Is it true that it is often said that the poor must have its hate ?

Yes, but since they are poor people, it is useless for you to hate them. Poverty alleviation can't help ignorance, helping people can't help soft eggs, don't hate, let's sympathize with them. Satisfied.

Poor people have to distinguish between the real and the fake, give people roses, and there is a lingering fragrance in your hands. Helping others is an act that benefits both parties, but it can also be very contradictory at times. On the one hand, by helping others, we can experience a sense of strength and moral nobility.

But on the other hand, people have the instinct to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, and "pain the pain of others" does not make people feel good. Moreover, the story of Mr. Dong Guo and the wolf also illustrates the disadvantages of misusing compassion. Therefore, pity should also be divided into "really pitiful" and "fake pitiful".

The former is that they have tried as hard as possible but are still in a bad situation, this kind of "pitiful" is equivalent to "respectable" and "lovable", and both sides are psychologically equal in seeking help and ministering, such as Sichuan compatriots who are still optimistic after **. The latter is a means for some people to lower their posture consciously or unconsciously, and use it to obtain some kind of advantage, such as "fake beggars" on the streets. The poor man has two hateful strong dependence, which is the "first sin" of the "false wretched."

They always passively wait for the help of others, and the more enthusiastic help they have, the less willing they are to be self-reliant, and in the end, the "poor people" become more and more "pitiful", so that the helpers "hate iron but not steel". Mr. Lu Xun's Kong Yiji had drunk "ink" and had sound limbs, but he was severely beaten and disabled for stealing, and his final dignity was difficult to preserve, which really made people "mourn his misfortune and be angry". Selfishness is the second most hateful thing about "poor people".

Under the cover of the so-called "helping others to the end", some "poor people" not only ignore the situation of the helpers and constantly exploit them, but also use "poor looks" to complain that others do not care enough about them, which makes the helpers feel the loss of "high morality" and produce strong self-blame and self-deprecation. Many "good old people" have had the experience of borrowing money from friends more and more "lion mouth", but after refusing, they seem to owe others.

There are also skills in helping people Making the poor unhateful requires adjustment on both the part of the minister and the person receiving it. First of all, the helper should be clear about the boundaries of helping others and learn to refuse, for example, borrowing money can only be borrowed for a short period of time, no matter how sad the little sister is, she can't accompany her in the middle of the night to "make ** porridge". Second, donors need to be skillful in explaining their current state of competence in advance, even if they treat others in their own way and pretend to be "pitiful."

Third, donors should also adjust their mindset and not think of themselves as saviors. As for the poor people, first, we must realize that "God helps those who help themselves", no matter how many well-wishers, the final road still has to be walked by themselves. The second is to fully understand the donor, which is the best way to express gratitude.

The third is to allocate one's own difficulties to multiple donors to reduce the burden on each other.

Pretending to be pitiful, can't help it, has no personality and opinions.