How to live in a different place? How did you end up living in a different place?

You yourself say, how to maintain, this is also the most basic way, maintain, two people are in a different place, not terrible, terrible is to know how to maintain it is difficult, usually two people play **, chat about the day, send text messages, and tell each other about their work and life environment, what happens every day, the meaning of their daily life, occasional gatherings, occasional honesty, their own heart, the most important thing is to know how to operate.

Have a little more trust and understanding of each other's work and life. The most important thing is to be honest, although they are not together, they must tell him everything they want to say, they can't be wronged, they can't hold back, just like the natural way when they are together.

Get together when you have time, you go to him, or he comes to you. If the time is too short, you can find a compromise place and go on a trip together.

There are good and bad things about being in a different place, but the good thing is that it will make you cherish each other more, and the bad thing is that you can't be by each other's side.

When you are in a long-distance relationship, sometimes you feel lonely and helpless because you can't be by each other's side.

Girls are the most likely to feel this way, they have a boyfriend but they are still alone when they are sick and have something, so at this time they need the efforts of both parties.

Don't be vexatious, don't be distrustful.

In fact, if you have done all of this, and you still can't maintain your relationship in the end, you can have no regrets, because you have done everything you can.

The key to caring more about each other is not to doubt your relationship with each other. Time and space are not an issue.

Hit more**. Usually care more about each other, and see each other more on holidays. Finally, I wish you all happiness.

The three-year period is subject to change. Since you are ready to get married, the work may not be so important, and it is better for one of you to give up his own ear work, and love must stay together to blossom and bear fruit.

To be honest, it's really hard. My parents have seen each other, so let's just get married.

Feelings can't match the distance...

You have to think about your feelings, and if you really care about someone, don't let the time distance affect your feelings.

Actually, it's best to say that it's to work together in a city, and now it's a different place, so what about after getting married? Right, stay together as soon as possible.

Connect more and be together on holidays.

1. Since the first meeting, it has been a long place, I was still in graduate school at the time, and my girlfriend has already started working, 2. I have known each other for 8 months, and when I graduated from graduate school, I chose to work in the city where the school is located, but the place of work will change with the project, and I don't know where I will be in the potato bucket next year, so I did not consider settling in **. 、

3. I have known each other for 16 months, went home for the New Year's holiday, met my girlfriend's parents a year ago, took my girlfriend home to meet my parents after the year, and then really considered the issue of settling in **. My place of work is not fixed, regardless of where I work; The city where my parents are located, the salary is lower, and if I settle down, my girlfriend will have to move here and start over, plus I don't work from home, so I don't think about it; The city where my girlfriend is located belongs to a second-tier city, and then I decided to settle here.

4. After knowing each other for 16 months, the place of work has changed, the distance from home has been shortened by half, and the frequency of going home is much higher, but it is still a different place.

5. Know the 22 number of holes and the moon, start to find the best information, and after knowing for 24 months, the house is determined. There is no change in the place of work, it is still off-site.

6. I have known each other for 32 months, preparing for the engagement gift, or in a different place.

7. I have known each other for 33 months, taking wedding photos, or in a different place.

8. I have known each other for 34 months, and I am still married in a different place.

9. I have known each other for 35 months, obtained the certificate, or is in a different place.

10. I have known each other for 36 months, and I am ready to have a home for myself, or a different place.

11. I have known each other for 37 months, and I have a wedding, or I am in a different place.

Haven't figured out yet, how do you end living in a different place? Choose the right direction of development based on your existing work experience.

1. If there is a disagreement, it will be resolved immediately.

There are few opportunities for long-distance relationships to meet themselves, and once there is a conflict, the first thing to do is not to be cold and violent. Long-distance relationships are different from others, once they encounter differences with each other, if they don't solve them immediately, then they will always be deposited, and when the cold accumulates, it will become inevitable to break up.

Naturally, everyone wants to break up, so when there is a disagreement, see the other party to consider, learn to put down your face to find the other party, the boy is a little positive, lower the posture, and make the difference clear, girls in a long-distance relationship are all insecure, so sometimes admitting mistakes and warm words will become a tranquilizer for everyone to stick to it.

2. Communicate more.

Long-distance couples are all lonely in their hearts, living in different cities, only with the help of ** and the Internet to maintain their feelings, the girl is likely to get angry because of the undeserved love, which shows that the girl is insecure, and at this moment you must wait for the girl to calm down and talk calmly.

A girl's sense of belonging must be created by a boy, and there is more communication and communication with the girl, so that each other can feel each other's daily life, get a sense of connection, and let the girl feel that you are to her, and I firmly believe that the relationship between everyone will become more and more intimate.

3. Find out why you're arguing.

There are many kinds of reasons for quarrels in other places, and it is very likely that they are depressed, unable to see the other party, unable to experience the love of the other party, and the other party not caring about themselves, which are all problems that often occur in daily life.

