What are the strategies for interpersonal communication 20

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There are two forms of interpersonal communication: verbal and nonverbal. Verbal communication emits and receives verbal signals, and nonverbal communication emits and receives nonverbal signals.

Psychological research has shown that non-verbal signals have an interpretive effect on speech signals. When we speak, whether it is facial expressions, body postures, or voices, intonation, eyes, etc., all play a role in strengthening or weakening the meaning of language information; It can break through the limitations of language communication and express more complex inner world and subtle emotions.

1. Utilitarian principle:

The interaction between people is essentially a social exchange process, although this exchange is not exactly the same as the buying and selling relationship in the market, it not only has material exchange, but also emotion, information, service, etc., but it follows the same principle, people hope that the exchange is worth it for themselves, and hope that the gain in the exchange process is greater than the loss or at least equal to the loss. There is no reason to carry out unworthy exchanges, and there is no reason to maintain unworthy interactions, otherwise we will not be able to maintain our inner balance. Based on this tendency of values, we always maintain that people gain more than they lose or equal to lose in our dealings with others, so that others feel that it is worthwhile to associate with us, and only in this way can our relationships with others be maintained and developed.

Of course, this does not mean that we have to suffer losses, invest more and gain less.

Because the behavior that brings the greatest satisfaction to both parties in interpersonal communication, especially people who value inner emotions, they obviously value friendship over material things, and overestimate the value information of the other party, and feel that they always owe others affection, and in return, they often exceed the expectations of others. This kind of exchange makes both sides feel that the gains outweigh the losses, and the process of exchanges has a great value-added. We will all feel happy in the relationship, and the relationship will continue.

Of course, there are also people who value external material interests, and in the same way, their interactions will be impaired, unpleasant, and may be interrupted.

Second, the principle of self-protection:

This is a self-supporting tendency to maintain the establishment of self-worth and prevent self-worth from being denied. When watching the Chinese team play against foreign teams, we often feel that the referee is unfair to China, which has been integrated into our own wishes, because we highly hope that the side linked to our own honor and disgrace will win, we will be lenient and strict, and even hope that the other party will foul. In our memory, we remember a lot of the information that supports us, but we forget it slowly; On the contrary, they remember less and forget quickly.

When we are successful, we tend to attribute the reason for our success to ourselves to show that we are superior to others, when others are successful, we will attribute their achievements to external conditions, and we will think that they are lucky, and when we fail, we tend to think that others are not good to us, the environment or bad luck, and so on.

In order to establish and maintain good interpersonal relationships with others, it is necessary to actively support people's sense of self-worth, and it is necessary to avoid defensive tendencies of self-worth. If we deny someone and threaten their sense of self-worth, it will arouse the other person's strong motivation for self-preservation, cause others to strongly reject and reject us, and a good relationship cannot be established. Situational control principles.

Hello dear, it is a pleasure to serve you. The principle of equality: In interpersonal communication in socialist society, we must first adhere to the principle of equality.

Whether it is official or private, there is no distinction between high and low, and it is necessary to communicate as a friend in order to have a deep friendship.

The principle of compatibility: mainly psychological compatibility, that is, the harmonious relationship between people, the tolerance, inclusion, tolerance, and tolerance when getting along with others.

The principle of mutual benefit: refers to the mutual benefit of both parties. Interpersonal communication is a two-way behavior, so there is "come but not go."

Unreasonable", only unilateral benefits of interpersonal communication can not last.

1. When dealing with others, it is best not to say some unpleasant words, if these words must be said, such as some kind warnings to others, then you should also change the way of speaking, the way of suggestion, or the way of soliciting opinions, or even compare yourself, so that others will be more acceptable.

2. Many people don't pay attention to this at all, others are very angry, you just go up to tell people a lot of truths, saying that others are wrong here, that's not right, it's better to be silent at this time, or to say some comforting words, it is more appropriate, even if you don't say a word, quietly accompany her, it is better than you reasoning with others.

3. For the criticism of others, we must look at the degree of intimacy between you, for those who have a general relationship, can not criticize or do not criticize, for the relationship is particularly good, but also pay attention to some ways, do not be so direct, it is best to use a joke way, so that others are most acceptable.

4. For other people's praise and praise, you must not make people feel particularly hypocritical, so your praise should be aimed at specific things, you want to praise others for speaking well, that is, after others finish speaking, you will praise others, and others have not opened their mouths, you just say that you speak really good, it seems to be a joke, but in fact, it is like this in real life.

5. This is also a very important skill, you must use the way others like, others like to beat around the bush, you don't go straight, others like to listen to it very good, you don't say those ugly, the same words, expressed in different ways, the effect is very different.

The following are some of the strategies you need to pay attention to when communicating with people

1. Adhere to the principle of equality: The most basic principle of getting along with people is to insist on equality, only by respecting each other and treating each other as equals, the other party is willing to continue to get along.

2. Adhere to the principle of compatibility: The principle of compatibility is to respect people with different values, and what kind of situation will happen in the ever-changing environment. Not everyone has the same way of doing things, and not everyone faces the same situation, so the methods and methods of facing problems will naturally be different.

Only by tolerating and understanding each other can we have better exchanges.

3. Adhere to the principle of trust: mutual trust is the cornerstone of interpersonal relationships, just like sincerity. If you don't trust each other, you won't have good relationships. Stand in the position of others, be friends with others, trust others, and gain the trust of others with actions.

Here are the interpersonal skills:

1. When interacting with people, behave generously, be consistent with words and deeds, make people feel pleasant and trustworthy.

2. Remember other people's names, take the initiative to greet you when you encounter them, and address them appropriately, so that people feel valued and feel that you are a polite person.

3. The tone of speech must be easy-going, giving people a sense of approachability, not proud, blind and arrogant, making people feel unattainable.

4. Pay attention to the charm of language: comfort the traumatized and encourage the loser to endure the rock. Praise those who are truly successful, praise those who are struggling.

5. People who are decisive, assertive, energetic and confident can easily stimulate the motivation of others, gain the trust of others, and produce the charm of pleasant communication.

In interpersonal communication, we need to be improvised. When we want to ask someone for help, don't ask for help from the first place. If you don't know what to say, you can look at what is nearby at that time, and improvise to put forward the corresponding words.

Language synchronization means that we need to grasp the characteristics of the other person's speech, and try to use a language similar to him in the communication with him, so as to avoid the situation of poor communication.

It is also very important to see the object speak, and we must choose different communication skills according to different objects in order to prescribe the right medicine.

In addition, finding the other person's resonance points quickly can also promote interpersonal communication. If two people can't be interested and resonate in the process of communication, it will be difficult to carry on the conversation.

When communicating with others, it is best to think about what we need to say and what kind of words will appear appropriate, so as to avoid the situation of saying the wrong thing. Moreover, thinking before talking will make the conversation more efficient, and you will be able to grasp the important points in the conversation.

It is also essential to ask appropriate questions, which can not only understand more clearly what you do not understand, but also break the cold and deadlock at that time under certain circumstances.

Sometimes interpersonal communication does not necessarily have to be expressed in words, and stopping and listening quietly to the other person is also a very important way of communication, and listening at the right time can better promote communication between people.