What was it like to choose to forgive her?

It's a kind-hearted experience. Because since it is forgiveness, it proves that she has done something very excessive to you before, and to do something that must be forgiven to reconcile. You're angry, so you're hesitant to choose to forgive her.

But if you forgive him, it proves that you still have her in your heart. You love her so much.

Choosing to forgive the other party will definitely make you very calm and reassured, because it seems to have closed a knot, so you will also be a little relaxed.

I feel that there is still some unwillingness in my heart, but since I have chosen to forgive her, I must accept her generously. In fact, after choosing to forgive him, I don't know what to say when we meet again, and it will be more embarrassing.

I know that she is wrong, but because I love her, I choose to forgive her and forget her mistakes together, although it is very heartbreaking, but there is no more difficult choice for you to be comfortable.

If I'm relieved, then it's a very good thing to choose to forgive it, and we can continue to be friends, and if I'm still in pain, then choosing to forgive her is a kind of torture for myself.

Everyone should have a magnanimous heart. When you choose to forgive him, it proves that you have put this matter down, and you are not a villain! As the saying goes, don't worry about villains.

People can make mistakes in their lives, people are growing up in the process of making mistakes, you have to give others a chance to understand, if others make mistakes in you, you have a basis to forgive others and give others a chance to change.

If someone hurts themselves. Forgive him from the act of more separate acts in your heart. But sometimes it can also be a good relationship. He went into his arms.

There will be no choice to forgive.

1. Don't try and force yourself to forgive someone who betrayed you.

Encountering betrayal, it is already an established fact that it is already suspected of being covered with lead, and it is also a tragic result, if you force yourself to forgive, isn't it unprincipled, and there is no distinction between right and wrong?

Betrayal can never be truly forgotten, let alone truly let go. The only thing we can do is to make ourselves more and more peaceful and less concerned.

Trying to heal the pain with the emotion of "forgiveness" is obviously not the best way, but it will make you fall into deep self-blame and remorse, why should you be so cruel to yourself who has been betrayed?

Perhaps many people think that "forgiveness" is the highest state of forgetting, but I would like to say that in the face of betrayal, it is impossible to use "forgiveness" to forget. Ordinary people, no one really can do anything to forget the fact of being hurt.

But those who want to forgive betrayal are not relieved, but reluctant.

Instead of being a "seemingly saint" who is "fake detached", it is better to face your emotions truthfully and accept the current situation: don't try to forgive, don't try to get rid of it, time has the most wonderful effect on any pain, what about slowing down?

Respecting the principle of emotional dissipation and emotional dilution, and bravely going through these processes at what stage should be experienced is the greatest release for yourself.

2. Don't deliberately understand the reason for the so-called "betrayal".

Why should we recognize and understand the causes of "betrayal"? Isn't this rubbing salt on the wound?

Because any betrayal is destined to be deliberate at the moment it arises, no matter what the reason, it is a human error for the "initiator", so why bother to seek and explore?

Those who often want to get themselves out of the "betrayal" will sigh for themselves while also finding reasons for the "betrayal" behavior of the other party. I thought this was to show my tolerance and open-mindedness, but I didn't know that this was the biggest punishment for myself!

This process and practice of trying to understand the reasons for "betrayal" is like a total denial of one's past; It is also a "repetition of betrayal" of himself at this moment.

We really don't have to find reasons for those betrayals or things, the reasons are really simple and boring, nothing more than: I don't love anymore, I don't love enough, I give up on you.

3. The real letting go is "forgetting to let go" and remaining insensitive.

Don't deliberately let go if you can't let go, don't force yourself to forgive if you don't want to forgive, and return to the most basic and daily life.

You can vent, scream, and even rebuke the person who betrayed you; You can also drink and indulge for three days and three nights; You can also give yourself a little vacation and do what you once wanted to do but never had the opportunity to do.

In short, you can allow yourself to give yourself an exit and a certain amount of time after being betrayed, and gain relief in the short term, but you must not let yourself fall into the abyss of self-blame and "why".

After all, no matter how much you try to find out the cause or blame yourself, the person you once loved madly no longer belongs to you.

Waiting for the passage of time, you will find that you can really face "that person" without any waves.

This is the highest state of "non-feeling" – letting go.

This is a very complex issue because everyone's situation and feelings are different. Some people may forgive the person they love most, while others may choose to leave.

