Why do you want to change your current state of life?

Nowadays, everyone loves a comfortable life, wants a house, a car, a rich family life, and the whole family lives with Meimei, which is what many people yearn for. However, people's aspirations are different, some people think that ideals and goals can more impress their restless mind, what they yearn for in this life, what they pursue, everyone's psychology has a scale, and they all want to realize their good wishes. Just like myself, I originally graduated from **, I have a good voice, can sing and dance, how many people envy a good major, but I took the Chinese major, and finally engaged in my favorite writing work, many people do not understand, think that ** major can be in a literary and artistic group, can also be a teacher in school, why do you have to do climbing lattice work, tired and boring?

But I like it, so I am obligated to do the work of a civil servant, until now, I have always loved this job, without a little regret, this may be the goal I have pursued in my life, everyone has their own aspirations, don't not understand.

Now the state of life cannot be expressed. Not to mention whether you want it or not, life is not something you can control. Originally, there was a happy little family, and it was said that people's fate was destined.

I was born and raised in a small mountain village. In 2006, the eldest son was 6 years old and the youngest daughter was born. The village envied me for having both my children and daughters.

Of course I'm happy, and the days are going forward. Just left, on the morning of June 13th, an accident turned my life upside down. Today is June 6th, and there is a week left for me to be born again.

During the workmanship, the iron frame collapsed and hit me, and since then I have been in a wheelchair, and my life has suffered a heavy blow. The pillars of the family fell, and the children and wives did not work. From then on, I knew what it was like to be in dire straits, and I knew what it was like for the sky to fall.

What should I do, live or die, I can't take care of my own life, my wife takes care of me, and I have two children. What to do, how to live this family. Not to mention that there is no income, can the family continue to live like this?

It's really uncomfortable to call it every day, and life has reached a low point.

My original choice and my temperament determined my current state of life, if I had graduated from college and not continued my studies and went to the army, maybe my current life state would be much simpler, and now I feel very tired, tired and tired. But only by being hard-headed, mustering up the courage to keep going, and only by trying to think more comprehensively and do better than others. Because I have no room to turn back, I will feel very unfilial to disappoint my parents, but I am so exhausted, but I can't help but feel sad, and my willpower has far surpassed that of girls of the same age.

Most importantly, I always have a contented and grateful heart, I can say out loud "I'm tired", but I will never admit in my heart that "I can't".

The approximate reason for the present state (difficult to live) is blindness; Blindly going to school, playing all day and learning nothing. There is no goal; After graduation, I blindly look for a job, spend the money I earn, and quit when I don't feel good. Lack of will; Now I understand everything, but I have also reached the age of starting a family, providing for the elderly, getting married, earning money, and taking care of my favorite hobbies, all things come together!

There is such a sentence: "The back that was annihilated in the crowd, pushed forward by time, and had no power to fight back, is the most ugly." "It's quite emotional.

After graduating for two years, I ran in several big cities, and mixed in the technology industry and the e-commerce industry, but I didn't make any achievements. Because of family reasons, I decided to take the public examination (just landed), and my classmates said that I was wasting time, and I retorted to him, if you don't waste some time, how do you know what you want? Many times, it is life that pushes us forward, and we can make some effective choices and changes in the passive process, and these cumulative choices and changes will determine our future life status.

Summary: Personal thoughts and family circumstances determine the state of my life.

My character determines my thoughts. My thoughts determine my life. Suffice it to say, my personality and thoughts determine the current state of my life.

All your actions are based on having a thought, and then judging whether to do it or not to do it, or how to do it. The accumulation of actions has become a reaction to your life situation today.

In fact, the world is impermanent, many times a small decision can make a change in the future, the key is to see if you have the courage to do it, life can be very busy, can also be very fulfilling, can be comfortable, can also be full of running and tired. It's the people's choice that counts.

In real life, there are many people who are dissatisfied with the status quo of life, including marital status, lifestyle, work and study, economic income, etc., and will be dissatisfied in a certain aspect, so how can we change the status quo of life?

First of all, we must change our mentality and look at problems from a different perspective, maybe some problems are not problems. If you look at people and things with an optimistic attitude, you will have fewer complaints and dissatisfaction. Optimistic people will always see the shining points and good side of people and things.

Mindset is also an important factor in determining whether a person can live happily or not!

Manage their emotions well, some people will fall into a predicament, a vicious circle, get into the horns of the bull and can't get out, he will only be blindly affected by emotions, be a slave of emotions, and be sad all day long, only complain about why his life is so bitter, why God is so unfair, and good things can't come to him! Such bad emotions will only make a person unable to clearly see the root cause of the problem itself, let alone talk about solving the problem. Only by managing emotions well, jumping out of the problem itself, and thinking from a different perspective, can we solve the problem correctly.

Seriously and correctly analyze why you are dissatisfied with life, is it your own reason, or the external reason? If it is your own reason, then find the reason yourself and try to solve it, for example, if you are not able to deal with people, then work hard to learn, practice, improve, and slowly change. If it is due to external reasons, because the external reasons are complex and it is difficult to change the way people and things operate themselves, then we can only face everything with a tolerant heart and a normal heart, to accept ourselves, to accept the people and things in the outside world, and not to force ourselves or force the outside world to change.

You can only be yourself, and at the same time, you can slowly change the status quo, and at the same time, you will also affect the people around you.

To change the status quo of life is to change the attitude towards life, do what you can, do your best, and live a life that originally belongs to you, but not too much to live beyond your ability.

What I want to change the most now is my personality, my temper, and I think that's my biggest flaw, because my temper is so short-tempered, and all people can't stand me. I wish I could be gentler and less impatient.

