Where is the degree of praise and punishment of children, and how to grasp it?

The rewards and punishments are clear, the reason why children are children, because they are all weak and incapacitated, even if they only complete a small thing, it is not easy for them, so at this time we should give children praise in time, and praise should be specific, so that children know why they are praised, so that children can be more motivated. If the child does something wrong, I should punish it, but the punishment is not corporal punishment is not the venting of our parents' emotions, but the child is punished on the basis of letting him know that he has done something wrong, and the punishment can be carried out in the form of reducing the child's play time and letting the child do housework, which can not only protect the child's self-esteem but also play a role in punishment. ‍‍

When your child gets good grades, praise him. Just say that you can live up to our parents, and I hope you can maintain your good grades and make persistent efforts. Don't praise him too much, in that way, some children may become self-righteous and arrogant.

You can't reward him with a lot of money, and if you have money, you can't spend it, and he may go to play games, go to restaurants, or take money to place bets. In this way, the long man will become bad, and he will not study in tune. You can reward your child with some school supplies, smart toys, and you can also take your child shopping, go to the zoo to play, go to the children's casino to play, and have a garden. ‍‍

Due to the child's age, gender, the difference in the environment, coupled with the difference in parents' educational cognition of the child, the scale of punishment and praise is very different, in fact, it is impossible to make accurate quantitative indicators on this issue, but I personally believe that the praise of the child is better than the punishment, positive education plus moderate praise to improve the child's self-confidence, and avoid hurting self-esteem, which is beneficial and harmless to the child's growth. ‍‍

Praise more, but not overuse. Be specific in your compliments. Be praised in a timely manner. Praise is not only about the result, but also about the process.

When the child is young, try not to punish the child, to encourage the child more, cultivate the child's self-confidence, when the child grows up, the child should be educated for the first time to make a mistake, and then the mistake will be punished, the child should be praised and encouraged, and the cheerful and confident child is praised.

Praise also needs to be comprehensive, especially for the polite and moral behavior necessary to carry forward, the so-called do not take the evil small and do it, do not take the good small and do it, because our requirements for talents, success"people"It comes first, followed by success, as the saying goes"Heaven is not afraid of the earth, and if you are not afraid of the earth, you are afraid that the hooligans are educated", which is the truth, and at the same time, it also requires the teacher to practice and obey the good temptation.

If the child makes a mistake, we should pay attention to ways and means to criticize, do not scold, this will not play any role, if the child does the right thing, parents should also praise, but do not excessively, but also master the degree, do not let the child be too proud.

Establish rules for rewards and punishments. As the saying goes, "the country has its own laws, and the family has its own rules", and a family should also have its own rules, so that there will be a law to follow when rewarding and punishing, and there will be a reason for it. ‍‍

For example, if your child has worked hard, listens carefully in class, goes home to review carefully, does homework, and is busy until late at night before falling asleep, but then her grades have not improved, you praise her and ask him to try harder? It's no wonder that children don't break down, and what children need at that time is guidance, methods, analysis, and help, not chicken soup praise and praise. ‍‍

If you can practice, you will have less theory, let the child get close to the truth of the facts, and he will understand it himself, this is the punishment and reward, ask, ask in one word, after all, the child is his own family, the reward will be rewarded, and ask him what he wants.

When a child does something wrong, we should punish the child should not exceed his tolerance, and in the same way, he does something right, praise him, and know what the meaning of what he does right.

I think we have to make a system first, and then we need to implement it after reaching a consensus with the children. Don't be too materialistic in your praise, and don't abuse in your punishment.

"Appreciation education" has become a way to educate children today, believing that "good children are praised, only by regularly affirming and encouraging children, children will have self-confidence, will be more excellent, and will have a better future".

I do not deny the role of "appreciation" in educating children, I want to emphasize that "punishment" is also an indispensable education in the process of children's growth and cannot be ignored. That is to say, "when the child should boast, he must also be punished." Otherwise, blindly praising the child, although it can improve the child's self-confidence, it will also bring many negative effects to the child.

It will make the child unable to evaluate himself correctly, feel that he is great, and even conceited, pampered, can't listen to the slightest criticism, can't stand the slightest grievance, has a strong sense of jealousy, and has a very weak ability to resist frustration and failure, which is extremely detrimental to the child's growth. There are many examples of real-life relevance. Take the recent case of poisoning international students as an example, Wang, a Canadian student, can be described as a good student with excellent character and learning in the eyes of teachers and classmates, and has been selected into the list of outstanding students of the dean several times, and has been praised by people along the way.

But what is unthinkable is that he actually threw poison on his roommate several times, the reason is just that in the ** published with his roommate, his name is ranked behind his roommate, and he is jealous, coupled with a little friction at usual, he harms others, and he also loses himself by changing the omission. Also, many so-called good children and students who grew up listening to praise can't bear it when they are wronged or frustrated, and some even choose to commit suicide, and the lesson is also very painful.

No one is perfect, and no matter how good a child is, he will have shortcomings and make mistakes. When it is pointed out, it must be pointed out, and when it is punished, it must be punished, and it cannot be accommodating because of its excellence. It must be clear to the child that no matter how good he is, if he makes a mistake, he must also take responsibility, and he must also accept criticism and necessary punishment; No matter how good a person is, there will be shortcomings and shortcomings, and of course, after correcting the shortcomings, he will become better.

So that children can evaluate themselves in two from an early age, learn to bear, learn to bear, and enhance their ability to resist pressure and frustration. This is very important in the growth of children, and I hope that parents and teachers will pay close attention to it. Of course, how to praise and punish children is also a certain amount of knowledge, and parents and teachers need to continue to learn and learn.