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Seven years is a long time, don't say seven years, even if it's a year, a person will become incomprehensible to people who were familiar with the past, time will wear out everything, so to speak, if he loved you before, he won't divide it, and he won't wait until 7 years later, give other boys who like you a chance, maybe you will have new discoveries, the first love is really unforgettable, but how many are married to the first love? It's just a few, come on, find someone you like, don't find someone you like.
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If you haven't fallen into it, stop it as soon as possible, and a long-distance relationship can't succeed without being strong enough to overcome all difficulties - impossible. Especially since you yourself already feel that he may not be reliable, don't be delusional, I am almost certain that you accept his fate. Continue to wait for the person who really loves you to appear, love can't help but be lucky. Above.
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Like is not love, try to forget the past first, and then start anew. Maybe you're hiding in the past and don't want to come back!
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There are times in life when you have to have it, and there are times in life when you have to force it.
Let it be. Fate is predestined, and happiness is your own! Hehe.
Wishing you happiness!
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If you fall in love at first sight, it's possible.
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I despise gay men bragging about their previous love in front of girls, what is there to show off, when it comes to falling in love, we must first look at how the person is, whether it is worth trusting and entrusting people for life, don't be confused by superficial things, or magnify the good impression of each other, and be fascinated by what is in front of you. Second, this love is "talked", it is necessary to communicate frequently to get to know each other, know each other's personality and preferences, not to say a kiss, you know him, you fall in love with him, it is too child's play. Third, let's talk about the actual income of the other party's work, because in this real world, if there is not enough economic and material support, no matter how sweet and romantic love is, it will come to naught.
Don't say anything: "Love takes courage to operate" is a fantasy, because everyone is an adult, not you on that campus, talk about love, pull a little hand to play at home, this thing of feelings should be cautious and cannot be played, but it should also be cherished and taken seriously. Wishing you happiness and happiness!
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How to say, let it be, the most important thing is to be true to your heart!
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The subject said that he had been with his first boyfriend for seven years, but recently he was attracted to another funny and steady man, and fell in love. You don't know how to deal with your feelings. Although your words are limited, I feel from your story that you are a serious and long-term person, because not everyone's first love lasts for that many years, which shows that you both put your own efforts into this relationship.
You realize that you are attracted to another person and feel a little overwhelmed and entangled in it, but I would say, you are not alone, don't put too much pressure on yourself. Life is long, we will meet more excellent people on the road, and we will gradually mature ourselves, and then we will understand that it is only a choice from the beginning.
1. Explore your true thoughts.
In the face of feelings, it is often difficult for us to stay sane forever. When making choices, we need to listen to our inner voice and face our true selves bravely, so that we can not be confused by appearances and find the key to solving the problem.
2. Keep your distance from this man for the time being.
I think the reason why you publish your question is because there is no clear answer in your mind yet, and you are still in a confused and tangled mood. In cases where you don't yet have a clear understanding of your true emotional needs, I suggest that you keep a certain distance from this man for a while so that you can be more aware of your emotional changes.
3. Weigh the pros and cons and make a brave choice.
Everyone is unique, but each person is not irreplaceable. This may sound paradoxical, but it's actually quite simple. Each of us has different emotional needs, and we also need to weigh the pros and cons in the relationship, no matter what choice you make, whether the choice is right or not, I hope it is a decision without regrets.
I hope you are brave enough to be yourself, and I wish you to find your own happiness.
To learn and grow hard, to upgrade their own understanding and improve their own dimensions. Slowly build up strength. And I think you can learn some about psychology, especially intimate relationships.
Of course, landlords can also look for support and counsellors to help you improve your knowledge and understanding of yourself and find your core needs.
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You should forget about the other one and continue to be with your first love, because your first love is more suitable for you, and your relationship foundation is very strong.
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It's normal to like others, but you must learn to restrain yourself, your first love has been with you for 7 years, and during this period there will be other people of the opposite sex pursuing him, but he still chose you, so you must also restrain your feelings for other people, don't let him down, and love your first love well.
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Hello subject. It sounds like you're a little anxious, as if you're a little insecure. Especially if you say at the beginning that your boyfriend often comes to your house, but is unwilling to take you to his house, for most people, most of them will also feel estranged and even have a little suspicion, which is a very normal reaction.