The point of this argument makes people feel that the other party does not understand themselves, but what is the reason for the girl's quarrel? I think most of it is to better make everyone's relationship stronger and stronger, so in a long-distance relationship, we have to learn to be a little more relieved, think a little more for the other party, and firmly believe that we can get back together when we meet and look at each other.

4. Migration differences.

When the disagreement caused by the quarrel is not quickly dealt with, then there is no need to rush to the girl to express the disagreement to resolve the disagreement, we can choose to migrate this disagreement, when the girl stabilizes her emotions, and then gradually dredge the girl's mentality, when the girl stabilizes her emotions to resolve the disagreement will be more and more relative and easy.

There are many ways to migrate differences, and you can say some rhetoric and girls' favorite gifts on everyone's love anniversary or more important festivals, so that girls can feel sweet and sincere, and naturally the best way is to see the other party, which will be better than all gifts.

At least twice a week, otherwise you really don't do your duty.

Sometimes, he often says that he thinks I'm annoying and tells me to stop nagging, but I just think he doesn't care enough about me and is not very patient, so I express it in words, hoping that he can improve, which is a contradiction.

The second contradiction is that we can basically only be in a long-distance relationship because of work, and it is very likely that we will get married in the future, unless I quit my current job and go to his city.

But he would be transferred to other subsidiaries every three or five years, and my major was basically impossible to find a job in the city where he worked, so I didn't dare to go to him just to end up away from him without doing anything.

For example, when I was sick, Heng Zhen really needed his company at this time, but he was busy with his own business.

If he shows that he cares about me, I can still feel a little more comfortable, and I feel that this is my dedication and sacrifice to him, shouldn't he feel sorry for me?

I communicated with him, but he felt that he was not able to solve it for the time being, and second, I felt that he did not listen to my opinion at all.

I feel that I am of marriageable age and that every year of my time is precious, so please give me some advice or advice.

The general replied: After reading your description, this is probably the first time that I have made the most firm recommendation to end this long-distance relationship.

There are two prerequisites for a long-distance relationship to continue, first, there is a chance to end the long-distance state within a certain period of time; Second, two people can adapt to the rhythm of getting along in a long place.

Obviously, you are congenitally deficient in these two dimensions.

Of course, there are long-distance marriages, and even in a lifetime, they may not be able to get together for a long time, but this kind of marriage status is really a great test.

Since you already know very well that what you need is companionship, this relationship will not meet your needs, it will only make you more and more disappointed, and it is the same reason that you can't wait for the boat to go to the airport.

In the last issue, I remember a reader who asked a question about a crew member who was also facing the problem of being separated from his partner for a long time.

There is nothing wrong with people who are unwilling to accept this state, everyone has their own choices, and we all have the right to choose the state of life that best suits the most needs, and there is no need to be sorry.

Finally, there is something I would like to say to you that may not be related to the question, and you mentioned your sacrifice and dedication, and you think he should be sorry.

I can understand the imbalance and loss in your heart.

But using words like sacrifice, dedication, and apology to define the giving and response between you is too heavy for me and will only add to your dissatisfaction with the relationship.

Maybe you will still encounter the so-called "sacrifice and dedication" in the future, but in an intimate relationship, I prefer to regard what two people do and give as an effort to be willing to do for love.

Once you have this mentality, there are already rifts and asymmetries in the depths of the relationship.

1. Meet regularly and cherish the opportunity to reunite.

If you have been separated for a long time, you should try to see each other regularly and enjoy every moment together. When you meet, you can take each other to the places you have been, to eat good food, to have fun.

2. Keep abreast of each other's dynamics.

When two people are not together, they should maintain regular communication and understand each other's lives and emotions. For example, send a red envelope or a gift to the other party on the festival day, as long as you are willing to pay for the other party with your heart, the other party can also feel your heart, which is also a good way to maintain a long-distance relationship.

3. Trust each other.

Two people have to have trust in each other. Full trust is an effective way to eliminate the psychological barriers of long-distance relationships. Both parties must be honest with each other, understand each other, and consider each other's feelings, so that the relationship between couples who are far away from each other can be stronger.

4. Don't stay in different places all the time, find a way to be together.

Although you are in a long-distance relationship for the time being, you still have to live together in the end. That is to say, if you want the relationship to be successful, then you should not be in a different place all the time, and one of you should take the initiative to make concessions or compromises.

Loving someone sometimes requires you to make the necessary sacrifices or retreats. If you are in a long-distance relationship, you don't give in to each other, and neither of you is willing to accommodate anyone, then your long-distance relationship may not be able to go to the end. Only when you think in one place, work in one place, and you really achieve like-mindedness and work together, your love will be maintained for a long time.

In short, when a couple has been in a long-distance relationship for a long time, and you hope that this long-distance relationship can eventually have a good outcome, then you have to pay a lot of time and effort for it, and you have to work together to pay and manage it with heart.

If you want a partner in a different place, remember to talk to each other, if one party can't accept it, it's better to give up, if so, then try to persevere, and progress in the common direction together. Although it is very bitter in a different place, it must be cool to persevere, and I hope we can all survive this time and gain a stronger love in the end.