you are very sorry for her, and you are very grateful to her for taking care of grandma.

In return, when you have time, you can take care of your mother as a woman, buy her a small gift, and say a few thoughtful words to her, so that even if your mother is reluctant to take care of your grandmother, she will complain a little less.

There are some words that many people need to remember, the reason why a woman likes to complain so much is because no one treats her well, the reason why she loves to nag so much is because she is lonely, no matter how old her mother is, she is also a woman, and she also needs us to take care of her.