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To be honest with you, many men I have seen (my colleagues and classmates) have this problem, in their words, I will spend as much as I earn, I will spend more when I earn, I will spend less if I earn less, anyway, I will live what kind of life I have! That's what they all say, and it's hard for a woman to understand this kind of unenterprising, and I find it hard to understand. Once I told my husband that I would spend money for my children to go to a good primary school in the future, and he also said that I didn't go to a good primary school at that time, so I couldn't do anything ...... itKhan, so I understand you!
I don't know what your husband does, whether it is a private enterprise or a state-owned enterprise, if it is a state-owned enterprise, it may indeed be a little comfortable and a little inert (I don't know much about state-owned enterprises, and the pressure may be different for different enterprises), but if it is a private enterprise, what should he do when he changes jobs in such a state? Is there no stress when changing jobs? My husband also said at first that it was useless to take those qualification exams, and then when he was going to change jobs, he felt a lot of pressure, and his thinking naturally changed, and now he has decided to take some more necessary exams to improve himself, I think your husband's current state should belong to the state of no pressure and no motivation, you have to try to let him change this state, let him feel the pressure himself, it is much more useful than you say 10,000 words about the exam and improve yourself, there is no other experience that can give you, Life is like crossing a river by feeling the stones, and no one can really have the right experience for you.
Emotionally speaking, I think your current relationship between husband and wife is mainly affected by the above incident, and there are not too many communication barriers, and you also have children, divorce is not good for children, try to solve problems in marriage, there is no dead end. I'm seven months pregnant, and my nose has always been a little bloody lately, I'm quite scared, and my husband said it's okay, it's the weather is too dry, and the nasal mucosa is a little bleeding, but I myself sometimes think a little cranky, thinking that if I really ......I will be very reluctant to my husband, very, very reluctant to my home, thinking about it like this, I feel that in fact, the contradictions in my previous life are nothing, as long as the family is healthy and healthy together, it is stronger than anything, no matter how hard and tired I am, I don't want to be separated from my husband. Now try to skip the thing that you are very attached to, when the mood and feelings are better, just imagine if you are about to leave this world (not to curse you, don't be angry), will you want to hold your husband and children now and tell them that you are reluctant to them, you still want to be with them, no matter how hard and tired the days are.
So, tell them now, maybe they've been waiting for this for a long time!
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Hello. I feel that marriage is a responsibility, a responsibility to all members of the family.
You say that he doesn't seek to be motivated, that's his attitude towards life, and he doesn't want to be tired by himself. It's hard to change.
Being good to friends doesn't mean anything, I think people who are good to friends have two purposes: one is to find a playmate for themselves, and the other is to make more helpers on their way forward, and I don't know if your husband is the first or the second, I hope our friends are both.
My suggestion is that it is better to divorce if the child has support security, to put it selfishly, people can't live a lifetime like this all the time suppressed, at least they have to be worthy of themselves.
Hope you can be happy, solve your problems early, and let yourself relax!
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If you don't get divorced once, you'll never know who you'll marry. There will always be unsatisfactory aspects of marriage, and the longer the marriage, the more the unsatisfactory side will be magnified. Tomorrow, you will find harmony of thought, but perhaps his disloyalty will make you unacceptable.
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In fact, what you just talked about are some small problems, his cultural level is something you already know before marriage, and the reason why you marry him is also because he is good, the gap is not a problem, the most important thing is that you must communicate in place, work towards the same family, if one road does not work, you can take another road. When you have a child, you should take things for the better instead of giving up! Please think more about your children, there are no hurdles in life that you can't pass, what matters is what kind of attitude you have to look at.
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Hello. What I want to say to you when I see this text is, can't you communicate now? The most important thing between couples is communication. If you can, try to sit down and talk to each other slowly while you're calm.
Another point, what I want to tell you, a man's self-esteem is generally very strong, even in the face of his wife, he needs your encouragement more than criticism, you might as well change it, try to encourage his strengths more, and don't deny him because he is a high school student.
I hope my words help you a little!
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Don't get a divorce, be kind to your husband and ask his parents to take care of him.
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<> have been together for 14 years, and I feel that my marriage can't continue, how can I go back to before? To maintain a marriage, it takes the joint efforts of both parties, and the efforts of one party alone will not last long. First of all, in order for marriage to survive, both parties need to communicate more and communicate more, one of them must understand the current state and thoughts of the other party, and if there are doubts, they must communicate more and solve the existing problems together.
Secondly, husband and wife should learn to praise each other, encourage each other, and learn to recognize each other's advantages where they have done well, so that each other's advantages can be carried forward, and they cannot deliberately magnify each other's shortcomings. Every house has a scripture that is difficult to read.