You talk about your dreams in the past few days, in which he and his ex are gone and abandon you. I don't think this phenomenon is a bad thing, because dreams are the release of subconscious repressed emotions, and they only represent the impression left in your mind by your experience, and it is not the ** of the future. Therefore, it is a good clue to be able to release emotions in such a way and use this signal to understand yourself.
Don't suppress your emotions, feel it.
Trying to tell yourself how good and bad he is for himself and convincing himself to give him time is certainly helpful, but it's a rational, bottom-up understanding. And when the cognitive effect of rationality is limited, trying to feel from the bottom up may be able to soothe our emotions on a deeper level.
When the emotion comes, don't rush to push it away, stop, and let yourself be immersed in the emotion for a while. Why worry that your boyfriend won't forget your ex? How do you imagine the impression in your boyfriend's mind?
What we think of as what others see us is actually just a reflection of ourselves. The reason for this mapping is related to the shaping of early experiences.
Tell the other person what you ask for directly, and don't let him guess.
Express your needs and wishes accurately, on a case-by-case basis. One of the pitfalls we can easily make in intimate relationships is to get overly involved in feelings. Even intimate relationships follow certain logical rules.
Women are more likely to notice that the bridge is blindly extended in communication, causing problems to expand and escalate, which needs to be paid attention to.
Stay calm and do a good job of personal growth.
Imagine, if you were Zhan Qingyun or Guan Xiaotong, in the current situation, would you be insecure, suffering from gains and losses? Obviously not, because you are good and strong enough. In this case, instead of speculating about the minds of other cave people, why not polish your competitiveness?
In the end, people's sense of security has to be given by themselves.
The more painful it is, the better it is to grow. Best wishes.
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Psychoanalysis: You can see that your boyfriend cares about you, and at the same time he may still have a lot of memories of his ex, dishes or a lot of bits and pieces, which may make you feel that you may not be able to compare with his ex, and he seems to have a lot of things trying to hide, and these unspoken things may be able to communicate in a reciprocal and non-judgmental attitude.
Given that from the time we were together to the present, I have always felt that the subject could not forget his ex. Even I felt that his phone, computer, and home still kept his and hers' past. He would come to my house often, but he wouldn't take me to his house.
A few days ago, the subject said that he wanted to cook a dish for me, this dish was cooked for him by a friend before, before that, he mentioned to me once or twice that this dish had been eaten by a friend before, and I didn't care about it at the time, I was not very comfortable and comfortable, his friends are all guys, what friends will cook for him? My friends are all young men, which one knows how to cook? I guess it's his ex, I've been having bad dreams for the past two days, I dreamed that he took me to see my ex, and then ruthlessly abandoned me and her and went away, and I have been persuading myself that I can feel that he is good to me and give him time.
You can see that his past may not be ready for you to fully know, maybe he is worried about certain situations, you can talk about his worries, and at the same time you can talk about your insecurities and love for him.
He'd told you before that he was one last step away from proposing to her.
Just enter the marriage hall, you have a hurdle in your heart, and you can't get over it.
I'm even wondering if my spare tire ex is back.
You don't have any meaning.
Seven years of their relationship.
It can't be compared to you in a few months.
But what if you really feel very uncomfortable?
You both like each other, your dreams show your worries in the moment, and you're worried that he's leaving you, right? Maybe you can consider strengthening each other's feelings and creating more memories, as if we already know some potential crisis through our intuition, then finding strategies to intervene is the only way for us to gain a sense of security, no matter how you can live for yourself to try and try to be more frank, your heart knows what it wants, these worries can have an impact on the foundation of trust if misplaced, you need to understand how to build a new attachment to each other, And allow him to have the memory of his ex because those pasts are gone, and it is part of his life.
At the same time, we also need to understand that now is the greatest wealth, you are now his girlfriend, he is now your boyfriend, there is nothing more wonderful than this, now is the most important time for everyone, often we forget, so let's remind ourselves, in order to prevent some past comparisons with him, you need to understand how to trust your boyfriend, how to rebuild trust in all kinds of uneasy emotions to see each other's strengths, and re-let each other have a new chapter, bless you. zq
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First of all, you have to figure out what disease the other party has, I feel that the other party also loves you, but I don't want to affect you, if it's not a terminal illness, then I think you can get it back, if it's an incurable disease, you have to think about it, after all, you're still young, of course, you think I'm more ruthless, but you really should think about it!
Or don't do it, what if you break up again.