Children are cared for by the elderly, and it is better for parents to visit them often or not

Updated on society 2024-05-27
36 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    Of course, you have to visit often.

    It is your responsibility to take care of your children, and if you really have difficulties, you should also watch your children often and communicate with them more ideologically.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Of course, it's good to visit often, at least let the child know that her parents love her, because she can't be by his side because of work, every time you go to tell your child that you love her, don't let the child think that the parents don't love him, no one loves him, and the child who lacks love is prone to psychological problems.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    It is necessary to visit often, the baby is not around the parents and has lacked the love of the parents, to often see the baby to care about him, he can also know in time what he is growing up, and he will not be alienated from the parents.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Of course, it's good to visit often, first, don't you want children, and secondly, let children feel the love of their parents, don't want to be like a left-behind child, you can't see your parents a few times throughout the year.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Of course, it is good to visit often, children need parents, if you can't take care of your children for other reasons, you can only visit your children often.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Parents are definitely going to visit more? Don't you want to have a baby? And don't look at them for a long time, the baby will recognize you all for a long time!

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Of course, I have to visit, in the child's heart, no one can replace the parents, at this time, the child needs the parents the most.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    It must be good to visit more, otherwise the child will be alienated from you, and in addition, it is good for the child to grow up with you more contact.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Of course, it's good that my parents often visit, but I really can't let the elderly take care of it, otherwise it's better to bring it myself.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Of course, it's good to visit often, and I should be with my parents when I'm still there, and my grandparents can't replace my parents.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    I think it's better to visit often, so that I can connect with each other, and besides, I won't miss it so much.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Of course, it's good to visit often, do you want your children to feel like they don't have parents from an early age?

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    You should visit him often, even if you are not watching him, so that he can feel that you care about him all the time.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    You should often watch, but remember, if you can't take the child, don't go to see the child, and say that the grandparents are not good, which will make the baby disgusted with the grandparents, and let the baby have a sense of happiness! Remember not to make irresponsible remarks about the image of grandparents in the baby's heart.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Of course, it's good to visit often, and the baby still likes to be with his parents

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Of course, it's good to visit often, parents are always parents, and the elderly are irreplaceable!

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Be sure to visit you for a long time, so that you can increase your affection, and the child will not alienate you.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Of course, it's good to watch it often, so that you can have a sense of closeness with the baby, otherwise the baby will become very unfamiliar with his parents, and he doesn't want his parents to touch it.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Of course, you have to go to see your child often, so that your child will have the feeling of being cared for and valued, who doesn't like to be pampered by their parents, don't you say?

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    Of course, I visit it often.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    It is best to visit often, and the child should see his parents often. Otherwise, when they grow up, the relationship between children and parents is not good, and it is difficult to discipline.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    You must watch it often, otherwise the child will not be close to his parents in the future, and it is recommended to take the child with him to avoid being alienated in the future.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    This must be better to watch often, and let the child know that his parents love him, and he has to stay with his parents.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    It is best to visit often, and it is best to bring your own to increase the parent-child relationship.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    Children who lack father's love and mother's love when they are young are prone to personality defects when they grow up, so it is best to keep them by their side when they are young.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    It's better to look at the child more, let the child know that his parents also love him very much, and he can't give birth to a child and ignore it.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    If you have the conditions, it is better to carry it yourself, and the elderly will generally be overly spoiled. It can also lead to the baby's complaining about his parents.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    There is no substitute for fatherly love and motherly love. Even if conditions permit. Babies should always be by their parents' side.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    It is best for the children to be taken by the parents themselves, at least they should spend more time with the children to improve the quality of companionship.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    The old man likes children, which is understandable, I am not the kind of bad person who does not want children to contact with the elderly, although the living habits of grandpa and grandma are far from the standard of my baby, but I have never prevented children from getting close to the elderly.

    But there are really a lot of thunders for the elderly and children, and they can't explode for a while, but they will bury the fuse.

    Count the changes in your child over the course of a week:

    1. Don't sleep at noon, and fall asleep in the evening.

    In the past, the children's work and rest time was very regular, sleeping for 2 hours after lunch and dinner, drinking milk and washing at 8:30 p.m., and preparing to go to bed at 9:00 p.m.

    Now, whether to sleep or not depends on the mood, at noon excited on hi, I said sleep, all to stop, the child is not sleepy, what sleep, the result of not sleeping, is seven or eight o'clock in the evening, sleepy crying and noisy, drinking milk and closing eyes to sleep, washing and bedtime preparation.

    2. I watched TV at noon and fell asleep, and I was high until 11 o'clock at night.

    The child is more than 2 years old, my TV has not been turned on, she shouts at the TV all day long, but follow the elderly, look at the baby bus all day long, without stopping, sometimes at noon look at it and see that he collapsed and fell asleep, no wonder some people say that as long as you can go out, it can be very easy to take a child. With a lunch break at noon, there is no sleepiness at night, my eyes are glued to the TV, my mother doesn't want it, toys are not rare, and picture book stories are overshadowed. stayed up until she was so sleepy that she couldn't open her eyes, and avoided the washing link she hated the most, and fell asleep directly.

