The distress of a single parent child

Hello, although I am not a child of a single-parent family, I understand very well the helplessness and intolerance of your family.

My father didn't want me anymore when I was eight years old, but he came back because he left us to live on his own and for some reason fell into a desperate situation.

But he had no guilt, no guilt, and the torture he inflicted on my mother could be said to have made my mother wash her face with tears every day.

At that time, I was more timid, and felt that it was my parents' business, and I didn't need to intervene, so I silently stood aside.

When I went to school and studied art, he was reluctant to pay for it, and as soon as he finished drinking, he scolded him, saying that he had worked so hard to earn money why he gave me money, and during my college entrance examination, he also kept making trouble.

Home, not only your father and your mother, your father has the obligation to raise you, you have to talk to him and ask him if he is still willing to raise you.

If he gives you a negative answer, you don't have to care about this nominal father.

To be honest, now when the official financial crisis occurs, college students are required to start their own businesses after they come out, otherwise you will go to work and make money by yourself in the self-examination, which is the same.

Don't worry about this, there are more depressing things in my family than yours!

But it's just for money, as long as people live and have a sound body, don't worry about money.

I'm quitting college now, I don't want his money anymore, I'm in business.

Let go of your heart.

Now the main thing is how to make the mother happy, that is the most important thing.

Because in the tragedy of a normal marriage, your mother is the protagonist who is most injured.

You can see that you're very sensible, but it's actually a problem between them, and it shouldn't be so much of a burden on you.

Legally, your father is obligated to pay child support, but I know that you can't actually go to court.

I think it's better for them to talk about it, because if your mother really cares about you, she won't let you drop out of school.

You and your mother want it together, and you want it reasonably.

It's really not good, otherwise I'll make an appointment to have dinner together, and I'll talk about it.

Find a hotel with a lot of customers, and they will not be so easy to take care of their face**.

Hey, poor kid, looking for a school to do a poverty subsidy or something, a loan...

It is necessary to talk to your father! Find a time to sit down and have a good conversation! Reason with him first! You're his son, after all! He can't really look at you without a book! If it really doesn't work, go to court! The law will sanction!

Summary. Children from single-parent families need to learn to be independent and be grateful. Even if you grow up with a cheerful personality and a wonderful life, no one can deny that the divorce of parents has a great impact on a child's personality.

Personality is too sensitive. When frowning at others, others, or showing a trace of dissatisfaction between their expressions, they will involuntarily take all the responsibility on themselves, and only think about whether they have said the wrong thing or done the wrong thing, no matter whose fault it is, they feel that they are responsible and that it is their own problem.

Children from single-parent families need to learn to be independent and be grateful. Even if you grow up with a cheerful personality and a wonderful life, no one can deny that the divorce of parents has a great impact on a child's personality. Personality is too sensitive.

For others, other people frown, or show a trace of dissatisfaction between their expressions, they will involuntarily take all the responsibility on themselves, and only think about whether they have said the wrong thing or done the wrong thing, no matter whose fault it is, they feel that they have a responsibility and are their own problems.

Single parents are prone to autism.

For young children, family breakdown is like a "natural and man-made disaster", for young children, they lack the necessary psychological preparation, so they bear the blow of God Yuan more than their parents, and are more sensitive and fragile than adults, they do not have the ability to self-regulate their minds, so Jian Qi will feel uncomfortable and depressed.

Kai Peng will also feel inferior, because he already has a complete home, Lu Nianting, facing a suddenly broken family, the child can not accept the reality in front of him, and cannot adapt to the environment without a father and mother. The child's psychology has not yet grown up, he can not understand the difficulties of his parents' life with his grandchildren, can not understand the hardships of his parents, the young mind is fragile and sensitive, lacks the ability to self-regulate, once it is impacted, he is at a loss, at a loss. Especially when looking at a complete family.

The long-term hardships of life can easily make children feel fearful and hostile, permanently alienated from their peers, and have a strong sense of protection and great hostility, and children from single-parent families often feel depressed, depressed, and irritable, and cannot eliminate psychological distress.

Children from single-parent families will also strive for self-improvement. Because as long as you teach your children well, they will still grow up healthily. If you feel that you are under pressure to lead a child, you can do it again. Find a significant other to co-parent the child.

Children of single parents suffer, 1. Low self-esteem, severe low self-esteem, unwilling to be the center of everyone's attention, afraid that their little mistakes will be pointed at by everyone, and still lack confidence in things that have been fully prepared for a long time.

2。I like to be lively but can't fit in with the crowd There is a sentence that I like very much: "Insecure children are willing to trade unconditional compromise for family, friendship and love" Maybe this sentence is biased, but it is generally like this: I don't like to say no to people because I'm afraid of being lonely No one likes me From the aspect of making friends, I can see that I am a little unprincipled.

3 Strong Dependence Whether a girl will fall in love at a young age will depend on whether his father gives him enough security In my heart, I think that men can do everything, and when I break a part, my first reaction is that the boys in the class will solve the problem, and it will be mapped to my life, and I think that I would be a waste if I was single.

4。Loneliness is overwhelming, and I feel like I'm going to be a problem to others and not bother others. Always trying to get out of the other people's side and then want to get back into the group.

5。Susceptible. You can think about it for a long, long time because of someone else's words.

It's been sad for a long time. It's also because I want to say a word, think about it for a long time, and I shouldn't say it, no matter what, I have the habit of self-reflection and self-confession. One thing happened.

Did I do that wrong?

6。Love touches the unintentional actions of some people It will warm me for a long time and give me positive energy for a long time.

7。Heavy feelings. There aren't many people in my own world, so I have to remember the things and people I admire.

Maybe I'm not fragile enough during the day. These questions are all nonsense. But this must be a common denominator of single-parent children.

It's not that we're vulnerable and need pity. Just if you see my text. Makes you feel a little different from you.

Please be careful with your marriage and don't want this negativity to develop into our next generation. Because what a child like us needs is not your material compensation. It is the companionship of the heart and a sense of security.

Bitter. Not only is the family unhappy, but it is also easy to be discriminated against. I just said that in a single-parent family, my roommate of a woman surnamed Zhu had a bad relationship with me when I was in college, and she deliberately said in front of me that the children of single-parent families are all bad people, and no one has taught them since they were children, and they are all BT, and the scolding is ugly.

But I think her parents' family, her parents didn't discipline her very well, and she was usually quite selfish in the dormitory, and even the whole group of single parents attacked me when she had a conflict with me. So is she educated. But I'm trying to give you an example to say, you see, if a child is a single-parent family, there are some people in two-parent families who think they are discriminating against other people's families.

If you are a parent, people can't talk about your family.

Bitter, a child's soul is not necessarily very good.