If you can t communicate with your mother in law, do so

Upstairs, seriously, useless, if you are a daughter-in-law, anyway, I know, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law really get along well, too little too little, how much I have used to give my mother-in-law sincerity, mother-in-law's spring, summer, autumn and winter clothes, inside and outside clothes, shoes, I all went to the mall to buy her the best, but I was reluctant to buy anything, every day a mother called, when my father-in-law was sick, our family contributed money and efforts, it has always been me alone to accompany my father-in-law to see a doctor, up and down the stairs to pay for medicine, the result, When I had a baby, my mother-in-law and father-in-law hid from me, afraid to show me the child. Sometimes it's sad and sad, and that's it. However, now think about your own baby is good, at least, the baby is close to yourself, but the grandparents can't see each other a few times, it's really not good, for the child.

The child is more than a year old, but only with grandma, grandpa, I sometimes feel uncomfortable, I want to take the child to my mother-in-law's house, hit **, but my mother-in-law said that it is inconvenient (reason: mother-in-law has been watching her daughter's child, from childhood to adulthood, now eleven, too emotional, so, afraid that we go, what will happen to the child's psychology. ）。

Sad to death.

It's really distressing to have such a child. When people are old, they have to be coaxed, make their mother-in-law happy from the heart, and then spoil her, hug her more, in short, let your mother-in-law like you.

The main thing is that there is no good communication, find a time, the family sits down and has a good talk, your mother-in-law can't understand Mandarin, so ask your husband to be responsible for "interpreting". Listening to what you say, your mother-in-law is actually very easy to get along with, but there are differences in the concepts and languages of the two generations. You are fortunate that many of my sisters-in-law, who are daughters-in-law, are angry with their mothers-in-law all day long.

Your problem is actually not difficult to solve, just be more accommodating and communicate more.

Your mother-in-law is too sensitive.

Cry? You're abusing her.

Let go and don't care about anything, that's also her grandson, if the child really gets something, she will definitely feel distressed.

If you have any opinion about your mother-in-law, let your husband tell the old lady that if you talk about your mother-in-law, no matter how light or serious what she says, your mother-in-law will be unhappy and sad. Because you weren't born and raised by her.

So in the future, let your mother-in-law do some things at home, and you don't care, your mother-in-law has really gone too far, and your husband will definitely not be able to say a few words.

As a Sakura girl, I think that marriage is a kind of happiness and another good start for our beautiful life, so we should cherish marriage and learn to communicate harmoniously and amiably with our families, so that life will become more pleasant.

1.Keep your profile down when communicating.

I'm right", this attitude will only lead to the deterioration of the communication relationship and make it impossible for communication to continue. When communicating, it is best to keep your profile as low as possible, that is, to fully respect the other party's opinions, and to express your own opinions and opinions appropriately and not excessively.

Even if you think that your statement is not wrong or there is a problem with the other party's opinion, you should first listen to the other party's words, different people have different ideas, the ability to express, and the ability to understand Jian Songcong are also different, maybe there are mistakes in the other party's expression or there is a deviation in their own understanding, you should lower your posture and listen patiently.

2.Keep a calm mind when communicating.

It is important not to be emotional, because being emotional may make communication stuck halfway and unable to communicate, and even lead to abandonment and failure of communication. If you feel particularly irritable and restless in the process of communication because of your emotions, you will have to stop communicating and wait for a period of time to calm down before you can continue to communicate, which will actually make all parties in the communication unhappy.

3.Abandon your self-esteem when communicating.

Unnecessary self-esteem and pride can only become a stumbling block to communication, so at the very least, you should abandon your so-called self-esteem when communicating. Don't say "My self-esteem won't allow me to ......In that case, it will only make communication impossible.

4.Be open and honest in your communication.

It is very important to be honest with each other in the process of communication, and there is no concealment, honesty is an important step for you to deepen your cooperative relationship through communication. First of all, you can make the other party believe in yourself through your own honesty, and then drive the other party to be honest with you, and then promote the smooth and happy communication.

1.Often praise your mother-in-law.