There will be some problems to a greater or lesser extent, and both sides must learn to take the initiative to face them and work hard to solve them. If it really can't be solved, then don't force it together, break it off, and don't drag it out. It is not denied that marriage has a shelf life.
It is not denied that the dull period after the expiration date may finally be permanent.
It is not denied that the subject had considered these questions before asking this question. A marriage really can't last, if you can get divorced, you can leave without constraints, life is short, you don't want to spend time on unnecessary people, insist on doing what you think is right, and slowly the happiness index will increase, go as you like; If there are too many constraints, you can't leave, find a way to resolve it, but having to leave should be a helpless move after the subject considers the solution, so this decision is made. After you think through all the issues, such as whether there are any possibilities for moving on with life, except for the solution to the problem of both children......Some questions.
Divorce, are you ready to accept the consequences of this fact, if you can, the pain is far-fetched, it is not as good as the happiness of separation, I wish you happiness! A good marriage is not a union of two perfect people, but two imperfect people who find a comfortable mode of getting along with each other. Everyone has advantages and disadvantages, and the marriage mode cannot infinitely magnify each other's shortcomings and ignore their own problems.
Mutual understanding, mutual tolerance, and mutual understanding.
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We should ease each other's emotions, communicate and solve the questions of the Hui search, prepare surprises, occasionally have a sense of ritual in life, improve ourselves, respect his space and ideas, which is conducive to the further advancement of the relationship.
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should be constantly chatting with each other, and should also use the right way to get through. You should also date each other often. You should also pay attention to the way you get along with each other frankly, and you should also pay attention to tolerating each other.
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You can communicate with each other about something, so that both people can take into account some of the interests of the other party, and change some of their existing practices, so that they may go back to the past.
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I don't think it's a matter of circumstances whether or not this marriage should continue. First of all, I think a man can give his money to a woman for safekeeping, to his wife for safekeeping, I think he still pays for the family, he respects you, and he is a man who doesn't care about gains and losses.
The first is that he handed over all the money he earned to you, he shows that he believes in you, although there is not much affection between you, but in today's society, the chance of finding someone who truly loves you can also make us love ourselves is very small. So most of them are making do with it. As long as you have the foundation of material life, in fact, you don't care about the spirit, the richness of the world is also possible, depending on your personal needs, if you come to the rules, peace and agree, such a so-called boring life, no emotional life, you can consider continuing to make marriage.
Brief arguments. The second is that he handed over all the money to you, but the two of you really have no feelings, sleep in separate beds every day, and there is almost no emotional exchange, such a lie is actually more distressing, because there is no happiness without feelings, and Zhinian will not have the warmth of the family if he has children, it is better to get together early and disperse early, and the long pain is better than the short pain to get rid of this marital state in advance, and find the next person who treats you sincerely.
So with all that said, how do you tell if such a marriage block is giving you some good or bad things? Follow your heart. You can judge whether you should continue or not.
If you want to step out of your comfort zone of marriage, you can consider ending it.
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I think the answer to this question depends on different circumstances. Some people may choose to continue their marriage because they always believe that marriage is a responsibility and commitment; And some people may decide to divorce because they think that the lack of love will affect each other's lives and happiness. Therefore, the decision in this case depends on the individual's values and life situation.
The prudent answer to this question is not simple, as everyone's perspective and situation is different. Some people may choose to continue with such a marriage because they believe that marriage is a responsibility and commitment, and that they can enjoy the benefits of marriage from an economic and social perspective. Others may decide to divorce because they believe that the lack of love will take a toll on the psychological and health of both parties.
It is important that couples are open and honest with each other, step out of their comfort zone, and work together to create a healthy, stable, and respectful relationship based on mutual respect, understanding, and concern.
The marriage that the parents do not agree to will not be happy even if they come together in the end, our life is given by our parents, so we must take into account the feelings of our parents when doing anything, you can't lose the blessing of your parents for an outsider, especially girls, because you will live in his house for the rest of your life, so you should be happy and happy to enter the door of his house, not reluctantly enter, don't expect some bad views of you before marriage will change after marriage, impossible, it will only deepen.
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One is in the south and the other is in the north, the distance is not too far, and many couples are separated due to the problem of distance. Of course, if you are sure, you should seize the opportunity. Don't let yourself regret it for the rest of your life.
It shouldn't go on like this, this kind of person is not worthy of your love, there will be many better girls when you enter the university in the future, don't keep thinking about a person, your future is the most important!
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