Forgiveness and forgetting are two different concepts. Forgiveness means that you release the anger and resentment in your heart towards the other person, while forgetting means that you will never remember what happened in the past. Even if you forgive the other person, it will take time to ** your own wounds and rebuild trust.

When deciding whether or not to forgive the other person, there are a few things to consider:

1.The extent and nature of the other party's mistakes, and whether they recognize the seriousness of the mistakes they made.

2.Whether the other person sincerely apologizes and takes action to remove your hurt feelings.

3.You enlighten yourself about the importance of the relationship and your hopes for the future.

4.Whether or not you believe in the other person will change their behavior and rebuild trust.

5.Do you have enough willingness and ability to go through the process of ** with the other person?

In the end, it is your own choice to decide to forgive the other party. You should consider the whole situation of yourself and the other person and decide which one is best for your interests and happiness.

It's not forgiving, it's just irrelevant.

At the beginning, I really hated each other, and I would try my best to hurt each other. At that time, I blew up the other party's fish pond. I did everything I could to hurt him, but I wasn't happy, I didn't have the pleasure of getting revenge, and I wondered if I had become the person I hated the most.

Later, as time passed, I slowly calmed down, and I realized that what matters is not what he did, but what matters is how I think.

Did you know? The reason I can't forgive is that I feel that I am honest and trusting, but the other party has lied and deceived me.

I felt like I was a victim, but then I felt like I was a survivor.

It's just that the other party doesn't understand love, or rather, the other party doesn't understand your love, so in this case, it's much better to be envious early than to continue to linger, isn't it?

Nobu Kanno Ren is very difficult to build, and it only takes a moment to destroy.

I found the center of gravity of my world, and I started to focus on my life, yes, he was betrayed and hurt me, but those things passed.

I still want to fall in love with someone passionately and brilliantly, I still want to have a love that I only want to have a white heart, and I still have illusions about this cruel world.

He just let me know that there are people in this world who don't know what love is, and I sympathize with him, but I will never say a word more.

Love is restraint, selflessness, giving, and heart-for-heart.

Congratulations, after leaving someone who has hurt you, you must know that it will be slow to get better, but life will be beautiful after that.

It's like I met someone now, I laugh when I think of him, his little tiger teeth are so good-looking, I used to have no goals and no ideals and felt that life was nothing but Erer, but ah, because he wanted to change for the better.

I said to him, "I can't promise to love you forever, but I want to fall in love with you again and again." ”

Where he is home, when he appears, all my past is eclipsed, I just want to see him laugh.

So everything in the past is not important, now the important thing is only the person next to me, I, ah, I have no ideals, no ambitions, I just want to be with the people I love, a dull life. Do not seek to be rich and rich, but to seek happiness and peace.

If he seriously admits his mistake and has a good attitude, I will choose to forgive, after all, people always make mistakes and can't be beaten to death with a stick. But if he is still the same and does not realize his mistakes, I will not choose to forgive.

Hello dear, this question is difficult to use a simple "yes" or "no" because the degree and process of forgiveness depends on the different trust and needs of each person in themselves and others.

For most people, being emotionally deceived and betrayed is a very painful experience. However, for some, forgiveness may be a necessary and balanced option that can help them recover and grow from Ruga's pain.

If you feel that you can't make a wise decision about this kind of deception for the time being, then you can first vent and think rationally in your own heart or through conversations, consultations, etc. The final decision should be based on your values and life goals, and take into account the benefits and costs of forgiveness, as well as whether trust can be rebuilt and whether the deceived person sincerely expressed repentance and took positive remedial action. Hope it helps

1.It depends on what that period of the past means to you, and what this person means to you, if you feel that the past is greater than the person himself, it is good to break up, this is a manifestation of insecurity, often communicate with the other party the true thoughts in the heart, and take the initiative to eliminate the unstable factors in the hearts of two people.

If he tells you without revealing anything, it proves that he likes you very much, is unwilling to deceive you, and wants to be with you forever! Since you mind, don't be together, otherwise there will always be a pimple in your heart, and there will be a rift between the two, since you can't trust each other, let each other be free.

In fact, everyone has a past, no matter what was before, it can't be changed, and now mind his past, or because his performance does not make you completely reassured, but it also shows that there is his weight in your heart, but as for the status quo that you can't accept, you have to think about it yourself, what kind of other party you want more.