About personal emotional issues, personal emotional problems?

Think about how your husband felt when he chased you? It's impossible to be perfect.

Sister, I can understand you, in fact, I don't think you really love your colleague, he just gave you what you want from your husband but can't get, so you think you are in love with him, can you guarantee that he will still love you after n years? Don't be carried away by a momentary favor, you should cherish your family, personal opinions, power or you still have to take it yourself, I just don't want another single-parent family to bring trauma to the child's soul, can you bear it? You also said that you are a happier woman, cherish this happiness, don't think nonsense!

The problem of fish and bear's paws, first of all, is that everyone has the right to pursue their own happiness, but now the premise is that you are married, have a family, have children and a husband, and you have more responsibilities invisibly, if you abandon your responsibilities and become a woman without a sense of responsibility, then divorce is nothing, and you may bear some blame.

And your husband, you should have been married for a long time, then you should hate him, as for his incomprehensible amorous feelings, he doesn't know how to take care of people, and it is not formed after tomorrow, so why can you accept it at the beginning, but now you can't accept it, your husband's poor speech may have been an advantage in your opinion, right.

In short, this is the fish and the bear's paw, you can't have it both ways. To be happy, to be happy, there is no responsibility. Choose to divorce, with your so-called happiness and love, there is no material.

Think carefully.

You should learn from those men who have extramarital affairs, they can afford to let go of their feelings, don't be too selfish, do you really think that you live for yourself? Think about your child, you are just carried away now, don't think that you are in love with him now, if one day, what happens, you must not be taken seriously, under normal circumstances, it is always the woman who will be more hurt, believe me! When you lose your family one day, then you will feel that you are the most pitiful person in the world.

Hurry up and wake up!

You say that your husband is not interesting (don't you think it's hard to find a man who can earn money and is considerate?) People must know that they are sufficient), are you yourself going to change? Or are you asking too much?

In the details and habits of life, integrate communication into daily life, be good at adjusting your mentality, and look at communication with a more peaceful emotion, so that communication can achieve ideal results.

1. Quarrels can be a means of communication, but they must be measured.

It is often said that quarrels are the salt of life, of course, this refers to the proper use of materials, no matter how good the material is, you can't put too much salt, otherwise it will still be difficult to swallow. In the process of quarreling, you can get something that both parties are not aware of on some issues, but often this communication is based on mutual harm, and the purpose of communication may be achieved, but the scars are also indirectly left. Sometimes, girls want boys to open up to themselves and complain that boys are not willing to communicate with them, but in fact, they don't provide a good environment for boys to open their hearts, think about it, isn't it?

2. Feelings do not automatically make two people reach the realm of tacit understanding, and there must be consumption and addition.

Feelings are things that can be consumed and reduced, if you can't consciously understand and get closer to each other in every time you get along, and can't continue to add capital to it, then in the end it may be like a raging bonfire, slowly turning into ashes. Moreover, the accumulation of emotions and tacit understanding are also like sailing against the current. If you don't advance, you will retreat, if you cultivate carefully, you will flourish, if you give up care, it will gradually wither, either a virtuous circle, or a vicious circle.

Respect and listen to each other's wishes and cultivate common hobbies. There must be a proper intersection between two people, even if they have different personalities and different hobbies, they must have something in common in a certain aspect, and there are some common topics that can be communicated and skilled.

3. Paying too much attention to the independence of the individual, the result is that the hearts of two people are gradually estranged.

Communication should be the subjective will of two people, is a side of each other's rights and obligations in love, both parties need to have a relatively equal initiative, otherwise one-sided communication can only be wishful thinking, and it will never be possible to achieve the desired effect. Some people attach great importance to their own personality, such as introverted, cautious and conservative people, who are not accustomed to the way of communication at any time, and are resistant to the cheerfulness and liveliness of the other party, and feel that if they follow the requirements of the other party, it is a distortion and change of their own personality, and it is difficult to achieve the state that the other party strives to achieve can open their hearts. This is the reason why many people affect communication because of personality incoordination, different personality traits cause different expectations for communication methods, and different communication styles exacerbate the probability of conflicts and misunderstandings between two people.

4. Smooth communication must be based on equality, and there is no possibility of unity without respect.

Equality is the basis of all normal interactions, and any emotional relationship that loses the premise of equality cannot obtain normal communication methods and communication effects.

It's just that if you have a good feeling unilaterally, it must be a little bit of a chat, because the initiative is no longer on your side, but passively waiting for the other party.

So it's still necessary to see if the other party has a good impression of themselves, if you have a good impression, then you can definitely still give it a try, if you don't have a good impression, it's good to find someone else, after all, the other party is not hanging on to the subject, so you might as well choose someone else.

So now the key is to see if the other party has a good impression and willingness first, but from the subject's point of view, in fact, I don't feel anything, or even relatively cold, so basically the chance is still not big, unless you can talk about the topics that the other party is more interested in, otherwise this status quo will definitely be maintained.

So the best choice is to look at the other party's thoughts first, if it is really not interesting to yourself, then this unilateral pursuit is good enough.

I've been in this situation, and from my point of view, I'm the girl who doesn't reply to each other's messages, and I'll give you a few of my thoughts.

1.A certain sentence on the other side of the other side is very different from my concept, and after repeated temptations, I found that this concept is deeply rooted and there is no possibility of change.

2.With new and more interesting goals.

3.I'm busy with work, study, or girlfriends.

4.There are certain traits that this person is particularly annoying, such as arrogance, love to show off, big talking, etc.

5.I don't want to find someone to fall in love at all, it's just a pastime when I'm bored, and when I find that the other party has more intentions or I can't cope with it, I still don't want to continue.

It only represents a personal point of view and may not be accurate, but if you encounter this situation, there is basically no need to insist on it, just change the goal!

From a girl's point of view, I'm the kind of person you say. Now that you're thinking about it, I feel like there's no need to maintain it.