What does it feel like to be friends with someone who isn t motivated?

I entered the university last year, I didn't get into a second ordinary university very well, and then my roommates played games every day, and then watched TV dramas, and one played with my mobile phone every day, and I sat with them in class for the sake of face, but I really didn't want to, I wanted to listen to the class, but every time they made a lot of noise, it disturbed my listening to the class, so that every time I was very irritable, and then I was embarrassed to say, this situation lasted for half a semester, I basically didn't listen to the class, and I myself am not the kind of person with strong self-control, They are very good to me, the kind that digs out their hearts and lungs, but they are not sleeping in the dormitory, eating, playing is very decadent, I really don't want to stay with this kind of person who is not motivated, but they are very good to me, I can't say anything, what to do, very desperate, I don't know how to do it.

A cousin of mine, who is 28 years old this year, has been on a blind date many times at home, but he has not been on a blind date. Every blind date is a variety of faults to pick other people's women, and there is no object yet, other women's women look down on him, saying that other women's girls are not good, save face for themselves, Balabala's daily daily activity is to brush the small **, Douyin Kuaishou, brush until the middle of the night every day, and it is also called "life is short, and you can have fun in time" In addition to eating every day, it is to play. Even his parents don't want to care about him anymore, the last time he went home for two days, the family didn't give him food, and then came back to me and cooked and ate by himself.

I was introduced to the job, and I came back within a few days. Tell him to work hard, just say, "Everyone works as hard as you, and everyone else has to be laid off?" Spreading negative energy every day, I feel that it is a pleasure to not work hard.

There was a good friend of mine in junior high school, who had average grades but was super popular, and then she failed the high school entrance examination and I played at a super level, so she didn't pay much attention to me and entered the ordinary class. I could understand her feelings, and I wanted to continue to be friends with her, so I took the initiative to have dinner with him or something, but then I played tricks on me and became more and more ...... under the influence of the environmentIt's a bit depraved. Do you think I can't take the initiative with you, and you can't see what you're thinking?

I treat you as a friend, and you come to lie to me? I hate this kind of person who thinks he is smart. I'm sorry, but while you and I still seem fine, you can't be called my friend anymore, farewell.

There are also people around me who are holding a mobile phone at school all day long to brush Douyin, go shopping, watch variety shows, and don't care about learning, but I never interrupt or blame them or anything, I think it's their own business, and they have to be responsible for their own choices when they make their own choices, after all, they have to pay back sooner or later. You can only keep a certain distance from such people, find something useful to keep yourself busy, and be active and diligent in doing things.

I'm not a very self-disciplined person, and my roommates are also the kind that can play, but the difference is that my roommates are also ordinary friends, digging out their hearts and lungs, impossible, this, you should be glad that you are lucky. It's a bit difficult to help good friends get motivated together, you can try it, but I've suggested it, it will affect your relationship. It is very difficult to change a person, and if you are self-disciplined first, you can influence the best, and you don't have to worry if you don't have an impact.

We also have some classes in our senior year, and she doesn't go to class, she just stays in the dormitory all day long, doesn't take the graduate school entrance examination, doesn't take the civil service exam, doesn't look for a job, doesn't go to class, sleeps in the dormitory all day long, and the family conditions are even more average, younger brothers and sisters are studying, her father works on the construction site, and her mother works at home, so she seems to open a rural commissary by the way, is this really good?

You have to show care, and you must take the initiative to care for your colleagues, leaders, and friends around you. Care is not reflected in the fact that you invite people to eat and drink every day, which is not called caring, but waste. Care is reflected in all kinds of small things, all kinds of details, a friend put a dress on him when he is cold, a friend sends him a cup of hot water when he is sick, and a friend sends him a bouquet of flowers on his birthday, this is the real care.

Be a good listener, listen to your friends, listen to other people's complaints, and understand other people's complaints. When the directors of New Oriental met together, there was a steady stream of criticism among each other, but all the people who were criticized sat there and listened very friendly, and finally expressed their gratitude. This is the reason why the team of New Oriental has not fallen apart to this day.

Many people want their voices to be heard, but the trouble in this world is that there are too many people who want to talk, too many people who speak without thinking, but too few people who are good at listening, so if you become a good listener, you can learn more things and make more friends.

Finally, you also have to learn to be forgiving to others. There are pros and cons to any person you are dating. And our biggest weakness is that we can't see our own weaknesses, but it is easy to see the shortcomings of the other party, so when we judge the people around us, we often magnify their shortcomings without limit, and at the same time minimize their strengths without limit.

You will find that the closer you are, the more flaws he has, and the fewer his strengths. At this time, you have entered a misunderstanding, which is the misunderstanding of human weakness. This can cause you to be unable to socialize with others.

If you take a serious look at the good in someone else and appreciate his good and avoid his shortcomings as much as possible, or if you, as a true friend, try to correct his shortcomings in a friendly manner as much as possible, the result will be different. Because you first acknowledge his merits, the other person is willing to listen to your criticism of him. If you find fault with him first and do not acknowledge his merits, the other person will definitely not want to listen to your criticism.

Therefore, you must first adopt an attitude of understanding towards the shortcomings of all the friends around you, and only under the premise of understanding can you point out the shortcomings of the other person, and point them out with a sincere attitude towards your friends, so that the two people will make progress together. Otherwise, if each other magnifies each other's shortcomings and minimizes each other's strengths, the road of friends will come to an end.

If you treat a friend who is not motivated, then let him be, it is his own idea, you don't want to interfere with him, and don't let him interfere with you.

For unmotivated friends, I think you should guide them more. Let him be a self-motivated person. Let him change his lazy behavior or thoughts.

Hello, for friends who are not close, you can encourage each other more, and don't put too much pressure on each other.