How to get along with a boyfriend who has been talking for more than 4 years!

I have a similar experience as you, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years, we were together in the first year of high school, and we have lived together since graduation, for more than 2 years, but unlike you, our relationship is getting better and better!

He's a guy with zero merits, though, I'm not going to look at his faults because I know three things, 1I have my own shortcomings, and I know that while I tolerate him, he also tolerates me! The years are relatively long, maybe there is a bottleneck in the relationship, when there is no freshness, it will expose a lot of things that cannot be seen when in love, these things will make us unhappy, but this is the original real life, the calm after love, two people need to adapt together, create new freshness together, instead of disliking each other!

3.I know that he is very good to me, he cares about me very much, so I often think that he is no longer a person with zero merit, his greatest merit is a heart for me! The other party took out all his heart, isn't it worth our effort?

If you know these 3 things like me, then find him out, talk about it well, tell him that you and I have shortcomings, don't dislike it, or blame and hurt each other, but introspect, correct, adapt, tolerate, and understand! Then happily go find a place to eat and start a sweet love from anew!

I'm sure you'll do a great job!

I've been with my wife for 6 years, and I've finally discovered her shortcomings: stingy, greedy for money, not too pretty, she doesn't understand and doesn't listen to me, she always thinks I'm lying to her when I say it, and I'm naughty But I put it all down to cuteness

Don't always take advantages as disadvantages, you have to learn to think backwards, such a big person doesn't even understand this truth? Sometimes the shortcomings will become advantages Just see if you will think about it If you always treat his stinginess as a real stinginess, it will definitely be unhappy If you take stinginess as a kind of cuteness, you will find how cute his stingy appearance is 2 people together must learn to tolerate Don't keep grasping each other's shortcomings to talk about things Start with you to change gradually Your other half will change with you

It is worth noting: be careful of men's 4-year itch and 7-year itch, the relationship must be stable during this time, otherwise it is easy to have accidents If it weren't for my lack of conditions, I wouldn't have been able to withstand the 4-year itch

Being together is fate, if you really break up, you will find that there is no better than him, at that time it is impossible for you to be with him again, it is only the endless pain of a lifetime!

In fact, the most painful thing is that one party is always picking on the shortcomings of the other. That's called pain, right? How to say that you pick each other. If you can't be together, just split up.

You've been together for so long, and you must know each other very well. The current period is simply because you have been together for too long. So it's a little tired of it. Take your time, it's fine after this time.

Don't always think about breaking up, it's very emotional.

Don't break up easily, it's not easy to find a person who is happy with each other. People, if they have such shortcomings, they must have such advantages. It's better to think about it carefully.

Everyone has shortcomings, and you also get tired of it after more than four years, how do you spend a few decades after marriage?

I suggest that the two of you have a good talk, and everyone spreads out the words to make it clear, and then each of you combs through the shortcomings, and sees which ones can be changed, and which ones can be tolerated, and then you can talk about each other's advantages, calculate the ratio of advantages and disadvantages, and if the advantages can reach more than 60, congratulations, you can get married

Sometimes it's not bad to be apart for a while!

Get married, or break up, separate for a short time.

Sometimes go on a trip to distant places.

I see the possibility of another breakup

So learn to be tolerant and understanding.

How to say it. Perhaps the gap between rich and poor is indeed very real.

Moreover, you also have to think of yourself, you were a girl who was with him for 4 years in college, and everything was given to him...

Although he seemed to be a motivated person when he was in school, he had to rely on relationships for everything after graduation, so he couldn't say anything.

Moreover, I think that boys, don't have to be particularly able to earn money, but women who are considerate of themselves work hard for the happiness of two people. This is the most basic. No matter how much money you make. It's all about running around for 2 people.

I think you can consider not paying for it at home. It's up to the two of you to fight.,You tell him like this.。。 Let's see if he's motivated. If he is indeed a motivated person, you can think about getting married.

You're still young, you don't have to get married so early. Moreover.. He's just your first man.

In the future, you can also find a man who loves you more and is more motivated. You don't want to think that if you don't marry him, others won't want you. Don't think so.

Anyway, I think you can consider not relying on your parents.,Fight it yourself.,Even if you're tired.。。 It's also exercising the two of you.

If he can't stand it and turns his back on you, you can just see what kind of person he is.

Dump him, what's the use of the man who beats the woman coming? What happened to you and him is already a fact, there is no way, but you can remedy it! Now that technology is so advanced, and if you want a limb animal, it's everywhere, and you forget about it now, and it's still too late, before you marry him; There is another way, you ask him "can you pay me back what you owed me before, including beating me and scolding me" If he says yes, as long as you forgive him, then you don't have a soft heart, how much he hurts you, you will pay him back, because he owes you, and then you stay away from him and don't see this so-called "soft man" again.

Many things are always experienced before you know that you can't afford to gain or lose. Just like feelings, after the pain, you will know how to protect yourself; If you are stupid, you will know how to persist and give up in a timely manner. Let us learn to give up, turn away before we cry, what we exchange for tears is not reliable; Let's learn to give up, bury yesterday in our hearts, and leave the best memories; Let's learn to give up so that we can all have an easier start for each other.

Holding on to it will only make you indulge in memories and pain and become sluggish. Let go of your hand and let it pass away with the wind of memory, you will find the other side of the sky, and you will revisit the fragrance of flowers in life and feel the warmth of the sun.

Giving up is not evasion, not cowardice; Giving up is an open-minded attitude. Think about it, how many people and things a person has to experience in his life, and if you don't know how to give up those things that have been lost and irretrievable, how can you grasp what really belongs to you? If you find that the only door in your world is no longer open for you, you don't have to linger in front of the door or hit your head and never wake up.

Learn to give up, then turn around and look for a skylight that opens for you, where you can also see the stars.