Ways to change your life or spring are different from person to person, but here are some basic suggestions:

Define your goals: First, you need to figure out what kind of life you want to change. Specific goals help you have a clear direction.

Make a plan: Create a plan to reach your goal and break it down into small, actionable steps. These steps can include learning new skills, socializing with people, building social support, maintaining a positive mindset, and more.

Accept change: Change doesn't happen right away, and there are some difficulties and challenges. Have the courage and patience to deal with and adapt to the ever-changing process.

Cultivate a healthy lifestyle: Adopting an active lifestyle, such as a balanced diet, regular sleep, physical activity, meditation, etc., can help maintain physical health and mental balance.

Finding support: Seeking help and support from family, friends, or professionals, such as family, friends, psychologists, counsellors, etc., can provide emotional support and guidance.

I think most of the anxiety of many people is "not enough money to spend".

So what if you are anxious about this?

I myself understand that money is not earned by hard work alone.

Because there are many people who work hard, but not everyone can earn money and save money.

In the past, I felt embarrassed if I didn't have money, I would have low self-esteem, and I would be afraid of being looked down upon, so I would be anxious.

Later, I found out that I worked hard but my luck didn't seem to be good.

Later, Mingyin Shed was white, and the original intention and direction of his efforts were not quite correct.

It's the kind of psychology that acts only to make money.

At the same time, I also understand that rich people are ruined because they have that good fortune.

Their previous generation or previous generations, their own previous or previous lives, have accumulated that good fortune, so they have a good life, a good life, and a good result in this life.

You don't have to be jealous, you don't have to compare, just praise it.

I don't have that much income, which means that I have planted evil causes and want to eliminate this karma.

Some people may say that this is a kind of escape, don't shout what it is, anyway, after understanding it this way, the whole person is much easier and more hopeful. Because I think that as long as I start to have a beneficial heart, I will do things that make my heart peaceful and pure, and I will no longer be attached to money.

Secondly, I don't care about what others think and say anymore.

The previous mentality of wanting face, self-esteem, fear of being looked down upon, and wanting to compete for anger is gone.

It's your own business to live, and it's also your own business to be in a good mood. If you have money, you may also have troubles, and if you don't have money, you can have no worries, and you can do it with your heart.

In addition, after coming into contact with FO learning, I understand that "everything is empty", and life is actually like a big dream. Everything is a projection of one's own heart, everything is an illusion.

So what kind of life you want to live may be up to you.

If you can't live the life you want, then you can accept whatever state you have at the moment.

It's all acceptance, it's all conformity, the heart is pure, there are no distractions, there are no troubles to worry about.

In short, if the heart is clear, life will be clear......

When you want to change, stick to doing something that is good for you. Start to act, persist for a long time, and work hard for a long time, so that there will be results that will amaze everyone.

No pain, no gain. If you want to succeed, there is no shortcut, only to persist for a long time and accumulate day by day, in order to harvest a lot. Live up to the time, and give yourself a beautiful explanation.

1. Keep a diary every day. You can record some things in your life that make you happy, and you can also record some things that make you lost.

2. Write down 3-5 small things that can make you happy every week and implement them.

3. Make a wish list of about 10 items, and make sure that you will complete one-third of them within the current year.

4. Speak with a strong voice. The two magnetic fields, the power of speaking, and the posture of walking, do not ignore. Change the state of your speech to not be in a hurry, usually not too quiet, and have a more infectious and confident tone, which will attract more people.

5. Get in touch with optimistic people. Living with them, you will find yourself surrounded by positive emotions, and naturally your mood will be happy.

6. Stop complaining. Complaining tends to cause emotional changes in a person, or is it a negative aspect of emotions. Less complaining, less excuses. When encountering something, the first reaction is to think of a solution and find a solution, instead of making excuses, shirking responsibility, and blaming others.

7. Think in a good direction when encountering things. Don't let yourself fall into negativity. When encountering setbacks, say to yourself: great, you will definitely succeed next time, and don't let yourself fall into the mood of inferiority.

8. Keep in touch with friends regularly.

Share your life with your friends, and it's easy to double the happiness.

Learn to share life with friends. This point depends entirely on the individual, sometimes when you see street snacks, it is very good to share it with friends, see the sunset, you can also share it with friends, see learning**, or you can share it with friends.

The most practical thing is not to expect too much from love. Love is between two people, when your love dies and comes alive, the other party doesn't necessarily think much in his heart, maybe you are just the best choice for him after weighing the pros and cons. Therefore, when you get along, you can lower your mentality and have better results.

If you exaggerate love too much, you will be very tired of love.

1. People who have requirements for themselves have never had a bad time, the more ruthless they are to themselves, the smoother their feelings, and the more ruthless they are to each other, the farther their feelings are.

2. Those love that makes you feel painful and sadistic, please let go as soon as possible, don't be afraid to find what you belong to in your heart, you must know that under the premise of your excellence, find the person you really love in your heart, you will find that the sun sprinkled by the breeze is so dazzling, the streets are so clean, the air you breathe is sweet, and the world is so beautiful

3. Please remember that no matter when, your 80 years of time should be used on yourself, whether it is reading, socializing, traveling, or working, you will find that love not only does not leave, but will get better and better.

4. It is very important to choose people, if the other party is a mature person, your sensibility and understanding are all pluses, if the other party is an abusive person, these beautiful qualities in you will become mediocre and boring.

5. Please believe that things gather by like, people by groups, when your own comprehensive value, including your mentality, skills, literacy, personality, etc., how many are they, and the people you match are naturally about the same level.