Everyone likes to listen to good words, especially those mothers-in-law who are also women, and they prefer to hear their daughters-in-law praise them. So as a daughter-in-law, don't be stingy with your praise, and when your mother-in-law is kind to you, you have to express your gratitude to your mother-in-law.

When your mother-in-law is doing a good job, you should praise her mother-in-law more, and when you praise them from the heart, how can they care about other things or lose their temper with you?

There are many details in life that you can praise, such as your mother-in-law wearing new clothes, you can praise your mother-in-law for being very young; Mother-in-law stir-fried a new dish today, and you can praise her for making it delicious. All in all, if the mouth is sweeter, there will naturally be fewer contradictions.

2.Respect your mother-in-law's opinion.

In fact, many times, the problems between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are caused by disagreements between two people. For some small things, in fact, you can listen to your mother-in-law's words more, consider the problem from your mother-in-law's point of view, and don't just stand on the opposite side of your mother-in-law and argue with her about winning or losing.

When your mother-in-law has a good idea, you should agree with her more, and when she gives you some opinions, even if you have a different opinion in your heart, you should not rush to refute it, first of all, you must first give it approval.

I often say to my mother-in-law: "Mom, you are right", "it is really like this". Even if what you say next is a little different from what she said, it is based on agreeing with her, and she will naturally not be unhappy.

3.Care more about your mother-in-law.

People need to care when they are old, as a daughter-in-law, you should be like a daughter, although you can't be an intimate little padded jacket, but the usual care is essential.

When it's cold, remind your mother-in-law to dress well and keep warm. When your mother-in-law is unwell, say hello to your mother-in-law, send her to the hospital in time, and so on. With such a considerate daughter-in-law, she is too late to be happy, how can she have a conflict with you?

In fact, no mother-in-law would like to go against her daughter-in-law. When getting along with your mother-in-law, sweeten your mouth, say more compliments, care more about her, and understand her, and there will naturally be fewer conflicts between the two people.

The child follows the grandmother at home, so first say that the grandmother has worked hard, without the hard work of the grandmother, there will be no parents to go out with confidence. Let the mother-in-law also pay attention to her body at home, and don't get used to him if the child is disobedient, and criticize when he should be criticized.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law getting along is an art, my advice is to find more common topics and see if you can talk, if you can't talk, then there is no need to force yourself, keep your true colors, and do your part well.

You can try to ask her about her physical condition with a caring attitude, and you can also comfort her if she is tired with the child.

First of all, you need to establish a positive communication posture with your brother, and take the initiative to communicate and communicate with your mother-in-law. You can do more interaction in your daily life, such as eating a meal together, chatting, going for a walk, etc. In addition, you can also try to find suitable communication channels, such as social**, **, etc., in order to better understand your mother-in-law's thoughts and opinions.

When you have a disagreement with your mother-in-law, you need to stay calm and think rationally. Try to find a solution that is acceptable to both parties and try to avoid conflict. Finally, you need to learn to respect and understand the thoughts and opinions of others and maintain good interpersonal relationships.

When the way the in-laws do things makes them feel uncomfortable or disrespectful, losing their temper and not opening their eyes on the spot is a good solution. Here are some of the pros and cons:

Pros: 1. You can express your dissatisfaction and unpleasantness, so that the other party understands your feelings.

2. It can make the other party realize that their behavior has exceeded their bottom line, and they will pay more attention and respect in the future.

3. You can remind your in-laws to be respectful and polite to yourself and your family members to build a better relationship.

Disadvantages: 1. It will make the atmosphere tense and unpleasant, which may affect the harmony of the whole family.

2. It will affect your image and make people feel emotionally unstable or difficult to get along with.

3. It may cause the in-laws to be disgusted or resistant to themselves, and it is difficult to establish a good family relationship.

Therefore, when facing the behavior of the in-laws, they should deal with them calmly, and they can choose the appropriate time to communicate and exchange with the in-laws in order to achieve mutual understanding and respect. At the same time, in life, we should also pay attention to the way we get along with my mother-in-law's family, and gradually establish a healthy family relationship.