    3. Blatantly asking for snacks and candy, with a bad attitude.

    I said that I didn't let the child eat snacks casually, so my grandmother hid the bulk snacks she bought at the big market and fed them to the children on my back. But forming a habit is not something that can be solved three times or two times, who will be responsible for the child.

    Fifth, drinking grandma asked to add powder, and when I checked it, it was actually a health care product eaten by the elderly.

    Milk powder for the child, the child shouted to add powder, I was full of doubts, grandma brought a small box, the packaging bag was one by one, opened is white powder, on which is written ionized calcium, food additives. I went to the Internet to check it, and it was written that it was recommended for children under 18 years old to consume with caution. The things that children import can be so casual, and I can only blame me for being too nervous.

    I can only comfort myself if I don't worry about it, it's someone's granddaughter, whether it's dirty or harmful, she has to bear it, of course, it's not that the old man has bad intentions, but he is kind and sometimes does some foolish things.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    Most of the time the baby is taken care of by the grandmother, under normal circumstances, the child and who get along for a longer time, then the status of this person in their hearts is also very high, if the grandmother and the baby get along for a long time, then the child will care about the grandmother very much, when they need help, the first person they look for is the grandmother. Therefore, I feel that the elders have a greater influence on children.

    Because the age of the children is still relatively young, they may have been born by their mothers, and they have been with their mothers for a while, but because the mother is busy with her own work, and the child is sent to grandma to take care of her, for a long time to stay with grandma, the child will gradually become familiar with the smell of grandma, and will also like grandma's voice, in the child's heart, grandma's status will be higher than that of mother. If the grandmother spends a lot of time with the child, then the child will be very dependent on the grandmother, but the mother and the child spend very little time together, although the child is very fond of the mother when he is born, but without the company of the mother for a long time, they will also find a new goal and choose to trust the grandmother. When sleeping or eating, if grandma is not around, they are also insecure.

    There are many parents who will throw their children to the elders for their own careers, in fact, these children lack the care of their parents since childhood, their lives are also very difficult, they will miss their parents very much, but their parents do not come back to visit them for a long time, they will gradually be disappointed in their parents and give up their parents. When the parents are by their side, the first position in their hearts may be their parents, but if their parents do not accompany them for a long time, the first position in their hearts will become grandparents or grandparents. Therefore, parents must accompany their children more, do not let their children lack a sense of security, and let their children grow up in the care of their parents.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    Elders have a greater influence on children, and elders spend more time with children, so most of the education children receive comes from parents.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    I think that my mother has a great influence on the sedan chair child, and if I am separated from my mother for a long time, it will make my child suffer from separation anxiety, and this is not conducive to the growth of the child.

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    I think mothers have a big influence on their children. Because children will listen to their mothers very much, and they will also imitate some of their mother's behavior and habits.

  35. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    1. Since the parents are alive and have not been deprived of guardianship rights and have the ability to perform guardianship obligations, grandparents cannot be designated as guardians.

    2. There is an order for legal guardians, first of all, the father and mother, followed by the spouse, and then the adult children. Disenvy.

  36. Anonymous users2024-01-07

    Baijia No. 1Since you let go, you have to rest assured.

    Since the child is left in the care of the elderly, parents must rest assured. After all, it's your own grandparents and grandparents, and you can't abuse your children! If parents don't let go, the elderly will also feel ugly.

    It is normal for children to cry and make trouble, parents should not make a big fuss, and after handing over to the elderly, parents should be calm.

    2.For the wrong behavior of the elderly, it is better to say afterwards than to face to face.

    It is undeniable that some elderly people have outdated ideas and concepts, and they will also use more traditional methods when raising children. For example, if you wear too many clothes for your child because you are afraid that your child will catch a cold, your child will sweat because of too much clothing, and he will be more likely to catch a cold. Parents should never confront the elderly face to face when looking at such things, and they can talk to the elderly calmly afterwards, so as not to break the hearts of the elderly!

    3.If you don't contribute, you will pay more money to solve your worries.

    Parents are busy with work and can't spare more time to take care of their children, so please spend more money to solve the family's worries, such as buying more high-quality milk powder, rice noodles, diapers, etc., and buying more rice, flour, oil, meat and other living needs for the family. In this way, the elderly will be more comfortable taking care of their children.

    4.It's a good thing for old people to be strict with their children!

    Your own children will not feel too much no matter how much you beat and scold, and when others teach your own children, you will inevitably feel uncomfortable in your heart. This is actually wrong! If the elderly are strict with their children, it is actually a good thing, and blindly pampering will miss the child's life!

    5.Don't give too many toys to your child!

    In order to make up for their mistakes of not accompanying their children, many parents do not hesitate to buy a lot of toys to "make amends". This is a big mistake and very naïve! Toys are objects after all, and they cannot be replaced by family affection.

    6.You should still take more time out to take care of the children yourself!

    No matter how busy and tired you are at work, you should still find time to spend more time with your children. If the time during the day does not allow it, then there should be more parent-child interaction at night. Parents don't feel that they are busy all day, and it is not easy to relax in the evening, and the children should continue to be carried by the elderly.

    This is irresponsible! Grandparents take children, even if they love, they will never be able to give the warmth of father's love and mother's love, so please don't let your children lack this kind of love!

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